Aunty Jenny’s Thoughts On Andrew Tate
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Summary
In this episode of the podcast, we discuss the issue of who should or should not control the money in a marriage. Is it the man or the woman? Is it always the woman who has the final say on certain things and who should have a say on others?
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though like and if i mean because that in that clip they're dating but if you're married like
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i feel like someone has to control the money look at you sorry sorry to cut you off you can't have
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a democracy with only two people you're gonna have a decision maker and it doesn't mean on every
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single issue the decision maker is the same in most traditional families which by the way we
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still need to remember is like probably 80 plus of marriages around the world um the man typically
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has the final say on certain things and the woman typically has the final say on certain things
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that's just how it is that's actually what human beings tend to default to of course everyone's
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an individual there's all sorts of exceptions and personal circumstances and so on but that's
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typically that that's typically how it goes but you can't if you've only got two people it doesn't
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even matter if it's not a marriage if you've only got two people and a decision needs to be made
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someone ultimately you can negotiate and you should negotiate and the other person should always have a
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say but ultimately one person is going to have to make a decision let's go you can flip a coin i mean
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you you could do it but yeah someone someone has to have the authority and i think the the truth is
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that women do not respect men who do not have a level of authority this this is the truth a man who will
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not lead i'm sure you don't like it if you go out on a date with a guy and you're like oh should we go i
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don't know where do you where do you want to go where do you want to eat what what do you oh no
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like what are you right it's it's lame it's lame and it's and that's not something that's reciprocated
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like as a man if a woman is indecisive or what like that's not a turnoff right that's just yeah she's
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she's a woman i'm i'm supposed to be the one if i'm asking a girl out on a day i'm not i i'll pick
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the restaurant cool i'll i'll sort the stuff out that's just that's just how it is it's biologically
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rooted and yes there can be exceptions but you know if there's there's always exceptions right
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i wouldn't expect a man to take a cut of my money if i was working in a normal industry no no way
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i'd be like how dare you you don't take my money but i think in that specific industry where you're
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literally why because he's allowing you to do it i feel like unfortunately yes if you're married i want
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the dude to make all the financial decisions i don't i see the way women spend and i would say
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i'm not even bad for a girl but like i just yeah i feel like dude should control money can i just say
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my piece now yeah go ahead well i think they should stop listening to how he says things and listen to
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what he says because i think he he says a lot of good things but i just think it's how he says it just
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to hype people up and i think that if he wanted to be all nice about it that most a lot of people
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would agree with him but it's the way he says it and i don't know who that woman is anyway but
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for instance if it was i looked at was it the only fans i checked out what it was
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and then they realized that no because they do cooking on there and they do bodybuilding on there
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you know they've got women that look quite respectable that do cooking programs but
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because she said it and because he said it everybody automatically thinks to
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you know so as far as i'm concerned if you're if it was any other job and say that they were married
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and people say oh no but we're not married if you're in a long-term relationship and you're living
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together you're heading towards that way somebody's got to be the decision maker and
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it's always our money until it's the women's money
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you know what's yours is ours and what's mine is mine you know because
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if you're married in your relationship surely all the money would go into a pot
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rather than oh i'm not going to give him this because it's how much my son's grandparents
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married couple they're married they were together until they one died and the other one died too
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they died and i remember she always worked and handed over her money to her husband
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she works handed over her money to her husband and he always well he said oh they had five children so
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the children's whatever they grown up kids that was the housekeeping so the parents give the mother
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whatever the children give the mother whatever they have to give her but they couldn't understand
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why is it that she has to give all of her wages to her husband and they thought was really strange
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and then one day he just said right we're going and he's built this fantastic house in
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saint lucia on the top of this hill fan no way she would have done that if she spent the money
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and i think if that was me and i was whether it's only fans or whatever i'd quite happily hand over the
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money and give me my housekeeping i'll let it work you do whatever you've got to do with it because
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once i'm with you i should if i trust in you with my body why can't i trust you with my money
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my money my money my money not until i finish talking though so as far as i'm concerned it doesn't
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matter because i haven't finished oh right because as far as i'm concerned my body is more valuable
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to me than money i don't understand why women they will share their bodies but they don't want to share
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their money so as far as i'm concerned she's out there sharing her body to if we go by that only
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fans whatever's on there my view was hang on a minute she's like they're sharing her whole body to
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the whole world how many people but she won't share the money with the man and as far as i'm
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concerned if he's the man and i'm like you when it comes to religion and he's the head let him deal
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with the money and when people are going to be offended by he said he's allowing it to do that
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well that's his wife he's the head he's in charge he's allowing her to do that so as far as i'm concerned
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if you're both working in your partnership the money's supposed to go into the house together i wouldn't
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even say like oh eight grand i'll give him all of it i'll give him every single penny and as far as
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i'm concerned i'm trusting you with my body i want to trust money's nothing compared to my body you
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know and that that's my point of view why is it so easy just to give away your body rather than give
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away the money and it's sometimes like when you're like when it's the same analogy really as when like
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you're young and like i don't know five ten and your grandma will give you i don't know about 100
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pounds or something for christmas and your mom and dad take it from you and say okay we're going
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to take this i'm going to put this in a bank account for you or whatever we'll keep it for you when you
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need it and then it's that whole thing of safety again the money's safe it's gone it's out of like
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the child's hands and personally as a woman like i sometimes look at the way that i spend and it is
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i wouldn't want to say it's like childish like i'm not buying junk and stuff i don't need it's
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things that i feel that i need but it would sometimes be better off in someone else's hands
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than mine that's a bit different though because with a child they're irresponsible do you understand
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yeah but i can be irresponsible sometimes i feel like you need to work on you you need to work on that
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do you understand and yeah that independent woman yeah like don't put women but women are by and
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large irresponsible with money like the majority of women what are irresponsible yeah for example
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for example a lot of people like there's a lot of girls here who have got nice nail
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bunish on gel nails acrylic nails that's something where i wish i could kind of cut back on a little
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bit i've been having these since i was 16 the same color the same everything the amount of money that
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this costs you girls know that the the nail bars are going up every single year every six months
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there's another five pound climb another ten pound climb and it's literally thousands of pounds that i
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am spending a year on just this is just for the nails for getting the hair the makeup everything else
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and sometimes i i do feel that it would be safer that if i was putting that money
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someone's to say look i'm going to take that off you let me take responsibility of it it's going to be
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okay just trust me then maybe i'd have a bit more like it would be like a good thing for me but being
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left to my own devices i'm going to go and continue to have nails now that's not saying that i don't agree
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that all women should have nail varnish nails i think it's really important but you see there's
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that like 50 50 there that actually if i was with someone who you know cares loves me like for
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example my boyfriend he brought me a voucher and it was left behind at the behind the nail salon
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counter whatever and it was the third time that i went in there it was a hundred pounds
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and he said oh you've got 10 pounds left like the guy that owns the place and i just saw oh my gosh
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and i didn't want to tell my boyfriend i've already spent the voucher it doesn't mean i'm going to get
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the nails done every week but it was in the right timings at two to three weeks but the money was gone
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and it was so quick and i could literally see it being written each time and even like with like
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building this channel like i feel like i've been able to do it because my dad and my brothers helped
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me with the money i don't think i could do it on my own like at all especially crazy hours in the
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