JustPearlyThings - May 05, 2023


Aunty Jenny’s Thoughts On Andrew Tate


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10 minutes

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1,928

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1

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Misogyny

17

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Summary

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In this episode of the podcast, we discuss the issue of who should or should not control the money in a marriage. Is it the man or the woman? Is it always the woman who has the final say on certain things and who should have a say on others?

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00:00:00.000 though like and if i mean because that in that clip they're dating but if you're married like
00:00:04.000 i feel like someone has to control the money look at you sorry sorry to cut you off you can't have
00:00:09.200 a democracy with only two people you're gonna have a decision maker and it doesn't mean on every
00:00:13.360 single issue the decision maker is the same in most traditional families which by the way we
00:00:18.960 still need to remember is like probably 80 plus of marriages around the world um the man typically
00:00:24.720 has the final say on certain things and the woman typically has the final say on certain things 1.00
00:00:29.120 that's just how it is that's actually what human beings tend to default to of course everyone's
00:00:34.000 an individual there's all sorts of exceptions and personal circumstances and so on but that's
00:00:39.200 typically that that's typically how it goes but you can't if you've only got two people it doesn't
00:00:43.920 even matter if it's not a marriage if you've only got two people and a decision needs to be made
00:00:48.000 someone ultimately you can negotiate and you should negotiate and the other person should always have a
00:00:52.160 say but ultimately one person is going to have to make a decision let's go you can flip a coin i mean
00:01:00.480 you you could do it but yeah someone someone has to have the authority and i think the the truth is
00:01:06.000 that women do not respect men who do not have a level of authority this this is the truth a man who will 1.00
00:01:14.400 not lead i'm sure you don't like it if you go out on a date with a guy and you're like oh should we go i
00:01:18.960 don't know where do you where do you want to go where do you want to eat what what do you oh no
00:01:22.640 like what are you right it's it's lame it's lame and it's and that's not something that's reciprocated
00:01:27.520 like as a man if a woman is indecisive or what like that's not a turnoff right that's just yeah she's 1.00
00:01:33.040 she's a woman i'm i'm supposed to be the one if i'm asking a girl out on a day i'm not i i'll pick 0.91
00:01:38.320 the restaurant cool i'll i'll sort the stuff out that's just that's just how it is it's biologically
00:01:45.360 rooted and yes there can be exceptions but you know if there's there's always exceptions right
00:01:52.960 i wouldn't expect a man to take a cut of my money if i was working in a normal industry no no way
00:01:59.600 i'd be like how dare you you don't take my money but i think in that specific industry where you're
00:02:03.520 literally why because he's allowing you to do it i feel like unfortunately yes if you're married i want 0.96
00:02:08.480 the dude to make all the financial decisions i don't i see the way women spend and i would say 1.00
00:02:14.400 i'm not even bad for a girl but like i just yeah i feel like dude should control money can i just say
00:02:20.160 my piece now yeah go ahead well i think they should stop listening to how he says things and listen to
00:02:27.840 what he says because i think he he says a lot of good things but i just think it's how he says it just
00:02:35.040 to hype people up and i think that if he wanted to be all nice about it that most a lot of people
00:02:43.040 would agree with him but it's the way he says it and i don't know who that woman is anyway but
00:02:48.960 for instance if it was i looked at was it the only fans i checked out what it was
00:02:56.160 and then they realized that no because they do cooking on there and they do bodybuilding on there
00:03:01.840 you know they've got women that look quite respectable that do cooking programs but 1.00
00:03:08.400 because she said it and because he said it everybody automatically thinks to
00:03:13.600 you know so as far as i'm concerned if you're if it was any other job and say that they were married
00:03:20.000 and people say oh no but we're not married if you're in a long-term relationship and you're living
00:03:23.440 together you're heading towards that way somebody's got to be the decision maker and
00:03:28.160 it's always our money until it's the women's money 1.00
00:03:35.280 you know what's yours is ours and what's mine is mine you know because
00:03:40.480 if you're married in your relationship surely all the money would go into a pot 0.99
00:03:48.080 rather than oh i'm not going to give him this because it's how much my son's grandparents
00:03:53.920 married couple they're married they were together until they one died and the other one died too
00:04:01.200 they died and i remember she always worked and handed over her money to her husband
00:04:09.200 she works handed over her money to her husband and he always well he said oh they had five children so
00:04:15.520 the children's whatever they grown up kids that was the housekeeping so the parents give the mother
00:04:21.840 whatever the children give the mother whatever they have to give her but they couldn't understand 0.92
00:04:25.760 why is it that she has to give all of her wages to her husband and they thought was really strange 0.76
00:04:34.160 and then one day he just said right we're going and he's built this fantastic house in
00:04:40.080 saint lucia on the top of this hill fan no way she would have done that if she spent the money 0.98
00:04:46.000 and i think if that was me and i was whether it's only fans or whatever i'd quite happily hand over the
00:04:53.120 money and give me my housekeeping i'll let it work you do whatever you've got to do with it because
00:05:00.560 once i'm with you i should if i trust in you with my body why can't i trust you with my money
00:05:05.360 my money my money my money not until i finish talking though so as far as i'm concerned it doesn't
00:05:10.960 matter because i haven't finished oh right because as far as i'm concerned my body is more valuable
00:05:17.280 to me than money i don't understand why women they will share their bodies but they don't want to share 1.00
00:05:22.720 their money so as far as i'm concerned she's out there sharing her body to if we go by that only 1.00
00:05:33.280 fans whatever's on there my view was hang on a minute she's like they're sharing her whole body to 1.00
00:05:37.040 the whole world how many people but she won't share the money with the man and as far as i'm
00:05:41.120 concerned if he's the man and i'm like you when it comes to religion and he's the head let him deal
00:05:46.240 with the money and when people are going to be offended by he said he's allowing it to do that
00:05:51.200 well that's his wife he's the head he's in charge he's allowing her to do that so as far as i'm concerned
00:05:57.920 if you're both working in your partnership the money's supposed to go into the house together i wouldn't
00:06:02.800 even say like oh eight grand i'll give him all of it i'll give him every single penny and as far as
00:06:08.400 i'm concerned i'm trusting you with my body i want to trust money's nothing compared to my body you
00:06:12.560 know and that that's my point of view why is it so easy just to give away your body rather than give
00:06:17.360 away the money and it's sometimes like when you're like when it's the same analogy really as when like
00:06:23.680 you're young and like i don't know five ten and your grandma will give you i don't know about 100
00:06:29.120 pounds or something for christmas and your mom and dad take it from you and say okay we're going
00:06:34.480 to take this i'm going to put this in a bank account for you or whatever we'll keep it for you when you
00:06:38.800 need it and then it's that whole thing of safety again the money's safe it's gone it's out of like
00:06:45.600 the child's hands and personally as a woman like i sometimes look at the way that i spend and it is
00:06:52.960 i wouldn't want to say it's like childish like i'm not buying junk and stuff i don't need it's
00:06:59.520 things that i feel that i need but it would sometimes be better off in someone else's hands
00:07:07.200 than mine that's a bit different though because with a child they're irresponsible do you understand
00:07:13.360 yeah but i can be irresponsible sometimes i feel like you need to work on you you need to work on that
00:07:18.880 do you understand and yeah that independent woman yeah like don't put women but women are by and 1.00
00:07:25.120 large irresponsible with money like the majority of women what are irresponsible yeah for example 1.00
00:07:33.200 for example a lot of people like there's a lot of girls here who have got nice nail 1.00
00:07:37.280 bunish on gel nails acrylic nails that's something where i wish i could kind of cut back on a little
00:07:43.440 bit i've been having these since i was 16 the same color the same everything the amount of money that
00:07:50.960 this costs you girls know that the the nail bars are going up every single year every six months 1.00
00:07:56.080 there's another five pound climb another ten pound climb and it's literally thousands of pounds that i
00:08:02.720 am spending a year on just this is just for the nails for getting the hair the makeup everything else
00:08:10.640 and sometimes i i do feel that it would be safer that if i was putting that money
00:08:17.520 someone's to say look i'm going to take that off you let me take responsibility of it it's going to be
00:08:22.240 okay just trust me then maybe i'd have a bit more like it would be like a good thing for me but being
00:08:29.760 left to my own devices i'm going to go and continue to have nails now that's not saying that i don't agree
00:08:34.640 that all women should have nail varnish nails i think it's really important but you see there's
00:08:40.240 that like 50 50 there that actually if i was with someone who you know cares loves me like for
00:08:47.200 example my boyfriend he brought me a voucher and it was left behind at the behind the nail salon
00:08:56.080 counter whatever and it was the third time that i went in there it was a hundred pounds
00:09:01.200 and he said oh you've got 10 pounds left like the guy that owns the place and i just saw oh my gosh
00:09:07.520 and i didn't want to tell my boyfriend i've already spent the voucher it doesn't mean i'm going to get
00:09:12.160 the nails done every week but it was in the right timings at two to three weeks but the money was gone
00:09:18.880 and it was so quick and i could literally see it being written each time and even like with like
00:09:25.760 building this channel like i feel like i've been able to do it because my dad and my brothers helped
00:09:30.880 me with the money i don't think i could do it on my own like at all especially crazy hours in the
00:09:35.920 morning you see me cry every once a month i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a
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