JustPearlyThings - May 29, 2023


@AuntyJenny Slaps Modern Woman With A Dose of Reality

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
She Called DRAKE a Beta and GETS REKT Modern Women Hate To Hear The TRUTH

Episode Stats


Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

199.78

Word count

1,789

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Harmful content

Misogyny

10

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Toxicity

2

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Hate speech

4

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Summary

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In this episode, I chat with a good friend of mine, who is also a wife and mother of 5 kids. We talk about what it's like being a wife, being a mother and what it means to be a wife. We also discuss the difficulties of being a stay at home mum and how to balance it all with being a mum.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 but then also i'm how many how many meals can you cook would you say like if you had to make a menu
00:00:05.280 of your food how many meals oh i don't know but in the double digits okay so like 10 20 yeah
00:00:12.080 no which one 10 20 or 50. um like 15 20 30 25. okay okay cool so he gets 25 meals
00:00:20.400 roughly and oh yeah no i'm just asking yeah he gets yeah yeah okay do you have any other questions
00:00:26.640 again too no i just want to know yeah i know when you said i'm about um when it gets to the end but
00:00:32.560 i also know that i won't be in that position unless i know that he can provide a certain lifestyle
00:00:38.240 i like that's just you can never afford to have children i know if you think you're gonna save
00:00:43.840 up to have children forget about it i'm not but i can never afford categorically tell you if if life
00:00:51.760 happens and we might end up in a situation but i can categorically tell you i'm not entering a
00:00:56.880 situation like that no there's no baby leaving my body without a ring on my finger can i come
00:01:05.360 to your wedding of course i die of course you can there's nothing wrong with having kids without
00:01:11.120 marriage i mean i was born outside of marriage but it's not happening for me it's not are you
00:01:17.520 religious i don't are you religious i'm a christian yeah okay then that just changes things a little
00:01:23.200 bit why before she said that i was thinking you don't stand a chance it's very rare now at least
00:01:30.960 she's got a there's a percentage there not very high but this sort of percentage you don't stand a
00:01:35.840 chance for what kids no for the happy whatever and the regular out there and the way the way she 0.98
00:01:41.280 sounded it just sounded like impossible it just doesn't sound like real i don't know it depends
00:01:47.760 i can't yeah well not having kids before marriage no no i'm gonna i'm gonna wake up for an hour and
00:01:55.520 meditate before my kids oh no not not meditate for an hour oh my god no like 45 minutes no no i mean
00:02:02.240 like everything that i do like right now currently everything i do takes about 45 minutes in the
00:02:06.240 morning that's from waking up to having my shower meditate vj breakfast but well sometimes yeah oh
00:02:15.920 sorry journaling it's just where you just like get like but it's not like happy journey it's just like
00:02:20.480 you get any like horrible thoughts out any emotions so it's just you just get it out it's done leave it
00:02:25.600 there you don't carry on into the next day you don't carry it into the day why wouldn't you just pray
00:02:31.760 pardon no i pray as well um and i sometimes i do it twice a day sometimes i do it once a day it
00:02:36.960 it really depends um but i'm just i don't need to take negative emotions from one day into the next
00:02:42.080 day and sometimes a lot of times when you think something's happened or someone's done you something
00:02:46.720 they actually haven't it's just you're in your feelings and you get it out and it's also instead
00:02:52.400 of offloading onto another friend not all the time do i need to call my friend i'm like oh my god can you
00:02:56.240 believe this happened and they're like yeah oh my god f that be ended just get it out boom done move
00:03:01.920 on what would you do for your husband every day because i've heard about the kids i've heard about
00:03:05.840 you i haven't heard about your husband yet like clean okay outside of that anything else be his
00:03:13.200 support system okay how i don't know what that looks exactly what that looks like but if he told
00:03:19.520 me it looks like xyz then it's xyz okay okay um what about you what kind of wife do you want to be 1.00
00:03:25.920 you i feel like um i was born quite maternal quite wifely and i sometimes it's a con because you
00:03:33.600 carry wifely duties before when you did girlfriend prices when i am a wife um i have kind of similar
00:03:42.400 views i'll you know i want to raise my children to a certain age and then they can get into education
00:03:47.360 or whatever um if during that time my man is the provider then i'll have to step up and do most
00:03:54.400 homely things but then when i do continue to go back to work or start providing also whether it's
00:04:00.000 for everyone or just you know partly um i'd want him to step in slightly more and maybe one night
00:04:06.800 help with the cooking or unload the dishwasher i don't think it should be all on me um but yeah i'm
00:04:13.440 a very giving person i'm very caring nurturing person so whatever he needs if he needs help within
00:04:17.280 his work you know i'll always try i won't i won't ever say no or decline anything i always try okay
00:04:23.280 could i could i get more specifics because this is just very broad specific in what like what what
00:04:28.560 exactly you would do every day like as a wife and you said like you did the stuff at like wifey things 0.99
00:04:35.360 at girlfriend oh yeah what does that mean no i cook i clean you know i'd wake up make the bed if do
00:04:41.040 you think do you think do you think a man paying for a date is doing husband things at boyfriend
00:04:44.800 prices do i think a man paying for a date yeah i'm paying for a date is that doing husband things at 0.96
00:04:50.960 boyfriend prices because a lot of times i think like we say we cooked we cleaned and that's that's
00:04:55.760 wifey things at girlfriend prices but then they protect and provide possibly yeah okay so you think 1.00
00:05:01.920 a man shouldn't pay unless he marries you no i don't think that but if you know i'm choosing to
00:05:08.480 cook and clean you can choose to pay if you want to pay if you don't want to pay i'm not getting
00:05:12.560 on to you about that same way if i don't cook you're not going to get onto me about that we're not at
00:05:16.320 that level yet they might get onto you about it they might they have the choice to but i also have
00:05:22.000 the choice to you know but i feel like if you don't display that you can do those things then you're
00:05:26.000 not going to get to that marriage stage just like looking after the kids not necessarily but i just
00:05:32.720 mean like the cooking and the cleaning that's a slippery slope oh because the women then like they 1.00
00:05:37.920 want to show you all they've got in their locker and then the man's like oh might as well just
00:05:41.920 chill like this they get used to it yeah something why is it that when women talk about doing stuff 1.00
00:05:47.920 for a man the first thing they talk about is cooking and cleaning like a man can't do it himself 0.99
00:05:52.080 they never talk about i want to hear but the men can cook and clean nowadays if the man can't cook
00:05:56.400 and clean you shouldn't be with them your husband can cook and clean he's got cable looking after 0.93
00:06:00.480 himself so they're just talking about doing something that a man can already do for himself
00:06:06.400 what's the next suggestion i don't think there's any right or wrong answer for that i think everyone's
00:06:10.880 everyone's marriage is going to be different i think we're all saying the right things
00:06:15.360 personally that's how i feel i think just add to each other's life when you're not getting married
00:06:19.440 invite me please i'd like to see that's all i'm saying invite me i can't wait to get married
00:06:24.480 i can't wait for you to get married i'd love you i can't wait for you to get married i can't wait
00:06:28.480 what would you suggest adding to the resume i know there's some things that we've been working on like
00:06:34.560 we're making a cookbook i think they need to um borrow their nieces and nephews during half term 0.80
00:06:42.720 it's half term if they live on their own then get a couple of days off have them around let the
00:06:47.440 parents just leave them there then get on with it listen i understand it's not just cooking and cleaning 0.82
00:06:53.360 like i've for example been a nanny before and give him sex every night as well yeah on top of the 0.85
00:06:59.680 cooking and cleaning and looking after the kids and doing the shopping and getting all the delivery 0.93
00:07:03.840 done and sorting out all his paperwork and is that what we're missing sex what do you think a man would 0.99
00:07:10.400 say that's what merging your life is you're you've decided to merge both your lives together and then you
00:07:17.280 just work through it it's not like you have one role and i have one role we're just we're doing
00:07:24.560 it whatever fits i do feel i think in my marriage i definitely feel like there would be set roles
00:07:34.480 i was gonna say if the man was at home all day and you got all them kids in there you're still
00:07:37.600 gonna fit in sex room though yeah when they're napping what if they don't nap it's those ways
00:07:45.200 around it don't help her i i think the kids love like what is it coco melon and whatever just
00:07:52.400 coco melon grace is cool now they're walking you know jumper room things whatever all the comments
00:08:01.680 are saying that these answers are very vague i don't even know what they're saying
00:08:08.320 well i'm not gonna go into like you know okay as a non-married woman those people saying i'm being
00:08:13.760 vague i would wake up make sure everyone's alive and well i'd start going about my day think about
00:08:22.080 what i'm gonna do if i have children i'm getting them ready if my husband's going to work and i'm
00:08:25.600 still looking after the kids at home he can go off to work you okay if you eat and cool let me know about
00:08:30.160 your day be be on about your way i'll take care of the kids if you've got any stuff coming up try
00:08:35.200 take them for a walk hopefully the dishwasher is done by the night before empty it out go about
00:08:40.080 my business think about what i'm gonna cook look in the fridge start preparing that one's watching tv
00:08:44.240 ones in their little walker
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