Based Woman UNLEASHES This Fact On Pearl's Show
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss what it means to be a good wife, what makes a good partner and what it does to a marriage. We also discuss the difference between being a wife and a husband and the differences between a good and bad wife.
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so what do you think do you want to be a wife and what makes a good wife i'm going to be
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controversial and saying not really don't want to be a wife no i only want i would only get married
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if it was something that the other person felt really strongly about but to me if you're in a
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relationship and you're that committed to that person what what is a marriage going to do like
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what is that commitment saying to other people exactly and if i'm not committed to someone that
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i feel like i should be married to them unless i believe in the religious beliefs behind it
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i just don't see it as being a bigger progression in the commitment i should be committed regardless
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okay and there shouldn't be something on paper to state that i have to be that way
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it should just be a mutual agreement that you're both just a few and committed and committed and
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nothing's going to change about that so personally it's not something that i like
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will ever try to force down someone or something that i really want but if they feel very passionately
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about it and i feel like it's the right time i'm okay with that okay it's just something i don't
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feel like what do you what do you think makes a good wife
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so in all honesty i think just being there as the other half like i know you discussed about it
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just complete them basically yeah i know you discussed it as being like you know a woman has
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a role in a relationship but i'm actually bisexual so to me it could work either way okay and to me i
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feel like 50 50 is where that kind of stuff needs to fall into place 50 50 on everything because not
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necessarily it give and take okay so if you have to look at the person's attributes what they give to
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a relationship and break it down that way i don't think it's a one size fits all i don't think
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everyone can say right you're gonna do this you're gonna do that because you're the man
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that man could be shit he could be really bad at it he could be he could be amazing at it yeah perfect
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let them work to their strengths i think that's what works in a relationship when you let the other
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person work to their strengths working together yeah sure but i think there are some things that
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regardless whether you're traditional or not there are some things that naturally a man might be better
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at a woman might be better at we're very different biologically so there's always going to be things
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that a man's going to be slightly better at than a woman unless they're you're an anomaly and you're
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going to be 10 times stronger than a man that's unlikely so i i think yeah give or take i think
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everything has to be looked at retrospectively and it has to be broken down about each person's
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attributes and what they can give to the situation so what do you think makes a woman a good way
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like what's just specific because this is just a bit broad so i'm just trying to yeah yeah kind of
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reign it in no fair enough um so being able to provide in a sense that you can provide emotionally
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whether you can provide financially is irrelevant if the other person can provide financially
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perfect you then need to make up for the other gaps so as a wife you might need to be able to kick
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be able to look after children or be able to look after the man or the man be able to look after you
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and you be receiving to that because i think a lot of women nowadays look at a relationship and think
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the man should have to do everything but that makes a lot of men very not a lot of men but
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nowadays it makes them quite intimidated and then they get nervous and then they think oh what if i
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can't do that you have to be receptive to what they want to do if they want to buy food for you let
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them if they want to take you out on a date and they want to pay for everything okay but i'm asking what
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does she have to do she she has to be receptive to it receive what else does she have to do um
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again see because it's something that i personally you don't don't yeah it's something that i wouldn't
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really have values on so i don't really think what i'm going to say is going to give you much
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much information to be honest okay no worries all right so question do you want to be a husband
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do i want to be a husband um i am not enthusiastic about it with the way that marriage is with with
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laws and just with the way the culture is in general um and i've been that way for a long time
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i mean like as it was my parents divorced when i was a kid so i never really had a great argument uh you
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know great example for sort of marriage and and that kind of thing anyway and obviously as time's gone
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on you know we've seen what's happened in terms of the way that society is here in the usa and canada
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and australia you know those western countries it's it's it's not a good deal to be honest it's
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never been something that i've been particularly keen on i've become less keen on the idea as i've
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gone on really now in a sense i agree with what you said because i think long-term relationship fine
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commitment fine do you want to put a ring on it probably not you know there'd have to be a very good
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reason for doing it or do it somewhere else like do it over in um maybe one of the latin you know
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latin american countries or something like that okay and um out of what did you hear who would i
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marry out of them no no i was gonna say what what did you hear today was there anything you heard
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that you thought yes that would make a good way i think a lot of the women were a bit light on
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specifics to to be honest you know there's a lot of stuff yeah support and blah blah blah but there's
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there's there's a lot there wasn't much specifics in terms of what what is the woman actually going
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to bring to the table so um i would say that but i mean i i think really you want somebody who is
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going to support you who's going to be easy to be around you know um and i think marriage worked
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pretty well back in the day when things were more traditional to be honest and i think now we've come
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away from that it just doesn't work as well you know and um we're seeing that and you know as we
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know the majority of divorces are caused by women you know 70 of divorces are initiated by women so
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it's women who are which is why modern women are shitty wives thank you exactly exactly but that's
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but that's another reason another reason i'm not keen to go into it because for guys it's a bit of a
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bad deal because you know the women are very keen to get married you know women will try to push the
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agenda of like oh you know where are we are we going to get engaged are we moving in together
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we're going to get married but then they get fed up you know 10 10 15 years like down the line
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and they initiate divorce and then the guy's screwed so but why is she fed up why is she fed up
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all right well i think i mean there's going to be many different reasons for that and we could go
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into lots of different examples but i think a lot of it is that they lose the this you know the
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butterflies go and it's inevitably going to go over a longer period of time because we all know you have
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that honeymoon period and then you know it gets yeah then it gets it gets a bit boring and the
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problem with that is that if you're then putting that into a legal contract where one of the parties
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can just say i'll sod that and walk out that's a dangerous ground i think no like i've got i don't
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know like i've just got a thought like obviously you said women leave in a marriage of course which i
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understand but i'm 21 like i know i'm still young but i feel like there's a specific time period to
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have kids and to marry and settle down and i feel like i don't know like this little pressure because
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if i put myself in a guy's perspective or shoes like i'm not bearing a child and that changes your
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body it does yeah it changes yeah we are of course we have the biological clock yeah we're all aware
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of it as women so yeah it's harder for us i think that's why probably why we want to lock it down so
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oh yeah yeah sure sure yeah yeah and like with women leaving again this is such a broad subject so
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i'm not i'm not on about just cheating by the way yeah um but yeah one-off it's like i get and understand
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why men do like cheat yeah and leave and go for younger women well one out of it it's actually not
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such a broad thing though well men don't typically leave for younger women they don't even leave no
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they're just gonna cheat and stay they want to cheat but women cheat in their own way i mean i think
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personally i think that sex is to to men as attention is to women so i think women need attention
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like like men need sex but women are never expected to close off their social media yeah yeah but men
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are expected to stop having sex with other girls how is that fair but women can post ass pics on their
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instagram nobody can touch it nobody can touch it yeah but it's like advertising i mean i was even
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looking at okay okay i don't know about the selena hayley whatever i don't i don't care what i was
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looking at was her instagram i was like she's married to a world famous pop star yeah and i know
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she's a model right but he's a world fair point but he's he's got groupies yeah and he's also very
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religious apparently so i don't know what's going on so it's like you're married to a world famous pop
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star and you still got look at look at the booty one look at it yeah look at that yeah okay and the
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funny thing is he comments on it as well so it's bizarre as long as he's okay with it he's like oh my
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god yeah but would she be okay with it if he was to be commenting under somebody else's post no would she
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be okay with it but i think it works one of two ways like you can't you can't take one side just
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because one's a female and then yeah back the other side like true pick your own battles all all the
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same but don't don't come at the man for cheating if she's gonna put it out there as if she's gonna cheat