JustPearlyThings - July 19, 2023


Being FAT will kill you


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Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

205.39961

Word Count

2,044

Sentence Count

220

Misogynist Sentences

22

Hate Speech Sentences

9


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 But also, I think the reason that a lot of women are slimmer and why do you think more successful men want women who are slimmer is because it's healthier for them.
00:00:08.640 Like their risk for getting, you know, diseases at an older age, their risk for having pregnancy risks are much lower if they're not overweight.
00:00:17.100 So why would a man choose a woman if he wants to marry them if they're going to die at 50, if they're going to die at 70, if they're going to have their children's going to have be at risk for birth risk?
00:00:26.820 I mean, I would never want that.
00:00:28.520 And I don't think men want that.
00:00:30.460 Like when men are looking for wives, they're not looking for women who are going to have risks.
00:00:36.460 And we even saw for you how your bad habit passed on to her.
00:00:41.120 And that's like if you have a bad habit yourself, you will pass it on to your kids.
00:00:44.720 And then it's another problem that your kid, like because I had the same.
00:00:47.000 My mom used to feed me like Pop-Tarts and stuff when I was a kid.
00:00:49.640 And my mom was pretty big.
00:00:51.260 And then she ended up like losing all the weight.
00:00:53.600 And she told me like she literally did it for my dad.
00:00:56.280 And yeah, I have a sugar addiction to this day.
00:01:00.400 You know what I mean?
00:01:01.120 So it's like bad habits pass from like the parents to the kids.
00:01:04.200 Exactly.
00:01:04.320 And sugar is more addictive than cocaine.
00:01:06.380 It's crazy.
00:01:07.260 Yeah.
00:01:07.560 I do miss Pop-Tarts.
00:01:09.880 They make healthy Pop-Tarts, but they're really not healthy.
00:01:12.140 They're still junk food.
00:01:13.060 No, I don't like that.
00:01:14.400 I like the cinnamon ones.
00:01:15.160 I went in the complete opposite direction, like total neurosis.
00:01:19.400 I got my bachelor's and master's degree in nutrition.
00:01:21.920 I helped thousands of people lose weight, regain their health.
00:01:25.000 And it was almost like her rebellion.
00:01:26.400 So her choice to gain autonomy through overeating and ill health was almost, you know, well, it was just so, so crazy for me because I was so healthy.
00:01:37.120 Oh, shoot.
00:01:37.220 I thought you said you were overweight.
00:01:39.000 As a kid I was.
00:01:40.120 Oh.
00:01:40.340 But as an adult, I really.
00:01:41.520 So you were super, what were you doing?
00:01:43.140 My whole life until I was like 15, I was like rebelling against her.
00:01:47.280 I was like, I'm going to eat all the junk food.
00:01:49.280 So I'd go to my friend's house and I'd stuff my face with pizza and then their moms would call her and be like, oh my gosh, is your daughter okay?
00:01:55.680 She's eaten like a box of pizza and like my whole box of goldfish.
00:01:59.280 Wow.
00:02:00.060 And I would just do that.
00:02:00.900 And then I'd come home and I would never like her cooking, even though she's the best cook I know.
00:02:04.760 But like I wouldn't, I just rebelled my whole life.
00:02:06.980 Yeah.
00:02:07.540 It was terrible.
00:02:08.840 James says there's a difference between fit and thick.
00:02:11.740 Men want fit women.
00:02:13.900 Puffy, I'm in Las Vegas and I see plenty of women from Africa.
00:02:17.240 I am black.
00:02:17.780 This is cap.
00:02:18.380 We like thin women.
00:02:20.640 And then I think there was one more.
00:02:22.200 I'm just going to do really quick.
00:02:24.020 Lady in the red is telling the truth.
00:02:25.580 I've lost 67 pounds.
00:02:26.860 My life is better off.
00:02:27.980 These plus size influencers are lying to people.
00:02:30.480 Example Lizzo.
00:02:31.480 Yeah.
00:02:31.620 What do you think of Lizzo?
00:02:32.680 So I actually recently did a video on this.
00:02:34.680 I sub it up podcast.
00:02:35.780 But basically Lizzo is portraying something that is terrible for young women.
00:02:40.800 And then you have thousands of young women saying, oh my gosh, Lizzo is so beautiful.
00:02:45.260 Everyone should be like Lizzo.
00:02:46.120 And then you have all the fat people looking at Lizzo feeding off of her positivity, her body positivity.
00:02:52.160 And why does she lead with it too?
00:02:55.020 Because it's her brand.
00:02:56.260 To make people sick.
00:02:56.940 Yeah.
00:02:57.240 Nobody would talk when Adele was overweight.
00:02:59.980 Nobody really spoke about her weight because she didn't lead with it.
00:03:02.460 No.
00:03:02.580 You know, they did speak about it when she lost the weight.
00:03:04.920 Right.
00:03:05.120 They were like, oh, we can't believe you lost the weight.
00:03:07.460 We hate you now.
00:03:08.200 Like, we don't like you.
00:03:08.840 Like, you did this for social media and it's like, what?
00:03:11.280 Yeah.
00:03:11.780 What about doing this to save her life?
00:03:13.160 Why aren't more people supporting women losing weight?
00:03:16.540 That's what real body positivity is.
00:03:18.360 Because we know the whole world is lazy.
00:03:20.100 The majority of people.
00:03:21.440 So it fits.
00:03:22.720 Well, also the food industry.
00:03:24.020 It benefits the food industry and the medical industry to have more overweight people.
00:03:27.280 Because then you have more surgeries.
00:03:28.680 Then you have more medications being handed out.
00:03:30.620 Then you have more depression, anxiety, suicide.
00:03:32.880 I mean, the divorce rates, you know?
00:03:34.380 Right.
00:03:34.640 It's insane.
00:03:35.580 Right.
00:03:36.420 No, I mean, honestly, like, one time I was at work and these guys were, like, clowning on women over 200 pounds.
00:03:42.880 They're like, oh, I would never date.
00:03:44.000 But they didn't know I was because, like, I don't look.
00:03:46.520 Like, I didn't look like I was over 200.
00:03:48.760 Right.
00:03:48.960 And literally, I ended up, like, losing a bunch of weight because I was so embarrassed.
00:03:53.960 And it was the best thing that ever happened to me.
00:03:56.200 I ran a marathon because I was like, I'm done.
00:03:57.840 I'm done with this.
00:03:58.920 It's, like, the quickest way to lose weight, run a marathon.
00:04:01.340 Yeah.
00:04:01.580 And I got addicted to exercise, too.
00:04:03.340 Like, I remember being in that place.
00:04:04.660 I went to the doctor's office, actually.
00:04:06.220 And that's when I started.
00:04:07.820 They were like, your triglycerides are up.
00:04:09.840 Your risk, like, heart disease, type 2 diabetes.
00:04:12.560 And, you know, if you don't start now, you are going to die very, like, slowly but soon.
00:04:18.240 And I was terrified.
00:04:19.320 I was like, what?
00:04:20.180 Just from being fat?
00:04:21.760 I was mortified.
00:04:23.040 How long did they say you had?
00:04:24.980 I'm just curious.
00:04:29.220 No, they weren't like, you're going to die tomorrow.
00:04:30.900 No, but they were like.
00:04:31.600 No, I'm curious.
00:04:31.900 Like, how long do 300-pound people live?
00:04:34.040 I don't know.
00:04:34.840 Do you know?
00:04:35.480 I don't know the stats on that, actually.
00:04:37.140 No.
00:04:37.640 But they definitely have a higher risk of cardiovascular disease, which is a number one killer.
00:04:42.320 They have a higher risk of cancer.
00:04:44.040 They definitely will develop diabetes type 2 and other diseases that are 100% preventable.
00:04:48.320 There was that influencer that just, like, dropped dead the other day because she was obese.
00:04:52.380 And, like, she would literally always be eating and doing mukbangs.
00:04:54.880 Then she died.
00:04:55.960 I'm not surprised.
00:04:56.920 Yeah.
00:04:57.020 Why do you think she died, everyone?
00:04:58.640 You know?
00:04:58.920 It's really sad.
00:04:59.500 And then they say, like, when obese people go to the doctor and they say to lose weight,
00:05:04.000 that they're, like, not listening to them.
00:05:06.000 But I'm like, well, I mean, I'm not a doctor, but you might want to, like, watch for you.
00:05:11.240 But even doctors are lying to people now saying, oh, it's okay to eat, like, cheeseburger.
00:05:15.380 It's okay to eat pizza.
00:05:16.420 They can't weigh you.
00:05:17.340 Even that.
00:05:18.060 And it's like, you guys, why are you lying to these people who actually, some people who
00:05:21.480 actually want to be helped are being lied to.
00:05:23.680 Yeah.
00:05:23.920 Oh, just do the keto diet.
00:05:25.140 Oh, just do the paleo diet.
00:05:26.160 You'll be fine.
00:05:26.940 That's not a long-term solution.
00:05:28.320 That's not a lifestyle.
00:05:29.480 Right.
00:05:29.660 Doctors aren't really even trained in nutrition.
00:05:31.380 Yeah, doctors don't.
00:05:32.020 Yeah.
00:05:32.280 They don't know how to help.
00:05:33.780 And the business model isn't set up for them to support their patients.
00:05:38.460 So it's, the whole model is flawed.
00:05:40.540 And we really need to get smart and get responsible and be clear about what we're putting in our thoughts,
00:05:46.220 in our minds, and in our mouths.
00:05:49.300 Literally.
00:05:49.740 They said, as an African woman, Zimbabwean, we are curvy.
00:05:54.000 There's a big difference between being curvy and overweight.
00:05:56.640 You can be thin and curvy and just big, big.
00:06:01.460 And then there's another one that was from interracial marriages or relationships.
00:06:06.740 For a black men community, we value bigger women because they make for better sex partners.
00:06:13.200 Marriage is different requirements than sex.
00:06:16.320 My thin woman felt like she was too pretty to fulfill my sexual requirements.
00:06:24.440 Okay.
00:06:25.240 So how, did you say, how does a man identify a good woman?
00:06:28.920 I would say that a man identifies a good woman if she's, one, healthy and fit.
00:06:33.160 That's important.
00:06:33.940 Okay.
00:06:34.280 Especially for childbearing.
00:06:35.460 And I'd say number two, if she has traditional values, if she believes in being submissive, if she believes in being feminine, she loves.
00:06:45.200 Susan, I'm going to answer that question.
00:06:47.380 We're going to get to the men.
00:06:48.820 Okay.
00:06:50.520 Don't worry.
00:06:52.620 It was just whoever was sitting, you know.
00:06:54.740 And then I think if she wants to cook, if she's okay cleaning, she wants, she's a homemaker.
00:06:59.280 She would love to, you know, have children and take care of them and be a housewife.
00:07:03.060 I think that's beautiful.
00:07:04.660 And so that's what I think identifies a good woman.
00:07:07.180 Okay.
00:07:08.440 What about you?
00:07:09.300 Well, identifying as a good woman nowadays is a bit difficult.
00:07:14.240 However, I would emphasize on the values and the morals of the woman.
00:07:21.320 Primarily, her ability to be a good wife, her ability to raise good children, and even her thoughts and the things she has in mind, because she's going to be molding the next generation.
00:07:33.260 And...
00:07:33.740 So how does he know?
00:07:35.160 Well, it can...
00:07:36.280 Because, you know, women lie.
00:07:37.440 Like, we can just say things, like I am...
00:07:39.440 But, you know, if you have a deep conversation with a person...
00:07:43.240 She can still lie.
00:07:44.600 But no, but to an extent...
00:07:46.440 But believe me, throughout time, you can identify.
00:07:50.580 Okay.
00:07:50.860 So how much, how much time?
00:07:54.900 If it's, I would say, I would give it like three months, but it can...
00:07:59.620 Okay.
00:07:59.760 So three months?
00:08:01.080 Of constant, constant meeting.
00:08:05.160 Okay.
00:08:06.500 So you think in three months, he can see if she has traditional values?
00:08:09.360 Yes, she would.
00:08:10.620 I mean, just...
00:08:10.960 So healthy, so he can look, she healthy and fit, cool.
00:08:14.160 Yeah.
00:08:15.860 Is she...
00:08:16.420 How can he test if she's submissive?
00:08:19.020 He can ask something and see the reaction.
00:08:21.460 So ask her to do something and see what she does.
00:08:24.120 For example, you can tell...
00:08:25.640 I mean, if a man tells to a woman, can you please make me a coffee or a meal?
00:08:29.380 And she'd say, hell no, I'm not doing this to you.
00:08:31.260 I mean, that's easily...
00:08:32.120 All right.
00:08:32.140 See her for three months.
00:08:33.380 Ask her to make him a coffee.
00:08:36.620 Okay.
00:08:36.880 What else can he do?
00:08:47.360 How does he...
00:08:48.640 Does he...
00:08:49.860 Like, what else?
00:08:50.580 What else does he do?
00:08:52.420 I mean, well...
00:08:54.220 Because I was here, just find a good woman.
00:08:56.140 So I'm just trying to get from the women.
00:08:58.140 How do the men just find a good woman?
00:08:59.940 Yeah, it's his ability to identify what he values in a woman.
00:09:05.420 Okay.
00:09:05.900 I mean, that's going to be subjective to an extent.
00:09:09.000 Yeah.
00:09:09.300 So I'm asking, like, what makes someone a good woman and how does he identify that?
00:09:13.900 I think what you were saying as well, men do test women.
00:09:16.420 I've been tested by men, like, with certain things.
00:09:18.800 How does he test a woman?
00:09:19.700 So, like, can you cook for me?
00:09:21.000 Can you make me food?
00:09:21.820 Or, like, on the spot, though?
00:09:23.740 Ask to cook on the spot.
00:09:26.360 No, it really happens, you know?
00:09:28.720 It's a good test.
00:09:29.460 It really happens, for real.
00:09:31.760 And then he will know, do you know how to cook?
00:09:33.840 Can you cook properly?
00:09:34.820 Do you know what I mean?
00:09:35.220 Can you season that properly?
00:09:36.100 Even your presentation.
00:09:37.720 That's how you deliver the food.
00:09:38.980 Dropping the gravy on the side of the place.
00:09:40.680 I want to get it step by step.
00:09:43.060 I'm going to let the men talk.
00:09:44.560 I'm just curious how it's going to align with what you guys say from the women and the men.
00:09:48.800 Okay, so first he's got to see her for three months.
00:09:51.820 Ask her to make him a coffee and ask to cook.
00:09:54.960 Oh, I disagree with all of that.