JustPearlyThings - June 06, 2023


Bitter Feminist Gets Cornered With This Question

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
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10 minutes

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218.34

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2,377

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Misogyny

33

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Toxicity

9

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Hate speech

14

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss the difference between being the breadwinner and breadwinner in a relationship and how it affects the dynamic of the relationship and the dynamics of a relationship in general. We also discuss the differences between being a breadwinner or breadwinner as a woman and a man and how this can affect a relationship.

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00:00:00.000 going on that I'm literally like but what are the reasons and saying financial I'm like yeah
00:00:05.280 it could be financial but what was the dynamic of the relationship where finances were cited
00:00:10.420 but even still we know that finances do they do affect it because most women if you earn less 1.00
00:00:19.160 than them there's a certain level of respect they just won't give you and you know I'm saying and
00:00:23.580 you're not speaking to me a certain way in my house not happening they'll support you for like
00:00:27.500 a period of time but then after dynamics that I'm more interested in like that thought that kind of
00:00:33.320 thought like so then respect was of course there's a certain level of respect a woman's not going to 1.00
00:00:37.900 give you if she knows she's out earning because she had the money she can get a lawyer and she can leave 1.00
00:00:43.040 I understand that and I have nothing against that it's just to be like a woman is leaving 1.00
00:00:47.860 because she's earning more no what's the reasons why and it usually is this heart is okay so but
00:00:54.480 there has to be a disharmony and that is the disharmony is the fact she's earning more 1.00
00:00:58.060 but where's the level of that would it not be because the man is feeling not necessarily
00:01:03.280 so this is what I've seen and guys I mean from the men's point of view you can tell me if this
00:01:10.340 is accurate or inaccurate I found if a girl let's say a girl gets a promotion she's making half a 1.00
00:01:14.660 million a year is she gonna submit to the guy and say you get to make all the financial decisions in
00:01:19.820 the house impossible do you guys feel like most girls that you've dated would be cool with you
00:01:24.980 being a hundred percent in charge of the money if they're out earning a lot of women would be 1.00
00:01:32.440 idealist and say no I would like I would still like you to make all the decisions but when it
00:01:37.140 becomes more practical and she's the breadwinner the dynamics change really fast because then she's
00:01:41.680 trying to tell you mate wash the dishes that's it I'm working hella hours and I'm not going to come
00:01:46.660 home to a dirty kitchen bro this is it and leading on through that it's like most men would say oh if
00:01:52.000 my wife put on weight after having kids that I'm going to be with her forever and never cheat but
00:01:55.780 when she's looking like 200 pounds heavier and then your sexy secretary comes in you might slip into 1.00
00:02:01.400 a vagina by accident but bro it's the madness and also yeah like updated women yeah that make good 1.00
00:02:11.540 money maybe not more than me but good money and most women don't like to spend their money on you 1.00
00:02:15.800 anyway so it don't matter how much you make I'm not even gonna lie because I always end up spending
00:02:20.480 the majority of the money in the relationship regardless but they spend their money on themselves
00:02:24.320 as many always depleted the idea that your money is your money as a woman but my money is our money 0.99
00:02:29.640 yeah that's how it works see it differently 100 especially if you come from that kind of
00:02:33.720 upbringing in it so I'll always I'll always pay most of the time so these girls are living life 0.98
00:02:38.100 they're going on a holiday with their friends with the money that they should be spending on man
00:02:41.100 so you know what I mean what's she doing on that holiday you know what I'm saying you know what I'm
00:02:48.400 saying I should know better though I do think that's meant for if you have a girl that's not
00:02:52.160 spending on you and you're still with her that's that's your problem what you're gonna do run her 0.99
00:02:55.160 down for a pee is that what you're on I'm sorry if if she's with you and you're she's not doing
00:02:59.400 anything not paying for anything at all not even one day that's on you so what you're sitting at
00:03:03.360 the table and you're saying to my man with a chip so I'll bring that over there if I'm if I'm on my
00:03:07.680 birthday my wife doesn't take me out it's finished yeah but if you're like if you're with a nice girl
00:03:11.760 that's actually into you she'll offer no but bro I'm sure I'm sure all of you have had at some point
00:03:17.040 a girl that that's obsessed with you yeah but there's offering there's offering there's offering and 0.89
00:03:25.800 there's I am paying it's not the same when you're seeing a pattern of her not just offering and not
00:03:30.520 actually doing it's on you to then be like okay she's not actually doing this why should I do the
00:03:34.740 same because that's character what do you mean by character that's her character then so I think
00:03:39.240 it's on the man but that's what I'm saying if you're with somebody and that's their character
00:03:43.980 that they are inherently selfish where's the accountability and I picked a super selfish person
00:03:50.060 but going back to the five like earning half a meal is that fair that I would be earning the half
00:03:57.840 a meal and you get to make all the decisions of course it's not well it's not it's not fair but
00:04:02.960 what the problem is is when you start leading in a relationship we're not attracted to a guy that we
00:04:08.100 can just like that's whipped so I think there's more of a shared pot if I'm the breadwinner it goes
00:04:17.920 into a shared pot I don't think I would turn over what I'm earning and then somebody else who isn't
00:04:24.440 earning the same is like this is how it's being spent I understand what you're saying but this is
00:04:29.900 what I'm saying about the respect thing do you know what I'm saying so actually I have a question
00:04:33.720 for you so um you said accountability for picking the wrong partner um do you feel the same way about
00:04:40.160 women that pick cheaters and or abusers yeah okay so so you you believe it's equal you're accountable 1.00
00:04:46.200 for the people that you pick yeah yeah yeah it's vibration okay I need to elaborate on that one
00:04:52.080 it's vibrational I think that that after you've gone through it when you come out of it there has
00:04:58.680 to be some type of accountability I think if you've cheated how do I get how did that happen how did I
00:05:04.320 allow it to take place what was taking place in the dynamics of the relationship and I was there
00:05:09.080 it's still on the person who did the cheating because they did the act but you there is some type of
00:05:15.100 complicitness to it and if you take the person back and you stay with them and they do it again
00:05:18.940 yeah it's your fault I agree with that but do you think most women think that way no no I actually 0.92
00:05:25.800 okay no okay outwardly okay but I think internally they actually beat themselves up and they do
00:05:34.220 but then they get in the same situation again so what does that say because vibrationally they
00:05:38.880 haven't learned but what do you mean by vibration but you need two people that are in attraction to
00:05:44.540 each other so they are still in a lack they're still in an insecurity and the person knows I can
00:05:50.320 do this to this person because they are not full of themselves but maybe they just like the thrill of
00:05:54.620 that because I one thing I've noticed a lot with girls is that you know you'll be with a guy who's a 1.00
00:05:59.340 scammer you'll be with a guy who's a drug dealer and then complain when he scams you and chees on
00:06:03.600 you if you're if you are attracted to a scammer you are a scammer of course because if you're okay
00:06:13.040 with him doing that then you'll do it when he scams on you it's if you get cheated on it's your own
00:06:18.820 fault like you picked up it definitely it should be that way but this is where I see the problem
00:06:23.940 with self-awareness in a modern society a lot of people claim to be self-aware and understand
00:06:27.340 themselves but they really they don't if you're making those decisions and then complaining about
00:06:31.640 the outcome of those decisions it doesn't make sense so a lot of girls look for avenues to absolve 1.00
00:06:36.480 themselves the responsibility of the problems that they create one of them is western western horoscopes
00:06:40.480 ah you know your star sign is this so do you know what I'm saying yeah I'm an Aries so it goes back
00:06:46.640 to that idea of accountability it's like women are never told no or to or held accountable in the 1.00
00:06:52.240 sense that you've got a growth an individual to get to grow out of this yeah they don't have to
00:06:58.280 self-develop because if they look good someone else will pick them up but I think there's a growing
00:07:03.040 population of men that are the exact same you know they don't take accountability for the things 0.89
00:07:08.460 they're doing you know it might be because example coming more feminine it's the same thing a guy will
00:07:14.000 go for girls that um you know only wants it for money and they'd be complaining that girls only want 1.00
00:07:18.380 it for money it doesn't make sense I don't know about that one I've seen I've seen a lot of guys
00:07:23.240 guys with guys with money don't complain about spending but that's the thing it's only broke
00:07:26.780 if you're broke you've got broke friends I hear it trust me man with peas will never complain that
00:07:34.260 I'm spending money on a girl because they know they know what it is they know it's transactional 1.00
00:07:37.500 anyway but it depends on what you want so again if you're trying to look for marriage you don't want
00:07:41.300 a girl that's just taking you for money no it doesn't make sense most men won't care if you as long as
00:07:45.380 if you've got money and she's pretty more time you're going to ignore a lot of the bad characteristics
00:07:49.980 you don't have to deal with them you only have to deal with those when you're when you're an
00:07:53.380 average guy with a with a girl that's women are naturally are pergamos there's a lot more wiggle 1.00
00:07:59.320 room for her to push limits when you're a guy with money you can just tell her to shut up and she'll 1.00
00:08:03.040 I think it depends on how you got your money because there is a difference between a successful
00:08:06.220 man and a high value man because in my job I work with rich people every single day
00:08:11.800 like hedge fund managers or partners in firms their wants are very different how many how many
00:08:18.140 how many divorces have most of the guys not a lot cap it's not a lot divorces are less the richer
00:08:25.940 man is exactly divorces are less the richer man yeah that's true yeah it's true it's true you ain't
00:08:30.540 there no leaf they they want different things you know a man who's successful because he's a rapper
00:08:34.980 or a singer wants different things than a man who's successful because he he he works
00:08:38.660 I think that's down to the fact that the woman sees that what that she's found a resource that 0.93
00:08:44.280 she can't let go of but so she's acting a way that a woman with less than would act but not 1.00
00:08:48.600 necessarily because I think that makes sense that makes sense but then also those men are looking
00:08:52.440 for different things so when you let's say you're a hedge fund manager you're not just looking for a
00:08:56.540 girl who's pretty when you want to marry you look for most of them their wives are doctors um they work
00:09:02.240 in finance they're lawyers there's a reason for that because they're not just looking for going 0.99
00:09:06.020 for looks all of my brothers like make six figures and they they dump girls for being too dumb all the 0.96
00:09:13.560 time like my brother wouldn't date teachers in college like he because he just felt like they 0.95
00:09:18.160 weren't smart enough he's probably gonna marry an engineer and that's why they talk about hypergamy 0.98
00:09:23.340 as as no one wants to talk about it's leading to the wealth gap becoming even wider because before
00:09:29.380 when women couldn't work naturally there would be equal equilibrium where all the women couldn't 1.00
00:09:33.920 work they'd go for a man who who worked and then there would always be that socio-economic gap between
00:09:39.120 them now you've got these high achieving women that refuse to date anyone below them socially 1.00
00:09:44.160 economically so what you're leading to is the powerful women who are earning a lot of money are 1.00
00:09:49.340 stealing or taking the high earning men which is leaving less so it's leading to a higher wealth
00:09:55.300 inequality but are they taking the high earning men though because a lot of these women complain 0.99
00:10:00.080 they ain't got enough time to go to gym because they're always working but i'm a man don't want
00:10:02.780 that i'm gonna be real so the majority of um half of women over 30 are single and childless 0.95
00:10:07.780 that's what i mean they're not going so they're not going there like they're single bro yeah i mean 0.63
00:10:13.740 a large proportion of women are by them damn selves but that's that's irrespective of the career 1.00
00:10:19.000 they're in that's not necessarily just because they're in a you know higher power i think it's 0.98
00:10:24.500 definitely because when you look at women who work in the nursing sector they're going to have 1.00
00:10:28.260 way higher marriage rates than someone who works and say a head fund who's a woman no of course 0.99
00:10:32.740 women who are professionals tend to delay marriage and children and family because of course they know 1.00
00:10:38.340 it's a bit detrimental to their career yeah of course but i i do think in general the statistic
00:10:42.340 that women less women are getting married is across yeah yeah yeah yeah i agree right i agree with 0.97
00:10:47.460 that yeah so um another so another area where i hear girls lack accountability 1.00