Body Positivity Activist Gets A REALITY CHECK
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss whether fatness is just not sexy for men, why women like fat women, why men prefer thin women, and why women lie to themselves about what men want and why they lie to each other about what they don't want.
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Michael Leachin is one of them so I'm gonna pick this guy let's see what his
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wife looks like Michael Leachin and it depends on your definition of fat because
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what you may think is fat you know some men like big women not a fat chick
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big women we should also factor in if we're making the argument then we should
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also argue that women like short men like they're going for short men so why are
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you having that reaction to women tolerate short men but they don't
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necessarily like but she's she's right though in the same way like women
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tolerate short men men tolerate fat women exactly it's the exact same men like some
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women I'll tell you why that's not true because when you look at the men with the
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most choice if you say if I say okay if I'm broke and I say I don't like Gucci
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bags well you're broke of course you don't freaking like Gucci bags so if you look at
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the men with the most choice the most ability to choose I just looked up
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Jamaica's richest guy I know you said he was half Chinese but he's still half
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Jamaican too right he has a thin wife but I also feel like there are people that when
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they get to a certain position like for example and I'm gonna use again like a
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lot of black footballers when they got to a certain position they all died dated
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white skinny models yeah prior to them being footballers they weren't day in
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white skinny models but when they got to a certain level white skinny model no but
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they felt like it was the status quo so they felt like that's what they were expected to do
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even if that's the case it supports this argument that's a narrative women tell themselves because
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of what they see happening that's a narrative I've been told by these footballers actually
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they feel like they're more accepted they're more accepted as a black man when they've got a skinny
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white woman by their size I think when they become a rich black guy they can actually date certain
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white girls so they give that a go no but also I feel like they feel more socially accepted
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I don't believe that any guy dates somebody seriously for the social credit that they're
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gonna get for that I think that you say that as a white man Troy I'm saying as a black man
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when he's in certain environments to feel socially accepted he sometimes feels like he has to have
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a skinny beautiful white woman in his arm instead of bringing a black woman on his arm
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I'll actually say I agree with you he sometimes feels he needs a skinny woman not necessarily white
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the problem is that there are too many black women that are just overweight so there are less
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skinny black women to pick from that's the reality
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he makes a good point because what about a skinny black woman because I've dated various black women
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who were who were quite slender and quite shapely that's great but I would agree with the general
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sort of concept here that the fatness is just not sexy for guys right whether they're black whether
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they're white whether they're Asian you know whatever some men like fat women yeah but it's not the
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majority but it doesn't matter we're just talking about it does it does it does matter it does matter and
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the reason it matters is because if you keep lying to women about what men want they don't become what
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men want and half of women are projected to die alone I'm not trying to be what a man wants I'm just
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being me well height well you're born with that height isn't it but to to be a certain weight
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sometimes I why do why takes a certain actually I have a question why do women lie to each other
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about makes us feel better yeah like why I don't know why you keep lying when you know that men
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like thin women okay okay she's very beautiful yeah wait wait wait wait you know that men prefer
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thinner women some men you know you know you know my brother likes fat women you know you know my
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brother goes out with a very very large girl can I just say something really really quick real real
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real quick I believe that men prefer more of a woman in shape but there are a small percentage
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like fat women yes right right and that's it but my question is why do we sell women dreams
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well no I'm not selling anyone the fact I'm gonna say my friend she's a big girl yeah she's very
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beautiful beautiful girl and like she goes on dating sites sometimes and she'll meet a guy and
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she'll be like oh you know when he sees me in real life do you think he's not gonna like me because
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I'm fat and I said babe you look fat in your pictures he knows you're fat so when he's meeting
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you he knows you're a fat girl so he must like fat girls otherwise he's not going on a date with you
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why wouldn't you tell her what would help her which is that if you're insecure about it you
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should lose weight she does go on a diet she does diet all the time but she's just a bigger girl
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and she struggles I'm saying one thing would help her if her problem is that she thinks
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men are gonna think that she's fat the truth is wait wait the truth is that they will think she's
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fat some men and that the truth is they will think she's fat because even those men are not blind
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and she should lose weight I feel like they see they can already see that she's fat I have a lot of
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clients that come into my salon that are what's your what's your um I I have clinics um around Essex
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and some of my large ladies have more confidence than the smaller thinner ladies you know their
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confidence is through the roof they don't want to lose weight they're happy in their skin okay so I
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don't care about confidence I care about results and fat women have a harder time attracting men
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and fat women are more likely to die early and die alone right that's no but you see the problem
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the problem the problem we're having here in this society is that women get very confused very
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quickly because men will give sexual attention to any type of yeah that is the problem yeah so a
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woman will sit here and argue yeah men like fat women because they know that men will still sleep
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because they know they want to sleep with a girl with a big fat bum exactly and big but the reality
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if you think about it if you were to really think about it when men want to settle down they are
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not going to step out and pick the first fat woman that they can find if you like fat girls you like
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fat girls no but I'll tell you why I'll tell you why I'm telling I'll tell you why most men that would
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do that are probably very ignorant because the reality is when you're overweight it comes a lot of
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health complications and if you are choosing a life partner that is you literally picking potential
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future problems okay what's the statistics about how many how many larger women there are in the
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country to how many thinner the women are in the country um I know in the U.S. it's about the
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average woman's 170 pounds it's like average size like 14 or 16 in the UK right that's what I heard
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yeah yeah it's like 14 or 16 yeah yeah and women are not getting married as much as they used to it
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takes about three years to get an engagement from a guy we're not having kids like we're used to and
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we're not in relationships like I think because they're not settling and it's hard I would say that men are
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refusing to settle for women I would say it's the other way around I would say women I would say
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that women think they're the ones in charge but we're really not because really most women are
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just chasing after 10 percent of men because the number one way people are meeting now is Instagram
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and dating apps women find 80 percent of men is unattractive and ugly and I have a plethora of women
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that tell me about their ex-boyfriends that cheated on them meaning that a lot of us are sharing men
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meaning that really we're all just fighting over a small percentage of guys I mean we'll set into
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different statistics because that's probably your statistic because I may not be trying to chase
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that oh it's worse for us okay let me let me let me break it down are you you have a boyfriend