JustPearlyThings - @CoachGregAdams Explains How Men Get Red Pilled

00:00:00.000 yeah and how did you get to that point like what did you have a red pill moment i've noticed a lot

00:00:05.120 of guys in the space like there was like one moment that maybe was their red pill moment uh men

00:00:10.320 unfortunately get their red pill moments right we get we get we get introduced to life because we

00:00:16.160 don't have the advantage right of being selected early and often many of us don't many men do but

00:00:22.480 most of us don't and we go through trying to succeed with women right that's where the void 0.99

00:00:29.040 is we try to succeed with women and then ultimately we hit that moment of reality that's that red pill 0.54

00:00:36.000 moment we get some double dose of reality or we hit our head five or ten times for me it was a marriage

00:00:40.960 then a divorce and then re-entering the dating market as a man that was uh married for 10 years

00:00:47.600 and you we i re-entered the market dating millennials and gen z okay as a man who was married in a stable

00:00:56.960 household for 10 years almost 10 years okay that that was the introduction like this is different

00:01:03.840 something's different than when i was pursuing my wife and then married her and then live with her

00:01:10.000 and then there was a new world out there so that was the red demo what was the bigger shock the

00:01:14.560 divorce or the dating scene the dating scene the dating scene yeah the divorce you kind of saw coming

00:01:19.760 yeah i mean that's just kind of the the natural course of things obviously i dealt with some legal

00:01:24.000 issues related to the divorce right and so that was a red pill moment it was like what is this

00:01:29.040 but it wasn't the thing that got me right and a lot of people think they watch my content and they're

00:01:33.600 like that's the thing that got him and he's just mad his marriage didn't work out we actually parted ways

00:01:38.960 amicably but the divorce grinder that was like what the hell is this right so at that point i was getting

00:01:45.760 some information but once i was re-entering the dating marketplace that was when i was like something is

00:01:51.840 something's up what is the divorce grinder oh the divorce grinder is when lawyers get involved in

00:01:57.440 your marriage right and so what happens is they gotta they gotta they gotta separate the marriage

00:02:02.800 they gotta separate the two people legally which is not easy many times people will be married for 0.97

00:02:09.280 five years and it takes two years to get a divorce and it doesn't make sense so you're dealing with the

00:02:14.080 legal issues of detaching two corporations which is the husband and the wife and people get a reality

00:02:19.920 check of what marriage really is can you tell me a little bit about the divorce laws the divorce 1.00

00:02:26.400 so because that's one thing when i first entered like the red pill space yeah i grew two parent

00:02:31.520 household my parents are still married so i was like why don't these people want to get married

00:02:35.680 i'm like it's a i'm like it's a it seems like a great thing right from it come from a woman's 0.76

00:02:42.560 perspective it seems like a great thing yeah from a male perspective it's not why isn't it because the

00:02:48.800 state is attached to these marriages essentially you're entering into a business contract this is 0.97

00:02:54.400 the stuff people get pissed off about talking about because it it bursts the fantasy bubble yeah right

00:03:00.560 what i'm going to talk about is like oh but what about love and what about kids yeah but it's still

00:03:06.240 a business contract so what happens is most marriage is going to end in a divorce and the laws are going to

00:03:12.960 be dictated based on your country or your city or your state so they're all different and if you just

00:03:20.160 happen to so get divorced in a place where the laws suck then it's going to be a worse experience some 0.89

00:03:27.680 people get divorced in a place where they don't suck or they just halfway suck so it just depends on

00:03:32.720 your state like california per for instance is considered one of the worst places to get divorced 1.00

00:03:38.400 i was getting divorced in california so my whole perspective of divorce is like whoa all right

00:03:44.160 these people uh look there as a matter of fact some of the most wealthiest divorce attorneys are in

00:03:49.280 california so they have an incentive to people get divorced they want people to get divorced obviously 0.68

00:03:54.880 to stay in business and when you find that out the divorce laws are then introduced to most men 0.98

00:04:01.360 at that point now my content we introduce the divorce laws to men before they get married

00:04:10.240 so that gives them an idea of what they're getting into most men aren't introduced to divorce laws until

00:04:15.840 the woman says i'm divorcing you and then it's done because the women were basically paid to leave 1.00

00:04:21.360 aren't we you have great incentives yeah what incentives are those great incentives i mean incentives to be

00:04:28.000 supported by what they would call maintenance spousal support or alimony those are all

00:04:33.040 maintenance spousal support and alimony they're considered the same thing just depending on where

00:04:37.200 you are what state you are those three words are used interchangeably but uh oddly enough feminists 1.00

00:04:42.720 are opposed to that as well oh they're opposed to that most staunch feminists don't like maintenance 1.00

00:04:49.760 or uh spousal support either this is what people don't understand they think feminists are just going to 1.00

00:04:54.640 agree to have an advantage in the family court they look at that as a negative as well because they

00:05:00.080 want to be able to be self-supportive and all of that stuff so yeah really the feminists i've talked to 1.00

00:05:07.200 i'll tell them to get a job instead of like trying to cash out some feminists are not really feminists yeah we 1.00

00:05:15.200 attribute the word we use that as a blanket term to describe people who who like the red hair crazy

00:05:21.840 feminists those are those people typically more agree with many red pill guys there's just a kind 1.00

00:05:28.720 of different call to action i think some people ride the wave of feminism they're not really feminist 1.00

00:05:36.240 so and then what about child support so there's you got those yeah child support yeah tell me about

00:05:41.440 child support of course the the evil empire okay so you have child support so you have the spousal

00:05:47.600 maintenance or or spousal support and then you have child support which is a second payment

00:05:54.000 it's calculated completely different from spousal support spousal support dictated on how long you

00:05:59.040 were married and that's like alimony okay yeah so depending on how long you were married or who was

00:06:05.920 the primary breadwinner which typically is mostly men because that's how women select but child support is

00:06:11.200 based on how many kids you have if i have kids in a prior relationship if my income significantly

00:06:17.360 greater than hers it depends on what state so then you can get a double penalty you leave out paying

00:06:23.680 spousal support and child support and they're both sometimes they're both collected by different

00:06:29.280 agencies so i yeah because that that was the big like shock to me is like women are basically because 1.00

00:06:35.120 isn't child support dictated by how much like who has the kids so it almost gives women incentive to 1.00

00:06:43.600 take the kids to fight for the custody yeah because then they get more money most typically you're going

00:06:48.720 to hear a woman say i want primary custody right which gonna mean she wants an advantage on that time 1.00

00:06:54.160 wise uh but the the excuse they'll use is that i raised the kids i was a primary uh parent he worked

00:07:02.160 he traveled he was never there he cheated whatever it is to get out of that he can't take care of them

00:07:07.120 because he works a certain schedule he travels he's an alcoholic he's an abuser that's why he shouldn't

00:07:12.720 have the kids that's how that's framed but we have to understand that there's a calculation gonna give

00:07:18.560 her more money the more time she has but here's the trip you want to hear something funny when we when

00:07:24.640 we say that most people say no that's not the case she just wants more time to give the kids more 1.00

00:07:30.320 stability right but men will say i deserve my parental rights to have the kid equal time 1.00

00:07:39.920 you know what the woman would say in that situation he just wants more time so he can pay less child 1.00

00:07:46.160 support oh so it's like it's like a lose lose yeah because i just said she wants more time to get more

00:07:54.480 child support so they then switched it back and say he just wants more time so he can pay less child

00:08:00.000 support yeah and that's that's what i really did not understand when i first started watching

00:08:04.720 red pill content i was like i was like why are these guys so against marriage like this seems like

00:08:09.120 a great a great thing yeah i mean and if it was controlled by church controlled by communities it's

00:08:16.960 this is how communities are built so people think that i'm anti-marriage but i'm pretty traditional in

00:08:22.000 the aspect of the best way to raise children in a two-parent household i know that i understand that but we

00:08:28.000 can't even do that we can't do that as a community so what happens is the state has to get involved

00:08:34.160 and the state has to do its best to find a way to support women who are now being volunteering

00:08:40.000 themselves out of marriage but they can't support themselves 100 so there's state you know there's

00:08:45.600 resources that they reach to eventually and then there's also a penalty to the guy saying well you

00:08:50.400 married her so thus you have to support her to a certain extent and for a long time it was like you

00:08:57.280 have to support her forever then they put in rules and laws to say this is you're going to support her

00:09:02.240 until she can get on her feet i get a job that's right yeah but you're also saying the women who 1.00

00:09:09.760 violent who said i quit my job my career to be a mother and a wife you got lucky right that's what i said

00:09:16.560 i'm like why are you entitled to money half the time they're the ones leaving half the time it's almost

00:09:22.880 damn near all the time wait well and even that statistic is skewed right so we say 70 of the

00:09:28.400 divorces are filed by women and then 80 or 90 when it's college educated but that's but that's skewed 0.99

00:09:34.080 because a lot of times women won't file the divorce to punish the man oh shut up i've never thought 0.53

00:09:40.880 about so what happens is that the guy says i'm leaving you for another woman well legally she's not

00:09:46.720 going to file a divorce because he's going to marry another woman or he's going to be out there dating

00:09:52.960 so in order to prevent him from finding another partner she'll stop the divorce proceedings or at

00:09:57.680 least halt it yeah so there's a lot more so then but by that point the guy says i'll file so then he

00:10:06.160 files and gets the process started that's only one of the because otherwise he knows he's going to lose

00:10:11.200 so so the divorces are that are filed by men are don't even count as the man filed it is the woman

00:10:17.840 that wants the divorce but she won't she'll drag the proceedings to prevent him to marry wow you just

00:10:24.320 red-pilled me a little more you're here with the master you're here with the number one the notorious cga 0.99

00:10:29.520 you in the bunker right now so because i was thinking when i when the more i've learned about the

00:10:34.560 loss i'm like a guy that no wonder they stay with the whales what what whales the fat chicks oh um 0.73

00:10:42.480 yeah well again that's another hang-up because the guy can't divorce the woman he can't divorce the

00:10:48.240 woman because she gained weight yeah that's a disadvantage but she could divorce me for gaining 1.00

00:10:52.560 weight yeah oh he got us a lazy slob that's that's what i said that's what i got all these whales on my 0.99

00:11:00.240 page the whales yeah you call them busted pillsbury brisky can no no i did um a clip that was going

00:11:08.400 viral and all these whales started to show me their blubber i'm like show me your blubber right

00:11:12.800 um and most of the time these people uh obviously the guy didn't marry her in that state many times

00:11:18.480 so now she's not who he married and we call that a baiting switch yeah that's what they do they get

00:11:23.760 the ring and they're like and then they're like i'll just let myself go and there's no penalty for her

00:11:28.880 he gets penalized for letting her go and that's the that's the other penalty but i'm going to give

00:11:34.000 you a third calculation that nobody remembers that i have to teach people about and this is where men

00:11:40.080 lose more than 50 so you hear that phrase men lose half well men typically lose 75 of their income over

00:11:47.280 these horses because the third calculation is how property is divided how pensions are divided how

00:11:55.120 um retirements are divided how um you know if you had a business how is that divided so there's a

00:12:02.320 there's those are three separate calculations when you go through a divorce and typically if you had a

00:12:07.440 guy and you were a business owner or you had a military pension or a firefighter's pension and then you had

00:12:13.120 kids and then you have spousal support that's three income sources that are divided in the courts and it gets ugly

00:12:20.720 so okay so if you so this is your house yes yeah so so if you got married again i'm sure you will

00:12:28.960 that ain't never gonna happen i'm sure you never go happen yeah yeah but let's say you did you know

00:12:34.320 tomorrow right now then you get divorced how what would happen to the house um depending on what state

00:12:40.320 it would be considered either community property or it could be used to up to the judge's

00:12:44.880 just uh discretion to decide so oh so he can just give her the house good because that's called 0.97

00:12:52.960 equitable equitable what's equitable so there's equitable states like texas is i believe i'm not

00:12:59.280 mistaken don't don't quote me on the states but um some states are equitable uh whatever whatever's

00:13:04.720 equitable but in the judge's mind 70 percent would be equitable and that could that could fly but a

00:13:10.480 a community property it's probably a simp blue film well that's a problem so if the judges are simps

00:13:16.080 or you have a female judge what's going to happen right what's typically going to happen um in in 1.00

00:13:21.760 california it's community property 50 50 which creates a problem if i split this house 50 50 i can't

00:13:27.440 cut it in half i can't put tape down the middle of the and say you live on that half and i live on that

00:13:32.080 half so typically uh what happens is the guy feels like he has to move out uh i'll just move out you have

00:13:38.960 it but he could particularly he'd be moving out but he also was paying the mortgage but then and

00:13:43.680 then she can go to court and say he hasn't been in the kids lives right because isn't that one thing

00:13:47.920 they'll do the girls will do like he'll move out to get out of the house or they're fighting and then 0.99

00:13:52.880 she'll go to court and say he's well that's why you don't move out before the divorce is over right

00:13:57.520 but typically a guy's gonna move out before the divorce is over so he don't get killed and poisoned

00:14:02.160 on accident he's like uh it'd be safer for me to be out of the house because you know he got to go

00:14:09.760 to sleep where's he gonna go to sleep they don't sleep in the same bed many of you know i was just

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JustPearlyThings - March 24, 2023

@CoachGregAdams Explains How Men Get Red Pilled

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