JustPearlyThings - March 25, 2023


Being A SINGLE Parent DOWNGRADES Your Dating Value


Episode Stats


Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

214.07993

Word count

1,932

Sentence count

2

Harmful content

Misogyny

12

sentences flagged

Hate speech

7

sentences flagged


Summary

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In this episode we talk about single fathers and single motherhood and how it affects women and how to deal with it. We also talk about the importance of a single father and why a single mother is not a bad thing.

Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
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00:00:00.000 i'll say the same thing and it's not controversial and the men won't get upset a single father isn't
00:00:04.280 my first choice most most women most women don't care because because the thing is like when a man 1.00
00:00:09.540 has multiple children it signals to to most women that other women have selected him and like
00:00:14.900 actually i've heard from single dads that they get more women after they have kids so i'm not
00:00:18.780 the norm but i i can i've said on this podcast multiple times single father not my first choice
00:00:23.560 and it's not controversial but like women get triggered i don't know why no but the thing is
00:00:27.740 i'm a father and i understand this is what i have a child and i understand i'm not women's first
00:00:37.420 choice and i'm cool with you i understand can i say something no no no wait let me finish though
00:00:42.680 i'm a single father and i understand that i'm not women's it's real because i've got a child and i
00:00:48.620 may have quote-unquote baggage that i'm bringing with me true when you say that to a woman ah oh my 0.92
00:00:54.520 god it's like yo yo but hang on but but but why don't you understand the same thing that's
00:01:00.660 that's the selfishness of women coming out i hear it i hear it women are selfish women are selfish 1.00
00:01:06.260 i hear it but i don't go to say that um a woman that has a child is less valuable in your eyes
00:01:11.580 maybe a woman that has a child is less valuable to a man 1.00
00:01:15.280 not to hang on wait wait wait not to not to herself and not to her girlfriends yeah and that's
00:01:20.760 what i said women need to step out of their echo chambers and start asking men hang on you need to 1.00
00:01:27.120 start asking men what they value and the problem is when you start asking men shout out rest in peace
00:01:34.180 kevin samuels okay he he highlighted this and he highlighted that when men speak and when men think
00:01:41.900 and when men feel and when men express their opinions right women that are single mothers
00:01:49.160 of like two three four or however many children fat chicks too right you have to understand how men 1.00
00:01:56.320 speak and how men feel and it offends you that's not our problem can i ask you but men are allowed
00:02:03.380 to have their standards i can't lie it doesn't offend me wait wait wait wait wait wait when a man when a
00:02:11.760 woman has standards men are not offended if you say you don't want to shoot guys we're like all right
00:02:17.500 cool you don't want to shoot guys when a man says i don't want a baby mother oh my god what do you want 0.51
00:02:22.500 to offend me it's like you get offended it's like it's crazy like men are allowed to have standards too
00:02:27.420 i'm not gonna lie i don't want a baby that evil he a man could actually have all the things that he
00:02:32.800 everything and if he has kids i'm like no dead that straight away and i respect a man that actually
00:02:38.520 says raw listen i don't want this this is not what i want but you as a woman have to understand that
00:02:44.140 that's not his standard no but i tell you something so would you you will break all of your rules for
00:02:48.360 the right guy if you ask kids fuck no no you will break all of your rules for the right guy i have 0.93
00:02:56.880 been in a situation are you a virgin are you a virgin let me just ask you a question are you a virgin no
00:03:02.220 yeah right so if you're not a virgin and you turn around and say oh that guy that guy has a baby 0.95
00:03:08.780 all right so i'm not gonna i'm not gonna be in a relationship but then at the same time you're not
00:03:13.280 even a virgin no no no no no no can i say why can i say why i would not give a guy the chance
00:03:17.580 they cannot can i say why i would not give a guy that has kids because me as a person i know
00:03:22.220 myself and i can't give those kids the love that they require that's the reason why i can't i can't
00:03:27.400 be around someone else's child that i know he's had another woman and i already know as a man you
00:03:32.360 know you're gonna go and do your little ting ting with your baby mom let's be real now no i believe
00:03:36.280 it all comes down when you go pick up them kids them little cheeky little kisses not all men in it
00:03:43.660 don't look it look it i i agree with you like a single thought like again it wouldn't be my first
00:03:48.040 choice it wouldn't because i just think there's baggage that comes with that exactly but you get
00:03:52.440 it but like why why when sarah was saying the same thing you guys were like but that doesn't make her
00:03:56.240 less valuable didn't it no because the way he said that just sounded mad didn't it that's the only
00:03:59.900 reason hang on wait wait that's the only you know you know you just got to you got to feelings
00:04:04.360 no that's true i did i don't know wait i did as facts we don't care we don't give a fuck about 0.95
00:04:09.620 your feelings we're talking about the facts the facts is i understand as a man that being a father
00:04:15.660 of another child i understand that a lot of women may say i'm a curb that guy i'm not taking that guy 0.99
00:04:21.660 because he's got a child i understand that and i'm cool with that and that's a fact my feelings don't
00:04:27.120 come into that situation the problem is is that when you say the same thing to women oh but i feel like
00:04:32.700 we don't give a fuck about your feelings but this is why can i say something because the bottom line 0.81
00:04:35.880 is hang on because you know why it's the same thing but your feelings no but do you know why
00:04:41.660 but your feelings tend to take precedent over the facts do you know why i think it's different do you
00:04:46.500 know why though okay okay okay let that is you can go for a second then you can go i think the
00:04:51.220 difference is why all the girls were saying but but but but but and it goes back to what he said
00:04:55.020 your guy you could two are saying if a girl has a child she's a five but it completely depends on
00:05:00.240 the child the relationship with the child like i might meet a guy his baby mom's tapped always
00:05:05.920 involved that's a that's a fall immediately no no no no you said okay okay so so you're so you're
00:05:14.140 saying it depends based on the girl that's what you're saying and it depends on how the person
00:05:20.200 let's if you have someone that doesn't let you parent their child at all how can that ever work
00:05:24.580 okay so you're looking at it from a woman's point of view yes because for us it depends 0.95
00:05:30.060 based on because my mom let a guy parent me your mom i'm gonna choose him okay i don't i don't i
00:05:36.740 don't i don't i don't know i don't know your personal situation i'm not going to speak on like
00:05:41.380 your life i don't know it but i'm saying i'm saying in general it's not men's first choice
00:05:45.620 my dad let the other guy parent me though you guys are saying this
00:05:49.620 and it really doesn't matter the situation i i don't know who your stepdad is but typically
00:05:57.440 it's lower status men that don't have a ton of options because if you look at the men
00:06:01.500 with the money and the power and that have the most options they tend to pick young single childless 0.84
00:06:07.520 women you want low status my stepdad can i can i comment on that again i that's what i said i don't
00:06:12.380 know your life can i comment on that no i totally agree with you i've been brought up with boys like
00:06:16.300 men my uncle my dad so i fully understand that i feel like it doesn't matter what color caliber a man
00:06:22.220 is that whether he's got money or poor or whatever they still do go for the same thing whether
00:06:26.140 it's pure innocent they still go for the same thing because at the end of the day
00:06:30.180 as i said before earlier what i was trying to touch on is that in our nature men want to be a provider
00:06:35.380 they want to so therefore they want to their legacy to go on and therefore right to their kids
00:06:40.240 exactly to their kids exactly and therefore where as women we are like we are look printers we we're 1.00
00:06:45.940 gonna imprint no we are we are human printers we're gonna print that man so therefore he's gonna
00:06:50.680 look at us and we're like better than others yes so so not not all of them you know one girl
00:07:04.860 might get minus five or let's say seven points because her baby daddy was you know in jail but 1.00
00:07:10.840 and one might and one might get no but the point is no but but the point is but you're missing the
00:07:17.140 point the point is regardless if you have a child you get points i know i know that's why that's what
00:07:22.380 i was saying i know i know i know that's what i said no that's what i said no that's what i would
00:07:26.520 sir sir who's got a child okay you got a child yes bro how old is your child he's three he's three
00:07:32.980 how old are you i'm 21 okay so hang on this is this is great so no no but you're a 21 year old
00:07:41.720 yeah with a three year old yeah which means you had your child at 18 yes okay ask her how hang on
00:07:47.240 no no it's not even that i'm saying do you think so the type of man that you're looking for the type
00:07:53.780 of man that you may be looking for yeah right you have to understand that that man he because you're
00:07:59.960 21 yeah you may be looking for a 27 year old maybe at this point in time right i will be looking
00:08:04.840 in so yeah like you might be looking for a guy who's like 27. someone who's mature yeah but a bit
00:08:09.080 a bit more older than you yeah if a guy's 27 yeah that means he's in his quote-unquote prime of life
00:08:17.000 okay he's building that he's building himself up to be a man yeah do you think a man he's building
00:08:22.660 himself up to be a man he's looking to take on another man's child to be honest is that what you think
00:08:28.240 like i said then it all comes down to different like everyone's different and everyone's mind's
00:08:33.480 different everyone's mindset generally do you think generally you think a single 27 year old
00:08:38.980 generally no he probably is looking for a single without a woman without any children that's up
00:08:43.900 exactly as many of you know i was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized on a daily basis
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