JustPearlyThings - March 24, 2023


@CoachGregAdams Thoughts On Love

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Hannah Pearl Davis
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11 minutes

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In this episode, we talk about the difference between love and lust, why love is not meant to last, and why children are more important than love in a relationship. We also talk about why men should and should not get married.

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00:00:00.000 Do you think do you think men should get married today?
00:00:05.140 Should men get married? It depends on your position. 1.00
00:00:07.820 So I tell men and a lot of people get this wrong.
00:00:10.760 They think I'm against marriage as a principle.
00:00:14.760 That's wrong. I'm against state sponsored marriage and I'm against men getting married without information.
00:00:21.780 Most men get married both. Right. 0.84
00:00:23.920 They get married, stay sponsored and they think they're getting married under God or they get married in their church or from their community.
00:00:30.000 And they're not anymore. They stay sponsored.
00:00:32.680 Then most men get married when they're in a position where they can't provide whatever they need to provide to the to the wife or the marriage.
00:00:41.600 And then that's how they get divorced. So they get married and they have nothing.
00:00:45.860 They have nothing but love. Our love is like no other love.
00:00:50.840 Are you saying that doesn't last? Love? Love is love does not last. It's not intended to last.
00:00:57.380 What?
00:01:00.000 Love is not intended to last. Actually, most people, even people who are pushers of love will tell you that love lasts 18 months, maybe three years.
00:01:10.740 But this is why it's important that you actually have something else to build on other than love.
00:01:16.920 But if you want to make your decision purely on love, what happens when the love ends?
00:01:22.700 And then you're going to have to deal with that. So this is why children are important. Right.
00:01:26.600 So if you have love, love is basically, basically lust confusing you to procreate.
00:01:32.800 That's nature. It gets this attachment. It feels good.
00:01:36.280 I hope everybody experiences this. It's great. As you get older, it's less and less. For men, you'll experience it less and less. This is just how it works.
00:01:45.980 I think that's true for everyone.
00:01:47.960 That's true for everyone.
00:01:48.720 But women use love. They use love to manipulate men into marrying them when they've already been ran through. So this is the pair bonding argument. 1.00
00:01:58.720 So they'll say, but I love you, but she needs rent to be paid. 0.95
00:02:02.280 Yeah.
00:02:02.860 That's what it is.
00:02:04.180 Or it's like, that was...
00:02:06.720 Yeah.
00:02:09.140 That's what people, girls get so mad on my show when I say that. 1.00
00:02:12.780 What? Love doesn't exist?
00:02:14.520 No, no, no. Not that like the pair bonding.
00:02:17.620 Oh, the pair bonding. Yeah, yeah.
00:02:19.200 But I'm like, I don't...
00:02:20.700 It's like they tell on themselves though because they're so angry.
00:02:24.560 Yeah.
00:02:24.800 Like, why are you this mad?
00:02:27.520 You shouldn't be this...
00:02:28.240 Rebecca, you shouldn't be this mad.
00:02:30.780 Well, the proof is in the pudding.
00:02:32.020 All I say is just look at the results that we have out here.
00:02:34.640 If you have...
00:02:36.320 For women, unfortunately, if your sexual partners pass a certain number, what you're doing is manipulating. 0.95
00:02:42.500 It's not love.
00:02:43.520 There's no way it can be love.
00:02:45.120 Now, you can be attached.
00:02:47.160 People have to understand, love and attachment are two different things.
00:02:49.960 And you can tell by when the relationship ends if you had an attachment or love.
00:02:54.240 See, a person that had love, they'll be...
00:02:57.040 Have their feelings hurt and then they'll be indifferent to the person.
00:02:59.780 They may be like, well, I just want... 0.99
00:03:01.360 But a person that had an attachment is like a parasite. 1.00
00:03:04.640 They'll try to kill the person. 0.95
00:03:06.000 They'll hate the person after they broke the attachment because the ego's involved.
00:03:10.940 There was never any love.
00:03:11.860 What they'll do is they'll go attack the person.
00:03:15.860 Yeah. 0.62
00:03:16.520 It's like a parasitic relationship.
00:03:19.020 So once the host shakes the parasite off, the parasite hates the host.
00:03:23.660 Right? 0.51
00:03:24.240 And so you're opposed to what the parasite is like to kill the host by all means.
00:03:28.140 That's attachment.
00:03:28.980 And so if they loved them, because I almost think like, okay, because when I think of
00:03:33.780 girls, like, I feel like the girl, if she hates her ex, she still loves him.
00:03:38.660 If she hates her ex, she still loves him.
00:03:40.460 Yeah.
00:03:40.480 Yeah.
00:03:40.820 Because you don't, like, I feel like hate is closer to love than, than like, I feel like
00:03:46.500 if a girl doesn't talk about him, like, then she didn't care.
00:03:49.800 Okay.
00:03:50.180 So, but, but I, my rebuttal to that is you don't destroy something you love.
00:03:55.500 Typically, if there's hate involved, she's trying to destroy, embarrass them. 0.89
00:03:59.340 That's ego.
00:04:00.200 So what she'll do is drag them through divorce court, take them to child support, trying to 1.00
00:04:04.460 penalize them and hurt him, take the kids away. 0.79
00:04:07.120 Don't let them see the kids.
00:04:08.500 That that's not, that don't come from love.
00:04:11.240 That come from pure as parents.
00:04:13.400 Oh, yeah, but I'm 25, so I don't, I don't know anyone, I don't, I don't know anyone that's
00:04:19.280 been divorced, but I'm just thinking like, like in, in my, in my, in my, in my friend
00:04:25.220 group, I know like older people, but I wasn't kind of young, you know what I'm saying?
00:04:29.940 She's from the junior college, by the way.
00:04:31.500 The, the what?
00:04:32.860 The junior college, but my audience will know what that is.
00:04:35.620 What, what is it?
00:04:36.460 The junior college is a young woman.
00:04:38.580 Oh, oh, okay.
00:04:39.680 Typically under the age of 25, between the ages of primarily 18 and 26 is you, your junior
00:04:45.440 college age.
00:04:46.180 Oh, okay.
00:04:46.820 Yeah.
00:04:47.900 Yeah.
00:04:49.060 They'll know.
00:04:49.700 They'll be in the comment sections.
00:04:51.020 Okay.
00:04:51.540 With the junior.
00:04:52.300 I graduated, but you know.
00:04:53.860 No, you still junior college.
00:04:55.180 Oh, no, I'm graduated.
00:04:56.860 It doesn't matter.
00:04:57.500 You're still junior college.
00:04:58.180 Oh, okay.
00:04:58.800 A lot of people still in school.
00:05:00.000 Oh, okay.
00:05:01.380 Okay.
00:05:01.700 So, um, the, what were we talking about?
00:05:05.680 I got her shuffling now.
00:05:06.980 All right.
00:05:07.260 So we were talking about, you never seen, you never divorced.
00:05:10.020 Oh, no, no, but, but I'm thinking like people, girls my age.
00:05:13.260 Like, I feel like if a girl hates, like, if she's like, I hate my ex, da, da, da, da,
00:05:18.460 da, da, da, da.
00:05:18.900 I'm like, no, you still love him.
00:05:20.780 I guess younger women would probably have that because they have the ability to pair 1.00
00:05:24.160 bond still.
00:05:25.000 Yeah.
00:05:25.600 Right.
00:05:25.900 They have that pair bond or she's been imprinted by that man.
00:05:29.680 So she hates him, but there's a reason why.
00:05:32.460 And you have to figure that out.
00:05:33.420 She hates him because she lost him.
00:05:34.720 She hates him because, um, he won't give her advantages and let her manipulate.
00:05:40.400 You have to figure out what that is, but because you're dealing with a younger group
00:05:44.020 of women, they still have been, these are the first few men that they've been with.
00:05:48.160 So yeah, the hate can be generally come from love.
00:05:51.300 It can be that dynamic.
00:05:52.520 Once they're older than that, 26, it comes from pure manipulation and, uh, uh, trying to
00:05:58.100 penalize the guy. 0.97
00:05:59.180 Yeah.
00:06:00.640 Yeah, man.
00:06:01.260 And women evolve and you got to take the, you got to take that, man. 1.00
00:06:04.940 Women evolve and a good predator, a good apex predator, a good apex predator evolves as 1.00
00:06:13.980 they're out there, out there in the jungle.
00:06:15.880 Yeah, man.
00:06:16.700 They got to survive.
00:06:18.780 Women have to survive. 1.00
00:06:20.540 And just think about this.
00:06:22.020 Just think about this.
00:06:23.440 Women don't get physical mostly in our society. 1.00
00:06:27.480 Like think about since 200,000 years, you'd be surprised.
00:06:30.660 I've been well attacked.
00:06:31.820 You've been well attacked.
00:06:32.820 Right, right.
00:06:33.720 But typically to survive, they've been able to get underneath survival, uh, mechanisms,
00:06:38.840 which would be either government men, cavemen, uh, shelters.
00:06:44.500 They've been able to do this and survive.
00:06:46.400 They're still here.
00:06:47.300 I mean, in any sense of the imagination, if they all had to get physical, they'd be dead.
00:06:52.320 If there was no transactional relationship between men and women, there would be no women, 0.99
00:06:57.420 but obviously there would be no species, right?
00:06:59.620 So with that being said, women are survivalists and they will do things to survive, even use 1.00
00:07:05.380 love as a means for survival.
00:07:08.560 Think about this.
00:07:09.420 Think about this.
00:07:10.220 The first cave woman, you know, she might've had a nice rack or a pretty face or something 1.00
00:07:15.640 like that.
00:07:16.180 Right.
00:07:16.880 And she, and then she figured out there's a saber tooth tiger out there.
00:07:20.460 Right. 1.00
00:07:20.860 No, I know my ass. 0.99
00:07:23.320 Do I want to keep running every day or do I want to go to the guy that got the cave up 0.99
00:07:28.060 up at the top of the mountain?
00:07:29.760 The cave.
00:07:30.900 Yeah.
00:07:31.440 Yeah.
00:07:31.600 I would go to the cave.
00:07:33.640 I'm kind of afraid of tigers.
00:07:35.180 Yeah. 1.00
00:07:35.300 You don't want to talk back on your ass. 1.00
00:07:37.140 Who does? 1.00
00:07:37.520 No, no, no.
00:07:38.240 And not only that, physically wise, you can't run faster than I can run.
00:07:42.640 No.
00:07:43.080 Right.
00:07:43.640 You can't climb a tree faster than I can climb a tree.
00:07:45.740 No.
00:07:46.480 So what you going to do?
00:07:47.580 I love you caveman.
00:07:49.020 And by the way, you can have access to all this down here.
00:07:51.940 If you want, that's what you like.
00:07:53.420 I'll be up in the cave.
00:07:55.060 Yeah.
00:07:55.920 Okay.
00:07:56.440 Yeah.
00:07:56.740 I could see that.
00:07:57.920 Yeah.
00:07:58.480 Right.
00:07:58.740 So that's a form of manipulation.
00:08:00.660 Okay.
00:08:01.440 But it's a manipulative tactic.
00:08:03.080 Not against the man.
00:08:04.640 It's to survive.
00:08:06.660 Okay. 0.51
00:08:07.000 So you think like at our base, we're manipulative women. 1.00
00:08:10.700 Men and women are.
00:08:11.900 Men and women are.
00:08:13.060 But we're also participating in a transactional relationship.
00:08:16.360 Right.
00:08:16.620 Right.
00:08:16.920 So when I say manipulation, manipulation doesn't mean bad.
00:08:21.040 Manipulation is just manipulation.
00:08:23.060 Whatever you got to do to survive.
00:08:24.760 Like for me, I got to go out there and become, you know, a good mover of stones.
00:08:29.940 Build.
00:08:30.760 That's manipulation.
00:08:31.420 And then I'm also going to say, I'm going to get, I'm going to be the man with the cave 0.98
00:08:35.480 with at the highest mountain so I can get the best cave bitch or whatever. 1.00
00:08:39.680 You know what I mean? 0.99
00:08:40.100 Like I want the best woman.
00:08:42.800 I want the best cave woman. 0.98
00:08:44.580 My cave is at the top.
00:08:46.020 You never have to run from a tiger.
00:08:47.980 That's manipulation.
00:08:50.020 Otherwise, look, look, if I don't need no cave women, I wouldn't make a cave at the top 1.00
00:08:55.060 of the mountain.
00:08:56.020 Okay.
00:08:56.420 But I, when I think of manipulation, I think of something being like dishonest about it.
00:09:02.680 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:09:03.360 That's how we've been told.
00:09:04.600 Yes.
00:09:05.180 And maybe, maybe I'm incorrect.
00:09:07.120 So maybe I've been using the word incorrectly.
00:09:08.940 That's possible.
00:09:09.980 But when I think of manipulation, I think of like, I think it's manipulative to lie about
00:09:15.240 your body count.
00:09:16.980 I think that's manipulation.
00:09:18.540 Sure it is.
00:09:19.180 Yeah.
00:09:19.600 Absolutely.
00:09:20.340 Yeah.
00:09:20.500 But I think it's not manipulative if a guy is just like, you become the biggest, strongest,
00:09:27.180 fastest and caveman, you know?
00:09:29.660 Right.
00:09:29.880 But manipulation, sometimes like you can just handle something that's called manipulation.
00:09:34.300 I'm manipulating this thing, right?
00:09:36.620 I'm not doing something evil to it.
00:09:38.940 I'm not using something against somebody else.
00:09:41.080 I'm just manipulating it.
00:09:42.240 When I think of that term, like I think of something's dead.
00:09:44.600 So if I had the equivalent, it would be like a guy lying about his money.
00:09:47.880 That would be a manipulative tactic. 0.88
00:09:49.300 Yeah.
00:09:49.560 Yeah.
00:09:49.840 Yeah.
00:09:50.300 Yeah.
00:09:50.660 Right.
00:09:51.060 And people use that and they use that all the time.
00:09:55.660 Yeah.
00:09:56.020 But I would think, I don't know.
00:09:58.060 I guess I would, I don't think like a guy going to like build him up to be the best, building
00:10:04.060 himself up to be the best guy he could be.
00:10:05.940 I wouldn't think of that as manipulation.
00:10:07.560 I could be wrong.
00:10:08.140 Oh, I see what you're saying.
00:10:08.900 So you're saying, you're saying it's always got to be accompanied by a lie.
00:10:12.960 Manipulation and lie is synonymous.
00:10:14.480 I don't think it to be synonymous.
00:10:15.720 I think they're basically, we're misusing the word.
00:10:19.240 Right.
00:10:20.100 And that's because we have a negative connotation to manipulation.
00:10:23.300 But, but, but I'm saying is what we're, what we're doing is transacting.
00:10:29.000 We're transacting, but the manipulative part is somebody convincing us we're doing that
00:10:35.800 on the love.
00:10:36.380 Oh, that's the manipulation.
00:10:39.180 That's the manipulation because look, check this out.
00:10:41.800 I love you.
00:10:42.720 So I provide for you.
00:10:44.520 Okay.
00:10:45.520 Yes.
00:10:46.160 So you love me.
00:10:47.200 So you work so hard in life to provide.
00:10:49.380 What if you didn't have access to me?
00:10:51.420 Would you have worked so hard?
00:10:54.080 Probably not.
00:10:54.820 Like if I knew I wasn't going to get no women, I probably be like, what's the point? 0.99
00:10:59.180 That's what a lot of guys are doing now.
00:11:00.620 What's the point of going out there and trying to date because look at what I'm getting.
00:11:05.280 I'm getting hoes, scat, peeling, skeezers and whatnot. 1.00
00:11:07.700 Right.
00:11:08.000 So check this out for women, for women, if they don't use love. 1.00
00:11:14.900 Yeah, we're good.
00:11:15.800 I just check it every now and then.
00:11:17.080 It's good though.
00:11:17.680 It's good.
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