JustPearlyThings - October 18, 2023


Consequences Of Open Relationships

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
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Isaac Newton
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9 minutes

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215.41

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2,017

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Misogyny

31

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Toxicity

8

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss polyamory and open relationships. We discuss the benefits and drawbacks of open relationships and how to deal with jealousy in an open relationship. Polyamory is a term used to describe a situation where a woman sleeps with multiple men and the male sleeps with other women. In this episode we discuss the pros and cons of polyamorous relationships and what the benefits are and the problems that come with them.

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00:00:00.000 just weird do you know anyone that's done an open relationship i do actually how did like
00:00:06.260 was it on both ends yeah it was on both ends but
00:00:09.720 they were just them type of people that it was expected you know what i mean like so when
00:00:17.520 everybody started finding out they're in an open relationship the female sleeps with females and 0.53
00:00:23.100 the guy sleeps with girls it was like it wasn't anything like it was just like oh are they still
00:00:28.540 together no they're not they're not did it did they fight over it at all or no um yeah i think
00:00:36.000 it started getting like abusive between them and then the female actually ended up having a baby 0.98
00:00:44.200 with another man that wasn't him it just went left like it was just it was just it was crazy
00:00:53.080 you said you know someone oh yeah i've got a few friends who are into the whole polyamorous
00:00:58.500 thing i mean there's definitely something magical about just a man and a woman you know sharing
00:01:02.700 a um relationship bond with one another but as i said earlier you know i think the problem and you
00:01:09.840 definitely mentioned yeah sort of mentioned this about how a big problem with open relationships
00:01:14.940 and polyamory is jealousy can really cause issues and if people are not able to work through that
00:01:20.980 that's what can actually end up tearing people apart some people make it work i suppose do you
00:01:25.920 know anyone that's made it work like for more than 10 years oh well i don't know any like most
00:01:32.500 people i know like around you know 20s or 30s so what about you you know any open relationships no
00:01:39.440 put eight years as a standard that's the average length of a marriage um i mean i i knew somebody
00:01:44.300 went out like like 15 years ago that was in that kind of relationship and i really thought through that
00:01:51.000 i mean this is like you know long before i met my wife and everything but like i really thought
00:01:54.880 through that and it i mean so so i've thought through that and i kind of realized that polyamory
00:02:01.140 like massively famers favors the female right because when you take like imagine a society where it's like
00:02:08.480 one woman and multiple men let's just go like to that extreme what happens is the woman has all the 0.98
00:02:14.360 access to the sex because the woman then chooses who she has sex with because women control the access to 1.00
00:02:18.900 the sex and on top of that the man none of the men know the paternity like if they sort of are like
00:02:24.820 a similar tribe let's say none of the men actually know the paternity of the child so the woman has 0.94
00:02:29.640 access to the resources of all the men plus the control over all the sex and who gets it at what
00:02:34.900 time and and whatever right so when you open it up that way you realize that like that gives the woman 0.60
00:02:39.820 all the power yeah and that's what polyamory is because the woman still controls all the sex and then 1.00
00:02:44.040 the paternity becomes the question of you know a question so what does the man get out of that
00:02:48.080 like he gets access to women and sex it's like but most men don't really have that access like
00:02:53.900 yeah the top 10 percent of guys have all the access anyways right so there's no and that and the man in
00:02:59.280 that echelon is not going to commit to a woman in those conditions i just wonder like why i've said
00:03:04.800 this all week like why would he do this he's got money he's not a bad looking guy it's like why would
00:03:10.620 you pick to have your wife sleep with another dude the funny thing is he said the same thing a couple
00:03:16.880 years ago if you look at his old videos but i think it's like a result of feminism in a way
00:03:22.780 because because i i really think it's a result of feminism because feminism implies we're equal 1.00
00:03:29.580 and and i don't think we're equal i think men are above women i think they're better at us at
00:03:33.960 everything yes why yeah because every stat shows they are name something women are better at 1.00
00:03:39.640 well it depends what you mean by men and women are equal because we're equal in the sense that
00:03:46.160 we deserve respect but in terms of our strengths for example there's been studies that have shown
00:03:49.980 that women are typically better with say empathy women are better with women are more women are
00:03:54.080 more likely to kill newborns than the elderly well women can only have abortions but if you look at 0.99
00:04:00.020 even even just newborns i mean it's estimated they killed a quarter of their kids like a hundred years
00:04:05.400 ago like this idea that women are more empathetic it's like saying it's like saying one one party
00:04:10.540 has a gun it's not that women are more empathetic it's that typically women are usually because of 0.99
00:04:15.460 the way the female brain is wired we're more suited towards things like cooperation that's where there's 1.00
00:04:19.440 a higher level of women in things like the art but that's psychology that's why i think that women 1.00
00:04:23.740 can only be great under the authority of men because when we're on our own we just don't do well
00:04:28.400 well we don't want to you know be like undermining women i mean we can say that women have 1.00
00:04:32.500 strengths and men have strengths as well no i'm saying like i can't think of a way that women
00:04:37.380 are their best selves without men like i think women say the same men also need women no so there's
00:04:43.500 you can have examples of history of men that have been great did advancements in society and didn't
00:04:48.520 they like they avoided women so they could they could um like i think isaac newton died a virgin
00:04:53.740 there's some women are better men than charles childbearing i mean they but it's equal it's equal 1.00
00:04:59.120 value because men like men you need a sperm and an egg that's 50 50. so there have been some
00:05:05.140 societies for example that were matriarchal that were matrilineal in which there was a big presence 1.00
00:05:10.260 of the mother and that was passed on by the grandmother none that stood the test of time
00:05:14.460 well not in the west for example like in small tribes like for example in india
00:05:18.400 in china in fact in china there's still a tribe i think it's called the masseur tribe and you have
00:05:23.440 this very kind of female led tribe and it's not really feminist because it's not it doesn't 1.00
00:05:29.460 stand the test of time though plus keyword keyword small tribes they don't advance that's the point
00:05:35.540 well yeah because they keep the whole society within the frame of the tribe so it's not really the same
00:05:41.260 as like a modern western society but they don't advance that's the whole point so so what i think i
00:05:45.500 think that women women genuinely are not the best versions of themselves unless they're under the 1.00
00:05:49.760 authority of the men look at what happens when we raise kids by ourselves we suck as single moms 1.00
00:05:53.400 well look what happens when we we try to start companies ourselves it's like we can't even i
00:05:59.680 couldn't even do what i'm doing without being in the in the building that a man built it's like women 1.00
00:06:03.720 cannot be great without men but feminism tells them that we should be equal to men and so basically 0.67
00:06:10.260 feminism is saying we are equals when they are our superiors and i think it translates into 1.00
00:06:14.700 relationships and now you have women thinking that they should be leading relationships and having an equal 0.95
00:06:19.620 say men men uh men do better work when women are watching that's been noted and studied yes it has
00:06:26.860 because also as well boys as well in school are much better when there are girls in education
00:06:31.940 that's absolutely that's actually not true that's absolutely the opposite but men perform better at
00:06:36.440 sports when there are female spectators men give more money to charity when there are women this has
00:06:41.520 been tested in fact like something like 20 females on a working team increases the performance of the 1.00
00:06:47.060 team but it really increases the performance of the males right so you also need women for men to 0.98
00:06:52.580 compete amongst themselves to be selected and to be the best versions but none of the things you
00:06:57.540 mentioned actually build society where are the women watching the men building the buildings where are
00:07:01.740 the women cheering on the buildings come on we all work a little harder when a girl is in the room 1.00
00:07:05.480 no but where are the women where are the women you know i'm not making that argument i'm not making
00:07:09.260 i'm not making that argument yeah did that you know to me like the way that i look at the way that i
00:07:14.340 looked at let's say i sort of had to rationalize through this again because you know as as we grow
00:07:18.220 up we all have to like find our place in the world like where we fit in and how the world relates to us
00:07:22.320 and i had to like really think and understand like what women represented for me i mean again a personal 0.57
00:07:27.540 anecdotal thing but for me it's like women were the feedback that were sent by the universe or by 1.00
00:07:32.840 whatever higher power you believe in to tell me how i'm doing in life you know women are for a man 0.99
00:07:37.680 like women women let me let me finish that point i'm serious i'm serious i'm serious because like
00:07:44.160 if you're a guy and women are not choosing you like that's a problem and that's your problem like 1.00
00:07:50.200 it's your damn problem if women are not choosing you right so there's definitely a feedback mechanism 1.00
00:07:55.280 that women give to men and what women are saying to a man all the time is like here's how you're really 0.99
00:07:59.800 doing man here's how you're really doing in society here's how you rank among you know women 1.00
00:08:03.780 don't have realistic standards today sure and and so i don't i don't think i'm not making this as a
00:08:09.760 relative argument saying on an absolute scale but no but you're saying you're saying you're saying
00:08:13.280 today that women will tell you how you're doing in life so but i'm saying but i'm saying that argument 0.92
00:08:18.860 might have worked wait wait let me finish that argument might have worked a hundred years ago but
00:08:23.780 i'm saying i don't think that works today it does it's just way more polarized because women because 1.00
00:08:28.880 women um it's like our standards are crazy high we only swipe so you're telling me if we only swipe
00:08:35.500 five percent of the time on dating apps 95 of men are not good enough well so so the standards i'm not
00:08:41.620 saying the standards is fair anymore it's changed good enough used to be good enough right good enough
00:08:45.680 not good enough anymore now there's a more sort of a binary look at this it's like you're either
00:08:49.940 in the top 10 or you're damn not right but the point is we cannot have a function like i just 0.96
00:08:54.380 don't like shitting on the average man and i don't i don't like saying like that they're doing 0.90
00:08:58.120 something wrong when we could not have a society without them like i i genuinely think we need to 0.97
00:09:03.460 be thankful for the average man and saying they're not doing good enough because they have an average
00:09:08.080 oh no i'm not making that argument no no but you're saying that like women like will tell you if 0.99
00:09:11.820 you're doing good enough and like well good enough but therefore therefore women are are the primary 1.00
00:09:16.620 like they get to decide what's good enough but i think it's men i think men decide what's good
00:09:21.460 enough