Dating Coach EXPOSES Married Women
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss weight gain after getting married and the impact it can have on a relationship. We talk about the issues that come with gaining weight after marriage and how to manage it. We also discuss how to lose weight in a relationship and what to look out for when trying to lose it.
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issues that come with that yeah so women are more likely than men to gain weight after marriage
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so do you guys think it's fair to gain weight after getting married why not i don't think it's
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i don't think so either you don't think it's fair drop it on them pam drop it on them pam
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that person met you a certain way oh yeah and obviously that's what they went for and that's
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what they desired so that's what they will continue to desire and although they would probably still
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love you they definitely wouldn't find you still as attractive that's just that's just how it would
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be yeah i think that's just like a lot of i think that's like really common sense that's really not
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present in today's generation because it's just like it's unfair it's so selfish to just like
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that's like a guy getting a relationship with a girl like oh you know what i'm gonna quit my job
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and i want you to take care of me that's my next question but guys you guys encourage your
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partners just encourage them with food encourage them exercise why do we like for example use yeah
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but he probably was encouraging her but she she literally gained 120 pounds that's a whole other
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human but they did it together it feels it seems like it was their couple goal it was like goals you
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know couple no no no they didn't she she got bigger he didn't get that much bigger yeah let's play it
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again anyway you guys don't know the world of chop chases as well i'm i am big so i can tell you the
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world of chop chases as well but we're talking about the video like the he was i know but again he
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probably likes big women no come on he wouldn't have made then he would have married listen wait wait wait
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he would have married a big woman if you wanted a big woman so i think it's one thing if you marry
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wait if you marry a chick and she's like over i don't know what 200 pounds is here okay that's one
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thing but it's like if you sign up for one thing and then she bamboozles you later you think that's
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fair just like if i marry a guy thinking he's gonna pay all the bills and i'm gonna get to be a stay-at-home
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wife and that's what i thought and then one day he's like you know what
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yeah i just don't feel like working anymore but i mean or i don't or i don't feel like being
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faithful anymore i'm just gonna go fuck every girl i could find now or on her side too it just
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not be cool i just think that you need to be because i think it's common sense when you get
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a relationship you're like okay this is what i like so let's try to keep this going or make this
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better right and if it goes both ways yeah and i think that i've i've been there i've been in a
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relationship and i've put on weight in that relationship so i'm not just talking you know
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blindly i've gone up to 16 stone at my heaviest so but i also know that as much as you try to put
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this body positivity on everything at the particular at that particular point in my life i was very
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unhappy through a lot of reasons because i knew that i wasn't the same person i was when my partner
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met me and i didn't feel confident in myself but even though i've lost that weight i've still carried
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that with me so for the americans at home i was calculating yeah 16 stone is 224 pounds you look
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great you look 220 pounds 59 like nearly 16 stone that's wow you look seriously but i know how i fit so
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as much as people used to say oh you look good me personally for myself i didn't feel that way
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but you know i felt i i was like that my whole life but i was just sick and tired of being unhappy
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i'm like do you know this world is so short yeah and if you can get to that point without that then
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great but me personally it was just a massive thing for me i couldn't get past it it's amazing how good
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you look now that's a key because a lot of the majority of people they when they get that big
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they can't go back it's a large percentage of people that well i was at my heaviest i was 19 stone
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that's more than 16 stone so that wow are you guys friends yeah yeah
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did you guys do it together yeah did you lose it together
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i i was literally the the fat kid that ate cake i was the food was my comfort it was it was everything
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to me matilda yeah and and that's that's all i loved and it was an everyday thing but in my head
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in my mind i was shifting the weight but the reality of it as i wasn't i wasn't motivated and there was
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nothing to work toward um and i lived with that for most of my childhood i lived with that throughout my
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early adult years um i i had children when i was young so obviously after having children um you've
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got the baby weight that stayed on you and then you will have areas of your body then that um that you
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can't cover up yeah you know that you can't hide um and so that kind of led me to then staying at home
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um and then there's a cycle after that um where you know you you're at home you're socially excluded
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from from from places and people um and then you tend to put yourself into a box uh a self-hate
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then um because whatever trauma that you actually had which got you there starts to manifest as you
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get older and when you look at the people around you when you look at how people respond to you
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um you're constantly battling yourself and it is self yeah um and and for me i had to heal first i had
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to first figure out what was the trauma yeah where's the problem um and with that you don't
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even know where to begin because you don't know what the problem is um then you have to soul search
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you have to look who you've got around you you don't have to look at your parents um how you grew up
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your school days um and all of that you have to calculate and sometimes you are the problem
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sometimes the way that you've behaved is a problem however the way that you've behaved
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isn't necessarily because you've wanted to be that way but you was trying to be something that
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you was not in the first instance so for me once i discovered all of that um and i and i shifted
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to to some weight and got to a healthy weight i then chose for me to have surgery that was that
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was the gift to myself so after i'd healed and i'd recognized where the trauma came from and i dealt
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with that trauma my gift to myself then was to have surgery what kind of surgery i had a tummy tuck
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good for you i've had liposuction me too i've had my boobs done i i had i had like so i did so and
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tying into the whole thing because a lot of people try to like shit on me right now because
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i got liposuction right because i was just in such a bad place you know why because i was reading
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youtube comments everybody's just telling me this was in like 2021 march i got it but i also
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was fully transparent about it and i made a full documentary oh good about it in tokyo and
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but at the time it was so crazy because i was so like just constantly being slammed because i wasn't
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like huge i just had like a little in the in my midsection and then i was just like a man possessed
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and then i just like yeah let's do it let's do it pay pay pay pay whatever and the next thing you
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know i'm laying on the fucking surgery table i'm like oh fuck like this is gonna be crazy and
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then i woke up and i was just like oh my god i can't believe i went through with that but that
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you know the same for myself but and you know it's you know it's so crazy too given them because
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like i said i'm not i'm not hiding it i don't care i i tell everybody you know what put it on my
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tombstone like put it right there here here lies mld you got liposuction what an asshole
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you know um i'm happy when i did it and then i learned a lot of lessons along the way
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so but even though now i get shamed why for being a man that got liposuction right but i don't care
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because you get called lazy though that you were lazy oh you know everything this guy does this guy
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has no discipline this guy this this guy that i'm like have you seen the business empire that i run
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like i didn't run that being lazy but all that aside yeah i would rather personally i would rather
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be shamed for getting liposuction than being shamed for being overweight and at this point in my life
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if they because people are going to criticize you no matter what and i did use it because you know
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i wanted to create this documentary and i wanted the fat cells out of my body and so um i'm still
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i'm even here on the uk on my trip i'm still exercising i still eat clean yeah and i understand
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to uh is it alicia alicia alicia alicia i'm so sorry i'm okay you'll forgive her alicia as alicia
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alluded to earlier alicia was correct when she said the symptom is something going on inside you and
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then pam pam as well said that what was going on inside of you is there is some there's some
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trauma there's some things so i think what pearl said is absolutely correct we can't glorify this
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because at the end of the day what we're doing is we're glorifying poor mental health yes because
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it's we can't be glorifying that kind of stuff because and you're literally sending people off
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omnia remotely know the earth to dexter and early grave i'm a big fan of being alive