JustPearlyThings - Deal Breakers In Relationships For Modern Women

00:00:00.000 so deal breakers for you i think someone who's not very educated i don't really like people that are

00:00:10.640 not really um so a plumber um high school diploma plumber um in terms of career i'm not really

00:00:20.880 bothered so long as you like no you said you said educated so i'm saying high school diploma but

00:00:25.280 plumber um yeah like all right i would say all right then to correct what i'm saying then someone who

00:00:30.560 can't communicate yeah like someone who has literally no communication skills okay

00:00:41.920 is that it any other deal breakers so he communicates and you're good that's it yeah

00:00:48.000 because if you can communicate then you can work problems out so he's 300 pounds 5 4 but he can't

00:00:53.280 communicate um i'm just asking like what are your deal breakers so if he's obese deal breaker yes or

00:01:02.800 no oh yeah that'd be a deal okay deal breaker if he's obese what else um aggressive what's with the

00:01:12.160 okay you guys just you just changed abusive to aggressive i didn't call you out i let you go

00:01:17.200 when it was aimed at me like you both it's like why abusive you on the men's side didn't it i'm not

00:01:25.680 on the anyone's side i'm on reality's side like that that's the side i'm on um okay so no obese how much

00:01:34.240 money um i don't know just so long as you can like feed yourself clothe yourself run a house

00:01:43.440 um get the necessities etc like oh no i'm not really that hooked up in money okay like 20 20 000 pounds

00:01:54.400 it's average yes or no 20 000 pounds would you date yeah okay okay so 15 000 pounds would you date

00:02:04.480 i'm not gonna really like date a guy because of what he's got because i can look after myself

00:02:08.400 mm-hmm but but we all agree there's there's a number that's too low like 12 like 10 pounds an

00:02:15.200 hour are you dating but what if that's all the job that he can do and he gets 10 pounds an hour at

00:02:21.680 least he's trying like why not come on that's trying some guys that's probably the only job that you can

00:02:26.320 get so what is he less valuable oh okay if that's what you want to date i'm just asking i'm not saying

00:02:32.880 that's a guy with date but what if there's guys out there like that are trying to do something but

00:02:37.760 we're not we're not talking about the exception we're talking about the rule so i'm asking on

00:02:41.680 average unemployment is not really desirable though is it really it's not desirable i'm not shaming

00:02:46.960 anyone for wanting a man with a job i think we should pursue men with jobs i'm trying to figure out

00:02:51.440 what your floor is i'm not really bothered about what a guy earns okay but i need a number from you

00:02:58.240 jobless so unemployed there's a homeless shelter down the street are you dating them clearly not

00:03:05.600 okay okay right so what what's the minimum

00:03:11.760 why is it so hard to answer these questions i have a very interesting theory i actually think women 1.00

00:03:17.440 really don't care about money like in the way that a lot of men think the reality is women just care 0.94

00:03:23.440 about shiny things so if a man is able to present that facade of oh i have shiny things i can do this

00:03:30.720 i can do that women will go for it and they really don't understand the concept of okay money here and 1.00

00:03:37.680 you need to use it to do this when it comes to men obviously when it comes to them and buying their

00:03:41.920 things they understand money but when it comes to men it's all about the shiny things i disagree though

00:03:46.480 i think women just want security you know the shiny things maybe the shiny things might symbolize 1.00

00:03:50.400 that okay he has money but what they want actually is someone who will give them secure amen i'm not

00:03:55.280 thinking about what i'm talking about what they actually respond to in real life look a wise man

00:04:02.160 once said don't listen to what women say watch what they do so the woman can come and tell you oh yeah 1.00

00:04:08.640 i love this bruv watch what she does i get what you're saying now i get what you're saying but i'm

00:04:13.040 saying is in a nutshell it's not the flashy things that you're attracted to it's just the skew to the

00:04:16.800 thing that the flashy things may bring that's that's what i'm trying to get exactly because

00:04:20.240 i've met some women who actually don't like guys who are flashy who they think oh this guy's too loud

00:04:24.480 so what about those women they they look at guys with what are we talking about the role or the

00:04:29.440 exception i'm just just asking this question no but you're bringing up the exception even even

00:04:34.400 i would argue that even the guys that you claim are not flashy they are still flashing the ways women 1.00

00:04:40.000 would respond to in terms of like their status yeah but it's not shiny it is shiny status is a shiny thing

00:04:45.680 bro how many people have status it's it's it's bright in the eyes of women okay i get what you

00:04:50.480 mean i i mean i get what you're saying i i think the word shiny kind of took me over but you just mean

00:04:55.280 like just credible i mean i'm a philosopher at the end of the day come on i love philosophy yeah i

00:05:01.360 get what you're saying but i still feel like women are attracted to security it's just like you said

00:05:05.360 it's just in a biological nature yeah to draw to these things yeah um all right then direct is to the

00:05:11.680 point then i would say like if you're gonna have a household um at least 25k because that's what it

00:05:19.760 takes to run the house okay thank you go ahead what are your deal breakers um my the deal breaker

00:05:29.040 is not passing my interrogation process okay oh that's what you you you have you wanted to do an

00:05:36.800 interrogation show didn't you yes okay what's your interrogation process um so there's a series of

00:05:44.000 five questions i have my personal five questions that i asked to actually use in my own day in

00:05:48.800 life okay my five questions are the first one is do you drive it sounds very basic but yeah do you drive

00:05:58.320 um do you have any past traumas and if so and what are you doing to resolve them

00:06:03.200 um how many baby mothers do you have what guys are we going on dates with

00:06:11.600 is this like is this a problem that we run into multiple baby moms yes oh yeah okay a lot of some 0.91

00:06:21.760 guys they have children okay okay how many baby moms is too many well that's a trick question you see 0.95

00:06:29.040 because if they actually say they have a baby mother then i know what time of day is if they

00:06:32.400 don't respond to the question as my child's mother then i understand what the dynamic in the situation

00:06:38.240 is so that's actually a trick question that one okay okay i would like to hear zero would you would

00:06:45.360 you deal with one i would have to compromise i'll be compromising okay two no no okay so what other

00:06:54.160 questions do you ask how many students have income and so if he says he's a plumber no other

00:07:03.200 his one stream of income is that okay we could do bus driver i just pick a trade bus drivers are

00:07:14.000 making a lot of money no they all do all the trades i mean my questions are not wrong and right

00:07:21.440 it's just for me to understand the individual and if he said free then i know i have a bonus there

00:07:26.160 if he says zero i know i have a problem if he says one or two then i just understand his work effort

00:07:33.360 and where he would like to go the last question i normally ask is what is a male's purpose in four

00:07:38.960 words and these questions it sounds very military as i'm saying it but i slide in the conversation it's

00:07:45.520 a way how i do it but if they fail those those five questions yeah deal breaker okay so i'm just

00:07:52.720 curious one stream of income deal breaker or no not a deal breaker no okay past that question and the

00:08:00.720 trauma you think men want to be questioned about their like past trauma it's how they respond to the

00:08:06.880 question actually okay so what's all right ask ask him here are your questions i want to see if he passes or

00:08:14.240 are you ready for this so um do you have any past traumas and if so what are you doing to resolve them

00:08:22.240 um yeah i went to therapy actually um yeah and that helped me a lot it was um because i was raised by

00:08:27.920 my grandparents and kind of not like being raised by my mom kind of had a little like you know but

00:08:32.720 now me and my mom are cool like me and mom are like best friends i speak to my mom like every day

00:08:36.880 and it's just been very brought a lot of healing to me so yeah it's been good and actually i will urge every

00:08:43.200 guy out there to if you've got any sort of you know disruption with your parents whether your

00:08:48.960 father or mom just deal with it because yeah you have to and they they're here what you're gonna do

00:08:54.080 you just have to deal with it and love them and receive the love that it gives you it gives you a

00:08:57.600 lot of healing yeah thank you for answering was that a good answer the way how he answered gave me

00:09:03.680 a lot of information about him just then and there and it also let me know that he actually did

00:09:09.360 he has he has a past trauma and he actually done something to resolve it i'm more for the end

00:09:14.240 result and the fact that he actually did something rather than sit down and feel safe for himself

00:09:18.880 he paused the question

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JustPearlyThings - October 13, 2023

Deal Breakers In Relationships For Modern Women

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