Deal Breakers In Relationships For Modern Women
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss deal breakers, deal breaksers and why women should date men with jobs. We also discuss why women are attracted to shiny things and why they are not attracted to men who are flashy.
Transcript
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so deal breakers for you i think someone who's not very educated i don't really like people that are
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not really um so a plumber um high school diploma plumber um in terms of career i'm not really
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bothered so long as you like no you said you said educated so i'm saying high school diploma but
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plumber um yeah like all right i would say all right then to correct what i'm saying then someone who
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can't communicate yeah like someone who has literally no communication skills okay
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is that it any other deal breakers so he communicates and you're good that's it yeah
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because if you can communicate then you can work problems out so he's 300 pounds 5 4 but he can't
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communicate um i'm just asking like what are your deal breakers so if he's obese deal breaker yes or
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no oh yeah that'd be a deal okay deal breaker if he's obese what else um aggressive what's with the
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okay you guys just you just changed abusive to aggressive i didn't call you out i let you go
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when it was aimed at me like you both it's like why abusive you on the men's side didn't it i'm not
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on the anyone's side i'm on reality's side like that that's the side i'm on um okay so no obese how much
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money um i don't know just so long as you can like feed yourself clothe yourself run a house
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um get the necessities etc like oh no i'm not really that hooked up in money okay like 20 20 000 pounds
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it's average yes or no 20 000 pounds would you date yeah okay okay so 15 000 pounds would you date
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i'm not gonna really like date a guy because of what he's got because i can look after myself
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mm-hmm but but we all agree there's there's a number that's too low like 12 like 10 pounds an
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hour are you dating but what if that's all the job that he can do and he gets 10 pounds an hour at
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least he's trying like why not come on that's trying some guys that's probably the only job that you can
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get so what is he less valuable oh okay if that's what you want to date i'm just asking i'm not saying
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that's a guy with date but what if there's guys out there like that are trying to do something but
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we're not we're not talking about the exception we're talking about the rule so i'm asking on
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average unemployment is not really desirable though is it really it's not desirable i'm not shaming
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anyone for wanting a man with a job i think we should pursue men with jobs i'm trying to figure out
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what your floor is i'm not really bothered about what a guy earns okay but i need a number from you
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jobless so unemployed there's a homeless shelter down the street are you dating them clearly not
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why is it so hard to answer these questions i have a very interesting theory i actually think women
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really don't care about money like in the way that a lot of men think the reality is women just care
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about shiny things so if a man is able to present that facade of oh i have shiny things i can do this
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i can do that women will go for it and they really don't understand the concept of okay money here and
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you need to use it to do this when it comes to men obviously when it comes to them and buying their
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things they understand money but when it comes to men it's all about the shiny things i disagree though
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i think women just want security you know the shiny things maybe the shiny things might symbolize
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that okay he has money but what they want actually is someone who will give them secure amen i'm not
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thinking about what i'm talking about what they actually respond to in real life look a wise man
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once said don't listen to what women say watch what they do so the woman can come and tell you oh yeah
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i love this bruv watch what she does i get what you're saying now i get what you're saying but i'm
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saying is in a nutshell it's not the flashy things that you're attracted to it's just the skew to the
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thing that the flashy things may bring that's that's what i'm trying to get exactly because
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i've met some women who actually don't like guys who are flashy who they think oh this guy's too loud
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so what about those women they they look at guys with what are we talking about the role or the
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exception i'm just just asking this question no but you're bringing up the exception even even
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i would argue that even the guys that you claim are not flashy they are still flashing the ways women
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would respond to in terms of like their status yeah but it's not shiny it is shiny status is a shiny thing
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bro how many people have status it's it's it's bright in the eyes of women okay i get what you
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mean i i mean i get what you're saying i i think the word shiny kind of took me over but you just mean
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like just credible i mean i'm a philosopher at the end of the day come on i love philosophy yeah i
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get what you're saying but i still feel like women are attracted to security it's just like you said
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it's just in a biological nature yeah to draw to these things yeah um all right then direct is to the
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point then i would say like if you're gonna have a household um at least 25k because that's what it
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takes to run the house okay thank you go ahead what are your deal breakers um my the deal breaker
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is not passing my interrogation process okay oh that's what you you you have you wanted to do an
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interrogation show didn't you yes okay what's your interrogation process um so there's a series of
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five questions i have my personal five questions that i asked to actually use in my own day in
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life okay my five questions are the first one is do you drive it sounds very basic but yeah do you drive
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um do you have any past traumas and if so and what are you doing to resolve them
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um how many baby mothers do you have what guys are we going on dates with
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is this like is this a problem that we run into multiple baby moms yes oh yeah okay a lot of some
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guys they have children okay okay how many baby moms is too many well that's a trick question you see
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because if they actually say they have a baby mother then i know what time of day is if they
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don't respond to the question as my child's mother then i understand what the dynamic in the situation
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is so that's actually a trick question that one okay okay i would like to hear zero would you would
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you deal with one i would have to compromise i'll be compromising okay two no no okay so what other
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questions do you ask how many students have income and so if he says he's a plumber no other
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his one stream of income is that okay we could do bus driver i just pick a trade bus drivers are
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making a lot of money no they all do all the trades i mean my questions are not wrong and right
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it's just for me to understand the individual and if he said free then i know i have a bonus there
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if he says zero i know i have a problem if he says one or two then i just understand his work effort
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and where he would like to go the last question i normally ask is what is a male's purpose in four
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words and these questions it sounds very military as i'm saying it but i slide in the conversation it's
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a way how i do it but if they fail those those five questions yeah deal breaker okay so i'm just
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curious one stream of income deal breaker or no not a deal breaker no okay past that question and the
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trauma you think men want to be questioned about their like past trauma it's how they respond to the
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question actually okay so what's all right ask ask him here are your questions i want to see if he passes or
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are you ready for this so um do you have any past traumas and if so what are you doing to resolve them
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um yeah i went to therapy actually um yeah and that helped me a lot it was um because i was raised by
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my grandparents and kind of not like being raised by my mom kind of had a little like you know but
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now me and my mom are cool like me and mom are like best friends i speak to my mom like every day
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and it's just been very brought a lot of healing to me so yeah it's been good and actually i will urge every
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guy out there to if you've got any sort of you know disruption with your parents whether your
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father or mom just deal with it because yeah you have to and they they're here what you're gonna do
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you just have to deal with it and love them and receive the love that it gives you it gives you a
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lot of healing yeah thank you for answering was that a good answer the way how he answered gave me
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a lot of information about him just then and there and it also let me know that he actually did
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he has he has a past trauma and he actually done something to resolve it i'm more for the end
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result and the fact that he actually did something rather than sit down and feel safe for himself