JustPearlyThings - Delusional Modern Woman

00:00:00.000 coming up next good look it doesn't mean high value though somebody couldn't there's loads of

00:00:03.800 people that are good looking it doesn't mean that they're high value so at the end of the day i'm

00:00:06.640 just wondering if it starts there at least for guys no so i can only talk to myself but for me

00:00:11.480 personally looks doesn't necessarily then equate to high value i've seen women that are what people 1.00

00:00:16.080 classify tens and their values are minus 10 so at the end of the day to me it's contextual very

00:00:22.200 very well i'm not saying i'm not saying it's just like i'm saying it's not looks alone but like you

00:00:26.200 that would start there like i don't think you can be like 300 pounds and be high value as a girl i 1.00

00:00:30.740 just think it doesn't it depends on who's looking i know men that want 300 pound girls and they deem 1.00

00:00:35.360 them to be high value so it just depends in my opinion i think usually those guys can't get laid

00:00:40.080 by anyone else very true you know i don't see you know i just i don't see the rich men like

00:00:45.380 bringing the whales to functions you know first of all who measures value like we have to have an

00:00:50.440 objective standard we can't be delusional be like everybody likes different things well you know

00:00:54.440 this girl's into this kink then she's a high value woman it's like is she high value because 1.00

00:00:58.160 you're into crapping in her mouth and she takes it that makes her high value that's absolutely crazy

00:01:02.300 a kink doesn't make a person high value it makes them a sexual object i can buy a sexual object 0.99

00:01:07.200 and if i can buy it it's not going to be a lot of value in the marketplace because there's a lot

00:01:10.860 of dudes that can buy it so who determines value i don't think body count matters one bit because

00:01:15.760 we're all born with you know private parts and stuff and they're there to be used if you want to

00:01:23.800 do that of 100 people a week do that it's there for a reason it's there to be pleased on both ends

00:01:31.140 and i just don't think we're in a generation now where really body count like no we're talking about

00:01:39.620 high value women is there such a thing as a high value woman if so what does that look like start 1.00

00:01:48.400 here go around i think there is a high value woman because um i like i know that men care about women's 1.00

00:02:02.460 past and women care about a man's future so i think men do look for a high value woman 1.00

00:02:12.380 so what what so what traits does does she have so she's like what a virgin you just said that they 1.00

00:02:23.440 care about their past like what what is well like i can't really answer that because i feel like every

00:02:29.160 man has its own okay you don't think there's any general things it's just you don't know um maybe

00:02:34.300 like body count i feel like some guys care about body count and what women do for a living and their

00:02:42.020 mindsets and their goals in life okay what do you think uh i think there is high value women i think 1.00

00:02:51.220 they have to have some traits like have to be motivated have to motivate me in some way they also have to be

00:02:58.920 family orientated because i'm big on family so that's definitely high value and i'll say

00:03:04.860 i don't know because some people has past and they have history you know but you can't really judge them

00:03:11.320 from that so i don't know if that you can't judge for on their past yeah it's like can i judge a man

00:03:17.640 if he has a past of like prison uh you can but that person can't change though so oh i shouldn't

00:03:26.540 you want your daughter like your daughter your sister going out with a guy got out of prison

00:03:31.540 like me personally if i meet the guy and i like him oh wow in some way i think that's bad advice

00:03:38.760 you think yeah i think that is who here guys your daughter prison past you're cool with anyone

00:03:44.780 listen if the dude was in prison from a less than a kid and you're like but i like him

00:03:49.500 you might want to rethink that but obviously that's like specific you know i mean like if he was just

00:03:54.060 in prison about anything else then i'd probably give him a chance but like in general i don't really

00:04:01.420 hold people from what they've done okay so they are now okay so for high value women to you body count 1.00

00:04:06.480 doesn't matter if it's a thousand you're cool i wouldn't say i'm cool okay okay so it matters

00:04:11.580 so yeah okay okay so what how many bodies she got to be under i'll say probably stay under like

00:04:19.140 20 okay under 20 she's high value yeah okay what else um i'll say definitely to motivate me in some way

00:04:28.580 i'll say because i'm a gym person i'll say she's health healthy okay yeah and

00:04:35.400 um high value who's is there a woman you think of when you think of a high value woman 1.00

00:04:43.120 someone in the media if not it's okay but i'm just wondering i'm really working my brain i'm just

00:04:50.780 trying to yeah yeah um not right now i wouldn't like choose a specific one right now okay yeah what

00:05:00.260 are you thinking i think with higher value women it can mean different things i think if a woman's 1.00

00:05:05.600 got respect she's kind she's honest she's got like a business mentality and she's hard working

00:05:12.680 that to me shows she's a higher value because she's putting in that extra effort and a lot i know a lot

00:05:18.200 of girls that sit around at home all day don't do nothing with their life but then you see a lot of 1.00

00:05:22.620 women that work their asses off you know and to me that shows they're trying to be good women you 1.00

00:05:28.540 know no no no i don't really care no yeah it's like it's like nothing to them i get okay it's like

00:05:37.680 it's like you know if a guy talks about his shoe collection yeah and you're like oh that's nice

00:05:41.520 but i don't care yeah okay yeah okay it's like our jobs yeah i think i think it's hard because

00:05:47.480 everyone's got like a different vision in their head of how a woman should be i'm just curious so

00:05:51.900 okay so you said she's got to have respect like what what what does she have to do to be a high 1.00

00:05:56.460 value woman like what skills does she have to have what what does she have to look like 1.00

00:06:02.140 well we all know a man likes a classy woman right not all men but we all know a man likes a classy

00:06:09.000 woman not someone that shows their ass off on instagram or you know oh sorry does that sort of thing 1.00

00:06:14.320 so in my head a high value woman to a man is someone that dresses appropriately okay and has 0.54

00:06:21.120 morals okay whatever that means to some people okay but um the bar is low that's it i mean that's all

00:06:29.360 we gotta do my head is a bit frazzled right now but so don't sleep all right this is what i got so far

00:06:35.100 don't sleep with 20 people don't have your butt on instagram 0.68

00:06:39.820 be in shape and be respectable that's it okay now it's fine i'm just taking some more there's a

00:06:50.740 more day i'm just repeating that i feel like it'll come back to me that's okay okay what do you think

00:06:56.640 what is a high value woman and does it exist because some people don't believe in it so it's up to you 1.00

00:07:01.900 it has to exist but it's completely different to what makes a high value man i think um women judge

00:07:09.500 a high value man based on the things that we want and what we look for so um a high value woman has to 1.00

00:07:15.940 be based on what men are looking for which is going to be completely different so it would be younger

00:07:21.120 women uh 20 to 20 um in shape yeah not not got everything out on instagram and low body count 0.98

00:07:32.220 wants kids wants family wants a husband doesn't want to go out on uh girls holidays um all those 0.97

00:07:40.580 things based based okay what do you think high value women no i don't believe there's high value 1.00

00:07:48.540 women i believe values contextual okay so it's all very dependent on what you see at the end of the

00:07:53.740 day you could have a woman who is what society theme is overweight and a man might value that really 1.00

00:07:59.740 highly because that's what he wants it all depends on somebody's experience so i don't believe there's

00:08:03.420 high value women i believe that there are women who want to put out certain ways about them 1.00

00:08:08.620 and if that's what they want to do then that's awesome and there are women who are going to do 1.00

00:08:12.540 what they're going to do and men will still idolize and worship them anyway that's what i believe

00:08:16.540 anyway sorry can you explain that again so yeah so value is contextual right so it depends on how

00:08:23.420 someone will perceive that woman so somebody might look at i don't know the queen and see she's high 1.00

00:08:29.080 value because she's head of the monarchy and she owns wins the castle and all the rest of it some of us 0.95

00:08:33.820 look at the queen and think i can't stand i don't like her at all she's not high value to me okay whereas 0.97

00:08:38.360 somebody may look at somebody that lives within a council estate and they may aspire to be with a 0.99

00:08:44.300 woman like that but you don't think there's you don't think there's like general things that most 0.99

00:08:47.800 men like most men might look at i don't know margot robbie beyonce 20 years ago and say

00:08:53.700 like that high value or good looking like you don't think there's general things that like men want

00:08:58.200 good looking doesn't mean high value though somebody couldn't there's loads of people that are good

00:09:01.600 looking it doesn't mean that they're high value so at the end of the day i'm just wondering if it

00:09:04.660 starts there at least for guys no so i can only talk for myself but for me personally looks doesn't

00:09:10.100 necessarily then equate to high value i've seen women that are what people classify tens and their 1.00

00:09:15.020 values are minus 10 so at the end of the day to me it's contextual very very contextual well i'm not

00:09:20.560 saying i'm not saying it's just like i'm saying it's not looks alone but like you that would start

00:09:24.320 there like i don't think you can be like 300 pounds and be high value as a girl i just think it

00:09:28.540 doesn't depends on who's looking i know men that want 300 pound girls and they deem them to be high 1.00

00:09:33.260 value so it just depends in my opinion i think usually those guys can't get laid by anyone else

00:09:38.460 very true because you know i don't see you know i just i don't see the rich men like

00:09:42.740 bringing the whales to functions you know very very true but then we're not looking at it from

00:09:48.080 a men's point of view we're looking at it from a women's point of view so the question you asked

00:09:51.080 was is what do people deem to be a high value so i'm not looking as a high value man looking as a

00:09:55.660 high value woman i'm just looking at what a high value woman is no i was looking i was thinking of it

00:10:00.240 from the men's point of view because i'm just looking what like the most sought after men tend

00:10:03.380 to pick which isn't like fat chicks okay so if we're looking at it from that way the most sought

00:10:09.060 after men no they wouldn't necessarily pick that although some men have some really crazy fetishes

00:10:14.500 so they may say that they don't want these women on the surface but then what they're doing behind

00:10:19.700 closed doors is they've i mean every king had concubines very that doesn't make her queen you know 0.98

00:10:25.280 no doesn't at all but he might deem that woman so the high value woman might be the one that he 0.99

00:10:29.640 puts on a pedestal but then he might deem the woman that he's sleeping with that's 300 pounds high value

00:10:33.720 as well because she's giving him what he needs at the time that he needs it so it's all very

00:10:37.740 contextual yeah but i would think you'd have like results to show you know what i mean like you'd have

00:10:41.740 like a ring or like a house oh some concubines have rings yeah they might but i just i don't really 1.00

00:10:49.460 see them bringing the the concubines out in public like they're usually in the back you know i agree 0.98

00:10:54.380 with that i agree with they don't yeah they don't bring those concubines but those concubines get to 1.00

00:10:58.600 live in the ivory tower yeah and they're quite happy with it as well so yeah to me it's contextual

00:11:03.220 okay what do you think do high value women exist yeah yeah however how value women does exist 1.00

00:11:09.260 um because uh like uh how yeah the first time being on the set so they gave me so after you know

00:11:20.360 so what's the question again all right so what is a high value do high value women exist and what is a 1.00

00:11:26.980 high value woman so high value woman is like a girl that got herself put together like uh that go out 1.00

00:11:32.980 there every single day to work um on what they love and also like doesn't buy you all the time

00:11:39.600 and um yeah that's what i've got oh is oprah a high value woman no not really she does she does 0.98

00:11:48.260 what she loves every day i don't think she's a big partier she doesn't seem like it oprah high value 0.98

00:11:54.420 no uh yeah but no at the same time okay but i think yeah i think yeah i think yeah i think yeah

00:11:59.760 there's just some of you guys the bar is like low like wow i don't really yeah everything it's like

00:12:05.700 with this everyone here is a high value

00:12:07.800 like i think it depends though like because it's like there's women out there that works to separate 1.00

00:12:16.100 themselves from the rest which is why i can appreciate that you know i mean but obviously

00:12:21.380 we're all like humans we like what we like but i believe like there is high value women out there 1.00

00:12:28.220 there is women that really go out there and gets it they're really putting the work to be 1.00

00:12:33.320 to a yeah yeah um i guess like what you guys most of you not you but are describing it's just like

00:12:41.400 it's very like a low bar like we don't really got to do much you might be right i'm i'm just asking

00:12:46.480 the question what do you think is there a high value woman do high value women exist if so okay who are 1.00

00:12:51.660 they well so this is an interesting question i pondered about this a little bit too because there's a lot

00:12:56.220 of people that are asked like oh you know high value men so let's that's the other side of it is

00:13:01.560 the does a high value man exist right people are like what's a high value man well that's an easy

00:13:05.980 question to answer it's just a high value man first of all who measures value like we have to have an

00:13:10.640 objective standard we can't be delusional and be like everybody likes different things well if you

00:13:14.540 know if this girl's into this kink then she's a high value woman it's like is she high value because 1.00

00:13:18.360 you're into crapping in her mouth and she takes it that makes her high value that's absolutely crazy

00:13:22.520 a kink doesn't make a person high value it makes them a sexual object i can buy a sexual object 0.99

00:13:27.400 and if i can buy it it's not going to be a lot of value in the marketplace because there's a lot of

00:13:31.180 dues that can buy it so who determines value that's an interesting question and the answer is where it's

00:13:35.880 the market that determines the value like for people don't know what that means it's like

00:13:38.800 buy my house for a billion dollars it's like but this house sucks yeah but i determine my own value

00:13:44.040 it's a billion dollars how many people buy that house zero people who determines the value of a house

00:13:48.800 the market what does that mean it's the willing number of buyers that are going to pay the maximum

00:13:51.980 price and the highest bidder usually wins so the value has to be determined by the highest bidder

00:13:57.160 that's how things work in life right so a high value woman would be a woman that is sought after 1.00

00:14:02.420 by the highest bidder the highest bidding man now this is a really interesting question because this

00:14:06.720 is a actually a really interesting discussion with a friend of mine about this like what does it mean

00:14:10.960 to bid on a woman see this is where women get confused right because women are like oh a lot of guys 1.00

00:14:15.000 want to sleep with me and they dm me so i'm a high value woman but that's it but that's a

00:14:19.360 misnomer in the in the value marketplace and there's a really easy answer for that right like

00:14:23.160 here's a question for you guys how many people in the world today can go pay cash and buy a ferrari

00:14:27.940 is that a lot or a little hello it's a little how many people can save up for a little bit and uh rent

00:14:33.620 a ferrari for their wedding or their graduation hello quite a lot of people right so women are like 1.00

00:14:38.760 oh these dudes are hitting me i'm high value it's like no you're a rental car you know a lot of guys

00:14:43.200 can save up and rent a nice car for a day you're not high value so high value cannot be a rental car a car

00:14:47.780 value a high value has to be an owner car so a high value woman by the definition of the market 1.00

00:14:52.640 is just what is the highest status or the highest value or most desired because that's how men's 0.54

00:14:58.840 values market it you know what is the highest value man that is willing to give you what

00:15:02.760 ring a ring there it is it's the highest value man that's willing to give you a ring so if you can get

00:15:08.860 dudes that want to hump you but they don't want to give you a ring you're not high value and that's

00:15:12.600 that's the answer the high value women exist yes because i'm married for for 10 years 1.00

00:15:16.940 with four kids uh and i know a lot of other dudes that are doing pretty darn well uh that are married

00:15:23.600 to these women but then it goes back to what i was saying before so it's contextual so it's like

00:15:30.480 i could say my mom's high value but my mom's done a lot of stuff that other people would have deemed to

00:15:35.320 be high value but my mom's high value because she's worth something to me she's my mom she raised me

00:15:39.180 yes but we're talking about sexual market value we're not talking about do i love my mother it's a

00:15:42.760 totally different argument i get i get that but where i come back is that what you're saying is

00:15:47.040 basically what i put in a nutshell is contextual so you can be married so it's what you're saying

00:15:51.220 is that basically it's a woman who a man's worth willing to put a ring on so i yeah you're right

00:15:56.860 a man might be willing to put a ring on somebody that's 300 pounds so in no man listen listen

00:16:01.920 i know guys and i'm going to bring them to pearl show on saturday by the way if you guys are going

00:16:06.160 to watch i hope it's going to be amazing i know guys worth 100 million dollars like i was with one

00:16:10.020 just the other day at my place and henry was filming us having a conversation it's like

00:16:13.660 no dude is like i've made 100 million dollars now it's time to bag me a 300 pounder and my

00:16:18.400 and my life is complete zero men not even one man is thinking that you know i think then again it's

00:16:23.700 contextual because i can go to my car i can go to my place of heritage where i know a man who is

00:16:28.820 incredibly rich and his woman is over 250 pounds and that's his wife yeah and he parades her

00:16:35.440 everywhere and he's very happy to do it and the concubines parade's probably the right word yeah

00:16:40.020 and the concubines that he has are women who other men would be how long have they been together

00:16:46.060 15 years okay yeah but was she like that when he like was was he rich then he was rich and he

00:16:51.240 picked a fat and he's always picked women that are larger because that's his thing so again it's 0.76

00:16:56.200 contextual but that's not market value it's like yeah some some guys like you know a shitty car

00:17:01.220 that breaks down because they're into this vintage shitty car but that's not that's not

00:17:05.420 the market value that's just the guy right you're applying group statistics to an individual which

00:17:09.260 is fine and i agree with your argument you're like well my mom is high value because she does a lot

00:17:12.860 of good things for me you know my kid her kids society etc i get that obviously in the context of

00:17:17.740 the show we're talking about sexual market value right now if a guy likes uh if a guy likes a whale

00:17:23.020 let me say this that's a terrible strategy for a woman to implore in her life like well some guys 0.99

00:17:26.960 like me if i'm 300 pounds it's like yeah but that's not maximizing for success yeah that's true

00:17:32.340 that's your at that point you're just a disabled parking spot right like guys will park with you

00:17:35.860 but they'll check if anyone's looking first that's the point which you if you had do you have kids

00:17:41.340 yeah you got a daughter yeah if you were going to give her advice just generally because if you've got

00:17:47.100 a son you tend to give your kids advice on how to grow up and be a good man how if you were to advise

00:17:54.120 your daughter your recommendation wouldn't probably be to yeah just get as fat as you like 1.00

00:17:59.080 because some man out there will love you you kind of you want your child to kind of aim

00:18:03.840 you know yeah do you know what i think i think of getting a good man i know my viewpoints are very

00:18:10.320 different to most people so like we could look at things holistically like of course we can we

00:18:16.060 could look at things holistically look at it and at the end of the day right and we have to on a show

00:18:19.920 yeah because like on a show it's not about individuals like we're talking about society

00:18:23.800 in general um what do you think high value woman uh definitely exist yeah and from like listening to 1.00

00:18:29.620 everybody i would like i i'd list uh looks body count probably important uh for me intelligence

00:18:36.260 definitely high up there uh loyalty is a big deal um and nurturing for sure if i would list a few things

00:18:44.880 um how how many bodies does a girl have to have for high value to go off the table 1.00

00:18:53.700 so she no longer it's yeah i know you said 20

00:18:58.620 it's got a generous man over here uh what do you think um

00:19:05.120 whatever the guy thinks like whatever i'm asking what you think

00:19:12.220 personally for me i feel like body count shouldn't matter but i feel like

00:19:20.740 if there was a number

00:19:22.480 i don't want to say because like i have friends with higher body count you know i don't want to

00:19:29.100 like i mean high values it's supposed to it's like it's like saying i'm not a millionaire

00:19:33.940 not everyone can be a millionaire not every girl can be high value it's not an insult if i if i 0.98

00:19:40.140 say to you you're not a millionaire you insulted no so if i say you're not a high value woman it 1.00

00:19:45.800 shouldn't be insulting

00:19:46.660 i honestly don't know like i feel like every man has their own like like he said 20 like

00:19:56.800 some guy some some guys don't care about body count okay i know but i'm asking what you think

00:20:01.940 okay what about he had a brother yeah i have a brother okay so for his girlfriend what's the

00:20:07.760 most um i'm not sure but i'm thinking the same like 20 as well all right 20 okay what do you think

00:20:19.740 i don't think body count matters one bit because we're all born with you know private parts and

00:20:28.380 stuff and they're there to be used if you want to do that of 100 people a week do that it's there

00:20:34.460 for a reason it's there to be pleased on both ends and i just don't think we're in a generation now

00:20:41.440 where really body count like no are you nodding oh my god this is what i mean this is what i mean

00:20:49.640 it's different for everyone i'm gonna give you stats i'm just curious if it'll change your opinion

00:20:54.200 so so a girl if she's a virgin on her wedding night 80 chance of a happy marriage if she sleeps

00:20:58.980 with more than five people do you know what it drops down to

00:21:00.980 very low 20 yeah so so knowing that you don't think that it would be better for a guy to pick a

00:21:08.200 girl that has an 80 chance of a happy marriage and that would make her more valuable 1.00

00:21:11.580 than a girl that's love with 100 100 people that's like every i don't even know 100 people

00:21:16.700 just an example um i guess when you put it like that you found 20 dudes you couldn't keep

00:21:24.180 you couldn't keep one out of 20 but you know what though i do know quite a lot of people where

00:21:28.680 they they don't want anything serious and they like doing that and they actually enjoy it and

00:21:33.580 maybe it doesn't make them a higher value but if that's what someone enjoys go do it

00:21:38.860 oh yeah like so first of all notice that these girls are actually arguing against each other but 1.00

00:21:43.320 they don't realize it right because this young lady here she's like i don't want to say a number 1.00

00:21:47.380 because i have friends above that number are you insinuating that being above that number is going to be

00:21:50.920 somehow offensive to your friends like you're literally saying with saying that that oh high

00:21:55.420 number is bad my friends will feel bad about themselves and i'll make them look bad well if

00:21:58.960 numbers don't matter wouldn't they just not care just tell us what's that number tell us

00:22:02.720 how many how many bodies is too much so that your friends aren't going to get offended because

00:22:08.080 your friend here said that it doesn't matter does it no i i i agree with her like i feel like

00:22:13.380 body count shouldn't matter but i'm saying like and yet you won't tell us and yet you won't tell us

00:22:17.820 what that number is i don't know what's a high number yeah you said well my friends are going

00:22:21.480 to get offended because they've had more bodies are you insinuating that more bodies is bad because

00:22:25.060 that's what it sounds like no really then tell us what's that number like i said like i don't think

00:22:31.420 but like no because she said if my brother was to marry someone like what what his like body count 0.96

00:22:39.120 would be with that woman so i wouldn't know but i feel like body count shouldn't matter

00:22:43.660 like like i said a guy cares about a woman's pastor how many um guys they slept with but 1.00

00:22:50.140 did she not did i hear her wrong correct me guys if i'm wrong did she not say five minutes ago she

00:22:55.640 said that i don't want to say a number because my friends might be offended because their numbers are

00:22:58.640 higher does that insinuate that a higher number is bad by her trying to protect her friends then

00:23:02.580 yeah so she's arguing against herself now let me tell you why these girls are saying it you guys 0.98

00:23:07.000 understand why women say that body numbers don't matter but they actually think they do women are 1.00

00:23:11.620 insinuating that it's good to have an open sexual marketplace because they know that high number of

00:23:15.220 partners discounts and disvalues other women so they're like you go girl you get that d you get 0.54

00:23:19.940 whatever you want blah blah blah but in their head because if everyone was right if everyone was a

00:23:24.080 virgin the girls that weren't it would like they would be way less valuable yes so that's like that 1.00

00:23:28.760 men should raise their standards it's the same it's the same thing the women are like oh you go you're 1.00

00:23:32.380 300 pounds lizzo you're beautiful woo it's like they don't but the women themselves don't believe 1.00

00:23:36.280 men do this too i think men do this too they don't want the market to change and they don't want to like

00:23:41.020 discount they're just trying to get laid no yeah they're trying to get laid so they're like yeah

00:23:44.280 we don't care about the high body count for the night right for the night but later they'll care

00:23:49.980 they'll care no offense no it's not just you it's a lot of guys no but like come on sir you could uh

00:23:58.640 you want a girl that slept with with 20 dudes really that's your mother of your kids you know that's 1.00

00:24:05.160 your that's your wifey you know she slept with tom dick harry jeremy tyrone alex ryan austin adam 0.93

00:24:16.920 um dimitri um and she'll never forget it yeah yeah sorry i'm not even i couldn't even think of 20

00:24:28.000 names like it's because you guys are making it like real real but it's like let's see you would

00:24:36.880 think of it as well if you had your partner there

00:24:39.760 and you're like you know what baby that's all right yeah i'm so happy to walk you down this aisle

00:25:06.500 in the white dress in front of the whole crowd of people we know five guys she slept with is in 0.99

00:25:13.780 the crowd yeah yeah that is it's different though because like thinking about it logically

00:25:20.300 thinking about it it will be like i would if i know the person like deeply enough like that wouldn't

00:25:29.700 care but initially going to find someone i would prefer someone that's like below like five or

00:25:37.900 something you know what i mean thank you for being honest thank you for being honest well you know

00:25:43.860 but if i have to like she could get away with 20 if you had to if i but if you had two women exactly 1.00

00:25:50.520 the same ones 20 ones you're gonna yeah yeah yeah yeah thank you for being honest i knew i would get it

00:25:57.680 out of you i knew i would it's okay he's young he's young it's not as young though it's like

00:26:03.960 you know there's less guys been there you know you feel somewhat more like yeah cool like wait it

00:26:10.620 makes you feel more secure in yourself i wouldn't say secure it'd be like all right less guys as

00:26:16.360 touch her you know i mean like she's like my precious she just said something really interesting

00:26:22.180 and i think that's worth noting she said it makes you feel more secure about yourself and that's a

00:26:25.920 gaslighting technique and if you want i can really dig into this one yeah go ahead because she's like 0.98

00:26:30.560 because because she's saying like well if you've you know with a woman that had less partners it

00:26:35.480 means that you know you're just insecure being with a woman of a very high body count right but that's 0.96

00:26:39.600 actually shifting the blame and the accountability of your behavior on him it's not his behavior that

00:26:44.980 caused that right now biologically men are predisposed to do what to reproduce and for that we need to

00:26:49.480 have a paternity guarantee that's why that's why we want that's why virgins are very highly valued 0.96

00:26:53.540 through history we want to guarantee a paternity want to make sure the kids are our kids right and

00:26:57.560 we know that after what the five partners pair bonding basically drops and that's a vasopressant

00:27:01.560 chemical thing you get into that the biggest drop is from um like one to two yes it's like it's like

00:27:06.680 eighty percent it depends on the then after five it starts to drop again yeah yeah no five is like

00:27:12.120 it's like no like gone you know gone forever but like one to two it goes from like eighty percent to

00:27:18.180 like forty percent yeah so it's like so it's like yeah you're insecure because you wouldn't take a

00:27:22.460 chick with a high body count that just sounds like a chick with a high body count doesn't want to 1.00

00:27:26.340 doesn't want to take accountability for her actions but as a man we know that pair bonding decreases with

00:27:30.500 a woman that has a high body count we also know there's a significantly higher opportunity or 1.00

00:27:34.280 actually a chance for her to cheat because when women cheat if you actually look at like at the 1.00

00:27:37.980 data who they cheat with it's usually somebody they slept with in the past there's a she's an alpha 0.92

00:27:41.900 widow she's got some of course yeah really that makes perfect yeah of course where did you find

00:27:45.320 that i didn't never i've never we can get into that i got some books you can read right because it's

00:27:48.700 like a woman for her to start a new relationship with a man she's not doing it for the sex she's 1.00

00:27:53.060 doing it to leave the relationship women cheat to leave relationships there's a lot of data to 0.95

00:27:56.240 actually back it up right the data to back it up is very simple a woman's propensity to cheat drops 1.00

00:28:00.760 significantly with the income of her partner the richer her husband the less a woman cheats and this

00:28:05.100 has been proven over and over and over and over and over most of the cheating there's about 20 percent

00:28:09.800 of women that are you know statistically trying to be cheating in their marriages overwhelmingly those are 1.00

00:28:14.960 swayed towards men that are earning the low average incomes versus men with higher incomes tend to cheat

00:28:19.760 more but their wives tend to cheat significantly less so why do women cheat acquisition of resources 1.00

00:28:24.900 why do men cheat spread the seed paternity right because men have more opportunities of the higher

00:28:29.120 income so it's like well you don't want a woman with low body counts because you're insecure in 1.00

00:28:32.200 yourself know that you're insecure in yourself and you want to blame the man for it and that's just like

00:28:36.220 a really toxic behavior and if you think when you want to buy a car or you want to buy clothes or

00:28:41.160 anything you want it not used really yeah don't you i don't want nobody putting dicks in my car 0.91

00:28:47.320 uh what do you do you still think body count doesn't matter or do you yeah you still same opinion

00:28:56.100 same opinion always to the day i die don't know i'm just curious like new new information doesn't

00:29:03.000 ever change you know what it's just i don't care i just don't care like it just doesn't because for a

00:29:09.120 man a man can sleep with what a thousand people but that man's not home but a woman she's a home 1.00

00:29:15.580 hey he's the homemaker he's okay he's a homemaker he's a homemaker but um i mean what's the phrase

00:29:21.240 like a key that opens many locks is a good key but a lock that opens for everybody it's not a good lock

00:29:27.440 no also you have to let the men actually in yeah do you know what i mean yeah it's quite actually a

00:29:32.940 big deal yeah i guess so it should be and you know what actually saying you're saying that i do

00:29:37.700 understand because it's like a soul tire a little bit i feel like if you do sleep around

00:29:41.280 you're kind of letting people into your that's that's your home you know your body is your home

00:29:46.420 so i do understand that as well you're more likely to pass on like std i do and you're more likely to

00:29:50.740 like one in one in four women have an std actively oh god that's fine go get that check 1.00

00:29:56.120 yeah one in three women have had an abortion too it's like actually crazy the numbers that is

00:30:01.720 what's what's like guys like girls are experienced and it's like

00:30:06.320 so okay we need to go why we just went over why are you going back to the

00:30:11.720 no i'm not even like no it's like okay you know what you you this is the problem

00:30:17.900 i feel like it's on men men like you this is what you guys do you're trying to not you don't want

00:30:24.200 the you know the women you want to sleep with or whatever to let hear you hear you

00:30:27.880 hear you saying that because you you're like no no no no come on but you know deep down you would

00:30:33.640 never take them seriously so then you mislead us it's misleading to women because you tell women

00:30:40.300 it doesn't matter and then the women say oh okay it doesn't matter they'll go do it but you know it 1.00

00:30:46.640 matters so let's we're not liars on the podcast we're truth tellers it's confusing though it's like

00:30:52.920 guys like i think guys will be more likely to keep a girl if they're like sexually satisfied with that 0.99

00:30:59.640 women you know and i think girls that's had like a lot of experience can provide that for guys but i

00:31:06.300 don't know can you provide it for her is the question too can i provide it not not sarcastically

00:31:11.080 by the way because you don't know the emotional the emotional engagement she had previously it's not

00:31:15.720 even about the sex it's about the danger of the sex but how would you forbiddenness of it right

00:31:20.060 how would you feel if you got like a woman with like a high body count well i can tell exactly how 1.00

00:31:24.700 i felt i was dating a girl in texas and i've said this on a podcast once before and she was like

00:31:29.180 super hot and i was just like wow and i was younger at the time too so i was like i really valued that

00:31:33.320 as like the number one thing and then and then you know a couple months in the relationship we had to

00:31:37.680 have a conversation she was like hey i just need you to know like i didn't know this i was very naive

00:31:41.520 she's like i'm i'm a stripper i actually had no idea i just remember thinking the whole time i was

00:31:45.860 like this chick's out of body she should be a stripper right she was a stripper 1.00

00:31:48.160 and then we went to a certain um we went to a sporting event and there were 10 athletes on the

00:31:54.920 on playing and she had slept with eight of them and she told me that she's like i slept with this

00:31:58.580 guy and this guy this is one of those girls that would hunt those kind of professional athletes 1.00

00:32:01.560 right yeah and i was just like oh i think my dick just fell off because i was like i don't think i 0.69

00:32:06.220 want to you know i don't think i want to i don't know if it's a competition thing but like

00:32:10.320 eight no future what was her body count uh i don't know the exact number but when you're there's

00:32:15.200 10 guys on the court and she's been with eight of them yeah of the 10 yeah well yeah she had to

00:32:21.060 have been like if you found out about eight i'd be like 50 or something oh no it was way more than

00:32:25.400 that i'm sure i'm sure it was because she she actually kept a list of all the famous dudes she

00:32:28.680 was with like don't get me wrong the sex the sex was just like mind-blowing fine but i'm thinking

00:32:34.400 like there's no way i would have a daughter with this person there's like a 50 50 roughly chance

00:32:38.920 that one of her is like no way no way what's like imagine dating for like not even dating say 1.00

00:32:46.480 you've known this girl for like six years you thought the world of her right and then all of a

00:32:52.900 sudden like after like six or seven years you found out about the count would you look at that person

00:32:57.600 differently or would you just be like oh yes are you just dating her for six years i say like you

00:33:04.340 married or anything like even i seen say even like she's your girlfriend right and you've known

00:33:10.840 her for six years this is like has that happened to you no okay but six years it's very specific

00:33:18.000 i think it's a long enough time to not go back on a thursday she says yeah but it's like after so long

00:33:25.840 would you look at that person differently knowing that oh what it counts like 50 or something you know

00:33:30.860 i'm not gonna lie you would there's no way in hell that you wouldn't like you would you may not say

00:33:36.440 anything but in the back of your mind you're gonna be thinking oh my god she's slept with that many

00:33:42.660 men and then you're now gonna start looking at her differently so what then tends to happen is that

00:33:47.080 you might now she might say oh i'm going out with my friends so when she was doing it before

00:33:51.300 you were fine but when she's now doing it and she's told you a number you're thinking oh is

00:33:56.320 where she where where you go particularly like what you're gonna do yeah it's an ego thing and

00:34:02.040 it is yeah i get you know i don't think you'd sleep a secret that's quite a secret to have i'm

00:34:08.480 just thinking 50 men would you you can't could you go anywhere and not run it like this isn't like

00:34:13.880 the law of something where you're like five connections away from everybody is that a thing

00:34:19.140 yeah it is yeah so i'm like a 50 how did you guys run into like women like men she slept with well

00:34:25.900 we would we would go to sporting events and see them playing sports so that was like kind of weird

00:34:29.960 and you know it's always the same conversation it's like oh and now that you know like you don't

00:34:33.340 think it's highly of me cry cry cry i'm like no no no it's fine i don't care about your past of

00:34:36.980 course i'm gonna say it because i want more mind-blowing sex but i'm not gonna put a ring

00:34:40.820 on it because remember market value is not determined but how long did you date her for about 0.54

00:34:44.260 six seven months okay and then you broke it off um she'd reappear occasionally in my life since then

00:34:49.660 i mean up until i you know up until i got very serious with somebody right you know it was business is

00:34:55.000 business you could have dated her for six years her thinking you're gonna marry her you knowing

00:35:00.980 that you wouldn't but i wasn't gonna do that no no but i'm just saying women don't realize that a 0.79

00:35:05.620 man can date you for years and have absolutely no intention of marrying you he's just waiting

00:35:11.420 until he finds that woman that he will marry and we don't really know that but that's true 0.99

00:35:16.100 women do the same they do nothing there's signs anyway i don't think i think that's that's weird 0.99

00:35:21.940 you're describing hypergamy that's actually very female behavior women no no no i mean 1.00

00:35:26.660 no i don't mean that no i actually agree with him because women leave more we leave like 80 percent

00:35:34.520 of the time i don't mean leaving i just mean that a man have you not had boyfriends that now you look

00:35:39.580 back you think actually i thought i broke up with him but he was never gonna marry me you weren't you

00:35:45.660 weren't you weren't his girlfriend you just learned that they weren't your boyfriend oh

00:35:49.500 what do you mean well it's like if a woman is given i'm like oh we're dating but it's like well

00:35:56.280 are you dating or are you no i've only ever had like relationship well i've had a situation ship but

00:36:01.080 you know what i mean is you might think as a girl that you're dating this guy and you may even live

00:36:07.500 together but that still doesn't mean he has any intention of actually marrying you and you don't know

00:36:14.220 that so does that happen to you not what like the the dating someone for a long time and he had

00:36:20.340 no intention i've had several relationships that now i look back i think actually that was never

00:36:25.360 going anywhere either i always thought it was me deciding that but then you think actually

00:36:30.120 he never was gonna propose it was time wasting men can waste time yeah did he did he end up like

00:36:35.360 marrying someone else right after or did they never get married um a couple of my exes i think are

00:36:40.260 married you because sometimes i think it's like girls will try to make a guy that doesn't want 0.92

00:36:45.460 to be a husband a husband yeah i mean he's just not a husband so i was just curious if the guys like

00:36:49.780 were they not husbands or like they were never going to marry you to me they weren't i don't actually

00:36:54.140 think they were husbands i wasn't happy but they may well be now this was obviously i'm 35 this was in

00:37:00.660 my 20s early 20s um i think that women date potential so me dating someone at my own age at

00:37:09.880 that point might have been the problem i've not really dated older i've not really i've been a bit

00:37:16.040 weird about it but actually maybe that's a better idea not now my my fiance's younger but i'm just

00:37:23.240 saying that uh i've lost my train of thought you know if a guy doesn't get married after the age of 35

00:37:29.620 he only has a 15 chance of ever getting married that crazy for women it's like zero percent oh 1.00

00:37:36.360 wow yeah i think what is it by if a woman doesn't if a woman doesn't have a child by 35 the chances

00:37:40.980 of her having a child drop to about zero well if she's single by 30 the chance of her the chance 0.98

00:37:45.680 if she's single at 30 the chance of her ever having like a kid drops below 50 right so you're like

00:37:50.600 she's more likely to not have a kid than have one what does that tell you about sexual market value 1.00

00:37:54.000 of a woman that's a scary statistic right that's the harsh reality for me i'm getting married i would 1.00

00:37:58.120 like to have kids my partner would like to have kids but i am 35 and the chances and i think that

00:38:02.780 should be taught to to girls because at the moment you see a lot of celebrities they've paid for ivf 1.00

00:38:08.780 they've had their expos and they're doing it older but they've got millions of pounds to achieve things

00:38:13.140 that isn't actually easy to achieve in the real world what do you wish you knew at 25

00:38:17.740 uh not to date anybody for potent for their potential because the chances of them fulfilling

00:38:23.980 that potential are quite slim um that actually a man who is a go-getter a man that is a hard worker

00:38:29.400 driven they already are and it's not going to come from me pushing them they already are that person

00:38:34.800 and then yeah would you say you dated more for like looks in your 20s not based on my exes no but i

00:38:42.740 i do think that that's what you look for definitely um i but i've i've sort of oh sorry me this way

00:38:56.140 sorry it's because i'm looking at power that's why um don't goodness me uh i've lost where i was again

00:39:04.200 i asked if you you dated for looks in your 20s yeah not based on my exes no but i do think that

00:39:10.860 uh charisma i'd say i went for the funny one the loud one the confident one you know they weren't

00:39:18.240 always the best looking one but but i think that that comes off as like a masculinity in a way so i

00:39:24.080 think that's what i was attracted to um and then i'd get in the relationship and realize actually they

00:39:28.580 weren't doing anything else and i still you're hooked so you can't they had a lot of practice to get that

00:39:34.200 funny a lot of free time you know exactly yeah talk to it yeah yeah yeah okay um what did you think

00:39:40.300 the body count uh when does is high value off the table for a woman i think it is uh slightly age 1.00

00:39:46.700 related as well um i think that if i had a kid or a niece or i do have a niece i would say just hold

00:39:52.740 on to your virginity for as long as you can um but i think that early 18 if you start having sex when 0.72

00:40:01.540 you're 16 maybe you've slept with one person and then 20 maybe two you know and then if you're 35 and

00:40:07.360 you've had a few relationships then it'll be a little bit above that but i think that there's

00:40:11.540 no need to go out yeah i think what's the number oh sorry yeah i'm sorry uh so early 20s i'd say like

00:40:22.880 five okay what age is high value off the table for a woman probably 25 okay so so so five then okay 1.00

00:40:31.280 roughly five five 25 yeah i know you got it i agree uh what do you think yeah i think five five

00:40:39.120 yeah five after five high values off the table it's finished that's a yo guys sorry sorry

00:40:45.420 i'll say below double digits to be honest below yeah below you're a little you're kind you'll give

00:40:52.520 10 that's the most common answer i get i get like yeah 10 is well i i get when i ask how many

00:41:01.420 bodies is too many bodies it's always prefer five i'll deal with 10 15 maybe if she's hot 1.00

00:41:07.960 what do you think well it's funny that a lot of people land on five that's like statistically kind

00:41:16.960 of the average for women in the western nations like and so you're kind of going well as long as

00:41:22.340 she's kind of average which is you know i think it's a fair standard average now that is about the 0.99

00:41:26.760 average yeah reported i mean obviously there's going to be some variances because people lie

00:41:30.260 whatever but on the grand scale it's probably not off by more than one the one i the one i read was

00:41:36.020 higher than that it was like eight i think that might have been like sweden or something like a

00:41:40.200 really like egalitarian sort of open society that could happen for men you know so and oh were you doing

00:41:45.560 like world yeah okay no it's like it's more western world it's more like england america canada you

00:41:50.100 know like sort of like the g20 whatever you want to call it so there there could be you know some

00:41:54.520 variance in that but that's good though if the average is fine it's a it's such a it's such an

00:42:00.560 interesting thing let me tell you guys this like here's the question i would ask right and here's

00:42:03.820 like a legitimate statistical question i'm interested in this right as a man's income and options go up

00:42:11.120 options meaning more women are willing to sleep with him therefore he gets to choose who he wants to

00:42:15.300 commit to because that's what a man does at the end of high value he chooses who he commits to right

00:42:18.660 he's the one that controls the commitment the woman controls the sex right as a man's options go up 0.99

00:42:23.500 does that number change an interesting question because like well the the body count for a girl 1.00

00:42:30.720 that's acceptable to him to form a long-term relationship like i know a dude we actually

00:42:34.340 both know a dude with henry that like is with a chick right now and like you can tell she's been

00:42:38.760 with a lot of dudes but the guy's so inexperienced and naive he's just happy to have a woman 1.00

00:42:42.820 he's like yeah i have a woman is he well off or no no no no not at all but i'm thinking like but

00:42:48.480 i'm thinking like if this guy was like as this guy right he's young but as he rises through life

00:42:52.620 he's like you know it's more money more money more so whatever that metric you use for value

00:42:56.380 whatever whatever you know gains more opportunity more more social value he might look at that chick 1.00

00:43:03.140 and be like you know what i can do better you know it's like the same that your friend is picking

00:43:07.400 up a 300 pound chick it's like most of the guys that go for that by the way there's actual 1.00

00:43:11.300 studies on this as well right and they say that poor men prefer fatter women and i look at that 0.69

00:43:15.880 study go it's not that they prefer it's just who they can get it's just like the market has a certain

00:43:19.300 equilibrium right there's a surplus of that there's way too many chicks that are oversized there's way 1.00

00:43:23.320 too many lazy broke-ass dudes and then the market surplus adjusts itself they're really a match made

00:43:28.180 in heaven heaven's a strong word heaven heaven's a strong word but that's funny because this lady in 0.59

00:43:34.200 the green dress here was saying like yeah i had some guys living with me that never really thought

00:43:37.720 they were going to marry me and my first thought was like i wonder if they're a very low ambition

00:43:41.160 men oh right yeah because they're comfortable being in a imperfect situation what happens is

00:43:46.620 in this young gentleman here in front of me in the matching suit he was saying earlier he's like i

00:43:50.360 want a girl that that pushes me to and motivates me and i'm like no you don't if a woman has to 1.00

00:43:54.940 motivate you if no you don't if a woman has to encourage you then if a woman has to motivate you

00:44:00.300 in a relationship you will both be bitter and resentful encourages i agree with that like like my

00:44:05.140 woman is like hey do you need to travel on that trip do you do this i'm like yeah like you know like

00:44:09.180 i i told my girlfriend who became my wife i was like i'm really really ambitious gonna be working

00:44:13.540 all the time you have to deal with that if you don't that's okay but that's gonna be me and so

00:44:17.620 and i find that her attraction for me uh stabilizes and even goes up because i am achieving new things

00:44:23.380 all the time and and she won't deny that i agree with that completely i work six days seven days a

00:44:28.280 week and you have to put up with it it's just that's what i do and i'm not gonna stop doing what i'm

00:44:32.000 doing because i'm able to provide what i need to provide and no matter what arguments happen

00:44:37.300 you're still happy with what i'm doing because it shows that i'm doing what i need to do i would

00:44:41.620 ask an interesting question anybody here grow up with a two-parent household like my parents were

00:44:44.740 together for most of my life okay and i experienced this right like my mom was constantly um frustrated

00:44:50.600 and a little resentful at my dad because he wasn't as ambitious as she was has anybody ever experienced

00:44:55.640 that that's a terrible really i saw that as a kid that's a terrible that's a bad relationship to

00:44:59.380 observe that's a bad relationship because what happens pearl you know this what happens with the

00:45:03.360 moment a woman out earns a man she leaves it's done he's done yeah instantly so it's like you 0.89

00:45:08.360 want to really motivate your guy no you don't support him no but that's yeah most support

00:45:14.300 always not the guy should have his own drive his own ambition his own motivation he should have his

00:45:19.140 own goals and then the woman's like yeah you go yeah you know just positivity at home night you know

00:45:25.280 not actually because i made the mistake of thinking that i could motivate people that don't have any

00:45:30.620 motivation any drive any goals and they're happy to win and not very much but that guy won't choose

00:45:34.980 a 300 pound woman with 20 ducks like he just won't period he just won't why why would he i still agree 1.00

00:45:41.840 with what you're saying as well you know what's interesting it's like women we pick non-monogamy 0.99

00:45:46.060 in our 20s like so it's like interesting because this is the first time in human history where women 1.00

00:45:50.440 have been in control of sex like historically you either go with the guy that steals you you know

00:45:55.020 what i mean or or you're dead you can either comply with him or you're dead so this is the first time

00:45:58.640 in human history we're 100 in control of sex because there's consequences for the men and 0.86

00:46:03.360 we're also 100 in control of who's born so what happened you would think like when women were in 1.00

00:46:07.420 control of sex that we would pick monogamy right but it's interesting because women when we are at 1.00

00:46:12.580 our peak like we're in our prime we pick non-monogamy in our 20s and typically like women pick non-monogamy 1.00

00:46:18.260 because we're going we find 80 percent of men is unattractive not just okay not just nah we find them

00:46:22.940 as ugly so because we find 80 percent of men is unattractive that means we're sharing 20 percent of men

00:46:27.140 and so yeah so we're picking and because in our 20s like you were saying like you can't pick a guy

00:46:32.280 for ambition like maybe it's social status whatever it is um so basically women share with men in their 1.00

00:46:38.180 20s and then their 30s pick pick a leftover guy typically that they wouldn't have picked in their

00:46:42.780 20s damn yep i agree with that as well same yeah i definitely i definitely agree with that you always

00:46:48.340 see the age-old things like when i was in school you get the really the chris looking girl that everyone

00:46:53.720 wanted and she would only pick who she deemed to be really handsome or whatever it was and then as

00:46:59.540 she got into her 30s had three or four children and body shapes now no longer the same all of a sudden

00:47:05.860 because for me i truly believe that men as they get older they become more attractive that's just

00:47:11.340 there's a reason they age like fine wine that's a phrase women age like milk 1.00

00:47:14.920 so even with even with the botox nowadays we can see your forehead not moving

00:47:22.500 we can see it like it's like so shiny you know exactly as well so then you get those women 1.00

00:47:29.720 in their early 20s who didn't necessarily want to pick you now all of a sudden they want to pick you

00:47:33.720 when i don't they're in a situation where it's like now you come back and say yeah because i mean

00:47:37.820 they don't have as much bargaining power it's like you got to go half off yeah you know what i mean

00:47:41.400 and so now it's like they brought we will run to the guys that we rejected in our 20s and our 30s

00:47:46.980 and say take me with you know and guess who they're gonna cheat on you with those the guys that they 1.00

00:47:51.320 hooked up with their 20s exactly so they're going right back yep yeah um which which i i think that's

00:47:57.600 like why we really talk about what we do it's not really to shit on women but it's like a lot of men

00:48:01.280 are naive to this they think oh she really likes me because she's coming in in my 30s or maybe she just

00:48:05.920 overlooked me in high school but she didn't overlook you she's just you know the other guys didn't work

00:48:09.820 out your second choice they just don't know she'd bet against you yeah and you let her back in you're

00:48:14.720 in trouble yeah that's it's harsh i don't i think that women some women just make a lot of mistakes 1.00

00:48:21.660 and are looking in the wrong way because i'm like a i'm a relationship person i wasn't just like you

00:48:26.520 know going all around the place but um what's high value when you're younger it or what you think is

00:48:33.680 high value when you're younger isn't what you're not kind of linking it to a husband yeah you're not you

00:48:39.360 no you're not hunting you're right you're right because when women get closer to 30 it's like they 1.00

00:48:43.220 look more for long-term security so in their 20s it goes back to what we were saying it tends to be

00:48:47.340 looks more like prime genes so they say okay these guys are the ideal genes that i want for for

00:48:53.200 whatever reason maybe it's social status maybe whatever but then in their 30s they tend to go for

00:48:57.880 like long-term security and like safety and so you know basically it's like alpha beta like they pick

00:49:03.060 the alphas in their 20s and the betas in their 30s yeah and women don't typically respect the bait i mean i hate 1.00

00:49:08.220 the word alpha and beta but you understand what i'm saying and you don't realize as well that um

00:49:13.860 when you're saying the bait is like at say at school at college whatever just the good looking guy

00:49:19.380 is the one that all the girls want but you don't realize these guys over here are the ones that are

00:49:23.380 going to make the money have their own businesses and you're not that's just not in your head at all

00:49:26.880 you just want it's an attraction it's not you're not thinking it through if you see what i mean it's

00:49:31.300 not like a decision you've made on purpose well there's a reason historically like the dads would

00:49:35.220 keep their daughters away from certain guys like this is why you know that's a problem no that's

00:49:40.060 why women like we suck at relationships we don't pick the right guys in general because this is the 1.00

00:49:44.460 first time because in the 20s it switched where women used to live with their uh their dad and then 0.91

00:49:51.160 they went straight to their husband so there was no period it like in between and so that in the 20s

00:49:56.360 that was when women started to go out you know that's why they say the roaring 20s they started going 0.98

00:49:59.660 to the parties you know they cut their hair off all this wild stuff and so that was the first time

00:50:04.000 where women were more in control of sex and more in control of who they were picking and that's when 1.00

00:50:08.780 you start to see the birth like women having less children and that's when you well you see the 1.00

00:50:12.660 divorce rate more go down in 65 when women were 100 in control of of reproduction because we got 1.00

00:50:18.160 in birth control but my whole point is that when women um are in charge we make bad choices like 1.00

00:50:23.560 children yeah if you give us too much freedom we don't know what we're doing yeah if my dad had

00:50:28.520 chosen who i dated i wouldn't have dated any of them in my 20s really you know and that's the thing

00:50:33.380 like a lot of times girls will say to me i don't say it to be mean but they'll say oh

00:50:36.900 uh well not all women are like that and then i'll ask them like follow-up questions about their exes 1.00

00:50:42.260 and their 20s like did your did your parents like them the answer is always no you know they were

00:50:46.140 funny a couple of them were funny or nice or yeah or yeah or if the parents did like them she left

00:50:52.240 him yeah so you know so there's some people can be likable and not sorry not dependable husband

00:50:59.040 father material yeah correct and the parents see that yeah and then we just say la la la i don't

00:51:05.240 hear you i pick him anyway you just unpacked something really interesting for a lot of guys

00:51:09.980 listening to this need to be really careful about this you're like well you know we were i was in my

00:51:15.260 20s and picking guys that weren't like a good long-term you know secure option i was picking like this

00:51:19.920 thing they got me what really what they did is they got you sexually excited that's what it was

00:51:24.440 i was there was passion and there was some attraction there's charisma there's that you know that's

00:51:28.280 exactly what it was and then you're you get and now you're like well i wasn't thinking about this

00:51:32.700 like longevity and this and it's like what do you mean you weren't thinking about it i know what it

00:51:37.380 means i mean let me say what what it means is now you're thinking about it and so now you're having

00:51:42.160 as a woman and this is like not you specifically but in general women get to 30 31 32 it's like oh

00:51:47.080 now i have to think about these things which means you're rationalizing yourself into a relationship

00:51:51.280 and the question i would have is is rationalizing yourself into a relationship genuine desire

00:51:55.240 no you do misunderstand me a little bit i've always always wanted to get married and have kids and i've

00:52:01.040 always been thinking oh yeah i'll marry this person without thinking what does he earn what potential

00:52:07.340 does he have to earn anymore does he even want to earn anymore he smokes i don't even like smoking why

00:52:11.460 would i marry someone that's the worst thing in the world i you know what i mean they've done drugs

00:52:15.600 well that's like i hate it and i and for me it's a passion so i'm trying to accept things that i

00:52:21.080 don't accept and trying to make this person into something instead of finding a man that is already

00:52:25.620 right but he's saying like again you're could you explain the bottom you're right i don't know what

00:52:30.300 you mean i just think you misunderstand i don't i don't i don't misunderstand it at all and i know

00:52:35.480 exactly what it means and you can't and you couldn't say it if you did so it doesn't matter that you

00:52:39.300 would never say i wouldn't settle for my partner you wouldn't say the opposite so we can't trust those

00:52:43.040 words even though they're probably i want you to be right but we can't trust no it's like well you

00:52:47.420 know i wouldn't speak badly of my husband no shit you wouldn't obviously you wouldn't so that's fine 0.69

00:52:51.460 but the reality is you get you know women get to a certain age and they start looking these other

00:52:54.740 attributes but that's not genuine desire right and so what happens is when she marries that guy 0.98

00:52:59.020 where was that genuine desire in the 20s it's still for those guys and by the way coming back to this

00:53:03.280 where did she go back to for that genuine desire no but sexual desire isn't what gonna is gonna 0.66

00:53:07.820 keep you in a relationship but it'll make you it didn't but it'll make you cheat and that's you know

00:53:12.120 my buddy doesn't mean that you don't sexually desire the partner that you've checked because 0.67

00:53:15.220 it sure doesn't but it doesn't luck out and find somebody who is all of the things that you're

00:53:19.960 100 you're 100 correct but so the chances of it are very slim though i got i got a friend he's worth

00:53:25.120 about 120 million dollars uh he's 42 and he's single he's a great guy i'm real tight with this guy but

00:53:30.580 he's single he's 42 and he flies all the time around the world he tells me he's like oh i'm bringing

00:53:34.320 this girl on a trip with me i'm bringing that girl on a trip with me that's what these guys do when

00:53:37.060 they're 100 million you know before they're 40 they just fly around the world and take girls with

00:53:40.320 them in different places right makes sense and he's like oh i'm taking this chick but she's married 1.00

00:53:44.240 i'm like what she's he's like yeah we used to hook up like you know six seven years ago and then she

00:53:48.320 got married but you know how it goes and i'm like what do you mean he's like well you know she's

00:53:52.100 married some guy he's a construction guy he's a nice guy but he can't take her to dubai for a week

00:53:56.980 and i can so she just says she's got a work trip and she just goes and meets with me and i'm like

00:54:01.000 dude is that normal he's like he's like yeah like every chick i hooked up with in my 30s that got

00:54:06.220 married is now like lighting me up on insta like hey what you do and haven't you know thought about

00:54:10.800 you for a while and and i'm like so what does that teach you sir about you know the dating marketplace

00:54:16.000 he goes i wouldn't and he's 42 now he goes i would never marry a woman in her 30s why because i know

00:54:20.980 that she's not marrying me for the genuine desire at this point she just wants to settle down now that

00:54:27.040 might be an extreme argument to look at it and i understand that group statistics don't apply to an

00:54:31.560 individual but that's a scary thing to think about and so i'm like so who are you going to marry

00:54:34.820 you're 42 he's like um you know he's like i i think if i get married it'll be an omito girl 22 23

00:54:39.640 it's a big age gap but he's like but he's got 120 mil he's got the life like he's got women

00:54:44.660 available to him at that option he doesn't have to deal with the history that's his biggest fear

00:54:47.960 is during dealing with the history i will agree actually so if i met my partner at work and it

00:54:53.540 literally seriously lucked out but before that when i was looking on tinder you've got divorcees you've got

00:54:58.860 dads i don't want to be with somebody that's got kids already that aren't you know that you've got slim

00:55:03.860 pickings at 35 34 so in that pace i can see that a lot of women would probably settle or 1.00

00:55:10.840 no i mean yeah but you also you can also see why from a guy's point of view it's like risky with a

00:55:16.000 girl that's older because it's like more baggage that he has to deal with yeah more guys that he

00:55:21.080 that he really has to compete with and rollo tomasi has a phrase it's not the number but it's like

00:55:26.040 the number of like alphas or i can't i'm butchering this please don't rush me but it's basically like

00:55:31.600 the number of high value guys that she's been with because if she's been with drake um i don't

00:55:37.460 know the ceo of budweiser like how how is you know tom dick or harry gonna compete with that

00:55:43.480 you know she's always gonna feel like she's settled and nobody wants to feel like they

00:55:49.700 settled in a relationship but men can live with it women can't i think anyway do you think that's 0.99

00:55:55.780 true well one thing that i that i really i'm very passionate about like in our business uh we're in

00:55:59.660 the suit selling business but really we recruit and hire young men uh and and my pitch is very

00:56:03.640 simple i hire young men and teach them how to make a million dollars a year that's what i do in

00:56:06.420 my business right uh our company you know offices of 27 countries across the world uh most of the

00:56:11.740 guys that work with us are in their early to mid-20s when they start we teach them how to build

00:56:15.060 value and i tell the guys this i'm like don't get married in your 20s they go what i'm like

00:56:18.060 you're going to be working 80 hours a week with us just commit to that work 80 hours a week

00:56:21.860 and when you're not working go to the gym why because by the time you get to 27 28 30 you're

00:56:27.520 going to have a lot of money and a lot of muscles and then you can live the life that you want and

00:56:32.680 that's what i teach so it's like the the sort of what this conversation cultivates to is like

00:56:37.220 yeah we can talk about what's a high value woman but the deeper question is 0.92

00:56:41.860 how does a man get a high value woman because there is such a thing as a high value so how do you get 1.00

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JustPearlyThings - April 15, 2023

Delusional Modern Woman

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