JustPearlyThings - Delusional modern woman Tries To Advice Men

00:00:00.000 can i if women spend more time buying what they need rather than buying what they want like men 0.95

00:00:04.800 do they save a lot more money yeah yeah i would never get my nails done because i think to myself

00:00:09.520 when you work it out i could buy an apartment yeah that's yeah i grew up in an african household

00:00:16.160 and the women are better with money so i guess you guys your your experiences are different

00:00:22.160 but like a lot of mums that i know that are black what they can save they are great with

00:00:28.400 money and i'm gonna agree with you because my mom she's gone in do you understand and when my dad was

00:00:33.520 alive them two my mom used to save more do you understand there were times where my dad will

00:00:40.400 borrow mom from and borrow money from my mom do you understand so she was more mindset with money 1.00

00:00:48.560 so that statement i'm a bit with it because there are people i don't i don't think it's a

00:00:55.600 uh there are some things that i think are heavily have a lean towards one sex or the other um saving

00:01:04.880 money i don't necessarily think is is one of them i think i think that's just like a personality type

00:01:10.880 and an individual thing there's people there's people who are just bad with money yeah they're

00:01:15.040 reckless there's dudes who go out and they gamble and they spend and they buy trainers they just buy

00:01:18.560 they buy nonsense and there's women who go out and blow their money on nonsense and you know i i don't 0.98

00:01:24.240 think it's that gendered but i think i think perhaps a more important point is that if you have got

00:01:28.960 that person you've got uh you know your wife your husband whatever it's supposed to be a partnership

00:01:35.760 right it's it's supposed to be a partnership and different individuals can work out how that works

00:01:40.880 if it's like okay look babe you're really good with money i'm kind of reckless with spending it you

00:01:46.480 handle the saving or investing or whatever or it could be you know what i'm the one who knows how to

00:01:50.640 invest and save and whatever like i'll handle the majority of that as long as it works as a unit

00:01:56.320 and you know i i think and i understand people wanting to be independent independent independent

00:02:02.240 but i think that mindset can be quite dangerous for relationships when you're not willing to entrust

00:02:08.080 the other person it's it's a partnership right you can entrust that person and say you know what

00:02:12.000 you're good at handling that you handle this i'm good at handling this i've got this you don't need

00:02:16.400 to worry about it you don't need to be working in isolation all the time i think it's good for

00:02:21.280 every adult male female whatever i think it's good for every adult to be competent to have general

00:02:26.240 competencies so that if you're single or if something goes wrong or whatever you're not totally you're not

00:02:31.520 you're not useless right i think everybody should know how to cook basic food right i don't think it's

00:02:36.800 just you know a woman should know how to cook a mansion i think if you are a grown man and you're 35 1.00

00:02:40.640 years old and you don't know how to boil rice or cook a basic meal i'm like bro like come on man

00:02:45.440 right you should know how to load load you should know how to load load the washing you should know

00:02:50.080 how to do some some basic tasks everyone should know how to make money right at least on a basic

00:02:55.280 level some people are going to be better at it than others but you should have a skill you should have

00:02:59.760 a couple monetizable skills that okay even if you're not right like i'm not i'm not married yet but when

00:03:05.920 i am like my wife is absolutely not going to have to work right not a paid job per se right she's going 1.00

00:03:11.840 to be doing some type of work she can have a typical job if she wants to she won't have to

00:03:16.240 um but i would like to marry someone who i know is is competent so that god forbid something happens

00:03:22.240 to me or whatever like my kids are not gonna starve and be destitute um but yeah i just think it's about

00:03:28.640 finding that finding that balance and that those complementary aspects and i think that when people

00:03:35.120 partner up and and we do that well then the whole the whole thing just functions and it's good and

00:03:40.560 you can just trust i agree and then you're not worried about this isn't this is my money that's

00:03:44.880 your money and then it gets kind of weird and you're keeping score yeah i think keeping scores

00:03:50.080 i think we live in an age now where men don't want to accept that women are competent and because

00:03:56.560 back in the days it worked you go to work i cook i clean i take care of the kids but now women are 1.00

00:04:02.480 working so don't come home and tell me to cook and clean because we've just come from the same

00:04:08.880 i think you'll you'll just the truth is you'll have to find uh you know a man who is who who accepts

00:04:19.360 that right but the the problem is the type of man who will fully accept what you just said there

00:04:25.680 i imagine is not the type of man you'd be attracted to see what i mean so i think i think that's one

00:04:32.720 that's one of the conflicts with like there's a lot of bums that are okay they're totally fine yeah

00:04:37.520 like there's a they like it yeah you could date a bum but that's the like that's the message we keep 0.99

00:04:44.640 passing on to men that as soon as you're alpha and you're confident you have to see a woman as less 0.89

00:04:50.960 than you or you have no no that's that that's the message we keep passing on you can be strong okay

00:04:58.480 okay i need you i need you i need you i'm just gonna i'm gonna i'm gonna cut you yeah who who says 0.93

00:05:02.720 that no you said the message we're passing on to men who says that no but saying things like well no

00:05:09.120 like let me say answer your question so he literally just said i imagine a man that's okay with that

00:05:15.360 you're not going to be attracted to right because because he's not going to be in his masculine energy

00:05:20.720 a masculine man would not is is not going to be drawn to that so that's the problem it's not about

00:05:31.440 me i'm attracted to you i'm just i'm saying no you can you can be how you want i'm not i'm not telling

00:05:36.320 you what to do or how to behave or whatever i'm just telling you real talk as a man um you know you can

00:05:42.640 you can have a certain attitude or belief system or whatever i'm just saying a guy who like there

00:05:47.920 there are guys who would just be like yeah cool like you know either that whatever but the type

00:05:52.640 those those type of guys tend to be more you know weak frame not so much in their masculine energy not

00:05:58.480 particularly ambitious and so on like why would why would a guy that makes a lot of money go to his

00:06:03.280 girl for financial decisions yeah like like why would he do that when he could just not when there's a

00:06:08.640 million she has a lot of money as well but again like but your money doesn't matter to a guy it's 1.00

00:06:13.360 like nothing it's like it's like like imagine when a guy tells us oh i have a cool shoe collection

00:06:17.440 you're like ah cool but you don't really care it's the same thing and so you can come in and like say

00:06:22.080 oh i have money too he says okay don't care so it's like and then i know but then why would

00:06:27.440 right but i'm saying i'm saying no women care we care about money let's not cap women come on come on

00:06:32.080 like you're not you're not trying to date a bum you know you know like but but a guy will like a 0.98

00:06:37.280 guy will see a girl at tesco and say if she's hot enough cool yeah yes and similarly she could be 1.00

00:06:43.600 the freaking ceo of a company but if she's not hot yeah as nice feminine traits then you're not 1.00

00:06:48.960 interested are you are you lining up to date oprah no no she's not even lining up to date yeah excuse me 0.95

00:06:56.880 oprah is beautiful you know the the truth is and look and we all know this men and women are not 0.92

00:07:02.800 attracted to the identical same things yeah we we know this and and there's no amount of social

00:07:08.160 engineering that is going to that that's gonna just change that right i'm sure look every short guy

00:07:15.040 would love to somehow manipulate society and culture and biology to make women more attracted to 1.00

00:07:22.720 very short guys right but it's just it's not reality so if you're a short dude you just have

00:07:26.560 to accept look this is my high i can't change this right but there's lots of other things that

00:07:30.640 i can do there's ways that i can improve myself and compensate and still be an attractive and and

00:07:36.240 confident and competent man but you just have to accept that given reality as a male there are certain

00:07:42.000 things that men are generally attracted to in women and some people may not like that it may trigger

00:07:46.960 them right here's one that you can't change age that's not that's not changeable right but so if a man

00:07:53.120 says that a man if a man if a woman says that she prefers taller guys which literally every woman 0.99

00:07:58.080 does no one takes offense to that if a man says if a guy is 35 and he's like yeah i prefer dating

00:08:03.840 younger women oh my right he's suddenly some despite the fact that every man all throughout history

00:08:09.600 whatever yeah can i just say something sorry finish what you were saying and then i can i've pretty much

00:08:16.640 made my point so go ahead okay is sort of going off off the bat bat of that as well is that actually

00:08:22.640 when you are and this is only something that i've come to like realize in the last i'd say sort of

00:08:28.800 six months that actually being older like no matter how much i've tried to run away from it tried to

00:08:34.080 change it looks wise all those things to be like this is bad you know why why can't i just be 26 again 25

00:08:41.600 again all that is actually it's actually really powerful being in that space and feeling that way

00:08:48.800 because that way i can in a female way keep leveling up keep you know keep on top of trying to stay in 1.00

00:08:57.600 shape trying to stay healthy um keeping my womanhood as much as i possibly can you know i know you probably

00:09:07.120 can't imagine this right now because you're 26 but when you're 10 12 years older than that it takes a

00:09:14.960 lot of work to i don't know to still feel useful to still feel youthful and useful in a way to um my

00:09:27.360 partner to blend into society because you when you're when you're 26 you kind of get a lot more on your

00:09:35.920 plate in your life than you do when you're 36 as a woman as a woman not as a guy but as a woman

00:09:43.040 things completely change like when you were 22 i bet things were very different to what they are

00:09:49.920 now at 26 there's all those jumps i don't know if you you've had that realization but it will help

00:09:56.160 you to like keep leveling up as a woman like guys they focus on fitness and money and whatever it may 1.00

00:10:02.800 be to level themselves up but for me you know yes it's exhausting yes it costs money but it keeps

00:10:10.960 me healthier and in a better balance as a woman within myself even though i might be doing it more

00:10:17.760 for my boyfriend it's actually rubbing off on me shouldn't that be a human being thing because i want

00:10:24.800 to look good yeah i do but i expect my man to look good and this is why i won't go for a sugar daddy

00:10:30.240 i don't care how much money you have i'm not attracted to you a lot of women would because 0.98

00:10:34.800 like you said idris elba is beautiful come on no i'm saying no he was your sugar daddy that's not a

00:10:42.960 sugar daddy that is my whole husband what you mean who's that idris elba yeah i don't know he's your

00:10:52.000 type how is your type i'm so sorry but how do you not know who idris elba is i don't really watch movies

00:11:09.760 he's everything he's everything he's a rapper he's probably better known in the uk as well to be fair

00:11:15.280 okay yeah he's better known in the uk as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are

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JustPearlyThings - May 05, 2023

Delusional modern woman Tries To Advice Men

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