Delusional modern woman Tries To Advice Men
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the differences between women and men when it comes to money and how they should be prioritising their money. We also discuss the benefits of having a partner who is good at money management and how to balance work and family life.
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can i if women spend more time buying what they need rather than buying what they want like men
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do they save a lot more money yeah yeah i would never get my nails done because i think to myself
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when you work it out i could buy an apartment yeah that's yeah i grew up in an african household
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and the women are better with money so i guess you guys your your experiences are different
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but like a lot of mums that i know that are black what they can save they are great with
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money and i'm gonna agree with you because my mom she's gone in do you understand and when my dad was
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alive them two my mom used to save more do you understand there were times where my dad will
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borrow mom from and borrow money from my mom do you understand so she was more mindset with money
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so that statement i'm a bit with it because there are people i don't i don't think it's a
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uh there are some things that i think are heavily have a lean towards one sex or the other um saving
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money i don't necessarily think is is one of them i think i think that's just like a personality type
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and an individual thing there's people there's people who are just bad with money yeah they're
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reckless there's dudes who go out and they gamble and they spend and they buy trainers they just buy
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they buy nonsense and there's women who go out and blow their money on nonsense and you know i i don't
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think it's that gendered but i think i think perhaps a more important point is that if you have got
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that person you've got uh you know your wife your husband whatever it's supposed to be a partnership
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right it's it's supposed to be a partnership and different individuals can work out how that works
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if it's like okay look babe you're really good with money i'm kind of reckless with spending it you
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handle the saving or investing or whatever or it could be you know what i'm the one who knows how to
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invest and save and whatever like i'll handle the majority of that as long as it works as a unit
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and you know i i think and i understand people wanting to be independent independent independent
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but i think that mindset can be quite dangerous for relationships when you're not willing to entrust
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the other person it's it's a partnership right you can entrust that person and say you know what
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you're good at handling that you handle this i'm good at handling this i've got this you don't need
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to worry about it you don't need to be working in isolation all the time i think it's good for
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every adult male female whatever i think it's good for every adult to be competent to have general
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competencies so that if you're single or if something goes wrong or whatever you're not totally you're not
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you're not useless right i think everybody should know how to cook basic food right i don't think it's
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just you know a woman should know how to cook a mansion i think if you are a grown man and you're 35
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years old and you don't know how to boil rice or cook a basic meal i'm like bro like come on man
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right you should know how to load load you should know how to load load the washing you should know
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how to do some some basic tasks everyone should know how to make money right at least on a basic
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level some people are going to be better at it than others but you should have a skill you should have
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a couple monetizable skills that okay even if you're not right like i'm not i'm not married yet but when
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i am like my wife is absolutely not going to have to work right not a paid job per se right she's going
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to be doing some type of work she can have a typical job if she wants to she won't have to
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um but i would like to marry someone who i know is is competent so that god forbid something happens
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to me or whatever like my kids are not gonna starve and be destitute um but yeah i just think it's about
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finding that finding that balance and that those complementary aspects and i think that when people
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partner up and and we do that well then the whole the whole thing just functions and it's good and
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you can just trust i agree and then you're not worried about this isn't this is my money that's
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your money and then it gets kind of weird and you're keeping score yeah i think keeping scores
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i think we live in an age now where men don't want to accept that women are competent and because
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back in the days it worked you go to work i cook i clean i take care of the kids but now women are
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working so don't come home and tell me to cook and clean because we've just come from the same
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i think you'll you'll just the truth is you'll have to find uh you know a man who is who who accepts
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that right but the the problem is the type of man who will fully accept what you just said there
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i imagine is not the type of man you'd be attracted to see what i mean so i think i think that's one
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that's one of the conflicts with like there's a lot of bums that are okay they're totally fine yeah
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like there's a they like it yeah you could date a bum but that's the like that's the message we keep
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passing on to men that as soon as you're alpha and you're confident you have to see a woman as less
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than you or you have no no that's that that's the message we keep passing on you can be strong okay
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okay i need you i need you i need you i'm just gonna i'm gonna i'm gonna cut you yeah who who says
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that no you said the message we're passing on to men who says that no but saying things like well no
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like let me say answer your question so he literally just said i imagine a man that's okay with that
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you're not going to be attracted to right because because he's not going to be in his masculine energy
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a masculine man would not is is not going to be drawn to that so that's the problem it's not about
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me i'm attracted to you i'm just i'm saying no you can you can be how you want i'm not i'm not telling
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you what to do or how to behave or whatever i'm just telling you real talk as a man um you know you can
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you can have a certain attitude or belief system or whatever i'm just saying a guy who like there
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there are guys who would just be like yeah cool like you know either that whatever but the type
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those those type of guys tend to be more you know weak frame not so much in their masculine energy not
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particularly ambitious and so on like why would why would a guy that makes a lot of money go to his
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girl for financial decisions yeah like like why would he do that when he could just not when there's a
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million she has a lot of money as well but again like but your money doesn't matter to a guy it's
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like nothing it's like it's like like imagine when a guy tells us oh i have a cool shoe collection
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you're like ah cool but you don't really care it's the same thing and so you can come in and like say
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oh i have money too he says okay don't care so it's like and then i know but then why would
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right but i'm saying i'm saying no women care we care about money let's not cap women come on come on
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like you're not you're not trying to date a bum you know you know like but but a guy will like a
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guy will see a girl at tesco and say if she's hot enough cool yeah yes and similarly she could be
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the freaking ceo of a company but if she's not hot yeah as nice feminine traits then you're not
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interested are you are you lining up to date oprah no no she's not even lining up to date yeah excuse me
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oprah is beautiful you know the the truth is and look and we all know this men and women are not
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attracted to the identical same things yeah we we know this and and there's no amount of social
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engineering that is going to that that's gonna just change that right i'm sure look every short guy
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would love to somehow manipulate society and culture and biology to make women more attracted to
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very short guys right but it's just it's not reality so if you're a short dude you just have
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to accept look this is my high i can't change this right but there's lots of other things that
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i can do there's ways that i can improve myself and compensate and still be an attractive and and
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confident and competent man but you just have to accept that given reality as a male there are certain
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things that men are generally attracted to in women and some people may not like that it may trigger
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them right here's one that you can't change age that's not that's not changeable right but so if a man
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says that a man if a man if a woman says that she prefers taller guys which literally every woman
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does no one takes offense to that if a man says if a guy is 35 and he's like yeah i prefer dating
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younger women oh my right he's suddenly some despite the fact that every man all throughout history
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whatever yeah can i just say something sorry finish what you were saying and then i can i've pretty much
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made my point so go ahead okay is sort of going off off the bat bat of that as well is that actually
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when you are and this is only something that i've come to like realize in the last i'd say sort of
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six months that actually being older like no matter how much i've tried to run away from it tried to
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change it looks wise all those things to be like this is bad you know why why can't i just be 26 again 25
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again all that is actually it's actually really powerful being in that space and feeling that way
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because that way i can in a female way keep leveling up keep you know keep on top of trying to stay in
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shape trying to stay healthy um keeping my womanhood as much as i possibly can you know i know you probably
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can't imagine this right now because you're 26 but when you're 10 12 years older than that it takes a
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lot of work to i don't know to still feel useful to still feel youthful and useful in a way to um my
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partner to blend into society because you when you're when you're 26 you kind of get a lot more on your
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plate in your life than you do when you're 36 as a woman as a woman not as a guy but as a woman
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things completely change like when you were 22 i bet things were very different to what they are
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now at 26 there's all those jumps i don't know if you you've had that realization but it will help
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you to like keep leveling up as a woman like guys they focus on fitness and money and whatever it may
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be to level themselves up but for me you know yes it's exhausting yes it costs money but it keeps
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me healthier and in a better balance as a woman within myself even though i might be doing it more
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for my boyfriend it's actually rubbing off on me shouldn't that be a human being thing because i want
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to look good yeah i do but i expect my man to look good and this is why i won't go for a sugar daddy
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i don't care how much money you have i'm not attracted to you a lot of women would because
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like you said idris elba is beautiful come on no i'm saying no he was your sugar daddy that's not a
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sugar daddy that is my whole husband what you mean who's that idris elba yeah i don't know he's your
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type how is your type i'm so sorry but how do you not know who idris elba is i don't really watch movies
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he's everything he's everything he's a rapper he's probably better known in the uk as well to be fair
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okay yeah he's better known in the uk as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are
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