JustPearlyThings - October 31, 2023


Delusional Mother BETRAYS Tyrese Gibson


Episode Stats


Length

13 minutes

Words per minute

168.66063

Word count

2,312

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

35

sentences flagged

Hate speech

16

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Summary

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In this episode, I talk about why women are leaving left and right for good reasons and why it s time to stop shaming women for wanting to leave abusive men and why they should stay in a situation that is worse than they imagined.

Transcript

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Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
00:00:00.000 a lot of times on tick tock i just see these like crazy conspiracy theories about me or just all
00:00:05.920 these people just you know i'm not too popular on tick tock i guess but there was a woman um
00:00:12.480 that i guess destroyed me i guess i have been destroyed on tick tock and i'm very excited to
00:00:19.120 see it i guess she gave me some logic and facts and i'm super excited to see it enlighten me
00:00:25.760 feminist the people that believe in divorce go be in long-term relationships leave marriage 0.78
00:00:31.040 for the people that actually believe in for better or for worse for richer or for poorer
00:00:35.520 in sickness and in health till death do us part do you know what drives me nuts about this clip
00:00:39.840 said she's operating off a premise that women are getting married with the intention of getting
00:00:43.840 divorced but they're not making commitments with the intention of breaking them they're just making
00:00:48.480 commitments to men who are careful not to reveal themselves until after the wedding is over and
00:00:53.440 that happens because of how seriously women take their commitments they fight so hard to keep 1.00
00:00:58.480 their families together and they've been conditioned to be the one who feels fault if it fails and people
00:01:03.840 can end up taking advantage of that women end up staying when they should probably leave because 1.00
00:01:09.120 they've been sold the myth of the infamous rough patch and they keep telling themselves it will get
00:01:13.520 better despite the fact that it keeps getting worse they sacrifice themselves for what they've been
00:01:18.320 told is the good of the family so these women end up being abused because of how sacred they hold 1.00
00:01:24.000 their vows and yet you have the audacity to act like they're just walking away like it means nothing
00:01:29.120 they're not just walking away because he's poorer than the day they met in fact she usually gets a
00:01:34.240 second job if he loses his and continues to cook dinner nightly and that's also why she hasn't had her 0.75
00:01:39.760 nails done in seven years if you even bother to ask her marriage vows means so much to so many people but
00:01:45.840 you do not stand on an altar and say for better or for worse and to my own destruction women stay 1.00
00:01:51.920 for the love they have for who that man used to be or because their family threatens to disown them
00:01:57.360 or because a church told them that that's their duty or because they have a child who looks up at
00:02:01.920 them and asks them where daddy is at bedtime this is not as easy as you make it out to be and you need
00:02:07.520 to stop shaming people for living a life you've never lived you don't get to interpret someone's vows
00:02:12.720 unless you've walked in their shoes and lived with their partner behind closed doors because for
00:02:17.200 better or for worse should never mean staying in a situation that's worse than you ever could have
00:02:21.760 imagined what well let me let me get this straight for better or for worse should not mean staying in a
00:02:32.960 situation that is worse than you imagine well when women imagine that marriage is going to be this 0.95
00:02:40.800 disney fairy tale that's so amazing and awesome of course i expect them to stay together even if
00:02:49.920 it's worse than they imagined so let's let's go through her claims okay because i wrote some of
00:02:54.080 these down one women are not getting abused left right and center no no no no no no that is not the 1.00
00:03:02.160 case and i will have to beat this out of you guys no stop saying that women are the more likely party to be 0.98
00:03:08.640 abused most abusive situations the parties are abusing each other sorry guys but you attract what
00:03:15.600 you are if you are constantly attracting abusive partners it is possible that maybe you are abusive
00:03:23.280 as well when it comes to one-sided abuse where one party is hitting the other and they are not reciprocating
00:03:30.400 even with the under reporting that we know men under report this stuff women are more likely to be
00:03:36.880 abusive than be abused women are just as abusive if not more abusive than men um the second thing that 0.99
00:03:46.000 she points out i want you to see how women view commitment men care about actions your intentions do
00:03:54.560 not matter i don't care if you took the vows and didn't intend to get divorced if you still got divorced 1.00
00:04:02.080 because you saw some tiktoks sorry this idea that women are leaving left and right for good reasons 1.00
00:04:09.040 it's just not true most of the time when women leave it's because they are not submissive they were
00:04:13.840 not raised to be a wife and they do not take their vows seriously they were sold a disney dream that their
00:04:19.840 husband should have everything and will have no flaws and are in a gynocentric social order that tells 0.98
00:04:25.760 them they're amazing special and awesome all the time and never talk about what they do wrong in a
00:04:31.200 relationship women overwhelmingly do not fight for marriages men put up with fat wives they put up 0.97
00:04:38.800 with wives that do not sleep with them and they put up with controlling wives all because they care 1.00
00:04:43.840 about the children but women will divorce men because the man says please don't go to the club sweetheart 1.00
00:04:49.840 or maybe you don't get your nails done for seven years notice how in her language she talks about
00:04:56.240 how getting your nails done is something you're entitled to even though she hasn't had her nails 0.95
00:05:01.360 done in seven years ladies why is this stuff so important why do you feel entitled to make up 0.99
00:05:08.080 botox and getting your nails done once you have a child it's not about you we live in a me me me me me
00:05:16.480 world and they forget that really when you have children you're supposed to dedicate your life
00:05:22.720 to those children your feelings don't matter anymore and women overwhelmingly do not get a second job 1.00
00:05:30.720 even in relationships that are closer to 50 50 the man still out earn the women typically um so there 1.00
00:05:38.080 were some comments you know of me just getting destroyed thank pearls just saying things to be honest
00:05:45.680 and you'll notice that most of the my critics and detractors are overweight or older single women 0.93
00:05:52.480 pearl doesn't think through what she's even saying no guys i've actually thought it through completely
00:05:56.800 if you take a vow that says you are going to do something you should do it women do not take it 1.00
00:06:01.760 seriously in 2023 they like the idea of marriage but when it comes to actually doing the hard stuff
00:06:07.760 they don't stick it out so there was a woman that actually had a divorce party let's pull it up gabby 0.99
00:06:14.080 what are we celebrating this this is disgusting it is absolutely disgusting that you would celebrate
00:06:26.320 the erosion of a family guys when you grow up in a single mother home you are more likely to go to 0.98
00:06:33.040 prison you are more likely to be a rapist you are more likely to be a mass shooter you are more likely to
00:06:39.600 run away from home you are more likely to be enrolled in a mental institution you are more likely to drop
00:06:45.920 out of high school every negative thing in society is linked to single motherhood and yet women parade 1.00
00:06:53.520 and cheer each other on as they do it the last woman that was criticizing me said it's not like women 1.00
00:06:59.520 just do this for no reason yet we have women throwing parties about something that is genuinely sad 1.00
00:07:05.840 something that you are supposed to take seriously how can we say women are taking this seriously 1.00
00:07:11.440 when we are having parties celebrating it that is disgusting that is disgusting in no world should
00:07:19.360 you be celebrating a divorce and it's interesting guys notice that the comments section when it comes
00:07:27.120 from men is a lot more honest than from women because women comments tend to cheer this on 0.83
00:07:32.880 where male comments um tend to really tell you how it is so this guy but to bonnie says it doesn't
00:07:41.680 look like she's happy about the divorce that's how it looks to me though um another commenter says
00:07:46.960 i need a follow-up in a year to see if she sounds like tyrese's ex yes and a lot of women leave these 1.00
00:07:53.280 situations thinking the grass is greener on the other side they think that all the men that give them
00:07:58.800 attention actually want to date them when really they just want you for a weekend they don't want
00:08:05.280 you long term i cannot stress this enough the majority of single mothers do not remarry and if they
00:08:12.320 remarry they are more likely to divorce than they are to stay with their partner 15 roughly of single
00:08:19.280 moms get remarried 22 get a guy to live with them meaning 60 the overwhelming majority do not remarry
00:08:28.480 and why does every single mother think that she is special every child you have with a man decreases 0.88
00:08:35.600 your sexual market value by at least a point at least it doesn't matter how good looking you are
00:08:42.720 you have two three kids with another guy you're done don't expect to remarry and we see this in real
00:08:49.040 time you know samantha lee had no problems getting divorced from tyrese everything seemed good she thought it 0.90
00:08:56.160 was the right decision and last week we covered that it in fact was not good and now she's having 0.88
00:09:02.640 second thoughts and regretting her divorce she went out there and dated again and realized the grass
00:09:08.080 probably is not going to be greener on the other side she puts out a video saying that she regrets
00:09:13.360 it and let's see tyrese's response the truth about the matter is that if i had different people in my
00:09:22.080 ear at that time i would not have made that decision look man i was not going to respond to this video
00:09:31.760 of my ex has now gone viral she is loving it congratulations you went viral again over something
00:09:38.480 else that you said because you're trying to build up your youtube page and get your followers up
00:09:43.680 listen man listen if you had people in your ear that influenced you into leaving your husband
00:09:52.960 and your one-year-old child your innocent one-year-old child we both were divorcee kids grew up in toxic
00:10:00.880 environments torn in between our old family new family stepfather stepmother
00:10:07.920 that's a life that we both lived and you
00:10:14.640 packed up a one-year-old put a covet mask on top of the rain cameras
00:10:22.080 and i was literally in an airplane on my way home to fight for my marriage and my family you're heartless
00:10:29.600 and it's been three years i've moved on i'm with zellies you moved on i don't even want to tell
00:10:41.360 niggas the first nigga you started dating when we broke up because you're gonna go viral from that 1.00
00:10:46.240 if i were to tell niggas who you started dating as soon as we broke up you would go viral from that 1.00
00:10:54.560 all you want is attention you want facebook followers you want instagram followers you're
00:11:00.320 trying to be a life coach and you're trying to get niggas to drink the kool-aid you with a real one 1.00
00:11:06.400 right here so a couple things that are interesting about this clip so he says
00:11:13.840 if people were to know who you dated right after me you would go viral so i'm assuming it's some
00:11:20.080 high profile guy that we know that would never commit to her that she probably thought she could 0.52
00:11:25.440 get commitment from and probably did what men tend to do with single mother divorcees which is
00:11:34.080 pass them on to the next sorry guys this is how men think and you can shoot the messenger but guys
00:11:40.720 i interview thousands of men they typically think that divorcees are for fun only they don't see them
00:11:47.120 as a long-term option and the data supports this most single mothers never remarry ever most can't even 1.00
00:11:55.920 get a guy to live with them again that is the future this woman is asking for 20k a month to raise 1.00
00:12:02.160 a child what on earth do you need 20k a month for i bet he would be fine with two grand that
00:12:09.200 should cover all expenses even three i bet you he would even do five that that can get you a one
00:12:15.280 bedroom apartment and pretty much any major city and i and i even think that's a bit extreme i i think
00:12:22.480 if you choose to leave a marriage then you should have a plan to financially support yourself and
00:12:28.240 the child the rest of your life no i do not think that you should be able to depend on the guy that
00:12:34.800 you are no longer giving anything in return to i believe that is legal robbery and i think women 0.99
00:12:42.160 that are legally robbing men should be treated as such criminals criminals the third thing he pointed out
00:12:51.360 is that her mother was in her ear and ladies this is a tough pill to swallow a lot of your mothers do 1.00
00:13:00.720 not want to see you succeed they want to see you just as miserable as them so you can be her emotional
00:13:08.960 tampon the rest of her life because a lot of your mothers have failed again and again and again in 0.97
00:13:15.200 relationships and they do not want to see you succeed there are mothers that are simultaneously
00:13:23.600 telling their daughters that they love them and support them while trying to ruin their marriage
00:13:28.080 this is common i would say this is more common than it is not