JustPearlyThings - October 30, 2023


Pearl Challenges Matt Walsh To A Debate!


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10 minutes

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Word count

1,952

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1

Harmful content

Misogyny

16

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Hate speech

5

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Summary

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Marriages fail at a rate of 75% in the United States, according to a divorce lawyer who says that the failure rate for marriage is not 50% and it s not even close to that figure. But what does that mean and why does it matter?

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00:00:00.000 opinion gets me insulted this opinion has has conservatives attacking the
00:00:08.240 person and not the argument I'm gonna show you guys a video that Matt Walsh
00:00:12.000 made about me which I would love to debate you on this topic actually
00:00:16.240 because genuinely I just don't think you know what you're talking about I don't
00:00:20.580 think you're malicious but until II I am begging you you all need to spend a
00:00:26.000 week in family court because you have no idea what you are sending men up against
00:00:30.920 none so let's let's pull this clip from his show in my career defending the
00:00:37.220 institution of marriage and I defend it because it's the bedrock of
00:00:40.220 civilization so it deserves defending and I defend it because it's under
00:00:43.820 constant attack so it needs defending and one of the most troubling developments
00:00:47.560 in recent years which we've discussed on this show in the past is that these
00:00:51.380 attacks are increasingly waged not just from the left but from certain noisy
00:00:55.340 segments of the right as well some right-wing influencers with legions of
00:01:00.080 young mostly male fans have decided that men should abandon marriage and family
00:01:05.720 life and go their own way and these these influencers many of whom consider
00:01:09.800 themselves a part of the so-called red pill movement pretend to despise
00:01:14.420 feminists and yet have essentially arrived at the same conclusion as 1.00
00:01:18.200 feminists which is that we should give up on the family the two sides hate 1.00
00:01:22.580 marriage almost as much as they hate each other now one of these influencers is a
00:01:26.900 woman named Pearl Davis who has garnered a relatively large following on YouTube 0.73
00:01:31.040 and various social media platforms she's in her mid-twenties single and
00:01:35.000 childless and yet full of opinions about modern marriage and family life a
00:01:39.260 subject that she has no personal insight into whatsoever she spent the past few
00:01:44.960 days on the internet complaining about quote-unquote trad cons like myself who she
00:01:49.700 says promote the nuclear family despite not understanding what it's really like
00:01:54.020 yes we men who actually have wives and children don't know what it's like to be
00:01:58.880 married but a woman who is not married and has no children does know what it's
00:02:02.780 like in one of her tweets she wrote quote the trad cons push marriage because 1.00
00:02:07.340 they aren't old enough to know better they don't know the reality of what
00:02:10.340 they're pushing this is accompanied by a picture of myself Ben Shapiro Michael
00:02:13.700 Knowles we aren't old enough to know better and don't know the reality of what
00:02:17.420 we're pushing yet a woman who is younger than us and single does know better and 1.00
00:02:22.160 does understand this reality another post she goes on to say that marriage is a 0.99
00:02:26.060 terrible deal for men and she later explains quote would you ever sign a
00:02:30.200 contract that fails 75% of the time where your business partner is paid to
00:02:34.580 break the contract why would you encourage men to sign that contract until
00:02:38.420 the terms are fixed now you may be surprised to learn that marriages fail at a
00:02:44.100 rate of 75% the figure that people like this normally use is 50% and the claim
00:02:50.700 that 50% of marriages end a divorce is already spurious and we'll have more on
00:02:54.600 that in a moment but 75% I was wondering where that number came from so I
00:02:59.640 scrolled down and I saw something that she reposted from an alleged lawyer who
00:03:03.120 said this quote it's not 50 50 that only accounts for divorces another 25% on the
00:03:08.760 negative side for miserable men trapped in cheaper to keep her marriages unwilling to 0.99
00:03:13.940 risk financial destruction and loss of their children 75% chance of a
00:03:18.460 devastatingly bad outcome is just a bad plan no sane person would enter into a
00:03:23.820 commercial contract on such terms now I did ask him where he got this 75% figure
00:03:30.480 from and he wouldn't say apparently the magic statistic fairy came and whispered it in
00:03:36.580 his ear now for her part Pearl later tweeted a picture of Pierce Brosnan with his wife of
00:03:41.820 20 years and she questioned whether the marriage counts as successful since Brosnan
00:03:46.960 wife Brosnan's wife has put on some white at the age of 60 so apparently even if
00:03:52.960 they're happy and have remained married for two decades they still might fall into
00:03:57.880 that 75% failure rate because they have not both remained in supermodel condition
00:04:02.700 into their 60s this debate on social media brought out the rest of the marriage skeptical
00:04:07.860 crowd on the right a bunch of these red pill influencers decided to hop on an emergency zoom 1.00
00:04:13.820 call and spend two hours talking about me and the rest of the daily wire crew and our reckless
00:04:19.420 promotion of society's most fundamental institution now there's there's one clip here that you should
00:04:25.140 see this is um uh apparently a divorce a divorce lawyer who says that the failure rate for marriage
00:04:33.060 is not 50% and it's not 75% it is in fact even higher let's I think marriage can be successful of
00:04:42.380 course it's just not something that's as scalable as we as a society are trying to pretend it is
00:04:48.260 marriage is and I've said this a hundred times and I'll say it a hundred more marriage is like the lottery
00:04:53.100 you are probably not going to win okay you're probably not gonna win don't make that your 401k
00:05:00.720 you're probably not gonna win but if you win what you win is so great that I don't blame you for
00:05:09.360 buying a ticket and trying I personally don't buy lottery tickets but when somebody says yeah I play
00:05:14.400 the lottery hey man somebody's got to win and you know what as long as you're not blowing money that
00:05:19.020 you need for food or to put shoes on your kids feet you're not hurting anybody go out give it a
00:05:24.300 try so I always tell people listen marriage when it works when you have somebody who's married 20 plus
00:05:29.200 years and they're still crazy about each other that is the exception not the rule I guess it's so
00:05:35.400 interesting to me that these influencers think through the authority on marriage when they've been
00:05:41.480 married what 10 15 years I mean you know a lot of people enjoy their marriages in their 30s but you
00:05:49.060 know 40s 50s is a little a little different my my point is is a man with a marriage and family very
00:05:56.920 familiar with divorce law is is a man with a wife and kids that his friends you know he's in a he's in
00:06:04.460 an upper class circle which upper class people tend to stay married longer um really and and based on
00:06:12.080 everything he says it doesn't seem like it because again you don't know what you are sending men to
00:06:19.320 sign up for then um and and so he wants to know where I got the 75% stat so I'm gonna I'm gonna break
00:06:27.120 it down for you so what what you seek Matt doing is coping and coping is trying to make the reality
00:06:35.220 of the situation better than it is now guys I came from a two-parent home I have no reason and I'm a
00:06:42.960 chick marriage benefits me I have no reason to cope I have I have no I have every reason to make the 1.00
00:06:50.240 stats look better but when you really start uncovering the hood like opening up the hood on what's going on
00:06:56.640 in America you realize that it's a very small percentage of marriages that succeed so I'll
00:07:02.060 give you an example we all right so we have you know and he's gonna what did he say was 45% divorce
00:07:08.760 rate this is what they'll do they'll say oh it's 40% not 50% oh oh well if you take a pill with the 40%
00:07:16.640 and not a 50% failure rate that's so much better you know really if you want to see the state of family
00:07:24.020 in America I really think a better way to measure it is kids and one out of three kids are alienated
00:07:30.360 from their father in the first three years of life that's one out of three but let's let's let's go
00:07:36.220 down the marriage route okay let's go down the marriage route so let's say we're gonna we're gonna
00:07:41.420 round okay please don't get triggered daily wire we're gonna round but you know I'm gonna give you
00:07:46.840 40% of marriages fail why do we have phrases in society like it's cheaper to keeper happy wife happy
00:07:54.520 life and why is the general outlook on marriage bad in society are they making it up or is it possible
00:08:01.000 that the majority of marriages are actually not happy and it's really just the man slaving away to
00:08:09.100 whatever the woman wants for a lifetime how many wives in society obey their husbands truly you know 0.97
00:08:16.340 another thing Matt Walsh responded to me on was I really hate the phrase let me ask my wife why if
00:08:23.340 you have authority in your own house why do you have to ask your wife for anything and it's like 0.93
00:08:28.660 these little telltale signs where you just start to see that men do not have authority in their own
00:08:34.840 home and the reason is because when you're in a contract and one person is paid to leave the
00:08:40.480 person that is not paid to leave is always going to be trying to make the person that is paid to
00:08:45.020 leave happy now before you attack me personally as the daily wire does is what I'm saying untrue is
00:08:50.740 the general consensus in America that marriage is good and is a net positive and their parents had
00:08:57.120 happy experiences with marriage I think if you say yes you're being a little bit disingenuous so going by
00:09:03.200 this logic we can kind of conclude that okay half of the people that stay married it's a miserable
00:09:09.200 marriage then we have another then we have another stat to throw in there what percent of women get fat 1.00
00:09:15.860 after marriage and is that generally considered a W for men so you know let's ask men what do the men 0.51
00:09:23.200 say is is a woman gaining 50 pounds after children acceptable and why can't we have this conversation with the 0.62
00:09:32.940 men is it acceptable to gain 50 pounds in a marriage and is that generally a success for men so I ask the
00:09:40.280 men 13,000 votes do you do you think that's a fair question and instead what you see from the daily wire
00:09:46.900 it's very like feminine tactics I ask a question and they get offended by the question that I ask 1.00
00:09:53.100 which is is it considered a successful marriage if the woman gains 50 pounds now women you know you might 0.98
00:09:59.720 not like this but this is how men see it and a lot of you have gained weight in your marriage and your
00:10:06.500 husband is just too afraid to say anything to you about it he doesn't want the trouble but really men
00:10:13.640 find this embarrassing they find it repulsive and the data is going to show you that is it a W for your
00:10:19.060 wife to gain 50 pounds after children so 73 percent said no it's an L 18 percent said yes it's a W okay 0.99
00:10:28.440 let's keep going when most men sign up to marry a woman if he knew she would gain 50 pounds down the 0.96
00:10:34.340 line 5,000 people participated in this one 70 percent of men said generally no 30 percent said generally yes
00:10:41.960 so them don't you know don't take my opinion take the opinion of 20,000 men
00:10:47.600 is this crazy