JustPearlyThings - October 31, 2023


Pearl Destroys Salty TikTok FEMINIST


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Length

9 minutes

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176.93417

Word count

1,594

Sentence count

111

Harmful content

Misogyny

24

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Toxicity

8

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Hate speech

15

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Summary

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In this episode, I talk about why women are more likely to be abused in marriage than men and why they stay in abusive relationships. I also talk about how women are the more likely party to get abused in a marriage and why it's time for women to leave.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Okay, guys, so sometimes I go on TikTok and TikTok's interesting. I usually go on to catch
00:00:06.340 up on my true crime. I've been following the Idaho murders case lately. That's a good one. But 1.00
00:00:12.740 a lot of times on TikTok, I just see these like crazy conspiracy theories about me or just all
00:00:19.100 these people just, you know, I'm not too popular on TikTok, I guess. But there was a woman that I
00:00:26.180 guess destroyed me. I guess I have been destroyed on TikTok. And I'm very excited to see it. I guess
00:00:33.000 she gave me some logic and facts and I'm super excited to see it. Enlighten me, feminists. 1.00
00:00:39.440 The people that believe in divorce, go be in long-term relationships. Leave marriage for the
00:00:44.480 people that actually believe in for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and
00:00:49.440 in health till death do us part. Do you know what drives me nuts about this clip? It's that she's 0.99
00:00:53.460 operating off a premise that women are getting married with the intention of getting divorced.
00:00:57.760 But they're not making commitments with the intention of breaking them. They're just making
00:01:01.640 commitments to men who are careful not to reveal themselves until after the wedding is over. And
00:01:06.640 that happens because of how seriously women take their commitments. They fight so hard to keep their 1.00
00:01:11.860 families together. And they've been conditioned to be the one who feels fault if it fails. And people
00:01:16.960 can end up taking advantage of that. Women end up staying when they should probably leave because 1.00
00:01:22.240 they've been sold the myth of the infamous rough patch. And they keep telling themselves it will
00:01:26.420 get better despite the fact that it keeps getting worse. They sacrifice themselves for what they've
00:01:31.340 been told is the good of the family. So these women end up being abused because of how sacred they 1.00
00:01:36.960 hold their vows. And yet you have the audacity to act like they're just walking away like it means
00:01:41.780 nothing. They're not just walking away because he's poorer than the day they met. In fact, she usually gets a
00:01:47.420 second job if he loses his and continues to cook dinner nightly. And that's also why she hasn't
00:01:52.680 had her nails done in seven years if you even bother to ask her. Marriage vows mean so much to
00:01:57.960 so many people. But you do not stand on an altar and say for better or for worse and to my own
00:02:03.260 destruction. Women stay for the love they have for who that man used to be. Or because their family 1.00
00:02:09.140 threatens to disown them. Or because a church told them that that's their duty. Or because they have a
00:02:13.900 child who looks up at them and ask them where daddy is at bedtime. This is not as easy as you make it
00:02:19.640 out to be. And you need to stop shaming people for living a life you've never lived. You don't get
00:02:24.520 to interpret someone's vows unless you've walked in their shoes and lived with their partner behind
00:02:28.640 closed doors. Because for better or for worse should never mean staying in a situation that's worse than
00:02:34.240 you ever could have imagined. What? What? Well let me let me get this straight. For better or for worse
00:02:42.860 should not mean staying in a situation that is worse than you imagined. Well when women imagine 1.00
00:02:51.860 that marriage is going to be this Disney fairy tale that's so amazing and awesome. Of course I expect
00:03:00.740 them to stay together even if it's worse than they imagined. So let's let's go through her claims okay
00:03:06.420 because I wrote some of these down. One women are not getting abused left right and center. No no no 0.62
00:03:13.660 no no no no that is not the case and I will have to beat this out of you guys. No stop saying that
00:03:19.800 women are the more likely party to be abused. Most abusive situations the parties are abusing each other. 1.00
00:03:26.640 Sorry guys but you attract what you are. If you are constantly attracting abusive partners it is
00:03:34.140 possible that maybe you are abusive as well. When it comes to one-sided abuse where one party is hitting
00:03:41.220 the other and they are not reciprocating even with the under-reporting that we know men under-report
00:03:47.320 this stuff women are more likely to be abusive than be abused. Women are just as abusive if not more 1.00
00:03:55.740 abusive than men. The second thing that she points out I want you to see how women view commitment. 0.98
00:04:04.320 Men care about actions. Your intentions do not matter. I don't care if you took the vows and didn't
00:04:11.220 intend to get divorced if you still got divorced because you saw some tiktoks. Sorry this idea that 1.00
00:04:18.780 women are leaving left and right for good reasons it's just not true. Most of the time when women leave 1.00
00:04:24.960 it's because they are not submissive. They were not raised to be a wife and they do not take their
00:04:29.700 vows seriously. They were sold a Disney dream that their husband should have everything and will have
00:04:35.100 no flaws and are in a gynocentric social order that tells them they're amazing special and awesome all
00:04:40.920 the time and never talk about what they do wrong in a relationship. Women overwhelmingly do not fight 1.00
00:04:48.580 for marriages. Men put up with fat wives. They put up with wives that do not sleep with them and they 0.99
00:04:54.520 put up with controlling wives all because they care about the children. But women will divorce men 1.00
00:04:59.780 because the man says please don't go to the club sweetheart or maybe you don't get your nails done 0.98
00:05:05.740 for seven years. Notice how in her language she talks about how getting your nails done is something
00:05:11.680 you're entitled to even though she hasn't had her nails done in seven years. Ladies why is this stuff 1.00
00:05:17.760 so important? Why do you feel entitled to makeup, Botox, and getting your nails done? Once you have a child 0.55
00:05:24.440 it's not about you. We live in a me, me, me, me, me world and they forget that really when you have children
00:05:33.480 you're supposed to dedicate your life to those children. Your feelings don't matter anymore
00:05:39.440 and women overwhelmingly do not get a second job. Even in relationships that are closer to 50-50 the 1.00
00:05:46.820 man still out earn the women typically. So there were some comments you know of me just getting
00:05:54.480 destroyed saying Pearl's just saying things to be honest and you'll notice that most of the my critics
00:06:00.800 and detractors are overweight or older single women. Pearl doesn't think through what she's even 0.93
00:06:07.560 saying. No guys I've actually thought it through completely. If you take a vow that says you are
00:06:11.560 going to do something you should do it. Women do not take it seriously in 2023. They like the idea of 1.00
00:06:17.540 marriage but when it comes to actually doing the hard stuff they don't stick it out. So there was a
00:06:23.060 woman that actually had a divorce party. Let's pull it up. Gabby what are we celebrating?
00:06:28.200 This is disgusting. It is absolutely disgusting that you would celebrate the erosion of a family. 0.99
00:06:41.780 Guys when you grow up in a single mother home you are more likely to go to prison. You are more likely 1.00
00:06:47.820 to be a rapist. You are more likely to be a mass shooter. You are more likely to run away from home. 1.00
00:06:53.800 You are more likely to be enrolled in a mental institution. You are more likely to drop out of
00:06:59.380 high school. Every negative thing in society is linked to single motherhood and yet women parade 1.00
00:07:06.400 and cheer each other on as they do it. The last woman that was criticizing me said it's not like
00:07:12.400 women just do this for no reason. Yet we have women throwing parties about something that is genuinely 1.00
00:07:17.980 sad. Something that you are supposed to take seriously. How can we say women are taking this 1.00
00:07:23.380 seriously when we are having parties celebrating it? That shit is disgusting. That is disgusting. 1.00
00:07:31.380 In no world should you be celebrating a divorce. And it's interesting guys. Notice that the comments 0.81
00:07:39.260 section when it comes from men is a lot more honest than from women because women comments tend to cheer 0.99
00:07:45.120 the shit on where male comments tend to really tell you how it is. So this guy, Butt Tobani says, 0.98
00:07:54.500 it doesn't look like she's happy about the divorce. That's how it looks to me though.
00:07:58.300 Another commenter says, I need a follow up in a year to see if she sounds like Tyrese's ex. Yes. And a lot
00:08:05.400 of women leave these situations thinking the grass is greener on the other side. They think that all the 1.00
00:08:11.020 men that give them attention actually want to date them when really they just want you for a weekend.
00:08:17.940 They don't want you long term. I cannot stress this enough. The majority of single mothers do not 1.00
00:08:23.800 remarry. And if they remarry, they are more likely to divorce than they are to stay with their partner.
00:08:30.160 15% roughly of single moms get remarried. 22% get a guy to live with them. Meaning 60%, 0.60
00:08:38.420 the overwhelming majority do not remarry. And why does every single mother think that she is special? 0.92
00:08:45.500 Every child you have with a man decreases your sexual market value by at least a point.
00:08:52.440 At least. It doesn't matter how good looking you are. You have two, three kids with another guy.
00:08:57.980 You're done. Don't expect to remarry.