Delusional Woman Claims She's The Table
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In this episode, we talk about the pressures of being a woman in today's society and what it means to be a woman. We talk about what it s like being a female in the 21st century and how it affects our mental health.
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and it's a fact as well like your eggs just yeah yeah yeah we know that yeah but 90 90 percent of
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your eggs are gone by 30 and then they they sell you ivf as an option but the majority of ivf
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treatments don't work so the majority of women that go get like ivf they don't actually get get
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a kid at all i'm just a firm believer i feel like the way my my life is supposed to pan out it will
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pan out just perfectly and yeah the stacks are important but i just feel like if i'm not ready
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now and i'm ready later and it doesn't happen maybe it just wasn't meant to be i'll just leave it to
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to life yeah i think a lot of women feel like that but you know then they hit 45 and they're on
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antidepressants and more depressed than any other group like women over the age of 45 are more
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depressed than any other group like more anxious and the same thing like body count is associated
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to all those things like anxiety depression like i can't remember the list off the top of my head
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but there's a bunch of like negative like things that are associated like negative mental health
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with a high body count and sometimes you don't really know when you're ready until it happens
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so a lot of like my brother has a baby and he was he thought he wasn't ready to be a dad until baby
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happened and he's a great father yeah you become ready right yeah sometimes you need the moment to
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to understand what you can and can't do that makes sense the women that are depressed
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um do they have children no no okay yeah that's sorry i might not have said childless single childless
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um um do you think you're above average and what would you bring to an above average man
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i would say i'm currently average because i have a lot of improvement that needs to happen um
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my man is above average and what i bring to the table as a sense is um same thing you said babe
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i am very nurturing the job that i have allows me to you know i feel like i'm going to be a very good
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mum i feel like i'm very caring um money wise i'm able to take care of certain things as well so the
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pressure isn't all on him i know a lot of people think oh you know it should be because he's the
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man absolutely i agree with that but i want to help i don't want to feel useless in the household
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um even if i'm just providing groceries do you know what i mean a little bit of something
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um very understanding i i listen to a lot of things my ears are open yeah i think that is it's important
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um i don't go clubbing a lot there's you know i haven't been with a lot of people before him
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there's a lot of things that that would make me uh worthy perhaps of being with someone like that
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if you're attracted in a above average man wouldn't you say you like you're above average
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because you kind of are what you attract so he's he's older than me um and at the moment
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i think as humans we'd be silly to think that we don't have a lot of growth
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there's always room for improvement i'm not going to sit here and be like oh yeah i'm above average
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no babe i've got shit to i've got shit to work on do you know i mean it isn't a negative thing
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no no no and honestly it shows humility that you're like saying that to be honest which i think is
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something men look for yeah perhaps um but yeah even for myself i know that i've got a lot of growth
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that needs to happen so yeah what are you looking to improve on um work wise i can make a lot more
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money i can improve in that area my my body can be a lot better my hair can be a lot longer do you
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know men men don't care about money uh yeah exactly um some do but the bombs yeah but it's just nice if
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the person that you're with has got ambition at least do you know what i mean for women no with
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with the person that i'm with he doesn't really care about money but he cares what are you where
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are you going in life yeah otherwise i can get of any woman what are you bringing what makes you
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different so i've got ambition you know what is that i do in life that's what intrigues him
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okay what else um what do you mean are you looking to improve on so you said money
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yeah it's okay if it's just that i was just curious uh yeah money fitness uh mental health
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as well i think that's very important um i've still got a lot of a lot of growth to do in that
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area i think we all do our money 24 so i have a lot more work to do but um yeah i think oh and
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also being more more calm listening to him because i've also been very dominant in the past he's told me
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that so i'm trying to be a bit more submissive yeah a bit more feminine that's it where do you
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like why do you think you've been more dominant in the past like where does that come from
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is that something you saw modeled growing up or is that just a trait about you so i didn't really
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have a dad growing up so therefore i've naturally had to been had to be a bit more masculine i've had
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to fend for myself i also grew up in a bit of a hood area you could say so yeah i came from a bit of a
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rough background in a sense but um i feel like i'm dragging myself out of it and bettering myself
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how do you because i've always wondered how if you didn't grow up in that um environment how do you
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learn to be like a wife or more feminine like where do you go um he has taught me a lot um what i've
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what i've seen a lot of my family members and friends have also taught me and if you're not willing
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to learn and change you're never going to you have to be able to do that yourself it doesn't matter
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what background you've come from you have to be willing to learn and to change and then you're
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going to it's that simple and what about you um i think that if i don't say i'm above average
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then who else is gonna say it do you know what i mean if i don't back myself first and i don't
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think i'll ever become above average um i think you you know your mind is the most powerful
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thing and you kind of are what you think kind of the same as you are what you eat type vibes so
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if i don't think i'm above average and not what i bring to the table that i i am i am the
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table i'm the table do you know what i mean and i might not be your table but he might like the oak
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table with a wonky leg and you know and and and and a crochet doily on top right and and he over
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there might want a marble table but i will be somebody's table like what but so what are you
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what do you what's on the table what's on the table what's on the table okay what's on the table um
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well um i think i can have a laugh i'm funny um i'm i'm again i'm very nurturing i'm a big heart
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um i've i've been through a lot um uh so i i tend to have you know um a lot in common with you know i
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i usually find more so like men that i've been around or or or now my my now partner has been
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through a lot and i think as a female i've gone through quite a lot um that you know not always
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some females have have been through just because you know i've been around a lot of boys and where
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i was gay i was always hanging out with boys so now when i when i sit with my man now is that we've
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got quite a lot in common which is great um i i i can cook sort of like he's probably laughing at me
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right now but i can cook how often do you cook for him how often do i cook for him it depends because
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we don't live together so like this week how many times have you cooked i've cooked like twice three
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times i love cooking breakfast he always gets breakfast he's he always gets breakfast of me
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but um you know it's a learning curve i just um you know and and you know if you don't like the
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i'm not cooking for him i'm sorry i didn't i didn't know i didn't say that's kind of like the
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vibe i like i'm not coming with what i'm bringing to the table is that i am the table in whatever
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shape or form and and you know and and the table might get a lick of paint and and and it might get
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new legs or something like that and but i am it's not what's on the table i am what's holding
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everything up can i ask you a question you mentioned how like um you know the mind is powerful and what you
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think of yourself but do you also feel like there's a point where you can also be realistic
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about where you are presently yeah no for sure i i think i've learned to be very determined
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because i've lost five stone which was a massive which was a massive thing so for a long time i
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didn't think i bought anything to the table let alone being the table let alone thinking i was above
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average i spent a lot of my a lot of my youth thinking i was well below average especially being
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a uh were you when you were overweight when i was overweight struggling with with with well you
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are below average if you're overweight yeah so yeah yeah yeah yeah no no it's true it's true yeah yeah
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i mean i'm sure you can see the level of attention you get now from when you're overweight a million
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percent a million percent so um this is i was a fat kid too yeah no no no so i like it so i i really have
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like when i show people pictures of what i used to look like they go wow that that can't be you i can't imagine
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so i gent like that i've had to back myself i've had to say i like that i am the table i bring
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everything to the table and and i think that's what makes me essentially do it because i'm saying
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i kind of embody that i think but it's just like because i almost think of this as like a job right
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because i i personally i think like being a wife is like applying for a job if you want to be married
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i know not everyone does but it's like when you come to the a job interview and you just say well i am the job
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city girls you might try that next time and it's like no no what do you like what do you do like
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what what if you're in this job like what can you do for me i'm kind i'm kind i'm kind that that that
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for me uh is what i bring today i'm a kind person and if you don't like that then there's the door
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but that that is essentially the bare minimum that i bring to the table is is that i'm a i think i'm a
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kind so and i love fully with my whole heart and i think that that's the biggest thing that me
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personally i can bring to the table that's interesting nobody said like i want to have
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kids oh do you know what there was so much more that i wanted to get to but yeah i can cook for
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a family of this many like you know i don't want to have kids i don't want to have kids