JustPearlyThings - Delusional Woman Claims She's The Table

00:00:00.000 and it's a fact as well like your eggs just yeah yeah yeah we know that yeah but 90 90 percent of

00:00:06.460 your eggs are gone by 30 and then they they sell you ivf as an option but the majority of ivf

00:00:11.400 treatments don't work so the majority of women that go get like ivf they don't actually get get 1.00

00:00:15.920 a kid at all i'm just a firm believer i feel like the way my my life is supposed to pan out it will

00:00:22.040 pan out just perfectly and yeah the stacks are important but i just feel like if i'm not ready

00:00:28.240 now and i'm ready later and it doesn't happen maybe it just wasn't meant to be i'll just leave it to

00:00:33.920 to life yeah i think a lot of women feel like that but you know then they hit 45 and they're on 1.00

00:00:39.200 antidepressants and more depressed than any other group like women over the age of 45 are more

00:00:44.460 depressed than any other group like more anxious and the same thing like body count is associated

00:00:48.560 to all those things like anxiety depression like i can't remember the list off the top of my head

00:00:54.080 but there's a bunch of like negative like things that are associated like negative mental health

00:00:58.860 with a high body count and sometimes you don't really know when you're ready until it happens

00:01:03.140 so a lot of like my brother has a baby and he was he thought he wasn't ready to be a dad until baby

00:01:08.640 happened and he's a great father yeah you become ready right yeah sometimes you need the moment to

00:01:13.380 to understand what you can and can't do that makes sense the women that are depressed

00:01:19.460 um do they have children no no okay yeah that's sorry i might not have said childless single childless

00:01:26.680 um um do you think you're above average and what would you bring to an above average man

00:01:33.200 i would say i'm currently average because i have a lot of improvement that needs to happen um

00:01:38.680 my man is above average and what i bring to the table as a sense is um same thing you said babe

00:01:50.700 i am very nurturing the job that i have allows me to you know i feel like i'm going to be a very good

00:01:58.160 mum i feel like i'm very caring um money wise i'm able to take care of certain things as well so the

00:02:06.420 pressure isn't all on him i know a lot of people think oh you know it should be because he's the

00:02:11.180 man absolutely i agree with that but i want to help i don't want to feel useless in the household

00:02:16.780 um even if i'm just providing groceries do you know what i mean a little bit of something

00:02:21.000 um very understanding i i listen to a lot of things my ears are open yeah i think that is it's important

00:02:29.460 um i don't go clubbing a lot there's you know i haven't been with a lot of people before him

00:02:36.160 there's a lot of things that that would make me uh worthy perhaps of being with someone like that

00:02:43.620 if you're attracted in a above average man wouldn't you say you like you're above average

00:02:47.940 because you kind of are what you attract so he's he's older than me um and at the moment

00:02:54.380 i think as humans we'd be silly to think that we don't have a lot of growth

00:03:00.160 there's always room for improvement i'm not going to sit here and be like oh yeah i'm above average 0.90

00:03:04.740 no babe i've got shit to i've got shit to work on do you know i mean it isn't a negative thing 0.94

00:03:09.600 no no no and honestly it shows humility that you're like saying that to be honest which i think is 0.98

00:03:14.720 something men look for yeah perhaps um but yeah even for myself i know that i've got a lot of growth

00:03:21.680 that needs to happen so yeah what are you looking to improve on um work wise i can make a lot more

00:03:30.840 money i can improve in that area my my body can be a lot better my hair can be a lot longer do you

00:03:37.280 know men men don't care about money uh yeah exactly um some do but the bombs yeah but it's just nice if

00:03:47.940 the person that you're with has got ambition at least do you know what i mean for women no with 0.99

00:03:52.320 with the person that i'm with he doesn't really care about money but he cares what are you where

00:03:57.080 are you going in life yeah otherwise i can get of any woman what are you bringing what makes you 0.99

00:04:01.520 different so i've got ambition you know what is that i do in life that's what intrigues him

00:04:08.060 okay what else um what do you mean are you looking to improve on so you said money

00:04:13.680 yeah it's okay if it's just that i was just curious uh yeah money fitness uh mental health

00:04:20.260 as well i think that's very important um i've still got a lot of a lot of growth to do in that

00:04:25.100 area i think we all do our money 24 so i have a lot more work to do but um yeah i think oh and

00:04:32.480 also being more more calm listening to him because i've also been very dominant in the past he's told me

00:04:38.900 that so i'm trying to be a bit more submissive yeah a bit more feminine that's it where do you

00:04:45.280 like why do you think you've been more dominant in the past like where does that come from

00:04:49.040 is that something you saw modeled growing up or is that just a trait about you so i didn't really

00:04:54.100 have a dad growing up so therefore i've naturally had to been had to be a bit more masculine i've had

00:04:59.860 to fend for myself i also grew up in a bit of a hood area you could say so yeah i came from a bit of a

00:05:06.680 rough background in a sense but um i feel like i'm dragging myself out of it and bettering myself

00:05:12.520 how do you because i've always wondered how if you didn't grow up in that um environment how do you

00:05:17.960 learn to be like a wife or more feminine like where do you go um he has taught me a lot um what i've

00:05:25.240 what i've seen a lot of my family members and friends have also taught me and if you're not willing

00:05:29.720 to learn and change you're never going to you have to be able to do that yourself it doesn't matter

00:05:34.280 what background you've come from you have to be willing to learn and to change and then you're

00:05:39.320 going to it's that simple and what about you um i think that if i don't say i'm above average

00:05:47.960 then who else is gonna say it do you know what i mean if i don't back myself first and i don't

00:05:53.160 think i'll ever become above average um i think you you know your mind is the most powerful

00:05:59.880 thing and you kind of are what you think kind of the same as you are what you eat type vibes so

00:06:04.600 if i don't think i'm above average and not what i bring to the table that i i am i am the

00:06:10.520 table i'm the table do you know what i mean and i might not be your table but he might like the oak

00:06:15.640 table with a wonky leg and you know and and and and a crochet doily on top right and and he over

00:06:22.360 there might want a marble table but i will be somebody's table like what but so what are you

00:06:28.600 what do you what's on the table what's on the table what's on the table okay what's on the table um

00:06:34.280 well um i think i can have a laugh i'm funny um i'm i'm again i'm very nurturing i'm a big heart

00:06:41.960 um i've i've been through a lot um uh so i i tend to have you know um a lot in common with you know i

00:06:50.120 i usually find more so like men that i've been around or or or now my my now partner has been

00:06:58.680 through a lot and i think as a female i've gone through quite a lot um that you know not always

00:07:04.280 some females have have been through just because you know i've been around a lot of boys and where 1.00

00:07:09.320 i was gay i was always hanging out with boys so now when i when i sit with my man now is that we've

00:07:14.200 got quite a lot in common which is great um i i i can cook sort of like he's probably laughing at me

00:07:21.240 right now but i can cook how often do you cook for him how often do i cook for him it depends because

00:07:26.440 we don't live together so like this week how many times have you cooked i've cooked like twice three

00:07:31.000 times i love cooking breakfast he always gets breakfast he's he always gets breakfast of me

00:07:35.000 but um you know it's a learning curve i just um you know and and you know if you don't like the

00:07:40.840 i'm not cooking for him i'm sorry i didn't i didn't know i didn't say that's kind of like the

00:07:48.280 vibe i like i'm not coming with what i'm bringing to the table is that i am the table in whatever

00:07:53.480 shape or form and and you know and and the table might get a lick of paint and and and it might get

00:07:59.160 new legs or something like that and but i am it's not what's on the table i am what's holding

00:08:04.600 everything up can i ask you a question you mentioned how like um you know the mind is powerful and what you

00:08:10.600 think of yourself but do you also feel like there's a point where you can also be realistic

00:08:14.760 about where you are presently yeah no for sure i i think i've learned to be very determined

00:08:20.600 because i've lost five stone which was a massive which was a massive thing so for a long time i

00:08:25.800 didn't think i bought anything to the table let alone being the table let alone thinking i was above

00:08:31.080 average i spent a lot of my a lot of my youth thinking i was well below average especially being

00:08:36.600 a uh were you when you were overweight when i was overweight struggling with with with well you

00:08:41.880 are below average if you're overweight yeah so yeah yeah yeah yeah no no it's true it's true yeah yeah

00:08:48.360 i mean i'm sure you can see the level of attention you get now from when you're overweight a million

00:08:52.680 percent a million percent so um this is i was a fat kid too yeah no no no so i like it so i i really have

00:08:59.320 like when i show people pictures of what i used to look like they go wow that that can't be you i can't imagine

00:09:04.120 so i gent like that i've had to back myself i've had to say i like that i am the table i bring

00:09:11.160 everything to the table and and i think that's what makes me essentially do it because i'm saying

00:09:16.280 i kind of embody that i think but it's just like because i almost think of this as like a job right

00:09:22.440 because i i personally i think like being a wife is like applying for a job if you want to be married

00:09:26.840 i know not everyone does but it's like when you come to the a job interview and you just say well i am the job

00:09:33.800 city girls you might try that next time and it's like no no what do you like what do you do like

00:09:39.400 what what if you're in this job like what can you do for me i'm kind i'm kind i'm kind that that that

00:09:45.000 for me uh is what i bring today i'm a kind person and if you don't like that then there's the door

00:09:50.600 but that that is essentially the bare minimum that i bring to the table is is that i'm a i think i'm a

00:09:55.800 kind so and i love fully with my whole heart and i think that that's the biggest thing that me

00:10:00.840 personally i can bring to the table that's interesting nobody said like i want to have

00:10:04.760 kids oh do you know what there was so much more that i wanted to get to but yeah i can cook for

00:10:10.280 a family of this many like you know i don't want to have kids i don't want to have kids 0.99

JustPearlyThings - August 24, 2023

Delusional Woman Claims She's The Table

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