JustPearlyThings - Do Messages Count as Cheating

00:00:00.000 has social media ever caused an argument in a relationship yeah oh my god yeah what have women 1.00

00:00:08.800 argued with you or men about uh the liking game back when that was a feature when i used to get

00:00:15.520 me in heat discussions all the time but i would i was like i would do it for like algorithm things

00:00:21.600 so if i know i'm about to post i'll just like anything on my timeline because i know they're

00:00:25.280 gonna look and they're gonna go and like my thing back yeah that was that that was the vibe i would

00:00:29.760 like picture of your grand your ankle whatever dogs anything on that timeline at that time i'll

00:00:35.280 just i'll just think and they'll be next to me when i do it it's not like i have to do it in secret

00:00:39.360 but i understand it looks crazy yeah it looks crazy anything you pop because as well it puts

00:00:44.080 it onto their newsfeed as well when you remember when you can see what other people that's what i'm

00:00:47.120 talking about that's when it was the issue yeah so i used to get into into situations about that but

00:00:53.280 i think on the flip side if your girl only follows 90 people let's say for instance and then and i

00:00:58.400 you know what i mean and then she follows that one guy you could be you might you see 91

00:01:07.760 so i think it works both ways though my situation was different where um a girl slid into my dms on 0.99

00:01:15.280 facebook i like went the extra mile on facebook to find out that she went college with my girl

00:01:21.520 and then how that went was facebook you know like when your relationship it says your relationship with

00:01:26.160 this person i wasn't that smart when i was below 25 like i said um so what happened was um she was

00:01:34.800 like oh when we started having a conversation she was like oh but you're in a relationship with this

00:01:39.040 person hold on a minute i think i went to the same college oh i did go to the same college see

00:01:44.000 screenshotted my whole conversation with the girl and send it to my um my then girlfriend man and that

00:01:50.080 obviously caused oh that argument is because you were cheating yeah

00:01:59.920 but i was 25 it wasn't take seriously that's a fair enough argument

00:02:05.120 what what did you get in an argument about um it's essentially like you said it's one of those like

00:02:10.960 back when you can see who you liked and what you liked back when that was a thing is like it was you

00:02:16.640 with like back back then again we were young we were dumb we didn't know where the social media was

00:02:22.080 we grew up with social media essentially at the same time so you would see your partner liking all

00:02:27.760 these things and then that would be an argument because for those who don't know who are too young

00:02:32.560 to know instagram is to show people who you liked like like the pictures you liked on like his own

00:02:38.160 separate feed so that feed will get you yeah that feed will get you in trouble did you know that um i'm

00:02:44.560 not sure if it's the same now but before on instagram if you were following under 200 people it wouldn't

00:02:50.960 show what order you followed people in you know that so like let's say your man goes out on a night

00:02:56.480 out and he starts following someone new then you know you might click on their page and you'll be

00:03:01.600 like all right cool she was at the same party he obviously had an interaction however however if he was

00:03:06.960 following if he's following on if they're following under 200 i don't know if it's still the same feature

00:03:11.840 and i don't know updates and stuff but yeah man those kind of things get into you get into arguments

00:03:16.800 over that well wait let me ask you something right because what you just said bro i weren't cheating it

00:03:21.360 was a conversation through yeah yeah yeah like a physical situation it's not physical no i don't know

00:03:37.200 it can be emotional you can emotionally cheat all right let me ask you this let me ask you this

00:03:41.840 because i don't know i like to hear that coming from women can i ask you something devil's advocate 1.00

00:03:45.440 is it really the end of the world if he's messaging another girl thank you oh like i i agree it's not

00:03:51.200 the end of the world but it's not the start of the eyeball i just think like i just think like if we

00:03:58.800 have open social media profiles can we really like get off our high horse sometime like because i think that

00:04:04.560 attention is um to women is sexist to men do you guys agree with that yeah okay so i'm like if we

00:04:11.920 most of us have open instagrams and relationships meaning we can get attention from high status men

00:04:17.440 and that's always on the table but if he sends a message like it's the end of the world no but if

00:04:23.200 he does what he was doing she messaged me first i was just responding it's rude not to respond what kind

00:04:29.280 of message we talking about if it's like if it's like you know emojis and stuff like that then it's a

00:04:33.920 bit mad and i mean if it's general conversation then you know yeah you might be able to bus case

00:04:39.280 it's crazy i think i just look at things like differently i just no i'm with you i'm with you

00:04:44.160 isn't it you pick like battles and wars i guess yeah you gotta pick battles because if you're the type of

00:04:48.800 person to like date for like a long-term relationship or marriage right um then it's like

00:04:55.600 like in the grand scheme of things is a message gonna make or break your life exactly it's the

00:05:01.200 intention about do you know i think most of it becomes that great area of the unknown so it's

00:05:05.280 the attention behind the message all right let me ask you a question because i don't feel like you're

00:05:08.880 on my side i'm not cool you're with your girl you've been with her a little while you're on a

00:05:15.600 break yeah break you mean she's single okay okay she's single she's single okay so you might agree

00:05:22.240 with me in this yeah you've been with each other for a while now i was a situation okay you have a

00:05:27.120 girl she's not your girl but you know like you have not it sounds bad like a backup not a backup you

00:05:32.640 have people on your phone that you know like you right now i was in a situation where i was always

00:05:38.160 with someone from like 16 so when i wasn't with someone i used to just grab a girl that i knew

00:05:42.960 like me because i wanted to feel like it was a fulfill thing right so if i'm not with so if i'm

00:05:48.560 not with you and we've broken up for like a week and we have a sexual situation i didn't cheat on you

00:05:54.400 because we were on a break and you'll mind them fingers bro 0.95

00:05:57.040 what i was saying is um the moment you are on a break you've you fed her to the wolves bro you

00:06:09.840 can't and and vice versa bro you're single you're two single people it's no longer i know it may feel

00:06:15.200 like you know okay cool we were in a relationship but boy you're not under that covenant you're not

00:06:20.880 under that contract that obligation that verbal commitment anymore in it so whatever you do it

00:06:25.920 might be frowned upon it might be whatever but some people just move on quicker than others

00:06:29.280 that's all i feel like you're like 20 on my side now there we go there we go would you guys work

00:06:34.720 through a message yeah she would um i think no i think the intentions matter and i think that if

00:06:45.200 he's messaging somebody else he's already checked out and i'm i think i'm very strict when it comes to

00:06:50.080 that like i think that if you're going to be in a relationship with me i think that you have to put some

00:06:53.840 boundaries in place i think you have to be what if you're on holiday what if you're on holiday and

00:06:57.280 then you come back and you find that he he messaged another girl because you were away i'm leaving him

00:07:02.800 i'll be fuming yeah no no i'm leaving him i think i i i don't tolerate anything that because to me it

00:07:09.600 seems a bit much to break up over a message it depends what the message is though it depends what

00:07:13.440 i'm flirty then the intention's quite clear how how old are you guys again you're what i'm 29 29

00:07:21.760 how old are you two he's 22 though i'm 29 29 is the difference i'm 24. okay she has a little time

00:07:27.440 to waste yeah yeah i'm just thinking because you're you're 29 if you're in a relationship like do you

00:07:38.080 want kids yes um do you don't have any kids no so you know if you're single by 30 your chance of

00:07:43.360 having a child drops below 50 so you're actually more likely as many of you know i was just banned

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JustPearlyThings - May 29, 2023

Do Messages Count as Cheating

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