JustPearlyThings - Do Work Husbands Save Marriages？？

00:00:00.000 reason of like oh you're gonna have to work an extra 15 hours a week that that is solid because

00:00:04.240 he's like no no i don't want you doing that i want you you know here with us i think the work

00:00:08.220 husband is solid too you don't need marriages ending divorce because of work no i get it no

00:00:13.660 i get it no completely completely i'm just i'm just saying from a woman's point of view though

00:00:18.000 could that not come across as being a little bit needy because she's like well hang on a minute 1.00

00:00:20.700 most women would take that as needy i don't think that mindset is common yeah but how many how many 1.00

00:00:25.400 men how many women stay in relationships because they have a work husband oh my god 0.56

00:00:32.520 what's your story go ahead it wasn't me specifically but this guy at my old workplace

00:00:43.360 he literally slept with all the members in the gym just to keep his um classes popular like his

00:00:53.400 fitness class is popular but he tried to control the situation and say to the women these married

00:00:58.420 women ah just let's just keep it between us so he was the work husband not for one but for all those

00:01:04.740 ladies in that fitness class so he was a community yes yeah but the day he got the day he got snitched

00:01:11.960 on and people started complaining oh he got fired wow yeah so the work husband this was like

00:01:18.920 work husband on steroids he was everybody's work husband unreal unreal no but relationships do stay

00:01:27.560 together if the woman is satisfied right define satisfied oh so you're saying she cheats with the

00:01:33.580 husband at work and gets what she needs from him and then goes home to the other husband yeah so she 1.00

00:01:37.860 doesn't need to leave so how many relationships have stayed because of the work husband as opposed

00:01:41.360 to left because of the work husband 70 percent of women have to finish themselves off so i mean 1.00

00:01:45.780 wait what what's that seven don't give me bug state no bug um what do you call it statistics man

00:01:53.620 70 percent what do they go in the bedroom and check

00:01:57.040 like after like after they've had sex with their partner because like not a lot of well only 30 percent

00:02:05.860 of women can come from penetration they then end up having to finish themselves off because they've 1.00

00:02:10.820 already pleased their husband or their partners so 70 percent of women tend to please themselves after

00:02:16.180 all yeah so am i surveys are always so what i know one-sided it's like what if they asked the men

00:02:23.300 about how the women were in bed well men men i mean technically i please myself anyway

00:02:28.420 wait what

00:02:31.400 because i'm doing the work in it i'm pleasing myself you're not doing nothing i'm doing it

00:02:40.860 so i'm pleasing myself um is that why people divorce it's because they're not

00:02:46.700 pleasing each other in the bedroom do you think that's wait wait do you think that's a valid

00:02:51.360 reason for divorce your husband's not good at sex you should know that before you get married to

00:02:56.260 be fair i'm just saying his game went downhill after yeah but what what if like people obviously

00:03:03.960 they believe in um no sex before marriage and then when they get married they're like oh my what

00:03:08.600 is this but how would they know they got nice to compare it to yeah and i think it i think it is a

00:03:14.060 reason for divorce actually because i saw and this is a bad quoting of stats here but i saw

00:03:18.420 something uh just the other day saying that actually um falls in male libido are one of the

00:03:23.700 key reasons why marriage is end because the guy goes off sex the woman's not getting satisfied then

00:03:28.660 all of a sudden she's like hang on a minute what's this and you know and then the marriage breaks

00:03:32.640 up so i reckon it it is actually a factor i think she's not getting satisfied sexually they make 1.00

00:03:37.300 it too strategic so in her head she's like all right let's do this i'm gonna have have sex once a 0.99

00:03:41.960 week you know i mean like i'm not really built like that as a man like sometimes the breeze might

00:03:46.820 blow and i'm like you know i'm active now she's like no we really did it do so it's like i've got

00:03:51.200 into the routine of getting it once a week so it's like it gets becomes more of a routine for me as

00:03:55.600 opposed to that yeah but that's the problem with cohabiting though isn't it just once a week

00:03:59.820 but is that a reason to contribute to um a couple divorcing no i don't think i don't think it should

00:04:12.280 be i don't think it should be but just like i reckon it probably is because again it's all about

00:04:16.180 feels isn't it that's why viagra is like that's why you get into a relationship in the first place 0.99

00:04:20.640 don't even have ads in america would you stick out a sexless marriage for your children yeah 1.00

00:04:27.740 no well there's a lot of toys i mean no no there's a lot of toys maybe i don't know

00:04:35.600 there's yes or no yeah you would stick it out yeah yeah i mean i have three others but you

00:04:40.720 wouldn't stick out cheating no isn't a sexless of marriage worse than cheating at least you're

00:04:45.500 i'm married i wasn't married okay no different i wasn't married if you were married you would

00:04:51.100 have stuck out the cheating well yeah it would have been harder for me to just be like okay we're

00:04:55.060 not doing this anymore okay okay is that how you said it huh is that how you said it a sexless

00:05:05.140 marriage but then you're going to be frustrated all the time then you'll start projecting that

00:05:08.980 stress and that frustration on people you have to get it on oh no no no no you wouldn't stick it out

00:05:15.180 stick it stick out you wouldn't stick it out a sexless marriage for the kids or wait till the 1.00

00:05:20.820 kids are older oh but uh so you got a five-year-old

00:05:24.740 you can do tantra there's so many other ways that you can penetration is like probably the least

00:05:31.840 element of a woman's sex life i think it's dependent on the reasons why you know like if it's due to like 1.00

00:05:38.920 a to like medical issue or like busyness or something like that i feel like

00:05:45.180 that's workable but if it's due to like a complete lack in like attraction for your partner

00:05:50.600 and i don't really think that's you know okay so so no it depends okay okay so let's say he just

00:06:01.360 has a low sex drive now a low sex drive i mean yeah i would say i would stick it out yeah okay

00:06:07.700 what about you would you stick it out amiri yeah of course 0.99

00:06:10.120 he's got far

00:06:12.400 there's a reason why i'm low

00:06:17.840 i'll stick it out you'd stick it out yeah depends on long photo

00:06:23.800 the rest of your life no of course not what's the point in it

00:06:28.300 i found out that i found the most interesting stat i want to pull it up

00:06:34.560 the sexless marriage is very different by age so it's like 0.67

00:06:43.220 um of of people married over of people married over 70 54 are sexless so if you make it to 70

00:06:53.580 you're probably half her sexless and then it's like 60 to 90 is 38 percent

00:06:58.320 and then 50 to 59 is 22 percent and married people 40 to 49

00:07:05.200 eight percent so it's like it's like very much dependent on age

00:07:09.320 yeah but isn't that how it's meant to go though because like as you get older it becomes more of a

00:07:13.460 companionship yeah and you know yeah i get probably

00:07:16.220 also your body is less you know you can't really love it

00:07:20.400 i've also heard that like nursing homes have the worst std rates

00:07:25.200 yeah how

00:07:26.840 girl because you're putting a bunch of people 0.77

00:07:29.880 in a home what else have you got to do

00:07:32.360 you know

00:07:32.960 flick the bean

00:07:35.100 wow

00:07:37.000 flick the bean

00:07:39.020 no one's gonna worry about getting pregnant as well so that's why they don't strap up 0.99

00:07:43.960 oh my god that's true

00:07:46.180 so it just spreads

00:07:48.060 probably they just forgot to put strap up

00:07:51.180 since then

00:07:51.560 yeah

00:07:51.840 yeah

00:07:52.940 what do they do in those in those homes

00:07:55.900 have sex 0.77

00:07:56.480 apparently have lots of sex

00:07:58.080 have sex and get his cds 0.84

00:07:59.920 but where did they get

00:08:01.960 where then

00:08:02.360 i can't imagine

00:08:03.280 where did the std start from

00:08:05.080 joe biden

00:08:05.940 joe biden do you reckon he's still

00:08:06.720 huh

00:08:07.580 joe biden do you reckon he's

00:08:09.300 is he not

00:08:09.720 still

00:08:10.060 having it

00:08:11.340 i don't think

00:08:13.840 what's the statistical probability

00:08:15.940 i've never thought of that question

00:08:18.280 and i don't want to

00:08:20.400 it's 50 50 apparently

00:08:22.060 because what is he like 70

00:08:23.560 70

00:08:24.680 he looks about 90

00:08:25.580 i don't think he's awake enough for the time

00:08:27.220 mate

00:08:27.480 70

00:08:27.900 joe biden can't be 70

00:08:30.500 sleepy joe

00:08:31.640 he's 70 something

00:08:33.060 like 80

00:08:34.600 no no he's 70 something i think

00:08:37.540 yeah 70 something

00:08:38.340 how old is trump

00:08:39.460 he's older than his 70s as well

00:08:41.460 trump's 74 isn't right

00:08:42.840 joe biden's older than trump

00:08:43.900 yeah

00:08:44.180 sleepy joe

00:08:46.840 sleepy joe

00:08:47.840 yeah sleepy joe gets active though

00:08:51.840 do you guys think

00:08:54.300 that the fact that 50% of women 0.98

00:08:56.400 are projected to be single and childless

00:08:58.520 reflects the quality of the men

00:09:00.740 or the quality of the women

00:09:01.900 the quality of the women 0.98

00:09:03.740 because

00:09:04.960 men obviously hold the access

00:09:09.240 to relationships

00:09:10.760 so at the end of the day

00:09:11.980 like

00:09:12.360 if it's turning out that

00:09:14.200 50% of us are going to be

00:09:16.080 single and childless

00:09:17.800 by

00:09:18.340 i think it's like

00:09:19.440 30

00:09:20.860 2030

00:09:21.360 yeah

00:09:22.160 um

00:09:23.180 well that obviously says that we're not doing something right

00:09:26.080 because that is scary

00:09:27.160 that's so sad

00:09:28.140 isn't that crazy

00:09:28.580 that's 50% of us

00:09:29.740 it's so depressing

00:09:30.420 not you

00:09:30.780 not me

00:09:31.200 yeah 50% of us in the room

00:09:34.260 will be single and childless

00:09:35.500 by 2030

00:09:36.200 it's a cold world out there

00:09:39.900 so much so that like

00:09:41.100 big banks are investing in cat food

00:09:42.800 boxed wine

00:09:43.520 like all the things that come with single women 1.00

00:09:45.200 thanks for telling me

00:09:46.120 i'm gonna invest

00:09:46.840 what do you think

00:09:49.300 is it the quality of the men

00:09:50.420 or the quality of the women

00:09:51.320 i think the quality of choices

00:09:52.700 of the women

00:09:54.140 okay

00:09:55.160 expand on that

00:09:56.520 um

00:09:57.120 well even

00:09:59.120 my choice

00:10:00.020 to

00:10:00.600 be a single parent

00:10:02.320 you know

00:10:02.980 if

00:10:03.460 technically i could be a single lady with cats 0.99

00:10:06.800 so i'll still be

00:10:07.960 buying cat food on i

00:10:09.480 and drinking mine

00:10:09.960 i might have kids with me

00:10:10.960 but i mean

00:10:11.460 um

00:10:12.500 i think that

00:10:13.420 young women need to 1.00

00:10:14.980 make better choices

00:10:16.460 100

00:10:17.380 logical choices

00:10:18.400 and actually just

00:10:19.540 think ahead

00:10:20.660 like you were saying earlier

00:10:21.760 like the quick gratification

00:10:23.080 like

00:10:23.880 i never used to like

00:10:25.840 think

00:10:26.300 further than what i needed

00:10:28.420 in that moment

00:10:29.200 so it's like

00:10:30.160 if

00:10:30.420 and how i communicate

00:10:32.100 with my daughter now

00:10:33.220 is very different

00:10:34.200 to how my mom

00:10:34.820 communicated with me

00:10:35.780 so i think

00:10:36.520 just choices

00:10:37.200 because your choices

00:10:37.980 that you make now

00:10:38.680 are going to affect your life

00:10:39.580 for the rest of your life

00:10:40.500 well when you're young

00:10:41.820 what would you do differently

00:10:43.260 if you could go back

00:10:44.260 to 16

00:10:46.040 um

00:10:48.600 i wouldn't have

00:10:50.700 my children

00:10:52.080 i wouldn't have had my daughter 0.98

00:10:52.940 at 16

00:10:53.560 100%

00:10:54.320 because

00:10:54.680 it wasn't the best choice

00:10:56.640 for her

00:10:57.140 it wasn't the best choice

00:10:58.180 because i made that choice

00:10:58.980 for myself

00:10:59.480 i was like

00:11:00.340 i'm gonna be a mum

00:11:01.380 to this little girl

00:11:02.140 um

00:11:03.180 and with my son

00:11:05.020 i wouldn't have been

00:11:07.820 with his dad

00:11:08.280 the

00:11:08.640 fourth or fifth time

00:11:10.540 he cheated on me

00:11:11.240 so

00:11:11.680 yeah i would have made

00:11:12.600 better choices

00:11:13.140 because i was in a very

00:11:13.940 cycle

00:11:14.840 like

00:11:15.260 oh

00:11:15.520 he'll stop eventually

00:11:16.600 and so yeah

00:11:17.980 i would have

00:11:19.460 made better choices

00:11:20.860 over the partners

00:11:21.640 that i was choosing

00:11:22.380 not necessarily

00:11:23.100 like not have my children

00:11:24.140 but just with better

00:11:25.140 as many of you know

00:11:26.000 i was just banned

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JustPearlyThings - April 17, 2023

Do Work Husbands Save Marriages？？

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