JustPearlyThings - May 22, 2023


Drunk Feminist Tries To Corner Pearl With This Question


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9 minutes

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Word count

1,630

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1

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Misogyny

15

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14

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In this episode, Pearl and I discuss the value of a high-value man and what it means to be a virgin in the modern dating culture. Pearl shares her experience of being a virgin and what she looks for in a man.

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00:00:00.000 give up in a relationship? Well I have a lot to give so it's a lot to sacrifice
00:00:08.400 because I'm a person of faith I do follow traditional values of faith so
00:00:13.400 there's a lot of me on the line for me to give up and yeah it's it's obviously
00:00:21.560 the sexual side so I you know in the Christian faith you you wait until 0.98
00:00:28.320 marriage okay so I'm willing to wait for that man that high-value man mm-hmm yeah
00:00:37.920 and that's a lot to give up okay so you would give up waiting for marriage or
00:00:42.720 like not give it um you would like have him wait oh I wouldn't give that oh okay
00:00:47.640 I understood this yeah yeah I'm sorry I said I understood this yeah no no I would
00:00:55.140 never give up this mm-hmm for any high-value man mm-hmm waiting till
00:00:59.580 marriage yeah okay are you a virgin yeah oh really yeah I never thought I would
00:01:05.940 disclose this so publicly but yeah oh okay okay so you want to wait until you're
00:01:10.560 married yeah okay um would you give up let's say like social media yeah that
00:01:17.580 that wouldn't be a problem yeah I would give up all right hold on that's
00:01:23.620 actually really good I think I think in that culture is that's what they have to
00:01:28.040 do so I think when she has to um do certain things that they have to give up
00:01:34.920 social media they can't present themselves in certain ways so I think when
00:01:40.100 you say would you give up a high-end man then we have to look at it
00:01:44.480 prospectively above board as how would we do that of women of different cultures 0.99
00:01:49.340 mm-hmm so her culture they wouldn't be able to do that well you guys don't have 0.98
00:01:55.160 social media no I'm on social media but uh yeah I grew up in a Sudanese arabic
00:02:00.620 culture which is very strict however I lived most of my life in Germany I live
00:02:05.300 here in a very modern society so I did get influenced from here as well not just
00:02:09.920 from my background but um in terms of I think it's not the it's high-value men
00:02:16.100 we were speaking about this earlier Pearl and I would love to have your
00:02:18.920 perspective as well as what how do you define a high-value man and how do you
00:02:22.560 define a modern woman because the way I define a high-value man may be very
00:02:27.380 different than you define it and then they define so the way I define a high-value
00:02:31.720 man is somebody who is faith-driven who is a respectable who's got yeah he's got
00:02:39.100 integrity so it's values but it's also he definitely has to have a job for sure
00:02:44.800 make money but there's other aspects that I look for in high-value men for me to
00:02:50.340 give up something anything what does he bring to the table as well well so I would
00:02:55.980 define high-value man is the men that women pick so like the men that women 0.79
00:03:01.260 routinely go after and choose and Kevin Samuels actually is the one who coined
00:03:06.360 that term so he he laid it out it's 10k per month he has to have had that for
00:03:12.720 three to five years other men must accept him as high-value he has to have a
00:03:17.280 network of high-value men he has to be linked in visibility level and he must be
00:03:21.940 useful to others in the group so that that's the definition yeah we have to
00:03:28.040 take into account different cultures different people's lifestyles how you
00:03:32.920 his is his lifestyle that's not my lifestyle that's not her lifestyle 0.54
00:03:38.200 that's not his or his or different cultures so we can have a statistic that
00:03:43.240 says that but you can't truly say that and I think we need to be open when we
00:03:48.840 ask that question because we live in a very diverse world right now I can't 0.99
00:03:53.020 truly say that because women only swipe right 5% of the time on dating apps and 1.00
00:03:57.720 we typically pick the same men so I would say I would go on a dating app and I
00:04:03.480 would never pick my man on a dating app and I mean if you if you even at a bar you
00:04:07.320 see women approach really go after the same type of guys how would you know that 0.98
00:04:12.420 unless you ask them yeah the average woman yeah no no no I don't know how would you know that
00:04:16.120 unless you ask that person that was going into the bar what type of guy are you
00:04:20.540 approached to I can watch you can see who they go after so where do your statistics
00:04:25.000 come from um so where where do my stats come from there's different studies that
00:04:29.240 talk about this it's pretty cut and dry on like tinder bumble hand like there's so
00:04:32.980 many dating and even and even if you wait wait I'm gonna I'm trying to answer your
00:04:37.020 question so and even if you go off of dating apps like I do it on the show where
00:04:41.220 we could go through you guys one by one and put out what you want in a guy and
00:04:44.560 it's usually less than 20 percent of men I think you're assuming that I want in a
00:04:48.440 guy X Y and Z no I'm saying in general in general that's I think that is the key 0.99
00:04:55.480 point well the average is that your average but that's why she's saying most
00:05:00.220 people are average okay well then I probably may give up and I think it's
00:05:08.320 subjective so how would we how would we look at us and add an average woman what would you say 1.00
00:05:15.700 is an average woman then because they know the average average to me is going to be different to 1.00
00:05:20.440 what Alex thinks is average to what Gary thinks is average it's not even who is the average woman
00:05:25.200 would want that woman to give like statistically there is an average or 1.00
00:05:29.080 like in general I get that but who says who says this who says the statistics you
00:05:35.140 people that do the studies you look at the statistics what Paul will say like from the
00:05:38.920 dating apps which part are you asking about the women are you asking about the 0.96
00:05:42.520 high value I looked at statistically a thousand men and they said to me this is
00:05:50.080 what they would prefer are you gonna prefer my report are you gonna prefer somebody
00:05:54.400 that's gonna say to you well you know what this is what I've done and this is
00:05:57.760 what I've looked at and this is what I found I would probably go by experience
00:06:03.500 and studies which are usually pretty similar like if I put up Lizzo most guys
00:06:09.160 are will probably pass but yes yeah yeah over over oversized women are coming back 1.00
00:06:20.500 right now and I probably for women to who well from mine maybe not you but for a
00:06:29.500 lot of men she does laughing and we're sat here laughing and like do you know the 0.54
00:06:38.840 percentage of the population about how many women are oversized I don't too many do you 1.00
00:06:44.120 know too many it's like there's more well listen I work in medicine inside on weight
00:06:49.940 and stuff and I see a lot more oversized women and they're trying and if you see 1.00
00:06:54.540 the adverts that we see on TV from Marks and Spencer Tesco's that doesn't mean that
00:07:01.760 they're the women that men desire and that doesn't okay so are you guys underweight
00:07:06.680 with a six ab that's that's not the discussion here well that's what I'm
00:07:10.760 asking you why are you why are you asking them that what's your point stick to the
00:07:16.160 facts because if you're commenting on oversized women you're trying to decide
00:07:20.880 for men what they like you're not really in a position I'm trying to not being a man
00:07:25.220 that shit they shouldn't be um you don't think you don't think you don't you don't 0.92
00:07:31.100 think you should discriminate in who you date I don't think you should just
00:07:34.940 discriminate against anybody yeah but so you want you want to you want a short
00:07:38.960 broke guy five five five five okay unemployed why do there's there's some
00:07:46.040 crackheads down the street I can set you up with 1.00
00:07:47.780 let me tell you I make my choices so I decide to choose who I want to date and
00:07:56.420 I think you decide you want to choose you on a date you do and you do right it
00:08:00.680 doesn't matter what it bases on it's based on what I like a man or woman would 0.81
00:08:17.520 give up do you do you think you and Lizzo have an equally attractive body do you
00:08:23.340 think you do I think I have a better body than Lizzo do you think you and do
00:08:27.300 you think you ultimately just discriminated yourself on her how well you
00:08:32.880 just said you have a better body yeah when we talk about color against white and 0.72
00:08:45.300 bland black lace matter do we not discriminate or do we want to not have
00:08:48.780 that conversation or does it now suit you better because when I talk about size
00:08:53.160 it's not healthy it's not just about how she looks there is now they are
00:08:58.980 promoting that it's fine it's healthy because it looks good and that no it
00:09:05.800 you're right it is her choice to be overweight but it's not a good choice for 0.53
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