All Modern Women Can Learn Something From Her
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Summary
In this episode, we are joined by a very special guest who grew up in a very religious household. She shares her story of how she was raised in a religious household and how she managed to break away from the expectations of her family to pursue her dreams of becoming a Muslim convert.
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Okay, do you think you're above average and what do you bring to an above average guy?
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I think I am an average girl, as you said, Tori.
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Once you understand how things go, it's not a bad thing.
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If anything, I feel like in this society, this modern world,
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do you know how powerful you are as a woman to submit?
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In this world, you can be an animal if you want to.
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I find that very powerful and there's nothing wrong with that.
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That's something guys look for, your family background, for sure.
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I'm not allowed to move out until I get married.
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I've heard guys say that's like a green flag where it's like,
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yeah, if she still lives with her parents, that's good.
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Like they look at your family background to see if your mom submitted to your dad.
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So when I was younger, I didn't like it at all.
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But now that I'm 25, I appreciate it so much because I've avoided so much.
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Do you have anything else you want to add to it?
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So you live at home, you know, you've seen a successful relationship.
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And I hated it, but now I'm so thankful, honestly.
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So for me, it's all about the rice and the chicken and the sauce.
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But I don't mind learning other culture as well.
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Otherwise, there is just, I don't think anything can be successful.
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Because for me, if you don't respect your mom, you're not going to respect a stranger.
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So I grew up, dad was Christian, mom was Muslim.
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And I'm so happy that I had both because it opened my mind as well.
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I used to actually go to church, churches a lot.
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My problem was I just didn't, I couldn't understand how, like, um, Jesus was God.
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Uh, so now when, then when I done my research in Islam, it was like, he's a prophet.
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And I thought, okay, like it answered my question, but they're the same.
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I'm curious because I've noticed in Christian churches, they're kind of driving men out where
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there's not a lot of young men in Christian churches anymore.
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It's like, if you look at them, like, if you go into a church under like, I don't know,
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Um, and I'm curious, is, are there more young men in like Muslim religions?
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Um, from what I'm seeing now, there's a lot of converts.
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I feel like, um, there's, there is more happening now.
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So, um, yeah, I think there's, there's loads of men in the mosques.
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Yeah, cause I think it's one of the few religions that, that keeps traditional masculinity where
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the Christians are kind of, they're kind of gone.
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Yeah, cause you know, back in the days it was, it was so similar, but now people are trying
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to make it so modern and it's like, you can't pick and choose.
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And they just like pander cause most of the women are the ones like paying into churches.
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And I've heard like some churches, like you can have gay marriages and stuff and it's
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And the other thing is they always have like, what do they call it?
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Um, but they never have social media addiction groups for the women.
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And it's like, they always like put out women on a pedestal, even if she's like ran through
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and had two kids, you should still wait till you're married with her.
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Um, I know I'm average, um, reason being is because I'm not a wife yet.
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I think the best way to measure if someone is above average is to look at their relationship
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And I feel like if a man hasn't signed some papers and made a promise in front of God
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to be with me forever and have kids with me, then that definitely means I am an average
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Um, it's like going into a singing competition and then, you know, the judge is Whitney
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If Whitney Houston tells me I am not good, then that means I'm definitely, you know, not above
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So, um, yeah, in terms of my relationship status, I'm still single.
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I haven't found anyone who is, you know, ready to commit to me.
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So that means there's some things that I need to improve on.
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It just goes to show that I'm a work in progress.
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And so what, you're going to leave the value of yourself in the hands of somebody else?
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Not the hands of someone else, but it's just, you should not really.
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For me personally, I feel like for me personally, I feel like a person's ability to maintain
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a relationship goes to show just how good of a person that they are.
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And it also mirrors how a person can value them as well.
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So for me, I think relationship is the best way to measure.
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So for example, if I saw a woman and she was 50 with six cats, I would think there's something
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If I saw a woman who was like 20 and married, let's be real, the best way to measure how
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a person, it's like when you see a female and she has like no friends, you would know
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So I definitely feel like the best way to see how a person is, you know, a good person
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is to see how they are with their relationships.
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And I feel like with me, marriage is that epitome of like, okay, this person is a good person.
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So yeah, I would say until I'm married, I definitely think I'm above average.
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I think you're right because it's like, you have to judge based on your results.
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It's like saying I got married to the wrong person.
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Oh, if you're married, it's got to be to the wrong person.
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But I think like you as a woman, the type of guy you can maintain says something about
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So I definitely agree with you in the sense that like, if you marry the wrong person,
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and that definitely means you're average, because how could you be so silly to not realize
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So in that case, but let's be real, there's a lot of marriages that have worked out.
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And for those that have worked out, I definitely think they are above average, because your
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ability to keep someone happy, to be patient, to be compatible, to provide for them.
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Like for me, when I think of above average, I think of someone who's nurturing, someone that
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can cook, someone that, and when you package that, that's basically wifey material.
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Traditional, traditional women get scooped up by 25.
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The best women are gone by 25 out of the dating market, because the best women want a family
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And they find the men that want a family and want kids and they're gone.
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If I could get married tomorrow, I'm absolutely weird.
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Honestly, you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this
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