JustPearlyThings - July 06, 2023


Evil Woman RUINS Man's Life By Doing This...


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Length

8 minutes

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201.37386

Word count

1,798

Sentence count

13

Harmful content

Misogyny

18

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Hate speech

13

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In this episode we talk about falsely accused of grapes and how this has affected our lives and the impact it has had on our lives. We also talk about sexual assault and how it has affected us and how we have dealt with it.

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00:00:00.000 I was actually gonna ask if anyone in the room like knows a guy that's been falsely accused of a crime
00:00:10.120 I'm just curious
00:00:16.120 Six seven so seven out of nine
00:00:19.880 What I mean like falsely accused of grapes like yeah, like I'm talking about
00:00:24.400 So I went to college in the in the u.s. A small d2 school called UVU my first college and a bunch of Colombian guys went out 1.00
00:00:31.960 Did their thing it was three American girls and three Colombian guys 0.63
00:00:35.760 Things happened that night. They were embarrassed and kind of ashamed of it. It's went on for like a couple months and at the end
00:00:41.960 They were accused of eating grapes and then once it happened
00:00:45.640 They got deported back to Colombia lost her scholarship lost everything and it came and it came out
00:00:50.900 One of the girls snitched and said that she it was all false and nothing happened to them after and yet
00:00:56.440 They still stayed in Colombia and they get a chance for education lost her scholarship everything 0.95
00:01:00.300 It happens all you'll be surprised happens all the time. My boy managed to get like get it settled
00:01:07.740 When it happened cuz like good on the man. It was my first this is my first year in America
00:01:12.600 at least three weeks in and
00:01:15.540 He had a two-man step so it was
00:01:17.540 um
00:01:18.740 him and another guy and
00:01:22.340 Yeah, so basically they went back to the crib did it it it did it did the meat you know
00:01:26.820 You know that the the build-up stage in it the movies and that and the green light so they both went to their different rooms and
00:01:34.020 Cool one of my boys gets police come into his door a few hours later
00:01:38.660 Did it it it it it and then boom oh, yeah, we're here to talk to you about a potential red at it 0.99
00:01:45.400 You get and um cool. So he gave him the little
00:01:51.560 Breakdown of how the night went
00:01:53.560 So I called him anyway the next morning like yo what happened what happened? It was like, oh, yeah
00:02:01.320 Nothing escalated I asked for consent
00:02:03.800 And I feel like she felt a type of way. I don't know why but anyway, she left next thing
00:02:10.280 I know I'm getting police at my door now after get a statement
00:02:13.800 Rhea tete tete tete tete so now he has to go back to coach to get us a statement from coaches
00:02:19.080 He has to go to teachers in the school to get a statement statement from other players and stuff like that
00:02:23.800 Unfortunately, unfortunately, he stayed and all the allegations got um dropped
00:02:29.000 But three weeks just to start your uni
00:02:32.040 Wow, and that's already happened
00:02:33.160 Bro, yeah
00:02:34.120 That's so sad
00:02:35.160 That taught me a lesson
00:02:36.120 Literally
00:02:36.440 And this is in the UK
00:02:38.120 And I'm from the UK
00:02:39.480 Exactly
00:02:39.880 So I'm an American now and I'm
00:02:41.720 I saw that live oh, I saw that live oh
00:02:43.880 Wow
00:02:44.600 To me that was a massive
00:02:45.640 It deterred you didn't it? It deterred you
00:02:47.480 For sure
00:02:47.960 Like going up my father to tell me like going like going to cause like look do not do anything
00:02:51.640 I'm talking about like if they kiss you like
00:02:54.600 There's so many times where I went to a girl's place and I had done nothing just in case like me and her 0.64
00:03:00.120 Or times where I've literally recorded been like okay
00:03:03.000 Sorry to be such a weirdo, but do I have consent to do this because me being a six foot four six foot five black guy
00:03:08.360 If I do this and she says yes, then she turns around and goes actually, you know what?
00:03:13.160 I didn't like it. I'm gonna say
00:03:15.160 He bought grapes
00:03:17.160 Judgingly me or her like the five foot five girl 1.00
00:03:20.200 Yeah, but on the flip side though. Do y'all think that women could sell grapes to men? 0.99
00:03:26.040 Is that possible? Do y'all believe that?
00:03:27.720 Yeah
00:03:28.280 I've heard that, you know
00:03:29.240 I'm not
00:03:29.720 I'm not gonna lie
00:03:30.280 It's possible
00:03:31.160 It's possible
00:03:31.800 But I think that's
00:03:32.440 I think that's
00:03:33.080 Vulnerability
00:03:33.800 I've heard of a girl like drugging a guy 1.00
00:03:36.440 And then
00:03:37.560 Like she would
00:03:38.360 Like she would drug guys and do stuff to them 1.00
00:03:41.640 Okay, that's rough
00:03:42.520 I don't think that's like common
00:03:43.800 Majority of the time I've heard it as the girl was older than the guy
00:03:47.320 So
00:03:48.360 It's that story
00:03:49.720 Yeah
00:03:50.360 You know what I'm saying?
00:03:51.160 Like you're a young boy
00:03:53.160 You know what I'm saying?
00:03:53.480 You go through PBE and that
00:03:54.680 You're feeling all type of ways and that
00:03:56.280 She's coming on to you 0.91
00:03:58.280 You don't even know how to act
00:03:59.400 You're just going with the flow
00:04:00.280 What really and truly you have no idea what's going on
00:04:02.600 Then pow
00:04:03.880 You know what I'm saying?
00:04:04.840 You've done the thing
00:04:05.560 Because something like that happened over here
00:04:06.920 But it was on the news where a teacher had a relationship with a younger student in her school
00:04:12.120 And they classed that as great because obviously he was younger and she was a lot older
00:04:15.800 And I think she also felt pregnant
00:04:17.480 How did you find out?
00:04:18.200 Yeah, she did
00:04:18.760 Because she felt pregnant for him 1.00
00:04:19.800 Yeah
00:04:20.440 My king
00:04:21.160 I mean
00:04:21.560 I'm not going to lie about it
00:04:23.640 Let a teacher come to me at that age
00:04:24.840 It's over
00:04:26.920 Do you ever notice how we always take accountability off of women even in our like language? 0.55
00:04:32.520 Because I always hear men or men and women use the term I'm not picking on you
00:04:37.400 But like fell pregnant like it sounds like it just like happened
00:04:40.680 Yes
00:04:41.080 You know what I mean?
00:04:41.800 It's like even in our way
00:04:42.600 I didn't even pee
00:04:43.160 No, you know
00:04:43.640 Yeah
00:04:44.200 It's very even like he knocked her up
00:04:46.920 So that implies that he did it, not her
00:04:48.760 That's so normalised in Jamaica as well
00:04:51.160 Obviously I don't mean it like that but it's just how I speak
00:04:52.840 No, I know
00:04:53.200 No, no, no
00:04:53.720 But that's it
00:04:54.320 Subconscious
00:04:55.000 Yeah, yeah, yeah
00:04:56.040 Subconscious
00:04:56.520 It's right what you've said, yeah
00:04:57.680 It's so normalised in Jamaica 0.98
00:04:58.680 I didn't actually think about it like that but
00:05:00.200 It's even like here it's so common for you guys use partner
00:05:05.320 Yeah
00:05:05.640 But it's like do you want to be in a partnership like an equal partnership?
00:05:10.600 Is that what you guys want?
00:05:11.640 You don't want a husband or a wife? 1.00
00:05:13.160 You want a partner?
00:05:14.200 I want a wife still 0.99
00:05:15.160 Yeah
00:05:15.640 Because like partner implies that we're equal and I don't think women are equal to men 1.00
00:05:20.760 I think men are superior to women 1.00
00:05:22.920 Especially in relationships because women date up 1.00
00:05:25.000 Like do you want a guy that's broker than you, dumber than you, and fatter than you?
00:05:31.160 No, I want someone who's going to elevate and grow with me
00:05:34.040 Actually
00:05:35.320 I feel like it depends on the individual
00:05:38.040 What does that mean?
00:05:38.840 Sorry
00:05:39.240 Not you, sorry
00:05:41.000 Elevate and grow
00:05:41.800 Women say this and I don't even know what it means 1.00
00:05:44.120 Like what, do you want to build a man?
00:05:46.920 No
00:05:49.240 He's on his journey, I'm on my journey where we can help each other, we can
00:05:53.560 But he's not, I don't owe him and he don't own me
00:05:58.200 But we are growing together
00:06:00.200 And that also means that they might get to a pick
00:06:03.240 What does that look like?
00:06:04.520 Like because sometimes we say this stuff like yeah like grow with me
00:06:08.200 Like we're both pursuing careers together
00:06:10.680 We're both like what is
00:06:11.560 As in
00:06:12.040 Because like in marriage aren't you supposed to grow together?
00:06:14.360 Like it's two become one
00:06:16.200 Yeah, but it's not always like that all the time
00:06:18.600 Yeah, because of feminism and like modern mentality 1.00
00:06:21.080 But not like how it's supposed to be
00:06:22.360 Like what's worked the last thousand years
00:06:25.880 Like I think this is where we've like kind of brainwashed women that like we're equal 1.00
00:06:29.640 But we're not
00:06:30.520 Could I give a potential example to that?
00:06:32.280 Yeah
00:06:32.760 So let's say um
00:06:33.960 Oh sorry
00:06:34.600 Are you straight?
00:06:35.480 Um let's say potentially uh the woman she is uh she wants to be a director 1.00
00:06:40.600 The film director
00:06:42.040 And then the man wants to be an actor
00:06:44.920 So basically both these two people are driven by both their aspirations and dreams
00:06:51.240 So that's that's their common ground
00:06:53.080 That's their common that's their common bond
00:06:55.480 And it's not necessarily too tough about their living situation
00:06:59.880 How many holidays they go they go on because that's not what
00:07:02.680 Brings them happiness, isn't it?
00:07:03.960 It's more or less of their journey that they're going together
00:07:06.440 So the guy's doing this acting thing
00:07:09.480 Oh, yeah, meets this person networks. Oh, babe, I met this guy
00:07:12.360 Not able to help you out bow bow boom now she's on the next thing 1.00
00:07:15.480 She might get a higher role marvel, all right, babe, just got into this marvel room 0.99
00:07:19.640 Does this sound like real?
00:07:21.560 I mean, yeah, I feel like people I feel like some people might be in these situations
00:07:25.720 I mean, I can't give you something specific
00:07:27.080 No, I mean if this is a common thing I just want to know like that just like
00:07:31.080 Sometimes it's not common
00:07:32.360 Sometimes I feel like like women when we say things it just sounds like like la la land like even that you said this one 0.59
00:07:38.200 but
00:07:40.200 It's like what percent of couples are film directors and actresses and at the end of the day
00:07:45.560 I think this is like the problem in society is like our goal is a career instead of a family
00:07:49.800 Like because you can't do everything, but you literally can't someone's got to give up their shit if you have kids
00:07:57.560 Exactly, and who's it gonna be who's better with kids?
00:08:01.000 It's a woman who should be home with the children, you know 1.00
00:08:03.880 So that's why I just don't understand when it's like this equal like we're gonna grow together like it just sounds like that's part of the journey as well
00:08:10.520 Because when it when like you said when it comes to building a family
00:08:14.840 That's a journey that we're doing individually and together because
00:08:21.160 Being a parent it changes you
00:08:23.720 As well, so that's another journey that my whoever who I'm with may not have met at the beginning because that's a different
00:08:31.480 When you enter being a parent, that's like a different part that you're experiencing as well
00:08:36.520 So when I'm talking about journey not necessarily
00:08:39.240 career aspects just
00:08:41.560 in someone that you connect with because there's you're not going to work for someone that you don't understand or
00:08:48.040 willing to understand or have a connection
00:08:51.560 It's not gonna
00:08:53.560 Not gonna work. That's that's how I see it