Non Traditional Women Want A Traditional Man
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about what it means to be a modern woman in the modern dating world. We talk about how women struggle to pay for first dates, how to be financially independent in a modern relationship, and how to balance work and family life.
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You go on, like, a lot, I do a lot of online dating, and there are men who are like, hey, if we go on a date 50-50, we can go get a coffee, but if we go on an actual date, I want to make sure I'm not wasting my time and you're not there for a free meal.
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So, go 50-50 with me just to prove that you're there for the right reason.
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If you think I'm there for a free meal, like, dude, really?
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This is real-life, like, situations and scenarios that women are going through.
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Like, even there was one guy I met, nice guy, and I was like, okay, you know, I do want to go on a date with you.
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And he said, just to let you know, first date, we're 50-50.
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Like, I'm going to block you because what are you talking about?
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And then he seen me in person and was like, hey, you don't remember me?
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You're not the type of man you want me to let you leave, but I have to pay you 50-50 on a first date?
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I had a story where a friend of mine, she went on a date and had to prompt the guy to pay.
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So the next day, he messaged her for the money back.
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I'll tell you those guys' point of view, though.
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It's because you're not a traditional woman, right?
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Because traditional women really get married before 25 because they spend their most fertile years focused on family.
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The most traditional women want families first, right?
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They stay married 25 and under, I would say, roughly.
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Um, so it's like, they're like, why am I paying?
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Why am I doing the traditional thing when I don't get the traditional outcome?
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But that's because it's like, it's like we wanted to be equal, right?
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And then we're like, all right, now treat me traditionally.
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Like a lot of people might look at it like, oh, back in the day, back in the day, this, that.
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So I think that in marriages nowadays, you can have a traditional slash modern woman.
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Because it does take some of the pressure and strain off of the guy.
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You can say, okay, you want a traditional wife who's going to be home, have the kids not work.
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Or would you like somebody who is 65, 35 with you?
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But most of the times, right, when the man works, most of the time when a man works in a married situation, he puts the money in the bank.
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Who pays, who actually writes out the checks for the bills?
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But I'm saying, I don't think most relationships are traditional nowadays.
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So I don't think, like, using modern times, like, you'd really have to go back and, like, read, like, the history of, like, traditional relationships.
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But the man would still make the final say on all the expenses.
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So if she was spending money, it would be off of a budget that he signed off of, or, like, he told her, basically.
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Yeah, but she's still the one who's dispersing the money, right?
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She's still the one who's like, okay, this has to be done.
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It's like, he's putting the money in the bank account.
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Right, but my point is, though, it's still, like, his decision in a traditional relationship.
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But then isn't it the gate to abuse if such occurs?
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So what is the safety as paramount situation with if he's abusive and then he takes away all the savings?
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So she worked at home 20 years and he worked at work 20 years.
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And then he decides to bang his secretary, right?
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Well, there used to be protections for women, but we wanted equality.
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Yeah, under COVID-19 law, you know, which is traditional or it's seen now as the enslavement,
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the financial enslavement of women, but women did have a veto over major financial decisions.
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So a man couldn't just go, you know what, we're selling this family home and we're moving
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Men also in the UK had a responsibility, a legal responsibility and could be imprisoned
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if they were seen to be failing to keep their wives and children in like a state that was
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reasonable for the amount of wealth that they had.
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So if they've got their wife and kids dressed in rags, but they're like in silk suits and
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But they could also go to jail if the wife decided to just go and splurge a load of money,
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run up a load of debts that couldn't be paid back.
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The writings is like the one in New York where they're talking about why they didn't want
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women to vote because they were giving like the privileges that women had and they're
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And one of them was like, you could, yeah, you could send your husband to jail if he
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Well, you know, if you don't pay child support, they'll take you to jail.
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If you have a child support order and you do not pay your child support, you positively
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will go to jail until you have the almost like a bailout of a minimum of what you have to
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Because think about it, like men are just having babies all over the place.
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Again, if a man's getting more than one woman pregnant, that is the women being stupid.
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That is four, five stupid women to one stupid man.
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Do you think a man tells you upfront everything?
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Women will cry later when their friends said he was toxic.
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And then the women will whine later about the results.
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No, I don't believe this whole, the wool was over my eyes.
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Every man I've dated that has lied to me was because I was stupid and did not listen to
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And the only way I had better results was by realizing that and making better decisions.
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But women just want to say nothing is our fault.
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You don't have a male to go to to say, vet this man out.
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Well, then you seek out males that have your best interest at heart.
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But how do you know what male is going to have the best interest at heart?
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How many times has a woman been like, oh, this is my friend?
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Well, usually I would say married couples are probably the best.
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Well, yeah, but you can go to, you know, your church meetings or any of these kind of support groups that are full of men that are in their 70s.
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You know, the likelihood that they're going to be.
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Is that a married man is not going to try to sleep with you as well?
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I was literally going to say, I was expecting her to say, wouldn't a married man?
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She's giving you like five different options, but you keep asking, but why, but why, but why?
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I'm just telling you about the psychology of it.
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So literally women really don't want solutions.
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There is a saying that the most single men are married men.
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Women want the married men and they'll chase them down.
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I, but, but it was like these guys pay to learn how to like talk to women, get laid.
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One of the instructors said that if he wears a wedding ring, he gets more attention from
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So it's like, I really think this is all projection.
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Like the women are like the married men old sheep, but it's like, no, we chase after the
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You have your own choice, whether you're going to go for it or not.
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So if you're married and I'm chasing you and you give in, is that my fault?
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Is that your fault for not remembering your vows?
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It's like how many people takes to get pregnant too, right?
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No, I would say it's the woman's responsible if she gets pregnant.
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I think until men have equal reproductive rights.
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I think women do a lot of things wrong, but I also defend women.