Fat Model Gets TRIGGERED By The Superchats
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the importance of body positivity and the role it plays in our mental health. We also discuss whether or not we should all be obsessed with losing weight and what it really means to be healthy.
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would you say health is a priority to you yeah 100 percent one thousand percent a hundred percent
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a thousand percent in theory what does in theory mean yes no well it's a loaded question i can
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say that health is a priority um but i think i have unhealthy habits that i'm not actively
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addressing okay some of them i'm trying to yeah the progress is slow but it's there um so yeah
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i'd say it's a it is a priority but um there are levels to it okay what about you is health a
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priority uh yeah i think health is a complete priority but i also don't think that that totally
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relates to body positivity okay if that makes sense okay what explain that more um so for me
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like health is a priority um it's something i struggle with like i struggle if i could press
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a button and be like the healthiest weight in the world of course i'd push it in an instant and i
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think anyone would be lying if they said that they wouldn't push that button to just be a
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healthy weight instantly and and have all these things but um for me i struggle with it and i
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don't think that that makes me a bad person i don't think that means i should think less of myself for
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that and that's why i don't really associate that with body positivity because i don't hate myself for
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it even if it's something i should aspire to okay i think the girls had long answers there a lot of the
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guys in the room immediately go 100 percent thousand percent and then for the girls it's like ah it's
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complicated it's long answer yeah i just feel like is it a priority or is it not a priority it should
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be a i think all-around priority yeah that is one thousand percent of priority that's the reason why
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you wake up is the reason why you get off your bed and walk like you have to be healthy to be able to
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live right so who here um would you would say is actively trying to lose weight i am you are 100 you
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are yeah and what what have you guys done is it like workout diet yeah gym membership going to
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the gym trying to be more consistent with it and um making adjustments to eating habits but also
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mindset okay what do you mean by mindset uh not seeing working out and you know the steps towards
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prioritizing my health which are admittedly quite difficult some of them more than others
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as punishment but seeing it as a reward i think health is a reward for discipline um and just
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loving yourself a little bit more but if you see it as punishment it becomes something that you don't
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want to do so yeah changing my mindset to reward as opposed to punishment that's good um can could you
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turn up the headphones a little bit i'm just having a hard time hearing people um okay thank you
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um okay so next question do you guys think that body positivity promotes healthiness promotes health
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depends what aspect they're looking at it from um body positivity i know in the last last week we had
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this discussion about body positivity and for me it's not about me being on a big magazine or people like me
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being promoted it's more about um like for example being accommodated for in in public services and
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being mistreated just because of the size now i understand um i am the size i am but at the end of the
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day people with disabilities are also my size and people how how do you know if i don't have a hidden
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disability no one knows so i'm just saying that's why to me body positivity is important so that
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people don't get mistreated um i think that body positivity isn't important in terms of mental
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health i think there's a lot of people that really hate themselves because of their weight and i
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personally like on my socials get a lot of comments from people saying that they are so happy to see
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somebody my size comfortable with themselves and happy and posing in bikinis and things like that like
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all of my last instagram posts have been me in bikinis and i've got so many comments from people
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being like wow i wish i could wear that or i am gonna wear that because you wore that and it makes
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me feel like i can which i think some people would take as a back landed compliment but for me like as
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somebody i'm trying to lose weight i'm trying to be healthier because i know it's a priority i know
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something i need to do in my life but it's not my reality right now like i'm not at my full health i'm
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not the best i could possibly be but i'm still i don't hate myself for that and i think that um the fat
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shaming movement and like just being like these fat whales like what the are they doing who would
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say that that's like that's like a horrible your whole chat right now everyone in the chat right
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now i don't i don't know what you're talking about hey hey hey hey hey hey i only i say the whales
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no but unless i am insulted or attacked then i will i don't think that fat shaming helps anyone lose
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weight and i think it helps me lose weight the way that i have been though is i'm like i've i've
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gone online and i've said like i want to lose weight and i've held myself accountability like
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online really like yeah i made a video how much weight have you lost so since i made that video i've
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lost a stone okay that's great yeah how much is a stone i i know i don't know either i just
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14 pounds okay okay yeah so i made a video because i wasn't allowed down a slide that i wanted to go
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down and that was like a moment for me where i was like oh like i should be allowed down this slide
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you know like that was a a moment where i felt like okay i need to do something and it wasn't
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because i felt shame or whatever it was just like a bit of a like oh the average person can do this and
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i can't do it yeah so i was like i need to lose weight but it doesn't mean i don't respect anyone
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less for being overweight i understand what it's like to be overweight i've been skinny i've been
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overweight and i just i do think the body positivity moment is important for people to to like
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themselves and i think the best way to lose weight is is by liking yourself because you're doing
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something good for yourself i actually think that for me personally when i lost weight it
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it was because i didn't like myself i didn't like the way i looked and then it motivated me
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to lose weight so i and actually it was funny because when i did lose weight it was because
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someone i mean they didn't bully me directly but they were talking about how they would never date a
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girl over 200 pounds and i was like no i'm over yeah i thought he was cute so i was like no
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well pearl baby there's everybody for everybody what pearl baby there's everything for everybody
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if you're overweight you're 30 um you're 30 as a woman you're 30 percent like you're 30
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less likely to get you need to stop following statistics because you got listen yeah you don't
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know the power that big women have they captivate men i've seen it happen wow i've seen it happen
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you're also six foot though i would say 200 pound on you would look very different on five foot four
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200 pounds oh it's not to say like i know that's why they were making fun of it they didn't know how
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how big i was at the time but but no i was still overweight so it's still like i was still overweight
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when i looked at like my numbers so you know but it helped me like i ended up losing like 30 pounds at
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the time so and i never gained it back so you seem like a person who's well adjusted and quite
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mentally stable though and i don't think that's the case for everybody and i think when you tell
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a lot of fat people like you're overweight and that's disgusting they'll comfort eat and if you
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don't comfort eat that's never been in your nature you're never going to do that well yeah but i think
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the solution would be to maybe stop comfort even eating and like figure something else out
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comfort eating is a coping mechanism that people do that makes them overweight you know so when you
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tell someone like you're a fat cow they're going to be like oh i'm sad so i'm going to comfort
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i think we change the definition of body positivity because what body positivity is to me is numbers
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if you step on a scale and you see some numbers and then you become a better version of yourself
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every single day week or month and you see numbers that improve that's a positive result so body
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positive sorry body positivity is becoming better every day yeah but i feel like the question was
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does does body positivity promote health and it's no it does yeah exactly if you're if you're telling
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people it's okay to be at a heavy weight or okay to be obese and that's not healthy by the science
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it's not possible to be healthy so to answer pearl's question it doesn't promote health it doesn't promote
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positivity i would say it promotes mental health not physical health no because that's not the aim of the
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game but in terms of mental health and making people feel guilty about themselves and likely to
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make good choices about themselves i don't i just would think the first step with mental health is
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you're eating still because they say sugar affects your brain i i could pull up the research on it but
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i know there's like negative mental health effects from sugar this is true but i think the point of
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body positivity is not to say that it's okay to be fat and to encourage people to be fat yeah
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in answer like i completely agree with you body positivity does not necessarily promote health but
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it promotes not hating yourself while you look like what you look like don't waste a perfectly good
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day inside feeling like you can't go to that party or you you know you can't go to work and being a
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shut-in because you think people are gonna like take the mick out of you because you're fat like
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don't waste a perfectly good life because you're not where you want to be right now yeah like absolutely
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the body positivity movement you know it should um focus on health a little bit more but i think for
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the individuals concerned it's about not hating themselves and as i said not punishing themselves
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for not being where they want to be well she's saying mental health but wouldn't it be
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better like in pearl's case to get bullied and say hey you're getting a bit pudgy you're getting a bit
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fat maybe lose the weight and that'll promote better mental health and you know you're more
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comfortable with how you look yeah you're feeling healthier i don't know i'm not saying i'm for
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bullying but if it gets you to forget you to a better place and more comfortable with how you
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look i i think it's uh it's the right way to go especially when it comes to your physique and how
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you look and how would you know that i also think people misplace body positivity with mental positivity
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so what we're talking about is mental positivity like what you just explained
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is it's more in control of the mind than the body because when you think about body positivity and that
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we're promoting obesity or fat then it's not positive it's more going into the negative zone
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and statistically numbers would show that wouldn't you rather have someone that pulls your side and
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say hey i think you're getting a little bit unhealthy or hey you're putting on some weight maybe you
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should hit the gym eat healthier i'd like to have someone in my life like that put pull me in check
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but like you know if you're fat like i've been skinny and i've been fat and i've known when i'm fat i've
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not need anyone to tell me that i'm fat like i can see the numbers on the scale i can see where my
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clothes don't fit like they used to like you don't need someone to tell you i don't know it's like
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because every christmas at my grandma's house i would just know there's that one relative that
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if i came back fatter they would say something to me and it kind of motivated me every year because
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i'm like i don't want that aunt to you know but you know you know if you're fat like and sometimes
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people talk to fat people like they're not self-aware like they they know you know i know when i'm
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overweight i know i've been incredibly good shape before like i was in drama school where i was
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working out 12 hours a day but like now i'm not and i'm fat and i'm aware that i'm fat i don't
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need anyone to tell me that i'm fat and bullying like i mean for me it doesn't really work because
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i just phase out i mean i'm like i've been online for a long time so the things that people say don't
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affect me but for most people bullying famously does not work like it doesn't make me people feel good