JustPearlyThings - June 24, 2023


Fat Model Gets TRIGGERED By The Superchats


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11 minutes

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2,406

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1

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1

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Toxicity

2

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In this episode, we discuss the importance of body positivity and the role it plays in our mental health. We also discuss whether or not we should all be obsessed with losing weight and what it really means to be healthy.

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00:00:00.960 would you say health is a priority to you yeah 100 percent one thousand percent a hundred percent
00:00:08.720 a thousand percent in theory what does in theory mean yes no well it's a loaded question i can
00:00:16.800 say that health is a priority um but i think i have unhealthy habits that i'm not actively
00:00:22.640 addressing okay some of them i'm trying to yeah the progress is slow but it's there um so yeah
00:00:28.400 i'd say it's a it is a priority but um there are levels to it okay what about you is health a
00:00:35.200 priority uh yeah i think health is a complete priority but i also don't think that that totally
00:00:39.360 relates to body positivity okay if that makes sense okay what explain that more um so for me
00:00:47.040 like health is a priority um it's something i struggle with like i struggle if i could press
00:00:52.240 a button and be like the healthiest weight in the world of course i'd push it in an instant and i
00:00:56.000 think anyone would be lying if they said that they wouldn't push that button to just be a
00:00:59.280 healthy weight instantly and and have all these things but um for me i struggle with it and i
00:01:04.080 don't think that that makes me a bad person i don't think that means i should think less of myself for
00:01:07.840 that and that's why i don't really associate that with body positivity because i don't hate myself for
00:01:12.400 it even if it's something i should aspire to okay i think the girls had long answers there a lot of the
00:01:19.120 guys in the room immediately go 100 percent thousand percent and then for the girls it's like ah it's
00:01:24.480 complicated it's long answer yeah i just feel like is it a priority or is it not a priority it should
00:01:29.600 be a i think all-around priority yeah that is one thousand percent of priority that's the reason why
00:01:35.840 you wake up is the reason why you get off your bed and walk like you have to be healthy to be able to
00:01:41.040 live right so who here um would you would say is actively trying to lose weight i am you are 100 you
00:01:49.680 are yeah and what what have you guys done is it like workout diet yeah gym membership going to
00:01:55.520 the gym trying to be more consistent with it and um making adjustments to eating habits but also
00:02:02.320 mindset okay what do you mean by mindset uh not seeing working out and you know the steps towards
00:02:10.880 prioritizing my health which are admittedly quite difficult some of them more than others
00:02:15.760 as punishment but seeing it as a reward i think health is a reward for discipline um and just
00:02:21.680 loving yourself a little bit more but if you see it as punishment it becomes something that you don't
00:02:25.520 want to do so yeah changing my mindset to reward as opposed to punishment that's good um can could you
00:02:34.240 turn up the headphones a little bit i'm just having a hard time hearing people um okay thank you
00:02:41.360 um okay so next question do you guys think that body positivity promotes healthiness promotes health
00:02:52.000 depends what aspect they're looking at it from um body positivity i know in the last last week we had
00:03:00.800 this discussion about body positivity and for me it's not about me being on a big magazine or people like me
00:03:09.040 being promoted it's more about um like for example being accommodated for in in public services and
00:03:20.000 being mistreated just because of the size now i understand um i am the size i am but at the end of the
00:03:28.960 day people with disabilities are also my size and people how how do you know if i don't have a hidden
00:03:34.800 disability no one knows so i'm just saying that's why to me body positivity is important so that
00:03:42.000 people don't get mistreated um i think that body positivity isn't important in terms of mental
00:03:48.000 health i think there's a lot of people that really hate themselves because of their weight and i
00:03:52.560 personally like on my socials get a lot of comments from people saying that they are so happy to see
00:03:57.440 somebody my size comfortable with themselves and happy and posing in bikinis and things like that like
00:04:02.800 all of my last instagram posts have been me in bikinis and i've got so many comments from people
00:04:06.320 being like wow i wish i could wear that or i am gonna wear that because you wore that and it makes
00:04:11.120 me feel like i can which i think some people would take as a back landed compliment but for me like as
00:04:15.200 somebody i'm trying to lose weight i'm trying to be healthier because i know it's a priority i know
00:04:19.360 something i need to do in my life but it's not my reality right now like i'm not at my full health i'm
00:04:23.760 not the best i could possibly be but i'm still i don't hate myself for that and i think that um the fat
00:04:29.920 shaming movement and like just being like these fat whales like what the are they doing who would
00:04:34.480 say that that's like that's like a horrible your whole chat right now everyone in the chat right
00:04:40.000 now i don't i don't know what you're talking about hey hey hey hey hey hey i only i say the whales
00:04:51.120 no but unless i am insulted or attacked then i will i don't think that fat shaming helps anyone lose
00:04:56.960 weight and i think it helps me lose weight the way that i have been though is i'm like i've i've
00:05:02.080 gone online and i've said like i want to lose weight and i've held myself accountability like
00:05:05.600 online really like yeah i made a video how much weight have you lost so since i made that video i've
00:05:10.400 lost a stone okay that's great yeah how much is a stone i i know i don't know either i just
00:05:16.320 14 pounds okay okay yeah so i made a video because i wasn't allowed down a slide that i wanted to go
00:05:23.040 down and that was like a moment for me where i was like oh like i should be allowed down this slide
00:05:27.120 you know like that was a a moment where i felt like okay i need to do something and it wasn't
00:05:31.120 because i felt shame or whatever it was just like a bit of a like oh the average person can do this and
00:05:35.120 i can't do it yeah so i was like i need to lose weight but it doesn't mean i don't respect anyone
00:05:39.600 less for being overweight i understand what it's like to be overweight i've been skinny i've been
00:05:42.640 overweight and i just i do think the body positivity moment is important for people to to like
00:05:47.760 themselves and i think the best way to lose weight is is by liking yourself because you're doing
00:05:50.800 something good for yourself i actually think that for me personally when i lost weight it
00:05:55.520 it was because i didn't like myself i didn't like the way i looked and then it motivated me
00:06:00.160 to lose weight so i and actually it was funny because when i did lose weight it was because
00:06:05.680 someone i mean they didn't bully me directly but they were talking about how they would never date a
00:06:09.680 girl over 200 pounds and i was like no i'm over yeah i thought he was cute so i was like no
00:06:14.800 well pearl baby there's everybody for everybody what pearl baby there's everything for everybody
00:06:21.120 if you're overweight you're 30 um you're 30 as a woman you're 30 percent like you're 30
00:06:26.880 less likely to get you need to stop following statistics because you got listen yeah you don't
00:06:31.840 know the power that big women have they captivate men i've seen it happen wow i've seen it happen 1.00
00:06:38.480 you're also six foot though i would say 200 pound on you would look very different on five foot four
00:06:45.440 200 pounds oh it's not to say like i know that's why they were making fun of it they didn't know how
00:06:50.880 how big i was at the time but but no i was still overweight so it's still like i was still overweight
00:06:57.840 when i looked at like my numbers so you know but it helped me like i ended up losing like 30 pounds at
00:07:03.840 the time so and i never gained it back so you seem like a person who's well adjusted and quite
00:07:09.440 mentally stable though and i don't think that's the case for everybody and i think when you tell
00:07:13.200 a lot of fat people like you're overweight and that's disgusting they'll comfort eat and if you
00:07:16.880 don't comfort eat that's never been in your nature you're never going to do that well yeah but i think
00:07:21.040 the solution would be to maybe stop comfort even eating and like figure something else out
00:07:25.200 comfort eating is a coping mechanism that people do that makes them overweight you know so when you
00:07:30.000 tell someone like you're a fat cow they're going to be like oh i'm sad so i'm going to comfort
00:07:33.440 i think we change the definition of body positivity because what body positivity is to me is numbers 0.95
00:07:40.720 if you step on a scale and you see some numbers and then you become a better version of yourself
00:07:46.320 every single day week or month and you see numbers that improve that's a positive result so body
00:07:53.760 positive sorry body positivity is becoming better every day yeah but i feel like the question was
00:08:01.440 does does body positivity promote health and it's no it does yeah exactly if you're if you're telling
00:08:07.600 people it's okay to be at a heavy weight or okay to be obese and that's not healthy by the science
00:08:14.560 it's not possible to be healthy so to answer pearl's question it doesn't promote health it doesn't promote
00:08:20.160 positivity i would say it promotes mental health not physical health no because that's not the aim of the
00:08:27.280 game but in terms of mental health and making people feel guilty about themselves and likely to
00:08:30.800 make good choices about themselves i don't i just would think the first step with mental health is
00:08:34.960 you're eating still because they say sugar affects your brain i i could pull up the research on it but
00:08:39.760 i know there's like negative mental health effects from sugar this is true but i think the point of
00:08:44.560 body positivity is not to say that it's okay to be fat and to encourage people to be fat yeah
00:08:49.840 in answer like i completely agree with you body positivity does not necessarily promote health but
00:08:55.040 it promotes not hating yourself while you look like what you look like don't waste a perfectly good
00:09:00.320 day inside feeling like you can't go to that party or you you know you can't go to work and being a 0.95
00:09:05.920 shut-in because you think people are gonna like take the mick out of you because you're fat like 0.85
00:09:10.880 don't waste a perfectly good life because you're not where you want to be right now yeah like absolutely
00:09:16.720 the body positivity movement you know it should um focus on health a little bit more but i think for
00:09:22.960 the individuals concerned it's about not hating themselves and as i said not punishing themselves
00:09:27.760 for not being where they want to be well she's saying mental health but wouldn't it be
00:09:31.840 better like in pearl's case to get bullied and say hey you're getting a bit pudgy you're getting a bit
00:09:37.920 fat maybe lose the weight and that'll promote better mental health and you know you're more
00:09:43.040 comfortable with how you look yeah you're feeling healthier i don't know i'm not saying i'm for
00:09:47.520 bullying but if it gets you to forget you to a better place and more comfortable with how you
00:09:52.240 look i i think it's uh it's the right way to go especially when it comes to your physique and how
00:09:56.640 you look and how would you know that i also think people misplace body positivity with mental positivity
00:10:02.160 so what we're talking about is mental positivity like what you just explained
00:10:06.240 is it's more in control of the mind than the body because when you think about body positivity and that
00:10:11.360 we're promoting obesity or fat then it's not positive it's more going into the negative zone
00:10:17.600 and statistically numbers would show that wouldn't you rather have someone that pulls your side and
00:10:23.360 say hey i think you're getting a little bit unhealthy or hey you're putting on some weight maybe you
00:10:27.120 should hit the gym eat healthier i'd like to have someone in my life like that put pull me in check
00:10:32.480 but like you know if you're fat like i've been skinny and i've been fat and i've known when i'm fat i've
00:10:38.320 not need anyone to tell me that i'm fat like i can see the numbers on the scale i can see where my
00:10:42.160 clothes don't fit like they used to like you don't need someone to tell you i don't know it's like
00:10:45.680 because every christmas at my grandma's house i would just know there's that one relative that
00:10:50.720 if i came back fatter they would say something to me and it kind of motivated me every year because
00:10:55.920 i'm like i don't want that aunt to you know but you know you know if you're fat like and sometimes
00:11:01.040 people talk to fat people like they're not self-aware like they they know you know i know when i'm
00:11:05.120 overweight i know i've been incredibly good shape before like i was in drama school where i was
00:11:09.360 working out 12 hours a day but like now i'm not and i'm fat and i'm aware that i'm fat i don't
00:11:13.520 need anyone to tell me that i'm fat and bullying like i mean for me it doesn't really work because
00:11:17.760 i just phase out i mean i'm like i've been online for a long time so the things that people say don't
00:11:22.000 affect me but for most people bullying famously does not work like it doesn't make me people feel good
00:11:27.760 it doesn't make them work