JustPearlyThings - July 23, 2023


Female Teacher PROVES That Women Love Bad Boys

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Episode Stats


Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

195.51

Word count

2,056

Sentence count

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Harmful content

Misogyny

8

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Toxicity

7

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Hate speech

9

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about cheating, toxic relationships and what it means to leave a toxic one. We also talk about the difference between a nice guy and a nice girl and how to deal with cheating in a toxic relationship.

Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
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00:00:00.000 question how are you you're single right yeah are how old are you again 34 34 okay if you were to
00:00:06.320 never have children would you regret that decision no no because i now i would i don't see i never
00:00:13.760 see myself with him i just got out of a long relationship because i got cheated on um okay
00:00:19.920 so that's my next question so he cheated on you yeah how did you find out well we were already
00:00:24.960 broken up we just we literally wait wait well yeah so basically we ended the relationship not
00:00:32.400 because i wanted to but i had to it was very toxic relationship that was literally what was toxic
00:00:36.720 about it well it's not toxic about it there was always arguments there were always arguments there
00:00:46.160 was always there was a lot of um there was a lot of lying there was a lot of like not being honest
00:00:54.160 with each other not being like open communication you would both lie to each other no he would lie
00:00:59.040 to you a lot okay what would he lie about things like simple things like hey i'm going out okay
00:01:03.760 good where are you going i don't have to tell you that's not lying that's a lot but saying like oh
00:01:08.800 oh um things like um oh um i'm just what did he say what was things like oh i'm just gonna oh no
00:01:15.360 i'm just going to gym what are you gonna do with this and you end up being on a party you're like
00:01:18.160 on a boat party whatsoever oh no this shirt is for a friend i bought a shirt for a friend he was kind
00:01:20.960 of a party boy yeah okay yeah and so it's just interesting because it seems like it's like for
00:01:27.280 the for the party boy like you didn't break up with him or you did maybe because of cheating but it's
00:01:32.560 like no no it's not bad it was just that was just like i won't go into many details it was just like
00:01:37.680 i don't want to um no no no it was just like it was a very unhealthy relationship there were too many
00:01:42.800 arguments there was always the same problems kept coming back kept coming back kept coming back how long
00:01:47.680 were you with him four and a half years four and a half years yeah do you think it's fair to say
00:01:51.040 that nice guys finish last i don't know sometimes what do you mean that um that nice guy like when
00:02:01.120 women when men treat women too nice we don't appreciate them i would quite like to be treated very
00:02:07.520 nicely actually i think mature women everyone everyone uh thinks that men should respect women
00:02:16.160 right yeah yeah and you like that yeah both ways yeah it goes both it goes both ways very much i just
00:02:23.680 need to clarify that it goes both ways now i mean the relationship had to end but then when the
00:02:31.200 relationship ended it's not because i wanted to but it had to right but you wanted to stay with him
00:02:35.200 right but in my heart and like we broke up many times and every time i kept coming back because i
00:02:39.280 loved him so much okay but i'm just saying i'm just showing the difference in how you treated the nice
00:02:44.000 guy versus the party boy because the party boy you said you didn't want to leave but you did because
00:02:49.760 of the cheating right no no because i only found that out after we broke up okay yeah it was a toxic
00:02:55.440 relationship and you didn't want to leave where it seems like you were bored of the first guy which kind of
00:03:00.800 i think also because like i was a bit young a lot younger i understand but my only point is a lot of
00:03:05.600 times i hear the complaint from guys when they treat women too nice they don't appreciate them
00:03:10.480 and it just sounds like this is what happened no absolutely not no i definitely not absolutely
00:03:14.800 not i appreciated like that first boyfriend a lot like i had still now i if i look back on that
00:03:19.840 relationship it was a nice relationship it was good if there was just at one point but then the guys would
00:03:23.840 say then where is he like if you appreciated him then you wouldn't have dumped him no that's
00:03:28.240 bullshit because if i'm not if i'm not like in love with you anymore if the sexual attraction is 0.93
00:03:32.240 not not there anymore like if it's like you know but a common complaint i hear is that if they are 0.99
00:03:37.520 too nice to us that we don't appreciate them and we get bored and leave and i and i think it's a little
00:03:43.520 bit like i when i first heard it i was like well we don't do that but then i started listening and
00:03:48.160 looking at patterns i mean the first one wasn't always the nicest one either like but it was in general it
00:03:53.360 was a good it was a good relationship it was a good relationship but i look back on it as in that was a good
00:03:57.200 relationship we still every so often talk have a chat hey how are you doing you know like you should
00:04:02.480 cut him off to be honest you're not listening to what she's saying that's the point the point is it
00:04:05.760 was a good relationship by your judgment but you wanted to leave but then you also just came and said
00:04:12.640 you were in a toxic relationship and you didn't want to yeah and i said you know how many times i
00:04:18.080 ask myself that question because i think the thing is yeah oh trust me you know how many times i ask
00:04:23.040 myself that question so i'm not i'm not judging you i'm just i don't feel judged i'm just noticing a
00:04:28.560 pattern yeah where we we reward bad behavior and then wonder where the nice guys are yeah right oh no
00:04:35.200 i'll get you i'll get you i'll get you no i'm gonna read i'm gonna read super chats really quick yes
00:04:39.840 these are not my opinions with the opinions of the chat and i will read them sorry okay let's refrain from
00:04:45.440 adlibbing let her just run through the super chat please thank you dragon stallion one zero zero one
00:04:50.400 i'm gonna read that last because it's a question okay um remington lamb thank you for the super chat
00:04:56.480 i'm swiss lioness this guy is openly saying he cheated with 20 girls and nobody calls him that's
00:05:03.360 pearl why didn't you call him the hoe he's a hoe maker you know what i mean okay dragon stallion one zero 0.99
00:05:08.720 zero one you're wrong about jada you're wrong jada pinkett women have been working since the 1400s 1.00
00:05:14.720 even had a female dutch trading company ceo in 1645 sean hensley um they don't value men that work
00:05:23.440 they sure as stink aren't going to do the work themselves um dj b fit how many of you girls broke 1.00
00:05:30.160 up with someone and hopped into another relationship dragons actually let's just do raise of hands who
00:05:36.000 here has broken up with someone and hopped into another relationship men and women raise your hand if
00:05:40.560 you've done that what you just said you did it when okay one two three okay so three out of the panel
00:05:53.920 all right all right um okay question for jada pinkett if you're having so there's a question for you
00:06:00.320 if you're having a home invasion do you want two women police to show up or two male police to show up 0.92
00:06:05.680 two men police just because of the bias that i have that they're stronger okay you think it's a
00:06:11.840 bias or do you think it's reality it depends how tall they are right yeah no they are just stronger
00:06:18.720 they are just stronger you cannot say i'm stronger than 90 percent of women i can't do 0.96
00:06:24.240 shit if any of these guys break into my apartment thank you like i i deadlift 300 pounds you know 0.98
00:06:31.520 how much it is for a girl it's a lot right you've got homer you've got homer you're fine 0.99
00:06:38.800 and someone i don't know who said it but someone just said something uh depends on how tall they are
00:06:42.640 that's a delusion that women have and this is why women think the taller a guy is the more he can 0.99
00:06:46.800 protect you if you go to look in all the combat spots most of the most deadly fighters are all short men
00:06:52.480 that's true when people come up with this rhetoric that uh it depends on how tall it is it's just not
00:06:57.040 true but you're you're a unit mate yeah i can't see you not do you know what i mean i'm different
00:07:09.120 okay um all right let's talk about let's go in depth into cheating is cheating different for men and for
00:07:17.120 women okay i think generally we're speaking generally yeah then yes i think um men generally
00:07:26.800 could probably do it and not think anything of it it's just like wham bam thank you ma'am and out
00:07:32.800 whereas i think if a woman does it it's more emotional it's you know you're more connected
00:07:37.760 attracted it's psychological emotional every all of that stuff so there's more going on so i think it
00:07:44.800 definitely has a different uh impact for men and women generally generally yeah i'm banning it to
00:07:50.480 please no it depends please just a general go ahead no i do agree with everything that she said okay
00:08:00.160 what about you i think every relationship has to uh before you kind of progress with someone you have
00:08:06.960 to discuss like what your boundaries are and what you consider as cheating because for someone maybe
00:08:12.320 flirting with with a stranger can be cheating as well and some people don't is it different for
00:08:17.680 men and for women i don't think so i think it really um you think it's something to discuss in
00:08:22.800 the relationship no so i'm asking is it is it exactly the same when they cheat yes yes okay and you
00:08:29.280 think that women can have sex just as casually as men in terms of cheating or in general yes do you think 0.83
00:08:36.240 they do you think they cheat for the same reasons i feel like with women probably for emotional reasons 1.00
00:08:44.400 like what you said yeah so then wouldn't it be different and for for guys would be still i feel like
00:08:51.680 the common reason is that the relationship is not strong enough so people are looking for ways to kind
00:08:58.800 of feel like this emotional hole you think when men cheat it's to fill an emotional hole it's still
00:09:06.240 to do with like maybe a bit of ego boost or maybe they feel emasculated in their relationship
00:09:12.480 so in a way it's all to do with emotional reasons i don't think so me neither i'm not sure i agree either 0.89
00:09:20.720 i think men will have sex with a hole in the wall yeah i agree with that true to me with that 0.77
00:09:28.000 haven't you ever it's like haven't you ever heard a woman say like i can't believe he cheated with her 0.98
00:09:33.760 like she's ugly yeah yeah yeah you think it was like for an emotional need i feel like it still means
00:09:41.200 that the the man is emotionally weak i think a truly like confident and strong man can resist any like
00:09:49.200 physical urge or anything what do you okay so i have a question so in nba players and hockey
00:09:55.600 professional hockey players i had a guy on the show he dated a girl that was um like one of the
00:10:00.960 their groupies now what is what is a groupie what what do these women do they'll rent out a hotel room 1.00
00:10:07.040 at these games and try to get the guys to cheat on their wives they'll find out where they're at so 1.00
00:10:13.360 there's like men's only like events that they have where the wives aren't allowed to come these women 1.00
00:10:18.000 will find them learn everything about the guy and try to get them to cheat