JustPearlyThings - June 18, 2023


Female TikToker Exposes Modern Marriages


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Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

175.2366

Word count

1,796

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

3

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Toxicity

3

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Hate speech

1

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about the weight epidemic and how the food industry is to blame for it. We also talk about how women are more likely than men to gain weight after getting married and how to deal with it.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 okay i'm going to read the super chats really quick while we're waiting for him to bring it up
00:00:10.080 uh denalva it's so funny they made an account denalva denalva denalva denalva the actual corn
00:00:15.580 industry industry really sold the public a bill of goods uh sold us waste corn and byproducts
00:00:23.380 and surplus and cereal and told us it was healthy um all of those juices are full of sugar that's
00:00:29.500 not what you want a huge contributor to the weight epidemic is propaganda by the food industry sugar
00:00:34.000 and carbs in any form are going to be stored as fat um let me one second guys also make sure you
00:00:42.820 like the video guys again just a reminder we are going to open up the chat at um 1500 likes
00:00:51.100 and then i just want to see how many it was oh is it just the two okay it doubled are you are you
00:00:58.120 ready with it all right
00:00:59.020 and it was all yellow
00:01:14.040 interesting did she make that that's why i won it
00:01:39.640 that's actually it's funny because i'll be like what the hell i've been going unhealthy throughout
00:01:48.920 the years because she's that's the thing there's there's a yes she's celebrating herself but the
00:01:54.520 way it's done with happy music i'd be i'd be actually no i can't say i can't don't want to say anything but
00:02:00.760 i don't know like i've put on up i was 28 stones and one thing that i know i guess people are different
00:02:10.040 and it's good she's celebrating herself but again that's the type of i see how when skinnier people
00:02:17.540 skinnier than me look at this video i can i can imagine what they think so i know that you guys aren't
00:02:24.380 also what do you think they think they think oh gosh she's she's dying she is her insides are growing
00:02:32.860 older and and i'm not gonna lie same with me when i'm when i'm eating certain things i'm thinking oh
00:02:39.260 gosh oh gosh like something and you know with big people as well like yeah let me give some big plus size
00:02:48.380 facts when you have to go to the loo i'm telling you it feels like fireworks are in your belly and
00:02:55.340 and there is a pressure so but like all these plus size okay sorry i think i'm going sorry guys sorry
00:03:01.420 i'm the thing is this for me like so i'm a big fan of love i'm a big fan of like being in love and
00:03:07.500 being in relationship having a good woman in your life and for me like i just maybe this is selfish but
00:03:13.980 like you need to stay skinny so you don't die because i don't want to do this again
00:03:18.220 i don't want to fall in love and lose you and all that so anytime i'm in a relationship with a girl
00:03:23.740 whether she works out or not she's gonna start working out when she's dating me so i would just
00:03:28.060 hate to see that as a person dating someone who is gaining weight and then i have to be like looking
00:03:35.020 and dealing with the health issues that come with that yeah so women are more likely than men to gain 1.00
00:03:40.380 weight after marriage so do you guys think it's fair to gain weight after getting married
00:03:48.140 why not i i don't think it's fair i don't think so either you don't think it's fair drop it on them
00:03:52.780 pam drop it on them pam that person met you a certain way oh yeah and obviously that's what
00:04:01.100 they went for and that's what they desired so that's what they will continue to desire and although they
00:04:06.460 would probably still love you they definitely wouldn't find you still as attractive that's just
00:04:11.660 that's just how it would be yeah i think that's just like a lot of i think that's like really
00:04:15.740 common sense that's really not present in today's generation because it's just like
00:04:21.020 it's unfair it's so selfish to just like that's like a guy getting a relationship with a girl
00:04:26.620 like oh you know what i'm gonna quit my job and i want you to take care of me
00:04:33.580 you guys encourage your partners just encourage them with food encourage them exercise why do we
00:04:39.740 have like for example yeah but he probably was encouraging her but she she literally gained
00:04:45.420 120 pounds that's a whole other human but they did it together it feels it seems like they it was
00:04:50.220 their couple goal it was like goals you know couple no no no they didn't she she got bigger and he didn't
00:04:56.140 get that much bigger yeah let's play it we play it again anyway you guys don't know the world of top
00:05:01.900 chasers as well i'm i am big so i can tell you the world of top chasers as well but we're talking about the
00:05:06.300 video like the key i know but again he probably likes big women no no come on he wouldn't have
00:05:11.740 then he would have married listen wait wait wait he would have married a big woman if you wanted a big
00:05:17.100 woman so i think it's one thing if you marry wait if you marry a chick and she's like over i don't know 1.00
00:05:23.020 what 200 pounds is here okay that's one thing but it's like if you sign up for one thing and then
00:05:29.100 she bamboozles you later you think that's fair just like if i marry a guy thinking he's gonna pay all the 1.00
00:05:34.700 bills and i'm gonna get to be a stay-at-home wife and that's what i thought and then one day he's
00:05:39.180 like you know what yeah i just don't feel like working anymore but i don't feel like being faithful 0.99
00:05:47.020 anymore i'm just gonna go fuck every girl i could find now or on her side too it just not be cool i 0.99
00:05:54.460 just think that you need to be because i think it's common sense when you get a relationship you're like 0.99
00:06:00.300 okay this is what i like so let's try to keep this going or make this better right and if it
00:06:09.580 goes both ways yeah and i think that i've i've been there i've been in a relationship and i've put on
00:06:15.180 weight in that relationship so i'm not just talking you know blindly i've gone up to 16 stone at my
00:06:21.260 heaviest so but i also know that as much as you try to put this body positivity on everything at the
00:06:27.900 particular at that particular point in my life i was very unhappy through a lot of reasons because
00:06:34.220 i knew that i wasn't the same person i was when my partner met me and i didn't feel confident in
00:06:39.180 myself but even though i've lost that weight i've still carried that with me so for the americans at
00:06:45.500 home i was calculating yeah 16 stone is 224 pounds you look great you look 220 pounds 59 like nearly 16
00:06:55.180 stone that's wow you look seriously but i know how i fit so as much as people used to say oh you look
00:07:01.420 good me personally for myself i didn't feel that way but you know i felt i i was like that my whole
00:07:08.780 life but i was just sick and tired of being unhappy i'm like do you know this world is so short yeah and
00:07:15.500 if you can get to that point without that then great but me personally it was just a massive thing
00:07:20.860 for me i couldn't get past it it's amazing how good you look now that's a key because a lot of the
00:07:24.940 majority of people they when they get that big they can't go back it's a large percentage of people
00:07:31.340 that yeah i was at my heaviest i was 19 stone that's more than 16 stone so that wow are you guys friends
00:07:41.980 yeah yeah you guys meet each other did you guys do it together yeah did you lose it together i i i
00:07:47.420 was literally the the fat kid that ate cake i was the food was my comfort it was it was everything to
00:07:53.420 me matilda yeah and and that's that's all i loved and it was an everyday thing but in my head in my mind
00:08:00.700 i was shifting the weight but the reality of it as i wasn't i wasn't motivated and there was nothing to work
00:08:06.380 toward um and i lived with that for most of my childhood i lived with that throughout my early
00:08:12.060 adult years um i i had children when i was young so obviously after having children um you've got the
00:08:19.100 baby weight that stayed on you and then you will have areas of your body then that um that you can't
00:08:25.900 cover up yeah you know that you can't hide um and so that kind of led me to then staying at home
00:08:32.540 um and then there's a cycle after that um where you know you you're at home you're socially excluded
00:08:40.940 from from from places and people um and then you tend to put yourself into a box uh a self-hate
00:08:48.220 then um because whatever trauma that you actually had which got you there starts to manifest as you
00:08:54.620 get older and when you look at the people around you when you look at how people respond to you
00:08:59.500 um you're constantly battling yourself and it is self um and and for me i had to heal first i had
00:09:07.100 to first figure out what was the trauma yeah where's the problem um and with that you don't even know
00:09:13.740 where to begin because you don't know what the problem is um then you have to soul search you have
00:09:18.620 to look who you've got around you you don't have to look at your parents um how you grew up your school
00:09:24.380 days um and all of that you have to calculate and sometimes you are the problem sometimes the way
00:09:30.300 that you've behaved is a problem however the way that you've behaved isn't necessarily because you've
00:09:35.660 wanted to be that way but you was trying to be something that you was not in the first instance
00:09:40.700 so for me once i discovered all of that um and i and i shifted to to some weight and got to a healthy
00:09:47.580 weight i then chose for me to have surgery that was that was the gift to myself so after i'd healed
00:09:55.500 and i'd recognized where the trauma came from and i dealt with that trauma
00:09:59.340 my gift to myself then was to have surgery what kind of surgery i had a tummy tuck good for you i've
00:10:05.020 had liposuction