JustPearlyThings - Feminist Claims That Being A Traditional Woman Is BORING

00:00:00.000 feel like being traditional is boring like as women i feel like we're constantly being told how

00:00:04.960 to be all the time like you have to be like this you have to do this like this is you a feminist 1.00

00:00:10.360 are you a feminist yeah i guess so like okay okay i'm not i'm not on any one side i'm i'm just

00:00:20.340 i think i'm here today to just learn right so do you now think because being a what what is

00:00:27.380 boring in being a traditional woman like the whole idea of like staying at home and cooking and like 1.00

00:00:33.560 looking after the kids like do you think you only think that way because you're exposed to so much

00:00:39.380 more you know there's more that you can do okay yes like that's why i said it sorry darling go ahead

00:00:44.940 so can i ask the women here do you classify yourself as a modern or a traditional woman

00:00:50.340 i think i contrast between both i think most everyone does both yeah i would love to be a

00:00:57.720 traditional woman but i don't have that option because maybe i've made decisions or i've gone 0.86

00:01:03.180 through certain things in life that now i may be deemed by the likes of you guys i'm no longer

00:01:07.620 traditional i feel like you can go through periods as well like when you're younger you might be like

00:01:13.340 non-traditional and as you get older you start to learn okay maybe there's some value in being

00:01:18.180 a bit but that's the whole point yeah decrease in value yeah like the whole point is like girls 0.98

00:01:22.960 want to sleep around in their 20s and then at 30 run to a man and like but you've lost the things

00:01:27.540 you that men value by the time you're 30 you're no longer pure you're no longer youthful and so

00:01:32.460 men are kind of tired of it because what happens is they'll date the bad boys the rappers whatever

00:01:36.680 in their 20s and then they hit 30 one guy thinks like this is his lucky ticket this girl's super

00:01:41.460 into him but she just wants kids and like she really feels like she's settled for him she gets the

00:01:46.220 kids and then half the time leaves yeah can i be can i ask the ladies a question in the room do you 1.00

00:01:50.720 want a traditional man when i say traditional man i mean the kind because if you're going it depends

00:01:56.980 how far back you want to go but we're talking like he tells you it's his rules in his house

00:02:02.000 right so it's kind of like you utterly submit to him right yeah he's paying the bills he's protecting

00:02:08.980 all of those things but like there are pros of being traditional yeah but there's the other side of

00:02:13.880 the coin that you have to accept as well so i guess i'm asking do you want do you guys want a

00:02:17.900 traditional man so if i'm if i'm honest if i'm honest i think i could have been with that when i

00:02:23.660 was younger so when i when i if my ex-husband if he treated me like that he would have got he we

00:02:30.360 would be living like that and it would have been fine because we got married young and everything

00:02:33.640 and that's all i knew but now that um i've had to grind i've had to go through struggles and stuff

00:02:40.060 i've had to put myself in certain situations it will it will take a lot for me to decide to get

00:02:45.420 into that i think i'd want a mixture yeah like my husband i think he is a mixture in terms of

00:02:52.440 obviously his his word is final but he lets me do what i want to do there's no restriction

00:02:57.600 on that on on me so i'm still thinking that's traditional okay i don't think restriction is

00:03:04.740 necessarily like if your husband said um like say say they wanted to go somewhere and he said

00:03:10.780 no i don't think you should go would you say um i'd ask

00:03:15.360 i'd ask i'd ask why and if it was like if he said babe like because he's he's in the security world

00:03:26.120 so he's one as when he says risk i sit down and this is what i say sometimes when because me and

00:03:33.500 omatoyasi we if i call omatoyasi and she's got a man i say we're going out she says i'm not coming

00:03:38.840 i'll be like cool or even if she and this is why so when some people say that um you shouldn't be

00:03:43.720 friends who with people who are single because they're bad influenced i don't believe that because

00:03:48.780 you see my married friends they can never call me to tell me that we're going to the club together

00:03:52.000 i'm not going to no club with you what are you doing there yeah you're an exception though

00:03:54.900 no but there's a lot of girls that are like that most girls want their friends to be single so 1.00

00:03:59.800 they this is why i don't think there's anything wrong with asking your single friend to go to

00:04:06.040 never take advice from women because a girl will want to put you in the same situation she's in how 1.00

00:04:12.200 many girls will get his friends will get a man and they'll be like oh he's taking you away from me 0.91

00:04:15.920 i agree with i agree with you because i i i mean i think girls have fomo like naturally

00:04:24.680 like if if most girls if you see all your friends are going to something you're going to want to go

00:04:30.020 and if your dude doesn't want you to go like i've seen it cause problems if i'm happy in my marriage

00:04:35.580 if i'm happy listen you guys have fun i'm gonna be my man but in any relationship there's going to

00:04:41.800 be times where you're not yeah but and and yeah sorry i keep interrupting sorry sorry no but i'm saying

00:04:47.560 so like in any relationship there's going to be times when you're not and i think sometimes like when

00:04:51.680 the rubber hits the road like the single friends aren't the best influence and i'm not saying all

00:04:55.960 the time but i'd say by and large you wouldn't say most women are probably bad influences on their 1.00

00:05:00.100 on their married friends i would never tell my friend to leave her husband or do anything that

00:05:04.360 will impact her marriage if she's doing something that's wrong i'm gonna tell it it's regardless i'm

00:05:09.200 single or not because i think as you get older and you get exposed maybe because we're in the podcast

00:05:14.640 world and you have different discussions you realize that look everybody is here for their

00:05:19.560 individual things like we didn't come into this world together and we're definitely not going to

00:05:23.460 leave together so you have to respect if you love your friend that much you will embrace and make

00:05:28.480 sure what they've got going on is as successful as possible if you mean that you're the exception in

00:05:32.440 it i genuinely think you are an exception i feel like i think you're like that though no no yeah because

00:05:40.500 when we when i'm going through my issues and whatever you is to ride it out yeah i know but

00:05:46.460 there's some like that's like talking to you one-on-one okay personal situation i'm saying

00:05:51.620 like for example as a single person if my married friend was having issues in her marriage i'm like

00:05:55.980 come out with me like let's go do something like let's go to the club to get your mind up with

00:06:00.100 things but subconsciously it's a it's not a good influence yeah but you'll be the same person after

00:06:06.920 after she's had the fun you'll be the same person to sit her down and tell where she went wrong

00:06:10.440 i've seen you do it so many times should i tell you what i i think a big part of it like i i agree

00:06:14.380 i think i think if a woman feels that the man that she is with is the top man in the sub she feels like

00:06:20.840 she won with him right then i think she's like you know what now i don't feel like i need to i don't

00:06:25.500 feel like i'm missing out because i knew how hard it was to find a man yeah but i think if a girl 0.94

00:06:30.660 is or if a woman is with a man that she feels like she's settled for

00:06:34.720 then she can almost see the opportunity of going out and still being able to fish

00:06:39.820 but what's the reason for going out then going out and just find

00:06:42.980 attention why can't you just go out just to enjoy yourself but i feel women settle all the time 1.00

00:06:48.700 do you think women would go to clubs do women do women settle or do they get what they can get 0.96

00:06:54.680 like to me that's the same thing yeah but i'm saying i'm not getting what i want

00:06:58.160 i'm getting what i can get so it's a settle to me right but i wouldn't say you're settling if you

00:07:02.100 okay if you go to the store and you're worth five dollars and you're bought for five dollars

00:07:07.140 you might you might have like you know seen seen a ten dollar product at some point i think it's like

00:07:13.180 imagine if you're going to go to uni and you're like oh this is no despair for anyone here but it's

00:07:16.680 like oh um i'm going to reading uni like i'm setting him for ready and i want to go to oxford

00:07:20.580 it's like okay well did you get into oxford no well then you didn't settle for ready that was the

00:07:26.140 best choice for you because we're all selfish by design and this is what happens when the man

00:07:30.880 that's a 10 bangs a girl that's a three then you call us deluded because we think we can get a man 1.00

00:07:37.680 that's a 10. you know i was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this

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JustPearlyThings - April 09, 2023

Feminist Claims That Being A Traditional Woman Is BORING

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