JustPearlyThings - July 23, 2023


＂Freeze Your EGGS Free Your Career＂

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Bridget Adams Right
This Feminist COULD NOT Defend Her Own Claims Woman TRIES To Wizzle Her Way Through This Question

Episode Stats


Length

7 minutes

Words per minute

195.32

Word count

1,394

Sentence count

111

Harmful content

Misogyny

26

sentences flagged

Toxicity

1

sentences flagged

Hate speech

10

sentences flagged


Summary

Summaries generated with gmurro/bart-large-finetuned-filtered-spotify-podcast-summ .

Bridget Adams was a Vassar graduate who dreamed of starting a family in her late 30s. She decided to freeze her eggs in order to have more kids in her 40s, but when her eggs didn t fertilize, she went to a sperm donor.

Transcript

Transcript generated with Whisper (turbo).
Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Toxicity classifications generated with s-nlp/roberta_toxicity_classifier .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
Hosts, guests, and mentioned names generated with spaCy (en_core_web_sm), reconciled against Wikidata.
00:00:00.000 So it's frustrating because the trad cons, whenever we talk about this problem, we'll just say, oh,
00:00:06.040 you're just focusing on the bad women. But really, the trad cons are equally as feminist as the 1.00
00:00:11.800 non-trad cons. And I don't say this to be mean. I don't mean bad people. But what I mean is we
00:00:16.920 have lived a life in accordance to what feminist wants from us. It's me too. This is what society 0.97
00:00:23.180 has produced. So another lie that they have sold us women is that we have unlimited time to have 0.98
00:00:29.580 children and you can just freeze your eggs. So there is a woman that was on the cover of Business 1.00
00:00:37.240 Week. Freeze your eggs, freeze your career. A new fertility procedure gives women more choice than 1.00
00:00:45.160 ever to have it all. This is a lie that feminism has taught us, that we can, in fact, have it all. 1.00
00:00:51.680 We, yes, you can have a career, you can have children. Now, are there women that have had it all? 1.00
00:00:58.180 Sure. I mean, there's probably a couple women in history that have had a family and a crazy good 1.00
00:01:04.700 career. One that comes to my mind is like that Supreme Court justice. She had the two kids. 1.00
00:01:11.000 Do you know what I'm talking about? There's some lady. She's on the Supreme Court now, 1.00
00:01:14.000 had two kids. She's married. Okay. There are exceptions, but exceptions do not make the rule.
00:01:20.600 And the rule is that women cannot have it all. Now, what is the kicker? This woman that has been 1.00
00:01:25.260 telling women for decades, yes, you can have it all. You can have a family and a career. What's come
00:01:30.420 out? The cruel twist of fate for single women who froze her eggs in her 30s to free her career. 1.00
00:01:35.860 She says, she says, Bridget Adams caused the sensation four years ago when she appeared on the
00:01:42.140 cover of Bloomberg Business Week under the headline, freeze your eggs, freeze your career. She was single
00:01:47.540 and blonde. A Vassar graduate who spoke fluent Italian and working in the tech market for a number of
00:01:53.660 prestigious companies. Her story was one of empowerment, how a new fertility procedure 1.00
00:01:58.840 was giving women more choices as the magazine noted provocatively in the quest to have it all. 0.92
00:02:05.700 Adams remembers feeling a wonderful sense of freedom after she froze her eggs in her late 30s,
00:02:11.120 despite the $19,000 cost. Her plan was to work a few more years, find a great guy to marry and still 0.99
00:02:17.000 have a house full of her own children. But it didn't turn out the way she hoped.
00:02:21.740 In early 2017, with her 45th birthday looming and no signs of Mr. Right, she decided to start a family
00:02:32.160 on her own. She excitedly unfroze the 11 eggs she had stored and selected a sperm donor. Two eggs 0.92
00:02:40.260 failed to survive the thawing process. Three more failed to fertilize. The last six embryos,
00:02:46.300 of which five appeared to be abnormal, the last one was implanted in her uterus.
00:02:50.600 On the morning of March 7th, she got the devastating news that it too had failed.
00:02:55.420 Adams was not pregnant and her chance of carrying her child had just dropped to near zero. She
00:03:00.680 remembers screaming like a wild animal, throwing books, her laptops, and collapsing to the ground.
00:03:06.780 So this woman has been selling women the dream that you can have it all and have kids in your late 1.00
00:03:11.880 40s. And you know what I noticed too? She worked in tech. And what did they do in the tech industry?
00:03:18.160 It's all like a system. They basically give us this job, these jobs that make us feel like we're
00:03:23.900 doing more than we are and more important than we are. In all honesty, what do I do? I add commentary
00:03:28.620 to society. Now, I'm not saying this isn't important work and I don't like it, but at the end of the day,
00:03:34.360 it is not as important as the men building the buildings. It is not as important as the men
00:03:38.620 running the infrastructure of society. But women will get these high paying jobs that are really 1.00
00:03:45.420 subsidized by the men. They basically, in these industries, they have quotas and they have money
00:03:52.040 that is funded by these billionaires out there. What are these evil people that give them money 0.99
00:03:57.220 to increase their diversity score? And if they hire more women, they get a higher diversity score. 1.00
00:04:03.560 So what happens? The women get in these tech jobs. They're making way more than the men. 1.00
00:04:08.340 So now they're like, I don't want to date the men because they don't make enough.
00:04:12.000 Even though it's all fake. It's like a fake bubble. So they get these jobs. They think they make more
00:04:18.640 money than they do because the money they're making doesn't match the value added to society because
00:04:24.080 the top men are subsidizing their jobs. The men are doing the real work in these industries.
00:04:29.380 The women are just there to look pretty. Let's just call it what it is. And you see this because 1.00
00:04:34.300 you see all the women giving their what I do in a day at their tech jobs jobs. And it looks like
00:04:38.900 la la land. These women are making six figures. And you see on TikTok there, this is what I do in a 1.00
00:04:43.880 day. And who got laid off when the rubber hit the road and all of these tech companies were
00:04:48.460 unprofitable. The women were the ones that got laid off. We saw all these women crying on TikTok about 1.00
00:04:53.520 how they got laid off at their tech jobs because in all honesty, they haven't been held to the same
00:04:57.840 standards that men have been held it to. And they've just had these cushy jobs. And they have
00:05:03.840 not put in the same amount of work that men do. So then it eliminates all of their dating prospects
00:05:10.240 because they out earn everybody. It makes them think they're hotter than they are because they're
00:05:15.560 around all these high value guys that don't pick them. And then they're told that they can wait until
00:05:21.360 they're 45 to have children. And most IVF treatments fail over a certain age. I can't remember off the
00:05:30.040 top of my head what it is. But and on top of that, I'm hearing from some fertility doctors that a natural
00:05:35.600 way would be more effective. And we keep telling women, you can have it all, you can have it all. 1.00
00:05:40.700 But the truth of the matter is you can't have everything. And even the women that have it all on 1.00
00:05:44.900 paper, I guarantee in some way the kids suffered. Because you can't be in two places at once. You're
00:05:50.760 either raising the kids or you're not. And I just think it's sad that we have lied to women. And
00:05:58.320 women, we do make our own choices. We absolutely do. And at some point, we have to take accountability 0.99
00:06:04.440 for the fact that these are our own choices. But it's like as women, we're so silly. Like we just 1.00
00:06:09.740 believe silly things. Like why do you think we still believe in the pay gap? Why do you think we just
00:06:14.100 believe we're oppressed even though we live life on easy mode? Because if you give women a sad story,
00:06:19.540 you say here is a sad story of a woman being oppressed. We just believe it. And we have to 1.00
00:06:24.520 start calling this stuff out. Because we'll give a happy story like we'll give a happy story of a
00:06:31.260 woman getting pregnant at 45 and we just believe it. Like we hear all of these stories on social media
00:06:36.100 and we just believe them. We believe the happy stories of women coming out on top. We believe the sad
00:06:41.340 stories of women being oppressed. And at some point, we have to call out the men that are pandering to
00:06:47.620 us and the women that are pandering to us because it doesn't help us. And, you know, you kind of have 0.96
00:06:54.780 to make a choice. You can either sit back as a chick and notice it. And once you're red pill and you see it, 0.69
00:07:00.520 you can't unsee it. And you can speak out about it so other women can know or you can just sit silently.