Haters ACCUSE Pearl of this
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Summary
In today's episode, we are joined by my dear friend and mentor, Krista, to talk about what it means to be a woman in the 21st century and how to navigate the world of dating and relationships. We dive deep into how to find the right man, what to look for in a potential husband, and what to do when it comes to finding a husband.
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say oh my gosh oh no they say that I am I body shame because my ex left me for a
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fat girl that's what they said story they say it's not true but that's what
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they like that's what they say they go she just hates us but then yeah oh my
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goodness oh my goodness yeah so you know it yet so they'll be like oh did he
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hurt you I'm just like leave me alone yeah I mean if you've lived life for any
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moment of time you've got a heartbreaking story so like miss me with that one I
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admire mmm I love that mm-hmm I admire you he's just so important I just feel
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better hearing them and saying them and one thing while you're looking I would
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just offer if you can't say this to your man you have the wrong man and that's
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okay move towards somebody that you can say this to submission is not an eaten
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submission is not an issue when you have a man that you admire and trust and
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respect and love and believe in it's like whatever you say yeah but but it's
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like we don't a lot of times like we can't even admit there's a problem yeah
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you got to start with that yeah you have to start with that what is the biggest
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problem that you would say that we're blinded to hmm I would say there's a lot
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of women that think that they're traditional and they're not mmm so I
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would say there's a lot of women that say they're traditional and genuinely go
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through life thinking they're traditional because maybe their parents were they
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watched it but they have no traditional skills agreed and it goes back to that
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other list that we had the wife resume you know just like a job right it gets
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really personal when we talk about relationships but even when you're going
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for a job you have your resume of your strengths the thing that the things that
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you're good at and when you go apply for a job they're gonna look at that and
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they're gonna compare it to the job description and if I'm looking for
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someone who cooks five nights a week and you don't then it's not a good match
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you know if I'm looking for someone who's ready to you know be a stay-at-home
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mom or whatever it is and you want to work 60 hours a week then it's not a
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good match so you know the traditional values and I'm a very traditional
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person but I accept and I understand that that doesn't apply to everyone
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circle back to the types of marriages if you're marrying somebody let's say I
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knew a family member of mine got married and they lived apart they lived in
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different states because someone was wrapping up like a doctoral program so
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twice a month one of the other couple would fly you know back and that that
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worked for them so I'm not saying there's only one way that'll work but
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the man that you're interested in what are his expectations and does it match
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with what you bring to the table yeah that's the other thing I would say that
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women are delusional about is like we often think we bring more than we do oh
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absolutely and we don't realize like a lot of people say that I'm like hating on
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women when I say we bring less to the table than ever before but I just think
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it's honest yeah I think what we have now as accomplishments are more than what
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like my mom and women of other generations have however it's not a value to a
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man yes so the fact that I pay my mortgage have a car take vacations come
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to see pearl all of that is great for me but if I'm looking for a man or caught
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myself if I want to belong to a man and he's looking for someone who is useful to
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him I would just advise that we don't lead with those things because basically it
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says me me me III so he's like well what do I need you for mm-hmm so I feel
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like you're like putting us on game this is so helpful oh well honestly you know
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I mean Kevin is here and you know shout out to the Godfather you know we talked
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about this yesterday I actually booked a session you know with him and you know
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we can talk about you know other things but I always got convicted whenever I
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would hear Kevin Samuel say where are the older women to teach the young because
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I love the fact that you're soaking it up and it's really a blessing to me but I
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remember trying to talk to women in my peer group whether it was corporate or
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whatever and I would try to have these conversations and oh the way I was
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shouted down so the same kind of backlash that you have publicly I had
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privately and so you know I'm just the type I'm not gonna go 12 rounds with you so I
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just kind of okay mind my business be in my cul-de-sac live my
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little life cook my meals and just be left alone but I didn't have that
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community so I created that community so it's important I love it I love it it's
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great I'm I'm such a fan of you now I'm like so excited I said she's a
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natural-born youtuber guys she's gonna she's gonna do big things on YouTube I
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can't tell gracious thank you from your lips to God's ears thank you so I was
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just banned on tick-tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this
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