JustPearlyThings - Haters ACCUSE Pearl of this

In today's episode, we are joined by my dear friend and mentor, Krista, to talk about what it means to be a woman in the 21st century and how to navigate the world of dating and relationships. We dive deep into how to find the right man, what to look for in a potential husband, and what to do when it comes to finding a husband.

00:00:00.000 say oh my gosh oh no they say that I am I body shame because my ex left me for a

00:00:08.120 fat girl that's what they said story they say it's not true but that's what

00:00:12.780 they like that's what they say they go she just hates us but then yeah oh my

00:00:19.500 goodness oh my goodness yeah so you know it yet so they'll be like oh did he

00:00:27.420 hurt you I'm just like leave me alone yeah I mean if you've lived life for any

00:00:31.920 moment of time you've got a heartbreaking story so like miss me with that one I

00:00:36.600 admire mmm I love that mm-hmm I admire you he's just so important I just feel

00:00:47.540 better hearing them and saying them and one thing while you're looking I would

00:00:52.480 just offer if you can't say this to your man you have the wrong man and that's

00:00:58.540 okay move towards somebody that you can say this to submission is not an eaten

00:01:03.940 submission is not an issue when you have a man that you admire and trust and

00:01:08.740 respect and love and believe in it's like whatever you say yeah but but it's

00:01:15.040 like we don't a lot of times like we can't even admit there's a problem yeah

00:01:19.000 you got to start with that yeah you have to start with that what is the biggest

00:01:22.600 problem that you would say that we're blinded to hmm I would say there's a lot

00:01:30.940 of women that think that they're traditional and they're not mmm so I 0.98

00:01:35.080 would say there's a lot of women that say they're traditional and genuinely go 0.96

00:01:39.460 through life thinking they're traditional because maybe their parents were they

00:01:42.640 watched it but they have no traditional skills agreed and it goes back to that

00:01:47.680 other list that we had the wife resume you know just like a job right it gets 1.00

00:01:52.420 really personal when we talk about relationships but even when you're going

00:01:55.300 for a job you have your resume of your strengths the thing that the things that

00:01:58.840 you're good at and when you go apply for a job they're gonna look at that and

00:02:03.040 they're gonna compare it to the job description and if I'm looking for

00:02:07.000 someone who cooks five nights a week and you don't then it's not a good match

00:02:12.000 you know if I'm looking for someone who's ready to you know be a stay-at-home

00:02:15.580 mom or whatever it is and you want to work 60 hours a week then it's not a

00:02:19.420 good match so you know the traditional values and I'm a very traditional

00:02:24.460 person but I accept and I understand that that doesn't apply to everyone

00:02:28.780 circle back to the types of marriages if you're marrying somebody let's say I

00:02:34.180 knew a family member of mine got married and they lived apart they lived in

00:02:40.000 different states because someone was wrapping up like a doctoral program so

00:02:44.320 twice a month one of the other couple would fly you know back and that that

00:02:49.000 worked for them so I'm not saying there's only one way that'll work but

00:02:53.680 the man that you're interested in what are his expectations and does it match

00:02:57.700 with what you bring to the table yeah that's the other thing I would say that

00:03:01.960 women are delusional about is like we often think we bring more than we do oh 1.00

00:03:05.920 absolutely and we don't realize like a lot of people say that I'm like hating on

00:03:10.320 women when I say we bring less to the table than ever before but I just think

00:03:13.980 it's honest yeah I think what we have now as accomplishments are more than what

00:03:22.820 like my mom and women of other generations have however it's not a value to a

00:03:30.000 man yes so the fact that I pay my mortgage have a car take vacations come

00:03:35.760 to see pearl all of that is great for me but if I'm looking for a man or caught

00:03:42.540 myself if I want to belong to a man and he's looking for someone who is useful to

00:03:47.640 him I would just advise that we don't lead with those things because basically it

00:03:53.400 says me me me III so he's like well what do I need you for mm-hmm so I feel

00:04:02.340 like you're like putting us on game this is so helpful oh well honestly you know

00:04:07.200 I mean Kevin is here and you know shout out to the Godfather you know we talked

00:04:11.760 about this yesterday I actually booked a session you know with him and you know

00:04:16.080 we can talk about you know other things but I always got convicted whenever I

00:04:22.920 would hear Kevin Samuel say where are the older women to teach the young because

00:04:28.500 I love the fact that you're soaking it up and it's really a blessing to me but I

00:04:32.880 remember trying to talk to women in my peer group whether it was corporate or

00:04:36.840 whatever and I would try to have these conversations and oh the way I was

00:04:40.500 shouted down so the same kind of backlash that you have publicly I had

00:04:44.960 privately and so you know I'm just the type I'm not gonna go 12 rounds with you so I

00:04:49.200 just kind of okay mind my business be in my cul-de-sac live my

00:04:52.740 little life cook my meals and just be left alone but I didn't have that

00:04:57.300 community so I created that community so it's important I love it I love it it's

00:05:04.260 great I'm I'm such a fan of you now I'm like so excited I said she's a

00:05:11.820 natural-born youtuber guys she's gonna she's gonna do big things on YouTube I 0.63

00:05:15.980 can't tell gracious thank you from your lips to God's ears thank you so I was

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JustPearlyThings - March 16, 2023

Haters ACCUSE Pearl of this

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