JustPearlyThings - He HATES Hearing Truth About Obesity and The Shame That Comes with it

00:00:00.000 um first question would you say health is a priority to you yeah a hundred percent one

00:00:07.280 thousand percent a hundred percent a thousand percent one in theory what does in theory mean

00:00:15.520 yes no well it's a loaded question i can say that health is a priority um but i think i have

00:00:21.840 unhealthy habits that i'm not actively addressing okay some of them i'm trying to yeah the progress

00:00:26.720 is slow but it's there um so yeah i'd say it's a it is a priority but um there are levels to it okay

00:00:35.440 what about you is health a priority yeah i think health is a complete priority but i also don't

00:00:39.600 think that that totally relates to body positivity okay if that makes sense okay what explain that

00:00:46.400 more um so for me like health is a priority um it's something i struggle with like i struggle if i could

00:00:53.200 press a button and be like the healthiest weight in the world of course i'd push it in an instant

00:00:57.040 and i think anyone would be lying if they said that they wouldn't push that button to just be a healthy

00:01:00.720 weight instantly and and have all these things but um for me i struggle with it and i don't think that

00:01:05.760 that makes me a bad person i don't think that means i should think less of myself for that and that's why

00:01:10.080 i don't really associate that with body positivity because i don't hate myself for it even if it's

00:01:14.320 something i should aspire to okay i think the gals had long answers there a lot of the guys in the room 0.99

00:01:21.440 immediately go 100 percent thousand percent and then for the girls it's like ah it's complicated

00:01:26.480 it's long answer yeah i just feel like is it a priority or is it not a priority it should be a

00:01:32.080 i think all-around priority yeah that is one thousand percent of priority that's the reason

00:01:36.960 why you wake up is the reason why you get off your bed and walk like you have to be healthy to be

00:01:41.920 able to live right so who here um would you would say is actively trying to lose weight i am you are

00:01:50.080 100 percent you are and what what have you guys done is it like workout diet yeah gym membership

00:01:56.400 going to the gym trying to be more consistent with it and um making adjustments to eating habits

00:02:03.120 but also mindset okay what do you mean by mindset uh not seeing working out and you know the steps

00:02:11.520 towards prioritizing my health which are admittedly quite difficult some of them more than others as

00:02:17.120 punishment but seeing it as a reward i think health is a reward for discipline um and just loving

00:02:23.200 yourself a little bit more but if you see it as punishment it becomes something that you don't want

00:02:26.960 to do so yeah changing my mindset to reward as opposed to punishment that's good um kent could you

00:02:35.440 turn up the headphones a little bit i'm just having a hard time hearing people um okay thank you

00:02:42.640 um okay so next question do you guys think that body positivity promotes healthiness promotes health

00:02:53.280 depends what aspect they're looking at it from um body positivity i know in the last last week we had

00:03:02.080 this discussion about body positivity and for me it's not about me being on a big magazine or people like me

00:03:10.240 being promoted it's more about um like for example being accommodated for in in public services and

00:03:21.200 being mistreated just because of the size now i understand um i am the size i am but at the end of

00:03:30.000 the day people with disabilities are also my size and people how how do you know if i don't have a

00:03:35.680 hidden disability no one knows so i'm just saying that's why to me body positivity is important so

00:03:43.040 that people don't get mistreated um i think that body positivity isn't important in terms of mental

00:03:49.200 health i think there's a lot of people that really hate themselves because of their weight and i personally

00:03:54.560 like on my socials get a lot of comments from people saying that they are so happy to see somebody

00:03:59.040 my size comfortable with themselves and happy and posing in bikinis and things like that like all of my

00:04:04.320 last instagram posts have been me in bikinis and i've got so many comments from people being like

00:04:08.320 wow i wish i could wear that or i am gonna wear that because you wore that and it makes me feel

00:04:12.560 like i can which i think some people would take as a back landed compliment but for me like as somebody

00:04:16.960 i'm trying to lose weight i'm trying to be healthier because i know it's a priority i know something i need

00:04:21.040 to do in my life but it's not my reality right now like i'm not at my full health i'm not the best i

00:04:25.920 could possibly be but i'm still i don't hate myself for that and i think that um the fat shaming movement and

00:04:32.240 like just being like these fat whales like what the are they doing who would say that

00:04:36.160 that's like a horrible your whole chat right now everyone in the chat right now i don't know what

00:04:42.640 you're talking about hey hey hey hey hey hey i only i say the whales no but unless i am insulted or

00:04:54.560 attacked then i will i don't think that fat shaming helps anyone lose weight and i think

00:04:59.120 the way that i have been though is i'm like i've i've gone online and i've said like i want to

00:05:04.640 lose weight and i've held myself accountability like online really like yeah i made a video how

00:05:09.040 much weight have you lost so since i made that video i've lost a stone okay that's great yeah

00:05:13.680 how much is how much is a stone i i know i don't know either i just 14 pounds 14 pounds okay like seven

00:05:18.960 okay okay yeah so i made a video because i wasn't allowed down a slide that i wanted to go down

00:05:24.720 and that was like a moment for me where i was like oh like i should be allowed down this slide

00:05:28.320 you know like that was a moment where i felt like okay i need to do something and it wasn't because

00:05:32.560 i felt shame or whatever it was just like a bit of a like oh the average person can do this and i

00:05:36.400 can't do it yeah so i was like i need to lose weight but it doesn't mean i don't respect anyone

00:05:40.800 less for being overweight i understand what it's like to be overweight i've been skinny i've been

00:05:43.840 overweight and i just i do think the body positivity moment is important for people to to like

00:05:48.960 themselves and i think the best way to lose weight is is by liking yourself because you're doing something

00:05:52.240 good for yourself i actually think that for me personally when i lost weight it was because i

00:05:57.440 didn't like myself i didn't like the way i looked and then it motivated me to lose weight so i and

00:06:03.600 actually it was funny because when i did lose weight it was because someone i mean they didn't bully me

00:06:08.800 directly but they were talking about how they would never date a girl over 200 pounds and i was like no

00:06:14.000 i'm over yeah i thought he was cute so i was like no well pearl baby there's everybody for everybody

00:06:19.440 what pearl baby there's everything for everybody if you're overweight you're 30 um you're 30 as a

00:06:25.680 woman you're 30 like you're 30 less likely to get you need to stop following statistics because you

00:06:31.600 got listen yeah you don't know the power that big women have they captivate men i've seen it happen 1.00

00:06:38.400 i've seen it happen i'm not even joking it's true you're also six foot though i would say 200

00:06:44.640 pound on you would look very different on five foot four 200 pound oh it's not to say like i know

00:06:50.320 that's why they were making fun of it they didn't know how big i was at the time but but no i was

00:06:55.600 still overweight so it's still like i was still overweight when i looked at like my numbers so

00:07:01.520 you know but it helped me like i ended up losing like 30 pounds at the time so and i never gained it

00:07:07.040 back so you seem like a person who's well adjusted and quite mentally stable though and i don't think

00:07:12.000 that's the case for everybody and i think when you tell a lot of fat people like you're overweight

00:07:16.000 and that's disgusting they'll come for you and if you don't come for it that's never been in your 0.50

00:07:19.760 nature you're never going to do that well yeah but i think the solution would be to maybe stop

00:07:23.920 comfort even eating and like figure something else out comforting is a coping mechanism that people do

00:07:29.200 that makes them overweight you know so when you tell someone like you're a fat cow they're going to be

00:07:33.120 like oh i'm sad so i'm going to come for you i think we change the definition of body positivity

00:07:37.840 because what body positivity is to me is numbers if you step on a scale and you see some numbers

00:07:44.800 and then you become a better version of yourself every single day week or month and you see numbers

00:07:51.360 that improve that's a positive result so body positive sorry body positivity is becoming better

00:08:00.000 every day yeah but i feel like the question was does body positivity promote health and it's not

00:08:06.560 it does yeah exactly if you're if you're telling people it's okay to be at a heavy weight or okay

00:08:11.600 to be obese and that's not healthy by the science it's not possible to be healthy so to answer pearl's

00:08:18.400 question it doesn't promote health it doesn't promote positivity i would say it promotes mental health

00:08:25.440 not physical health no because that's not the aim of the game but in terms of mental health and making

00:08:30.080 people feel guilty about themselves and likely to make good choices about themselves i don't i just would

00:08:34.400 think the first step with mental health is your eating still because they say sugar affects your

00:08:38.720 brain i i could pull up the research on it but i know there's like negative mental health effects

00:08:43.120 from sugar this is true but i think the point of body positivity is not to say that it's okay to be

00:08:48.960 fat and to encourage people to be fat yeah in answer like i completely agree with you body positivity

00:08:54.560 does not necessarily promote health but it promotes not hating yourself while you look like what you look

00:08:59.600 like don't waste a perfectly good day inside feeling like you can't go to that party or you you know

00:09:05.600 you can't go to work and being a shut-in because you think people are gonna like take the mick out 0.55

00:09:10.480 of you because you're fat like don't waste a perfectly good life because you're not where you

00:09:15.280 want to be right now yeah like absolutely the body positivity movement you know it should um focus

00:09:22.000 on health a little bit more but i think for the individuals concerned it's about not hating themselves and

00:09:27.600 as i said not punishing themselves for not being where they want to be well she's saying mental

00:09:30.880 health but wouldn't it be better like in pearl's case to get bullied and say hey you're getting

00:09:38.000 a bit pudgy you're getting a bit fat maybe lose the weight and that'll promote better mental health

00:09:43.360 and you know you're more comfortable with how you look yeah you're feeling healthier i don't know

00:09:47.760 i'm not saying i'm for bullying but if it gets you to forget you to a better place and more

00:09:52.720 comfortable with how you look i i think it's uh it's the right way to go especially when it comes to your

00:09:57.360 physique and how you look and how would you know that i also think people misplace body

00:10:01.040 positivity with mental positivity so what we're talking about is mental positivity like what you

00:10:06.080 just explained is it's more in control of the mind than the body because when you think about body

00:10:11.440 positivity and that we're promoting obesity or fat then it's not positive it's more going into the

00:10:17.520 negative zone and statistically numbers would show that wouldn't you rather have someone that pulls

00:10:24.160 your side and say hey i think you're getting a little bit unhealthy or hey you're putting on

00:10:27.280 some weight maybe you should hit the gym eat healthier i'd like to have someone in my life

00:10:32.160 like that put pulling me in check but like you know if you're fat like i've been skinny and i've been

00:10:37.920 fat and i've known when i'm fat i don't need anyone to tell me that i'm fat like i can see the numbers

00:10:42.000 on the scale i can see all my clothes don't fit like they used to like you don't need someone to tell

00:10:45.760 you you're fat i don't know it's like it's every christmas at my grandma's house

00:10:49.680 i would just know there's that one relative that if i came back fatter they would say something to me 0.98

00:10:54.960 and it kind of motivated me every year because i'm like i don't want that aunt to you know but you

00:10:59.200 know you know if you're fat like and sometimes people talk to fat people like they're not self-aware

00:11:04.080 like they they know you know i know when i'm overweight i know i've been incredibly good shape before like i

00:11:09.520 was in drama school where i was working out 12 hours a day but like now i'm not and i'm fat and i'm aware

00:11:14.160 that i'm fat i don't even want to tell me that i'm fat and bullying like i mean for me it doesn't really

00:11:18.640 work because i just phase out i mean i'm like i've been online for a long time so the things

00:11:22.640 that people say don't affect me but for most people bullying famously does not work like it

00:11:27.840 doesn't make me people feel good it doesn't make them work harder it's i don't know you guys are

00:11:32.400 speaking i don't know what i have to say is body positivity is to me just really accepting the way

00:11:40.640 you look and for me ain't gonna lie i agree with to some i do agree with a lot of what you're saying and

00:11:49.520 but when you when being overweight has been an issue your whole life and then people are also people also

00:11:57.440 make comments as an adult like people have always just targeted you for that and to me to be honest

00:12:04.720 it just scrambled my head and it wasn't good for me um so body positivity to me is basically accepting

00:12:14.560 the way you look and to be honest i hated i wasn't happy with my body pearl i really wasn't and are you 0.66

00:12:22.160 happy with it now i am okay okay firstly i'm like i am what i am but i make i make conscious decisions

00:12:31.520 like to eat healthy things yeah and i'm also not gonna lie and say i'm the most healthiest because

00:12:37.760 what last week you were saying no no no no no no no but yeah but today is about is where we are in a room

00:12:45.040 with personal trainers yeah of course i love chicken and tits and certain things um and i can't help it

00:12:54.160 we too by moderation no no it's not about moderation my weight is old weight but i actually again i can't

00:13:00.240 have it in the house otherwise i'll just eat the whole box no but i don't i don't eat in the house my dad

00:13:05.120 actually has cancer so in my house everything is there's no processed food at all and that's why

00:13:10.640 it's just literally you have to if you want to drink drink you have to juice it yourself if you want to

00:13:15.280 get ice cream you want to you to make it yourself and that's full of vitacocles like boxes so that's

00:13:21.280 how it goes and then there's not even a microwave at home as well so i can't actually heat my food like

00:13:27.440 everything is basically in the best way that i can cook and what about the people out there who are

00:13:33.600 maybe in a similar situation to you where they don't have access to processed or unhealthy foods

00:13:39.200 at home but they still seek those things when they're out of the house what what would you say

00:13:43.360 to those people who actively seek unhealthy food i'd say my advice honestly would be

00:13:52.720 you don't want a heart attack you don't want to die early you want to survive you want to build

00:13:58.800 some memories you want to be a grandmother or a grandpa and it's important to actually think

00:14:04.800 and that's what i mean you need to but wouldn't that be a better message for the body positivity

00:14:09.840 movement to say rather than love yourself 100 like what you just said you just because you you could

00:14:16.400 you could get cancelled nowadays for what sugar puff okay no because it's like you know if like lizzo comes

00:14:22.240 out and says hey i'm i'm i want to start losing weight all the fans start coming for her and you 1.00

00:14:28.800 know she she just wants to better herself and get healthy it's like if you're saying oh you're gonna

00:14:32.960 die soon and no i don't i don't i don't i don't i don't think it's like that for me it's literally i

00:14:38.720 am not delusional with myself i am big i know i'm big but at the end of the day i don't promote

00:14:46.640 the reason why i'm for body positivity is because people literally get mistreated and i'm against

00:14:52.960 that and especially with how do you how do you think that how do you how do you think people get

00:14:57.840 mistreated um well i was 28 stones i was at my biggest um now i'm 21 and and like i said i've been

00:15:06.640 eating healthy and i've actually actively been trying yes i'm not on it with the exercise but you

00:15:14.080 we could be remember yes we could we could actually actually want muscles you know i actually do

00:15:19.920 want muscles but that's why body positivity is important the representation is important now i

00:15:26.480 understand but what about like smoking you know i mean like like like what if we wanted to normalize

00:15:31.680 smoking and put smoking on the okay at the end of the day smoking is literally your it's a different

00:15:37.600 method smoking is that's what smoking is and eating is you're using your mouth you're using your teeth

00:15:46.800 and your taste buds are working with smoking it's just well my point is like normalizing something

00:15:52.480 that's i would say obesity like yeah it's it's an ill i mean i don't know if i'd go as far to say

00:15:58.000 i don't even think it's about normalizing people

00:16:01.040 just need to gain some respect and know that people are individuals now if you really want to

00:16:07.520 make an active difference if you guys really want to make an active difference when you see a big

00:16:11.440 person you'd be like come on man let's run or let's play a game or let's do something like actively

00:16:17.040 make a difference i would challenge you as well to find me like a body positivity movement that's like

00:16:21.920 eat junk do whatever you want that's not what it is yeah well it's not promoting unhealthy no i i see

00:16:27.920 girls do it all the time they do what i eat in a day i just reacted to one the other day it was like 1.00

00:16:32.480 fourth oh my gosh yes a lot of eating yes it's like fourth i counted four thousand five hundred

00:16:38.080 calories what yeah that's what i said four thousand five hundred calories in a day they do like this is

00:16:43.840 what i ate today as a fat person i think this is what that's yeah i'm against that and and i'm like to

00:16:48.720 me that's like like this is how i smoked right i don't think we should normalize it with that like for me

00:16:54.640 personally i would never show uh that because i don't want to promote unhealthy things in the same

00:16:59.920 way that if i smoked or vaped i wouldn't show me smoking or vaping on my page because it's not

00:17:04.640 something that i would be proud of you know um but like i i wouldn't support that and i wouldn't

00:17:09.760 call that the body positivity movement for what it means to me is people just accepting themselves

00:17:14.240 for who they are um wanting the best for themselves and i don't think there's anything wrong with

00:17:18.480 that whether you're fat whether you're skinny whether you're anorexic i think that the body

00:17:21.680 positivity movement applies to you i think it's just enjoying who you are and not letting that

00:17:25.840 hold if i thought too much about what i look in a bikini i would never wear one you know but i

00:17:29.520 don't care so i just wear one and i enjoy how i feel hey i'm pro i'm pro modesty you know what i mean

00:17:34.160 yeah but i mean you can have a modest bikini can i tell you what's wrong with that with the world 0.99

00:17:41.760 i'll see you i'll see what's wrong with the world big statement okay no no that is a big statement

00:17:46.400 you can tell us no i i'll tell you no go ahead go ahead it's a pod this is what we're here to do come

00:17:54.000 on everyone everyone has an issue with everyone everyone is like no they should be like this they

00:18:01.200 should be like that everyone just needs to simply mind their own business and and when i say that i

00:18:06.160 don't mean in a bad way it's like for example he like you said i don't know if you said it did you

00:18:12.560 say fat shaming works is that what yeah okay so for example fat shaming now imagine an unhealthy

00:18:18.480 person like me and i i mean i try and be healthy yes but it is what it is and i'm body positive

00:18:24.480 because i i honestly i've learned to love my body now a pearl and i'm sticking with that but if i can

00:18:30.240 lose weight i would as well so but then that's no no no it's body positivity no no no body positivity

00:18:39.040 is all about just accepting the way you look and being happy and actually just be like yeah this

00:18:45.600 is how i look i think we should always be trying to get better no yes we can we should always be

00:18:49.600 trying to improve we can get better but sugar puff it doesn't mean we can't be fly and look hot and

00:18:55.200 press ourselves oh i was just to your point though sugar puff right you said what's wrong with the world

00:19:00.560 people are saying you should live this way you should live this way but it's not it say it's the body

00:19:04.560 positivity movement saying hey we should be comfortable as this where realistically what

00:19:10.160 if that's killing you and then to your point as well what pearl's saying if it's like smoking

00:19:14.880 smoking's an addiction you brought up comfort eating and that's how people cope that's an addiction

00:19:20.320 so it's you can treat it the same as smoking when it promotes smoking as it's all it's all sweet you

00:19:25.920 know if you're comfortable smoking and you're happy smoking keep doing it we're not saying you should

00:19:30.400 live that way we're just saying not even we it's not even we just i think rational people

00:19:34.480 are saying if you're going to keep going down that route you're probably going to die you're

00:19:38.480 going to lower your life expectancy that's not okay so imagine that's just the truth imagine look

00:19:43.440 you're a fit person you're fit you exercise i can see that you take care of yourself and that

00:19:49.280 now imagine yeah there's a big person and they're already kind of suffering we know they're unhealthy

00:19:55.520 they're suffering they've got knee problems they've got all sorts and now they ain't even they're not

00:20:02.000 even surviving like they're finding it hard and i'm talking about an unhealthy big person and now

00:20:06.960 you're saying ah you're fat ha ha ha when i would never do that never do that who does that i just 0.52

00:20:14.320 want people do and that's what i faced i have faced that pearl that's the side thing i faced it

00:20:20.320 so when you i'm sorry obviously you may not do that but people do that i'd like to hear from the pt

00:20:25.200 i want to see i want to see how you respond to this yeah i have a cousin from trinidad two weeks ago

00:20:30.960 that died from a cardiac arrest due to over obesity now she was one of the most comfortable in asking 0.87

00:20:41.120 happiest person make everyone laugh type of person and she was definitely unbuttered with this entire

00:20:49.360 world would you call that body positivity that's very sad and i'm sorry for your loss um no i don't

00:20:57.040 think that what you've just said relates to body positivity um i think that's incredibly unfortunate

00:21:02.080 what's happened but like do i think that if people had been harsher on her she would have lost the weight 0.74

00:21:06.960 no i i don't you know i don't think that's how it works i don't think being mean to people makes them

00:21:11.600 lose weight yeah but talking about body positivity does it help does talking to you nice help yeah

00:21:22.080 i think it's talking to you just to be kind to themselves it's a long way i think it just makes

00:21:27.040 you comfortable to do the same thing it's not at the same time it depends on what type of person you

00:21:32.800 are in it so depending on what makes you tick you know i'm saying so some people might respond to body

00:21:38.480 shaming whereas other people might like respond to some a different type of method you know wait

00:21:44.480 if it helped wouldn't you see most of these influencers lose weight i mean i am an influencer

00:21:49.600 and i'm actively trying to lose weight and i've documented it on my platform and i've said how

00:21:54.160 i've struggled with it like i find it really difficult what part of it do you struggle with though

00:21:58.800 uh for me like i so i have a lot of problems related to when i used to be quite thin i was very very

00:22:04.640 unhealthy um and it meant that when i was thin um i went to a so when i was like doing acting and stuff

00:22:11.760 i was in a theater company where they would write all our weights on the wall and it was always like

00:22:15.840 the goal not to be the biggest person and everyone was skinny right so i have a lot of problems around

00:22:19.840 that around weight around weighing myself obsessively and um because of that like i would just restrict

00:22:26.480 and binge and restrict and binge and restrict and binge which um at the time i was making myself sick

00:22:31.760 so i stayed skinny and then when i stopped throwing up i got very fat because i didn't break

00:22:36.880 the patterns but i still had the eating disorder of the restrict and binge and restrict and binge

00:22:40.720 restrict and binge so when i stopped throwing up i just gained all the weight and that's still

00:22:44.880 something i struggle with like i restrict and restrict and restrict and i feel very in control

00:22:48.320 when i restrict um but then i will binge when i've had a vulnerable moment or i've had an argument

00:22:53.280 with my boyfriend or something in my life has gone wrong um and i struggle with that but i think the

00:22:57.760 point is that across the board i don't see plus size influencers that have built their brand on body

00:23:03.360 positivity losing weight across the board uh if anything i see them get fatter and i see them drop

00:23:08.800 dead and they're like mid 30s because they're getting rewarded you're getting paid to be a plus

00:23:12.880 size model like your example why would you want to lose weight if you're getting paid to be in a plus

00:23:17.920 size ad yeah but for me if i'm plus size i'm plus size and sorry um what was i gonna say so he just

00:23:28.000 went out of went went out of my mouth i'm sorry i would say that there's also a difference between

00:23:33.520 like i'm a plus if you lose weight yeah are you still gonna get plus size jobs um so in terms of

00:23:39.040 modeling yes uh but right now i would say i'm at a weight where i feel i feel unhealthy i can still be

00:23:46.240 un like overweight and feel healthy i could still qualify for plus size jobs based on my height and

00:23:51.920 things like that because i'm shorter and curvier i'll still qualify and i still worked in plus size

00:23:56.320 when i was technically like a healthy weight on paper i was still plus size because i had big boobs

00:24:00.960 a big bum and i was short and that's sort of what qualifies you for plus size modeling so i did still

00:24:05.760 work in that then i've changed agencies when i've if you were like if you were 120 pounds would you

00:24:11.120 still get plus size modeling gigs no but i'd still be an influencer and i'd still be very

00:24:15.040 likable and i think people would still follow my content we're just asking about the plus size

00:24:18.640 it's a hustle yeah and yeah you're you're likable you can do well but you don't just build yourself

00:24:22.560 just on nobody follows someone just because they're like oh this is a fat person i'm going to follow

00:24:25.680 them like nobody's following tess holiday just because i mean apart from the fetish people

00:24:29.920 she wouldn't be famous if she wasn't fat but you're in influence influence right so people follow you 1.00

00:24:36.000 because why i agree i i would say that being overweight being obese being fat is oftentimes a hustle

00:24:45.040 it can be a brand it can be your identity just like being a pt can be your identity one is

00:24:52.080 better than the other it's better for the individual at the end of the day in this economy

00:24:57.200 they both make money unfortunately um and i would agree that being obese is oftentimes incentivized

00:25:03.440 especially if we're talking about being an influencer um like the the video that you mentioned pearl about

00:25:09.840 uh sort of someone who is plus size doing a what i eat in a day it would be very easy for a person

00:25:14.720 like that to secure a brand deal and start advertising i don't know like corn vegetarian

00:25:19.920 sausages and they add that in and say it's vegetarian so it's fine it's healthy i'm not eating meat but

00:25:25.760 then they still eat like a six pack of donuts in a day so i think what we're talking about if we're

00:25:31.200 talking about obesity being incentivized economically we're then talking about essentially hustle culture

00:25:39.280 and it is it's just a hustle it's just an opening for a company to make more money you know it's

00:25:42.960 simple as that i would actually argue with that on saying when i made a video saying i was gonna lose

00:25:48.960 weight and it went viral because i made i made a video that was embarrassing and i said i couldn't get

00:25:53.040 down a slide and i was really embarrassed i want to lose weight and that did really well in the algorithm

00:25:57.280 and i got so many sponsorships and companies emailing me with their weight loss products

00:26:02.720 because that is a huge industry and i think that's far bigger than any body positivity or

00:26:07.200 an industry like the weight loss industry is the huge thing i instantly had people being like take

00:26:11.200 our lollies take our diet drinks take this take that show it in your tick tock yeah i think weight

00:26:15.440 loss is a bigger industry than than people being like i'm plus size and it's cool would you rather

00:26:21.760 take weight loss products or stay as a plus size model um i mean i don't think the weight loss products

00:26:27.040 work i don't think those lollipops and i mean calorie deficit works yeah it sucks but it works

00:26:33.680 like um but i again i've said like i struggle if i could press a button and just be as you can say

00:26:38.640 but you know if uh one is both detrimental to you which would you rather not eating and you know maybe

00:26:46.960 having the products that are forcing you into a calorie deficit or staying at an unhealthy weight

00:26:51.680 what are you taking i mean i i've already said like if i could press a button and be a healthy

00:26:55.200 weight and have a healthy relationship with food i would press it but that's just not the reality

00:26:58.320 for me and a lot of other people and for me it's been a grind and like i have been losing weight but

00:27:02.400 it's hard what's the solution like what's the okay you say for it's a grind for a lot of people but what

00:27:07.680 what is the actual solution of losing for me i think the solution is telling people to like themselves

00:27:13.520 to do the best thing for themselves and not hate themselves in the process

00:27:16.640 like i said it's about body positivity is literally accepting the way you are

00:27:25.120 if i'm plus size i'm plus size and that's why i tell people accept the way you look be happy

00:27:31.520 you are the way you are and you should really embrace the way you are because when you're not

00:27:36.480 happy with yourself you don't it affects you in work you don't have no confidence no self-esteem

00:27:42.800 and yeah you should be able to do anything just beep and body positivity again i'm gonna say it

00:27:48.400 again it's literally accepting the way you look let me get a little bit deep with it if someone was

00:27:53.280 to die from obesity what would you tell that person honestly i'd say do you know what you should have

00:27:59.680 eaten healthy and you should have exercised you need the reason why we don't tell the person is going

00:28:03.760 to be i'm not telling anyone to be but i think the point is like the the most common theme i've heard

00:28:08.720 is is it just accept how you are okay wait wait wait wait so this is the most common thing i've heard

00:28:14.080 would you guys agree just accept how you are like to like yourself to like the way to like yourself

00:28:19.920 accept how you are don't don't hate yourself for being fat pearl bear in mind we're not trying to

00:28:25.920 promote well i'm not trying to promote promote unhealthiness if you watch my tiktoks and my instagram

00:28:30.880 i'm dancing i'm active even on my stories if you're over if you're overweight and you accept that

00:28:38.160 then you're accepting like a higher risk for diabetes you're accepting a higher risk for early

00:28:44.160 okay you're accepting a higher risk for a heart attack i'm going to explain something like you

00:28:48.640 have all these okay okay so for example and and and the thing is like you're you're i want to wait wait

00:28:53.520 wait and so and and the thing is like your families are the ones that are going to have to take care of

00:28:58.000 you if you can't take care of yourself if you get too big so like then it's not just your problem

00:29:03.440 it becomes other people's problems more comfortable to get the less you check your numbers as well

00:29:08.720 i feel like people who comfortable in their obesity don't check it don't even check and the one thing

00:29:13.120 i don't like is like they'll say it's like unhealthy to weigh yourself every day when i i lost weight by

00:29:18.560 weighing myself every day and i don't think that's like they did studies and they found that the people

00:29:23.360 they didn't give them a diet or anything but the people that would just weighed themselves every single

00:29:27.280 day lost the most weight yeah it's just a journey like for me is honestly a journey and that's why

00:29:35.280 i just promote you know because i know confidence is such a big thing that's why i promote like

00:29:41.760 body positivity and it's not about obesity it's just about literally i think i think it does become about

00:29:47.440 obesity when it's like we're putting on well it's like okay if an only fans model puts on a thong

00:29:52.720 and puts that on and says i'm not promoting sexuality well you kind of are and so if you're

00:29:57.760 if you're overweight and you're and you're putting your body out as many of you know i was just banned

00:30:03.040 on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform if you want to help please

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JustPearlyThings - October 18, 2023

He HATES Hearing Truth About Obesity and The Shame That Comes with it

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