JustPearlyThings - October 16, 2023


He SHUT-UP Feminism Agenda with These Stats


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00:00:00.000 you can say well it shouldn't matter okay can so you you make suits for high net worth clients
00:00:05.440 can you tell me about the women they pick as wives yeah so first of all do they pick alpha
00:00:09.520 females when i no absolutely not uh so so here let me tell you guys i had my dinner last night
00:00:14.760 with my wife it was her 10th anniversary and she said my wife said something really profound right
00:00:18.860 like it kind of shocked me a little bit as i said you know it's so much fun like building a life
00:00:23.420 with you i told her it's so much fun but we got four kids i'm like it's so much fun building a
00:00:26.440 life with you because i've had a great 10 years right and she goes oh i didn't get in here to
00:00:30.680 build i wanted to ride on this train oh that's so sad that's what she said how did that make you feel
00:00:36.760 no no no she's gonna be relaxed she was honest though um what did you think no she's like what
00:00:44.220 made you how did you feel female thing comes back up again well let's let's let's look at it like this
00:00:49.480 so i'm in london today uh i fly back on saturday i live in estonia on wednesday i take off to dubai
00:00:55.180 on saturday i'm in materai india the next wow the next wednesday i'm in new delhi uh i am in demand
00:01:00.500 because i'm i'm a successful dude and you know what all successful dudes are in demand they're not
00:01:04.920 sitting at home smoking pot man they're doing they're getting calls they're doing stuff and you
00:01:08.700 know what they're needed they're needed because it's hard to find competent people can ask a question
00:01:12.520 good people yeah you know what you're doing all of these where's your wife and the kids at home
00:01:17.180 actually that's not true so i'll tell you right now uh earlier this year i took my whole family
00:01:23.560 where'd we go no no i mean i mean just when you're working just now you know the places where you
00:01:27.600 gotta go so in between how often do you see what do you quite often i bring my whole family on my
00:01:32.040 trips i was gonna say oh that's so lovely that's beautiful that's what i'm asking like this year
00:01:35.980 are they are they home schooled no oh no they're going they're going to like an english college but
00:01:41.180 like so like that last year january we had a video shoot in hawaii i took my wife my wife and four
00:01:46.220 kids to hawaii uh after that we had a company trip to croatia i took my whole family with me
00:01:50.660 no no so i'm just saying so you know in the in the past couple of days in the next few days that
00:01:54.860 you said the place you're going to so it's your anniversary today well yeah so have you been with
00:02:01.520 your wife today yeah yeah so and then you're going when you when's your next trip i come back in three
00:02:07.400 days back home and then i'm home for three days and then i take off for another week and a half okay
00:02:11.020 yeah because you know when you see the way you said it i was like okay so that's what i was wondering
00:02:14.240 so that's when you get so that's when you get to see your wife and the kids and that i see my wife and
00:02:17.840 kids all the time can you can you tell me more about that like what traits do men um in that
00:02:23.080 position look for well the thing the thing about it like i don't want to over generalize but there
00:02:27.020 is definitely a trend so i'll tell you guys this is a story i tell all the time i've met a lot of
00:02:30.940 dudes whose wife is just not getting deep down or something because she's like me me me right like
00:02:35.460 me me me it's like but here's the thing let me tell you guys about i work with clients that i work
00:02:40.380 with clients for real that are world-class musicians and movie stars that are household names that
00:02:46.380 everybody knows like right and i've been asked this before on on uh somebody asked me like is there
00:02:52.140 any difference between like the wife of this really famous musician and this really famous movie star to
00:02:56.340 the wife of just a regular dude it's like yes their wife's wives are the most supportive the happiest
00:03:01.940 like i'll deliver a suit to some average joe and his wife saying i don't like a little bit like this
00:03:05.940 thing makes him look fat i'm like no you don't like your husband but when i deliver like for i mean i
00:03:10.780 remember i'll tell you guys an alice cooper story like the musician his wife like she came in and she's
00:03:15.500 like you look amazing 75 years old he's he's old he's like you look amazing that's so perfect like
00:03:21.600 wow look at the energy that and she was just so and every single extremely famous person i've been
00:03:28.000 with like that but was it real yes their wives i mean there's a respect aspect to it but like man
00:03:33.500 well i'm thinking this dude 75 years old he's still touring by the way it's like he doesn't have time to
00:03:37.680 come home and put up with like weirdness you know i mean and i think she knows that because that's why
00:03:42.260 she would do it because obviously he's going to keep it moving and then obviously the money's
00:03:45.480 going to stop uh i don't know the answer to that i'm telling you i was asked an anecdotal experience
00:03:50.740 like when i'm dealing with a client who's really really successful um ultimately they're very very
00:03:56.180 busy like they're you know and these are like almost all successful men are a type men like they're up in
00:04:02.720 the morning they're working their butts off like when you think about this is a really interesting
00:04:07.660 point that i've noticed by the way you can cut me off at any time um you think like oh he's rich
00:04:12.040 but he has to be unhappy or he's he's got this great job but he should but he's just like unfit
00:04:17.780 no success goes with success like the best looking people are the ones that make the most money are
00:04:23.700 everything goes together so these guys like they're the ones in the gym in the morning they look
00:04:29.480 amazing they're so sharp and you know i've i've gone down the street with some of my clients like hey
00:04:34.800 let's grab a coffee whatever and i'm walking down the street and i see the women's eyes just gravitate
00:04:38.140 towards these guys because a woman knows when she sees a high value man and by the way we just
00:04:42.260 established that women continuously choose men that other women pick we know this genetically right
00:04:46.320 and so i you know if a guy like that is well first of all is he more strategic in picking his wife yes
00:04:52.180 everything in his life is planned out your dad pearl is like a really successful guy i'm sure he's
00:04:57.260 really strategic in the way he makes decisions is he not yeah he's very strategic and i'm sure you saw a
00:05:01.640 lot of that growing up like he would just be like okay pro and con let's go um yeah every time
00:05:07.340 every time i cry about a business problem i call my dad and he fixes it for me
00:05:11.340 her life problem
00:05:13.880 that's what daddy's for though that's what that must be nice
00:05:18.300 no i do know my dad anything that goes wrong i'm like dad i'm like dad yeah
00:05:22.200 i'm like dad i always call my dad i didn't fix it because daddy that's what daddy's that's what daddy's
00:05:26.220 that's what i mean like that's why men don't want to deal with alpha females though because like the
00:05:32.020 men like that like i'm thinking i'm thinking i'm thinking wait i'm thinking of my dad right and he
00:05:36.980 he is so logical he is so logical that like and i and me when i when i have a business problem or
00:05:43.140 whatever i get so stressed out sometimes i'll like crap like i'll just be like and i'll call him and he's
00:05:47.820 so good at just like okay what is the problem like what is the problem this is like okay here's one
00:05:53.880 solution here's two solution but like men like that they don't want to have a girl that's constantly
00:05:58.220 arguing with them but alpha that's challenging that's what that might not be what you meant but
00:06:03.120 typically that's what all alpha females all right you know what you know what i see what i see now i can
00:06:06.920 see where you because what is what is an alpha that's a leader yeah so so how how is in that
00:06:12.840 situation i mean that's that's like family but in that situation how's that always leaders are not
00:06:17.580 always pig-headed leaders you don't know me that it's my way or the highway uh yeah but at the end of
00:06:21.720 the day like they want to know that you trust them to make a decision so they don't want they
00:06:25.120 don't want to hear like why like one thing i didn't understand about men is like when you say
00:06:28.920 why to them it's like annoying it is like they're like why are we doing this like they don't want to
00:06:32.720 explain it yeah i'm not gonna it's like a child it's like with my kids you know when you do it's like
00:06:37.840 why why because i said so yeah yeah that one not every two seconds why sometimes but sometimes i mean
00:06:46.180 it's when they ask why sometimes it's oh because blah blah blah but when the why's keep coming and the
00:06:50.520 why's keep coming it's because i said so in it yeah but but that's the point so that's why i got
00:06:54.960 because what is an alpha that's a leader so the leader is the one that that's saying this is where
00:06:59.300 we should go this is the problem yeah and so when i when i speak to my dad like i have a really good
00:07:04.460 relationship with him because i trust him yeah and because when he tells me to do something for the
00:07:09.360 i mean sometimes sometimes i don't but for the most part like i listen right but there you go and
00:07:13.900 sometimes but then that's what i mean yeah but usually when i don't listen it doesn't work out
00:07:17.140 and i'm like i should have listened to you dad yeah but we know that that happens but then it
00:07:21.560 doesn't i think i think sometimes it's just a perception that's i think that's maybe another
00:07:25.580 thing that's maybe another topic the perception of an alpha on an alpha and an alpha female and an alpha
00:07:30.420 male yeah i think that might be i think there's different perceptions and there might be a whole
00:07:35.040 definition but it's also but it's also it's age it's age like my dad my dad my dad well i was with that
00:07:39.980 now 50 but the question is why why do we have those perceptions like we can't if the women that say
00:07:47.120 i am an alpha female have a reputation of something like that's the alpha female's fault
00:07:51.320 like there's a reason they have that reputation why has it got to be a fault to be in an alpha
00:07:56.460 female i mean i just feel like everything in life is your own fault so if you're if if they make an
00:08:00.840 assumption of because you're an alpha female why can't it be your own greatness instead of your own
00:08:04.180 fault why does it have to be well in this in this terminology in this situation it's because men don't
00:08:09.100 want it typically because i mean i don't know your personal situation but typically the most successful
00:08:15.380 men with the most options don't typically want alpha females because they've got the most options
00:08:19.120 because who wants who wants who wants a woman who's just gonna but then certain to more time as well
00:08:23.320 you've got to think the ones who the ones who don't want the alpha female they'll still go and cheat
00:08:27.080 you know that's not true no that's not true that's that's like that's statistically untrue okay
00:08:33.540 what do you mean it's not okay let me ask you guys a question do you believe that successful
00:08:47.380 people tend to be more logical than unsuccessful people in general are they more logical or less
00:08:51.460 logical they're more logical do you guys all believe that i would say so okay what does it mean
00:08:56.000 to be logical define that um logical calculated actually actually thinking and processing it and
00:09:03.680 thinking what's the best way to make a decision okay it's what makes sense i'll make i'll make it
00:09:07.920 really simple being logical simply means that you value what you want most more than what you value
00:09:12.560 what you want right now yeah okay what makes okay so you're saying like oh these guys all cheat i
00:09:18.000 don't know what kind of dudes you know i didn't say whoa whoa whoa i didn't say oh and also i don't
00:09:25.280 know what i just said but you just said you just you said statistics but what what what what groups
00:09:32.080 were what were were involved in in doing the statistics what different parts of what different
00:09:40.720 what what what what successful exactly okay so them statistics might not really run he's trying to
00:09:46.800 answer okay well let's let's we're talking about successful men so the what do you guys what is the
00:09:50.800 typical millionaire like that's an interesting question what's the typical i would know i probably
00:09:54.480 would say he waits about five o'clock in the morning or would you say what's he doing like that's
00:09:59.680 his lifestyle you probably know the answer to this it depends like the ones i know are small business
00:10:04.000 they're all they're all suit are they fun or boring uh they're like fun like usually outdoorsy i mean
00:10:09.600 the ones i know but are they like rappers and ballers or are they literally like accountants and
00:10:14.160 it professionals yes they're into politics they're structured they're pretty simple they
00:10:19.040 avoid tabloids do they have a routine in their life like a very strong yes routine yes they're
00:10:24.880 very disciplined they're very very disciplined they're really disciplined so it's like again and
00:10:29.120 that filters across the whole of their life it's not just in one specific area they they're logical
00:10:33.520 they make decisions that are good for the future versus now that's correct does that make sense so it's
00:10:37.840 like so it's like there's a significant amount of risk mitigation it's like i understand what's
00:10:42.640 happening yeah there's some slime balls of course but for the successful guys that are the typical like
00:10:47.200 logical calculating dependable are they dependable yeah the successful people have a lot of people
00:10:53.040 depend on time yeah if they mean what they say well if you're a small business owner you've got to be
00:10:57.920 damn dependable like people you know because that's your that's your livelihood so you're dealing
00:11:02.480 with a group that's dependable logical strategic risk mitigating and it's like and and by the way
00:11:08.560 they get divorced way less like millionaires remember 90 percent yeah okay okay but a lot of
00:11:14.880 millionaires though they have a double life as well let's just say that let's just say that
00:11:19.600 what's a lot actually i'm just curious okay okay wait wait wait wait guys guys guys guys wait wait
00:11:27.200 guys guys guys stop stop stop okay um out of how many millionaires do you guys know a couple okay so how
00:11:35.040 a few that's what i was just saying i said i don't know any okay okay okay okay oh no i do guys i
00:11:39.520 do know i actually do know two how close are you with them one close ish one close ish okay what does
00:11:45.840 he do uh uh she she yeah okay so no no male millionaires yeah the other one okay what does he do
00:11:53.680 um he is in distribution
00:11:56.080 okay predominantly in property property development how many millionaires do you know
00:12:04.720 on my on my two hands i could count okay how many oh yeah property may i could see that yeah yeah
00:12:10.640 yeah you um i used to date a multi-millionaire what happened what happened yeah what happened
00:12:16.960 why don't you should have held on to that one no no definitely yeah but at the same time
00:12:22.480 like they say they live a double life yeah of course i've seen it with my eyes because he was
00:12:27.520 obviously he wasn't from here you don't find much millionaires in the uk and even if you do they're
00:12:33.840 always like they're from another country and they've come here and they're traveling and they're this and
00:12:38.880 that and you know it was dating for a long time okay so you don't know any you know some you know some
00:12:43.840 you you know millionaires yes or no a few one hand you do uh it's not that i uh know them but i met like
00:12:52.080 five six of them yeah i did and i've seen with my eyes they're double lives i've seen yes i've seen
00:12:57.280 double lives they do after party for two three days i've seen it with my eyes wait wait so what type
00:13:05.040 of industries are they in uh lawyer like big lawyers the one day like you know they're next to the judge
00:13:11.040 and hey can you put your mic down please yeah yeah um uh some producers of films so you go to these
00:13:18.880 after parties and you see them cheating there sinning yeah okay so what do you say to that
00:13:24.640 well i i my company now has over 15 000 clients over 95 of them i'm sure i'm millionaires or above
00:13:31.600 so 15 000 is a pretty good data set my question to you guys would be offensive question coming up
00:13:38.080 why are these duplicitous slimy characters picking you and for what or why are they picking the people in
00:13:43.440 the crowds you're hanging out with like what kind of crowds are these like i'm not well well i'm in
00:13:48.560 the entertainment industry there is the other side it's the blue pole and the red pole yeah but not
00:13:54.480 everybody makes i didn't say that i met all of them in after parties though what say that so i didn't
00:14:00.400 say i met all of them in after parties i met them in a specific uh uh occasion that made me think about
00:14:05.920 them as i know i know because of people and i've seen them you're like you're changing what you said
00:14:10.960 you didn't you didn't say a couple i've seen a couple but the rest that i haven't seen it i know
00:14:17.200 because of my friends are friends of so you know like i know how did but then why are your friends
00:14:22.480 involved with them because there are uh how can i say events in london there are so many things going
00:14:28.320 on in london and people know people that's how you mean i've seen too much and my heart broke honestly
00:14:34.160 i've seen so many people where i've seen them like with their partners all happy and there's
00:14:38.400 me making conversations speaking with the wife talking about kids and babies and all that and then
00:14:44.080 you see them with another when i see the person one or the other cheating secretly just breaks my
00:14:50.400 heart but then again sometimes people's hoism is normal as well where they have open relationships
00:14:57.440 so you also don't know but i've yeah but being working in the media industry for 10 years plus
00:15:03.040 i've seen a lot and i've crossed paths many millionaires but millionaires there's two obviously
00:15:08.720 i'm coming from the entertainment industry aspect what i've seen but by what um what's your name
00:15:14.640 sorry again dimitri yeah what dimitri was saying yes there's also there's also a group of of men that
00:15:22.000 i know that are very loyal because they need to protect their wife is like their asset they need to
00:15:28.000 protect them and make sure they kind of make it work of course but we cannot say that like millionaires
00:15:33.520 they're not cheaters because they have this this this and that like there is there and there like in
00:15:38.560 life there is everything of everything everything's open like it's not like oh because they're millionaires
00:15:43.840 because they think logically or because they have a certain lifestyle they don't do that because they
00:15:48.560 are saints that's not like do you know what i mean see it's it's interesting so actually i sort of see
00:15:54.320 both sides on this because like where i grew up the cheating just wasn't really that big to be honest
00:15:59.920 where i grew up and i grew up in a pretty like well-off community but at the same time the numbers don't
00:16:05.440 support you like at all um it's like the cheating rate is one and this is just self-admitted it's one
00:16:10.080 out of four um until you get over 250 000 then it ups to 50 and that's just self-admitted so it's probably
00:16:15.840 higher yeah 100 percent people don't like giving their their realities away but what come on
00:16:24.320 but then it's like then you ask the question how reliable is a self-represent you know
00:16:29.120 okay so go ahead go ahead can i just ask have we moved on from that original question
00:16:34.320 no i just want to bring it all the way back because i need to give my perspective before we even move on
00:16:40.800 go ahead like me as a man forget all of that and i'm glad i'm glad what you said my brother go on
00:16:48.240 you get me because i feel like every time i get my point across people say i'm wrong but i feel like
00:16:53.520 the past the past is very important do you know what i'm trying to say some things build your character
00:17:00.880 some things are part of you yeah and to be fair it does i'm sorry because if i don't want to do i'm
00:17:09.680 sorry no it's true you know what i'm trying to say what you've done you've done so now what i've got
00:17:16.080 to pick up baggage and i've got to deal with luggage i'm sorry so yeah man for me i don't judge anyone
00:17:24.240 i've done a video myself as a man you love the hoes appreciate the hoes nothing's wrong with them
00:17:31.440 nothing's wrong with them but for me now but can you have marriage i'm sorry but listen there are two
00:17:39.760 types of holes though so basically no no no no and i'm not being i'm not being disrespectful there are
00:17:46.480 some people who have been through traumas and sex is their is their way of coping so that's how they
00:17:53.200 become a whole now if they're becoming a whole wait wait from mental traumas all right i would like
00:17:57.520 to i'd like to just add one thing what i'm hearing what i'm hearing here right here wait wait is an
00:18:02.720 excuse no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no okay okay who's who's
00:18:12.720 ad-libbing who's ad-libbing there are some people that if you if you read documents and all that they
00:18:18.560 get raped and all that they get oh say grape say grape uh-huh they get graped and because i'm saying
00:18:27.920 grape i'm forgetting right but but they get great yeah so then they kind of they feel depressed and
00:18:35.120 they go through a lot of things and they don't they don't they don't respect themselves and that's when
00:18:40.480 that comes out is this the exception or is it the rule no it's not it's not an except now there's another
00:18:46.320 type of hole which they're they they know what they're doing they're sleeping around and they're
00:18:51.200 happy just to live that but here's but here's the problem with even the first how the world doesn't
00:18:55.040 owe you understanding yeah like there's some there's some people that go through that and don't make
00:19:02.560 those choices and so if you if you choose to make those choices like it's still the choice you made and
00:19:07.280 you can't whine about the outcome but pearly do you know what that's what people underestimate but
00:19:13.520 some people we all we all have different hearts we all grow up differently we all go through different
00:19:18.800 experiences but it's no and we don't know no but but as as human beings as people we should be
00:19:25.520 understanding and we should be fortunate you can be understanding and treat them with respect and
00:19:32.480 politely but that doesn't mean that other men have to date them no but some people actually heal
00:19:37.600 some people when they get love and care you know i have to be honest i have to be honest wait
00:19:43.600 before i started this show um i really thought healing meant something else i really thought when
00:19:49.360 women like healed they went to therapy but i just found healing is like another word for just sleeping
00:19:54.720 around it's like you sleep around the town and then you and then and then you come back you come
00:20:02.400 back you come back and now and then they they write in their journals and they do some meditating
00:20:10.320 guys guys guys stop stop interrupting me stop stop they do some meditating and now
00:20:16.080 they're healed no yes no i don't think healing works like i think healing works with actually
00:20:22.000 self-reflecting challenging yourself and think okay how can i how can okay i've done this this
00:20:27.920 wasn't very nice and you self-reflect and you figure out how you're going to heal how you're going to
00:20:32.560 get through it how you're going to treat a situation differently next time i do agree with you there's
00:20:37.280 there's learning from experience right um but it's like how many times you got to have the same
00:20:42.400 experience before you learn you know what i mean it's like that one two three twenty thirty forty
00:20:47.280 i don't know why but always stranger girls come and talk to me and they tell me their whole lives
00:20:55.840 and and what i find sad is and that's why i say like it's so important for us as humans to be
00:21:01.520 understanding because some people mentally they're not built like that so i i think that we should be
00:21:08.320 less understanding yes no i think i think okay i think it's good no no i think it's good to be
00:21:14.160 understanding when it comes to mental health but if it's too much no i think that okay nowadays
00:21:20.480 everybody's got a mental health everybody everyone's got anxiety everyone's got i remember i remember
00:21:28.720 when oh you know what my least favorite word is now trauma trauma trauma trauma used to be about war
00:21:34.880 not your ex-boyfriend cheating on you three times that's not trauma that's you being as a kid yeah that's
00:21:39.520 what i said too but now now this is my trauma i've gone through trauma because my ex-boyfriend no it's
00:21:44.880 supposed to be war because you're talking about three times so you're the kid
00:21:50.480 i mean go ahead go ahead are you saying most cases when people talk about relationship trauma
00:21:55.840 they're only talking specifically about the cheating no they're just warfully not
00:21:59.920 it's it's it's always talking about the experience the heartbreak no because you know what oh this
00:22:06.480 is giving every giving giving no pause no pause giving giving not giving opportunities giving but
00:22:14.400 this is this is for them to man up when you say when you say when you say when you say giving when
00:22:19.520 you say giving okay one man up what about woman up it's like it's like it's like okay when you have
00:22:30.320 trauma and it's not even from relationships who's more who's who's more traditional men make more than
00:22:37.040 women at large for a lifetime men make more than women women weigh more than men and they have higher
00:22:42.400 body counts than men so so who needs the man so women in general have higher body counts than men yes
00:23:00.720 sorry sorry guys guys guys one person at a time here there's a lot of over talking support because
00:23:05.520 at the end of the day so one person at a time let the moderator pick the person's talking thank you
00:23:10.400 one out of three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the past year have one out of three
00:23:14.080 women are they virgins or haven't had sex in the past year i couldn't it's a bit both oh come on i
00:23:21.360 think the word is going um transsexual and i need to just say this like we you've heard stories where
00:23:30.720 men have gloated about oh i've slept with 250 women you will never hear a woman say that unless she's from
00:23:36.560 only fans you know what i mean yeah not even not i'm sorry i've just never experienced that
00:23:42.960 conversation yeah because women are going to brag about that stuff and one person but it goes back
00:23:48.640 to a small percentage of men are having a lot of sex that's what he was saying earlier so a small
00:23:53.760 percentage of men they're the biggest whore or you know they're man whores right right and so you're
00:23:58.640 right there are a small percentage of men that are having more sex than women but by and large women
00:24:03.120 are having more sex than men i don't know that's scary i'm scared that is the contraceptive pills i'm
00:24:11.520 telling you it's all them it's all them products i don't agree with her you know why because what
00:24:16.320 she's saying i think is that the chances of a woman to get more men and hiding it is measured than a
00:24:22.320 men getting a woman and you know i say something please go on sorry sorry carry on i'll say after
00:24:28.560 i'll say after no because think about every woman here yeah yeah think about think about your dms yeah
00:24:34.400 think about now think about your dms yeah yeah now think about if you really wanted to you could have
00:24:40.880 at least or good looking women anyway not saying no you know what i mean you could you can have at least
00:24:45.520 actually i'd like to kind of correct just one thing one thing i'm gonna correct then you can finish
00:24:49.360 um an average woman gets more matches on our dating apps than a top one person right this is
00:24:54.320 what i was just about to say if you look at your dms you know for a fact if you rang if you just rang
00:24:59.440 someone or just said yeah come true how many geezers could you have as many as you wanted exactly
00:25:05.920 that's what i'm saying so realistically women probably do have the more sex we could do if we wanted to
00:25:12.720 yeah but what she's trying to say is that you don't actually know how many women they say it out loud
00:25:18.080 that's true but no that's what i'm saying but no i'm just i'm just agreeing with what she said
00:25:21.520 because it's the truth because realistically mo is he's done it's the women it is it's literally
00:25:26.960 when you think about your dms because this is this crazy place it's a crazy place no one looks at
00:25:34.080 their dms but it's also if you if you will if you walked into a bar and you just you stood in the bar
00:25:38.080 and you said i will every geezer here imagine how many would do imagine how many how many
00:25:44.560 members do they they've done that on youtube before so yeah so they have like a girl go up
00:25:49.200 to guys and a guy go up to girls and it's like over half the guys are like okay because she was
00:25:55.120 a cute girl and they had a hot guy go up to girls and it was like 99 of them said no yeah exactly
00:26:00.800 that's what that was what went so doesn't that show the statistics of women trying to just keep
00:26:07.520 themselves to themselves like because okay all women i'll be like oh they don't want extra body
00:26:14.160 counts no i i think i think it shows what's easier to get like it's easier for women to get sex than
00:26:20.240 men yeah so it's like men a man has to have something for you to be interested in him like you're a
00:26:25.280 pretty girl so it's like you're gonna want him to have a good job right definitely you want him to be
00:26:29.360 taller than you i've been i've been very spoiled right yeah right so i'm a picky person you want
00:26:34.320 to so you are picky as earlier yeah okay so you are you want to you want to be taller than you right
00:26:42.080 oh yeah six foot okay okay okay what percent of men are over six foot not many minimal what it's 15
00:26:48.640 percent wow so then let's let's say let's say wow yeah so let's say now what percent of wait wait
00:26:55.840 what percent of men do you find attractive usually would you say i like men that are taller than me i
00:27:00.480 like to look up how tall are you so out of out of 10 men you maybe maybe you'll find so if you're
00:27:05.040 like the stats you'll find two attractive so out of the 15 percent you're gonna find two out of the
00:27:10.480 ten that are over six foot attractive yeah and let's say let's say one of them is in your income
00:27:15.440 category that you look for and one isn't so you're looking for one percent of men and most women most women
00:27:21.120 are looking most women baby moms most women are looking for one percent and you want them to have
00:27:26.400 no kids right that's i want to be the first right right and i and i want to be and i want to be a
00:27:32.960 millionaire don't we all you just might be soon yeah that's what i'm saying it's all a possibility
00:27:42.480 like i said i did used to date a very rich guy and he made me become very high um when we stopped
00:27:50.160 dating i was like oh my god how am i gonna get to right get this level how am i gonna no that's
00:27:56.160 the thing you respect another guy statistically statistically you probably won't replace him
00:28:01.040 statistically you probably won't because he was rich i'm just saying my dms be popping
00:28:05.680 yeah yeah yeah but yeah yeah but okay your dms might be popping but engagements count that's what
00:28:13.440 counts i get more dms i get more dms
00:28:22.160 okay okay i i i've had like crazy messages but you you know come on it's a dm they don't count no no no
00:28:29.120 you don't count but obviously out of those dms one of them was the one i mean i mean but that's
00:28:35.040 i was like yes but that's my point that's what every girl thinks every girl's walking through
00:28:40.560 life thinking they're going to win the lottery and date this top one percent man he has to be over
00:28:44.400 six foot he has to make over 70k he has to be attractive he has to be what and but see this this is
00:28:50.880 this is but this is here here wait this is the problem that sounds nice it's it sounds nice and like
00:28:56.480 and it's possible but it's not probable it's probably not going to happen every so so i'll
00:29:00.640 tell you i'll tell you another stat okay so big banks are investing in things like cat food wine
00:29:06.000 because 50 of women are projected to be single and childless over 30 so that means all the girls in
00:29:10.800 this room half of us will never have kids okay half of us will never get married so if you say oh just
00:29:16.080 manifest it believe it sounds nice and it's also like if you don't get married by 35 your odds of
00:29:20.960 getting married and having a long stable relationship ever it's very it's very low it's very low i actually
00:29:26.400 for a lot of women yeah
00:29:33.520 leave me alone i don't i don't put myself in that category i mean i don't i really don't actually i'm
00:29:38.800 gonna i want to actually i want to i want to read uh when a single woman reaches the age of 30 the
00:29:46.720 statistical probability of her sex successfully finding a long-term relationship and having just one
00:29:52.400 child falls below 50 it then declines rapidly by 3.5 to 5 each year this is based on the average
00:30:00.080 fertility rates in developed countries of course but it's also based on the average amount of time
00:30:04.080 it would take a single 30 year old woman to find a good mate and progress the relationship to the
00:30:07.760 point of pregnancy um a little messed up is what you consider the average age of first child is 29 for
00:30:14.000 women it varies very slightly by country and most women start taking the idea of a family seriously
00:30:20.400 in their late 20s and 30s um and let's talk about ivf too 61 um the the failure rates of ivf is 61.1 percent
00:30:31.440 in women under 34 so out of 100 women that go and get ivf 61 fail um and women that are between the ages of
00:30:38.720 35 to 38 it's 73.7 86.2 percent and women ages 39 to 42 and 94 percent in women over the ages of 43 have
00:30:48.000 that's the ivf failure rate wow isn't it now that there's more female binge drinkers than male for
00:30:52.720 the first time ever yeah that's true that's crazy yeah that's mad that's crazy which part what do you
00:30:59.680 there's more female yeah there's more you can go yeah it was uh it was like it was a something that
00:31:03.920 came out earlier this year that there are now more female brit bench drinkers than males and it's
00:31:09.120 the first time in history this has happened wow that's crazy i'm really getting educated i'm gonna
00:31:14.880 the men are smoking more um green so um okay there's they're smoking more so so men smoke more and women
00:31:22.080 drink more yeah but that's the first time in history that women are drinking more but why is that
00:31:25.840 why it's evolving because we're an evolving race because because women are becoming men
00:31:33.200 men are becoming women yeah yeah i'm gonna read one more thing to you guys according to the average
00:31:39.920 span of committed relationships of committed dating relationships the average them and the average
00:31:46.400 interval of time women take between relate relationships an average woman has a maximum of
00:31:51.520 guess how many serious relationships three how many four three close five five yeah um has a
00:31:58.400 i think a woman cannot wait wait wait wait wait wait guys guys guys wait let me finish a maximum of
00:32:05.040 five serious relationships five swings at a bat before her chance of starting a family drops to zero
00:32:10.880 so that means if you've had five boyfriends your your chance of a family's dropped to zero wait wait wait
00:32:15.440 please can you explain that again guys what is it according to the average span of committed dating
00:32:22.720 relationships the average and the average interval of time women take between relationships the average
00:32:28.080 woman has a maximum of five serious relationships five swings at the bat before her chances of starting a
00:32:33.920 family drops to zero they need to change locations but see this is like and that sounds that sounds
00:32:44.880 that sounds depressing it's according to numbers like so they think how many people wait what if they
00:32:50.880 what if the new generation what if these people are just willing to love easily more easily than
00:32:57.760 that but this is but this is like we always do a roundabout way to make the numbers not sound like what they are
00:33:02.480 yeah but numbers were only numbers when people started creating numbers okay numbers weren't there
00:33:08.080 numbers wait numbers were only numbers when people started creating numbers
00:33:15.120 yeah how did you count a rock like how did you count how many rocks before they were okay this
00:33:20.080 is this doesn't make any sense um
00:33:22.080 i'm just saying what really makes sense nowadays the stats like who are these people that put out these
00:33:28.160 they do they do they do they do serve they do surveys it's self-reported in different countries
00:33:33.440 around the world and they all have similar numbers so so they they start to have a similar conclusion
00:33:38.240 and a similar trend so when we when we tell women oh it's going to be okay it's like my dms are full
00:33:43.360 this this this for a lot of women for a lot of women it's not going to be okay and out of women
00:33:47.840 that don't have kids right eighty percent of them wish they had them a hundred percent it's going to be okay
00:33:52.800 record at the end of it that's why i'm saying sometimes these conversations could also go
00:33:58.560 to the other side of the spectrum wait explain that so what do you mean i think that these
00:34:03.760 sort of conversations we have they can sometimes be very strategic and stats have stated and these
00:34:09.840 people yeah but there's a whole group community of people who don't do surveys and just love their
00:34:15.920 life and love people and talk to people and are real and they don't give their reports back yes okay
00:34:21.760 okay okay some some some people you're right some people don't take surveys but if we're doing surveys
00:34:30.960 in different places and they're all concluding the same thing it's like if you don't want to believe
00:34:34.560 numbers you don't have to you can just live in the in the land of feelings but but it's
00:34:41.200 right you're right
00:34:42.240 and it's quite hard it's quite hard to do that when you're living in the land of logic like
00:34:48.960 should we should we do a feeler okay should we do an episode that's just like statistics and just
00:34:52.960 teaching people statistics we can say you're you're what you're talking about is self-selection bias but
00:34:56.960 once you get over about 1400 people you kind of have a pretty standard distribution which is statistically
00:35:01.840 significant these numbers are pretty damn tight so we'll do one episode pro for white school
00:35:05.520 statistics what do you think yeah i would love i would love to be honest with you to be honest
00:35:11.200 with you dimitris yeah i feel like dimitri sorry my apologies dimitri as you said dimitri
00:35:21.280 the one that was going to take his suit before he got you we stopped we stopped him off camera yeah
00:35:27.920 we got him we got him um basically what i'm saying is that yes you know not all of us were taught to be
00:35:36.400 wives yeah and maybe that's because our mothers saw what happened to wives bruv not all of us were
00:35:42.400 taught to sucka whoa stop wait wait wait no no no no okay okay um did you hear what i said first yeah so
00:35:52.560 so say that again yes so just just the one part just the part about you they were not taught what
00:35:57.920 let me not get in my feelings okay okay what i'm saying is that don't worry girl woman that raised
00:36:03.520 certain woman in this world they never taught their children or their daughters obviously that's true
00:36:09.040 wives because they had experienced what happens to wives and they were like i'm not going to be a wife
00:36:15.040 because that means i have to stand up with a guy and that's due to relationship trauma but what what
00:36:21.040 what outcomes are better no but but this is but this is this is the thing like single single single
00:36:27.920 single child single childless women are not happy by and large they're not over over the over the age
00:36:34.080 is about only happiness though i mean what okay what do you want your life to look like okay no no listen
00:36:38.880 listen two seconds just listen what do you want your life to look like at 60 65 what do you want
00:36:45.040 christmas to look like your fan your families i just want okay look whole okay okay not listen listen
00:36:51.360 okay what what do you do you want to spend it alone at 65 your parents are probably passed away then on 70
00:36:58.720 65. for myself definitely not okay for me personally all right so what are you arguing about here
00:37:06.480 i'm arguing that community and having family and being a single woman doesn't come with a lonely life
00:37:15.040 the stats disagree no women the women that don't have children are on antidepressants and they drink
00:37:20.560 more disagree that's okay that's okay because so then what are you what are you probably on
00:37:27.280 antidepressants and they on they drink tap water and they do certain things that it's not fun
00:37:33.200 no no and then you know they're they're just okay are the are the are the single childless women that you
00:37:38.880 know typically happy are they happy they're in that position typically like majority of the time okay they're
00:37:44.240 they're all happy yes they have children and if they and if they had to pick they would rather be
00:37:48.800 by themselves than with a man they respect love and admire yeah they would prefer that no no pick one
00:37:54.320 what would they prefer typically pick but how can i pick one so that's not an option what if what's
00:38:00.400 i'm giving you two options they'd rather be alone or with a man that they love respect and admire
00:38:04.880 which one would they pick they would but this is like a need to be right it's like because you
00:38:14.640 know you know what the answer is you just like to argue according to the stats
00:38:23.440 according to the stats you're right and i'm wrong but according to my world and my people
00:38:29.600 in my community we're good we're good but yeah we're good on the side but it's true what you
00:38:35.040 said not a lot of women have taught their um girls to be wives because they haven't come from that
00:38:40.320 background no but no no no let me rephrase that no they've been through it because but why is that
00:38:46.480 but why is that your answer it's a painful reality why because when i'm talking when i'm saying the
00:38:51.680 women that were not raised to be wives it's because their mothers had experienced something
00:38:58.320 else as children and that might be the majority that's why there's so many women who aren't wives
00:39:05.680 who have to go to wife school i think she means that it's a knock-on effect to say someone's great
00:39:10.800 grandma went through some sort of trauma as you mentioned um earlier they're gonna pass it down
00:39:16.080 to their daughter yeah they ain't gonna teach them how to then it goes down so it's a knock-on effect
00:39:20.480 they're saying it's generational but the difference is people used to go through trauma together
00:39:29.520 yeah like i mean i know a couple i know a couple that had that they they lost a child
00:39:34.480 and that that's real trauma that's they they lost a child and they they they stuck it out and they
00:39:38.960 figured out a way to make it work and they ended up having more kids but that ruins most relationships
00:39:42.880 that's real trauma nowadays women's trauma is just not being happy having to listen to their husband
00:39:48.480 do you feel like let me ask you this girl do you feel like in this generation now a lot of women
00:39:54.160 are so quick to throw in the towel is that what you feel as many of you know i was just banned on tick
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