JustPearlyThings - Her Feminist Mother Discouraged Her From Getting Married

00:00:00.000 what's going on people so so where did where am i picking up like what was the current conversation

00:00:10.640 mandana was saying about um how her mother raised her based on ideologies and she never really got

00:00:17.120 her but then we was talking this lady right here this young lady was talking about her 0.95

00:00:22.160 experiences with her mother oh yeah as a feminist so oh your mum was a feminist yes 0.91

00:00:30.000 she tried to install that programming into you she did did you accept it or reject it well i

00:00:35.600 went along with them growing up like i was saying i was you know born 1980 and then being a teenager

00:00:40.000 in the 90s madonna and you know all of that is a high material girl yeah the height and the material 0.99

00:00:46.960 world yeah um yeah i went along with that and then you know someone mentioned neo independent woman 1.00

00:00:53.280 you know the music kind of huge yeah carmen mentioned that i had a huge impact and uh yeah i thought that

00:00:58.640 was the the the right way so i worked hard i mean literally in my 20s i worked like 78 hours a week

00:01:06.320 i loved my job absolutely loved it um and then i did settle down with the guy but i didn't get married

00:01:12.960 because that wasn't a value like my mum was like don't worry about getting married i have kids just

00:01:17.920 live your life maybe not so you know so what your mum was like yeah just go out there get money and live

00:01:23.200 your movie yeah so like how do you feel about that now um do you feel like she might have steered you

00:01:30.960 in the wrong direction um you can be real man she's not here no i love my mom and you know she's a you

00:01:42.480 can love your mom but your mom still can be wrong you know yeah absolutely and i do tell her that every

00:01:47.200 day bless her no if you had your time again would you no i would um i would get married i would have

00:01:54.640 gotten married um yeah stayed married and stayed married would you have marriage of your i was with

00:02:01.280 my daughter's dad for about 12 years um do you think he should have been your husband

00:02:07.760 do you know like in the beginning like when he mentioned marriage i thought i don't want to get

00:02:10.720 married forget that like oh snap yeah and um i never really understood like the the value in getting

00:02:17.920 married but i think like actually giving your word giving your word that you are going to stick with

00:02:22.960 this person i think that will make a bigger difference in actually making it work do you think do you

00:02:30.640 would you agree that a lot of times a lot of older women give younger women bad advice hundred percent 1.00

00:02:36.560 one thousand what do you not what do you not think about that i do i agree 100 that's what makes

00:02:42.000 the markets are kicked out basically that's what i was saying to her i'm like but why she was the

00:02:46.720 oldest one here mate yeah i think it just depends on like you said the programming what programming did

00:02:53.280 that older woman receive to then hand down what kind of software was installed exactly so if you if

00:02:59.200 you got the corrupt if you got the malware you can only hand down malware you know like that if you get

00:03:04.080 if you come from a two-parent household then you're more likely to still get you should come 0.72

00:03:09.280 you should a two-parent household should come from you because you came from a two-parent household

00:03:12.560 but if you come from a single parent household and it's the mum saying yeah well i would had to work

00:03:16.800 two three jobs so i don't maybe they say they don't want that for her but what is for their child

00:03:21.920 but but the reason is that that men are bad in it like you can't find a good man basically i'm like

00:03:26.960 my dad wasn't the best i loved him like to me he did his best but as a husband and how he

00:03:37.520 treated my mom in certain ways but i also you know i think a lot of women don't take responsibility for 1.00

00:03:44.640 they don't see the psychological abuse they just don't see it like constantly making a man wrong

00:03:49.680 like the way women can make a man feel like is women don't really see that so what do you think 0.99

00:03:59.360 about uh you know feminism what do you think about it though i think it's bullshit it's like set us back 1.00

00:04:04.080 like way back and the way that oh don't get me started i'm sorry i prefer it way back 0.71

00:04:11.360 i think what i what i've noticed in like when i really look at like the society and the media

00:04:18.080 especially like if you notice a lot of media kind of it kind of installed that programming as well

00:04:25.280 because like for instance when you watch like a lot even cartoons you might watch the simpsons or family 0.95

00:04:30.640 guy the dad is always like an idiot he's always like a fumbling and the mom has to be the one 1.00

00:04:36.720 controlled the one that's level-headed where the where the dad is just like an idiot and you know 1.00

00:04:41.520 it's subtle but it is actually quite significant because everybody watches the simpsons everyone 0.96

00:04:46.640 watches family guy and it's just like yeah i think that society um the media it really pushes for like

00:04:53.840 you know men are incapable women have to take the the reins of everything can reach like girl power 1.00

00:05:00.560 kind of thing what do you think about it was the consequences of it what's the consequences of it

00:05:05.280 men are emasculated yeah men are emasculated women women are not to say women shouldn't feel like 0.98

00:05:12.400 you know they can make decisions yeah but at the end of the day most women will want a man that is 1.00

00:05:17.760 a leader a man that is competent a man that is confident the man that you know she can rely on and

00:05:22.960 look to you know in times of need where they don't want to they don't want to couple up with homer

00:05:27.840 simpson they don't want to couple up with peter griffin i said i was saying that earlier sorry

00:05:34.080 how do you think we can change the situation i think it's every man's duty personally to be the

00:05:39.520 best version of himself i think that every man should uh strive to get financial power physical

00:05:46.800 power you know be you know in best physical shape he can yeah mental power he cannot afford to be

00:05:53.280 ignorant you just can't bro yeah and as women we have to empower those men because i i just talk to

00:05:58.240 women a lot and i'm like you talk so much about men how do you expect to meet a nice man law of 0.98

00:06:04.080 attraction and um the other thing is um sorry i lost my um got starstruck yeah especially because you

00:06:17.680 called me based thank you thank you thank you it was a quick statement oh good it was okay good good

00:06:26.240 oh yeah this is what i was going to say how we how we how what we do about it let's get let's get

00:06:34.960 let's get a round of applause thank you for king riches yeah yeah they don't need any statements from

00:06:40.080 us right security yeah hey security you can take the gloves off now secure in the building

00:06:47.440 and you're the one she was uh telling you why you're not smiling do you remember

00:06:52.000 that's why he wasn't she was so desperate to make him a long time 0.95

00:06:56.880 yeah i didn't think for you bro yeah what were you guys talking about um we were saying like how

00:07:02.160 sorry to you know the situation with feminism oh men being demasculated like um gary was saying

00:07:07.520 like what do we do about that and i'm like you're shutting down people like that like like exact

00:07:11.440 like this is what has got to stop like women talking about men is going on and on and on and

00:07:20.320 i just shut it down as much as i can and yeah sometimes i do get into arguments with my girlfriends

00:07:25.520 but so what did your did your mom do that to you because you said you said your mom was a feminist 1.00

00:07:31.040 did she talk yeah yeah and i shut up i i yeah i shut her down immediately when was your like red 0.93

00:07:36.960 pill moment that switched because that no because i'd imagine at some point like i mean if she was 0.99

00:07:42.720 talking like this when you're a kid you can't believe what your parents say for a while yeah yeah

00:07:47.280 absolutely but um it was in my relationship um when i was having arguments with my ex-partner it was

00:07:54.880 like i could just afterwards i was like those were not my opinions it's like i can hear my mom's voice in

00:08:00.640 my head but like i said it got to a point where it kind of got a bit too late to to be able to like

00:08:09.120 save that relationship it just got to a point it could have gotten abusive from both sides um but

00:08:15.440 yeah that it was it was not that long ago um and one of the questions i was going to ask you like what

00:08:23.920 what would you do now to like compete for a guy compete yeah i mean it's always that love is

00:08:29.600 a competition you don't think what would i do to compete that's a good question what does that mean

00:08:36.880 exactly yeah like okay like would you would you agree that most women go for the same types of guys 0.92

00:08:44.960 yeah and in in terms of there's a list of things that women want and there's only a small percentage 1.00

00:08:49.840 of men that fit that that have good enough jobs that are good enough looking that are tall enough

00:08:53.840 i think you're right there's not enough men that we want to go around there's enough men to go around

00:08:58.480 but not that that women i would listen i would um i am starting to learn to listen to the man

00:09:08.640 and shut my mouth a bit more finding it difficult i'm not succeeding every time so but that's yeah that's

00:09:16.800 what i would really take on is is to be a lot more feminine now because i did take on being masculine

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JustPearlyThings - April 22, 2023

Her Feminist Mother Discouraged Her From Getting Married

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