Her Feminist Mother Discouraged Her From Getting Married
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the impact feminism has had on our society and the impact it has made on our family life. We discuss the role of feminism in society and how it has affected the way we grew up. We also talk about the role feminism has played in shaping our children and the effect it has on the way they grow up.
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what's going on people so so where did where am i picking up like what was the current conversation
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mandana was saying about um how her mother raised her based on ideologies and she never really got
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her but then we was talking this lady right here this young lady was talking about her
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experiences with her mother oh yeah as a feminist so oh your mum was a feminist yes
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she tried to install that programming into you she did did you accept it or reject it well i
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went along with them growing up like i was saying i was you know born 1980 and then being a teenager
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in the 90s madonna and you know all of that is a high material girl yeah the height and the material
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world yeah um yeah i went along with that and then you know someone mentioned neo independent woman
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you know the music kind of huge yeah carmen mentioned that i had a huge impact and uh yeah i thought that
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was the the the right way so i worked hard i mean literally in my 20s i worked like 78 hours a week
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i loved my job absolutely loved it um and then i did settle down with the guy but i didn't get married
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because that wasn't a value like my mum was like don't worry about getting married i have kids just
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live your life maybe not so you know so what your mum was like yeah just go out there get money and live
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your movie yeah so like how do you feel about that now um do you feel like she might have steered you
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in the wrong direction um you can be real man she's not here no i love my mom and you know she's a you
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can love your mom but your mom still can be wrong you know yeah absolutely and i do tell her that every
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day bless her no if you had your time again would you no i would um i would get married i would have
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gotten married um yeah stayed married and stayed married would you have marriage of your i was with
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my daughter's dad for about 12 years um do you think he should have been your husband
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do you know like in the beginning like when he mentioned marriage i thought i don't want to get
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married forget that like oh snap yeah and um i never really understood like the the value in getting
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married but i think like actually giving your word giving your word that you are going to stick with
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this person i think that will make a bigger difference in actually making it work do you think do you
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would you agree that a lot of times a lot of older women give younger women bad advice hundred percent
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one thousand what do you not what do you not think about that i do i agree 100 that's what makes
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the markets are kicked out basically that's what i was saying to her i'm like but why she was the
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oldest one here mate yeah i think it just depends on like you said the programming what programming did
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that older woman receive to then hand down what kind of software was installed exactly so if you if
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you got the corrupt if you got the malware you can only hand down malware you know like that if you get
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if you come from a two-parent household then you're more likely to still get you should come
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you should a two-parent household should come from you because you came from a two-parent household
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but if you come from a single parent household and it's the mum saying yeah well i would had to work
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two three jobs so i don't maybe they say they don't want that for her but what is for their child
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but but the reason is that that men are bad in it like you can't find a good man basically i'm like
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my dad wasn't the best i loved him like to me he did his best but as a husband and how he
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treated my mom in certain ways but i also you know i think a lot of women don't take responsibility for
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they don't see the psychological abuse they just don't see it like constantly making a man wrong
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like the way women can make a man feel like is women don't really see that so what do you think
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about uh you know feminism what do you think about it though i think it's bullshit it's like set us back
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like way back and the way that oh don't get me started i'm sorry i prefer it way back
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i think what i what i've noticed in like when i really look at like the society and the media
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especially like if you notice a lot of media kind of it kind of installed that programming as well
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because like for instance when you watch like a lot even cartoons you might watch the simpsons or family
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guy the dad is always like an idiot he's always like a fumbling and the mom has to be the one
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controlled the one that's level-headed where the where the dad is just like an idiot and you know
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it's subtle but it is actually quite significant because everybody watches the simpsons everyone
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watches family guy and it's just like yeah i think that society um the media it really pushes for like
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you know men are incapable women have to take the the reins of everything can reach like girl power
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kind of thing what do you think about it was the consequences of it what's the consequences of it
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men are emasculated yeah men are emasculated women women are not to say women shouldn't feel like
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you know they can make decisions yeah but at the end of the day most women will want a man that is
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a leader a man that is competent a man that is confident the man that you know she can rely on and
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look to you know in times of need where they don't want to they don't want to couple up with homer
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simpson they don't want to couple up with peter griffin i said i was saying that earlier sorry
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how do you think we can change the situation i think it's every man's duty personally to be the
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best version of himself i think that every man should uh strive to get financial power physical
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power you know be you know in best physical shape he can yeah mental power he cannot afford to be
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ignorant you just can't bro yeah and as women we have to empower those men because i i just talk to
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women a lot and i'm like you talk so much about men how do you expect to meet a nice man law of
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attraction and um the other thing is um sorry i lost my um got starstruck yeah especially because you
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called me based thank you thank you thank you it was a quick statement oh good it was okay good good
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oh yeah this is what i was going to say how we how we how what we do about it let's get let's get
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let's get a round of applause thank you for king riches yeah yeah they don't need any statements from
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us right security yeah hey security you can take the gloves off now secure in the building
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and you're the one she was uh telling you why you're not smiling do you remember
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that's why he wasn't she was so desperate to make him a long time
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yeah i didn't think for you bro yeah what were you guys talking about um we were saying like how
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sorry to you know the situation with feminism oh men being demasculated like um gary was saying
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like what do we do about that and i'm like you're shutting down people like that like like exact
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like this is what has got to stop like women talking about men is going on and on and on and
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i just shut it down as much as i can and yeah sometimes i do get into arguments with my girlfriends
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but so what did your did your mom do that to you because you said you said your mom was a feminist
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did she talk yeah yeah and i shut up i i yeah i shut her down immediately when was your like red
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pill moment that switched because that no because i'd imagine at some point like i mean if she was
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talking like this when you're a kid you can't believe what your parents say for a while yeah yeah
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absolutely but um it was in my relationship um when i was having arguments with my ex-partner it was
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like i could just afterwards i was like those were not my opinions it's like i can hear my mom's voice in
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my head but like i said it got to a point where it kind of got a bit too late to to be able to like
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save that relationship it just got to a point it could have gotten abusive from both sides um but
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yeah that it was it was not that long ago um and one of the questions i was going to ask you like what
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what would you do now to like compete for a guy compete yeah i mean it's always that love is
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a competition you don't think what would i do to compete that's a good question what does that mean
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exactly yeah like okay like would you would you agree that most women go for the same types of guys
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yeah and in in terms of there's a list of things that women want and there's only a small percentage
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of men that fit that that have good enough jobs that are good enough looking that are tall enough
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i think you're right there's not enough men that we want to go around there's enough men to go around
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but not that that women i would listen i would um i am starting to learn to listen to the man
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and shut my mouth a bit more finding it difficult i'm not succeeding every time so but that's yeah that's
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what i would really take on is is to be a lot more feminine now because i did take on being masculine
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