JustPearlyThings - Her Instagram Is More Important Than Her Relationship

00:00:00.000 where you deserve that do you think relationships require sacrifice yes okay so why wouldn't you

00:00:06.480 sacrifice instagram because i don't think our relationship is based on that okay what if you

00:00:14.080 what if you just says this is a boundary for me i know women we love our boundaries 1.00

00:00:18.560 and so manipulating you think it's manipulative to ask you to delete instagram at the beginning

00:00:24.560 of the relationship yeah okay why because i don't think we trust each other so much at the beginning

00:00:30.480 is it is it manipulative if i say i don't date guys that go to clubs

00:00:36.000 in a way yeah because you don't type you don't date that type of man okay what about you would

00:00:41.360 you delete your instagram no i would not delete my instagram okay not even for the right guy

00:00:47.040 no he's rich rich handsome got a six-pack abs he says only the only one thing i need i just need

00:00:54.880 the instagram off the phone no i'll move you into my mansion i'll really no because i you know i'm

00:01:03.760 self-made i run my business through my instagram and that would be giving away something that's dear

00:01:09.600 to me and important and where i spend a lot of my time as well with work so um i think it's quite

00:01:16.640 coercive and what does coercive mean coercive is where someone goes if i give you this then

00:01:22.960 or if you do this for me then i'll give you that it's it's almost so it's it's if it's

00:01:27.440 say that again it's if i give you this so if i give you something then yeah then you get something

00:01:33.520 else there's a reward perhaps like coercion is like trying to manipulate or to maneuver people into

00:01:39.200 a shape that you want them to be in so i don't agree with that so it's influencing somebody

00:01:46.000 yeah but it can be in quite a strong way like coercion is actually against the law

00:01:52.400 in relationships yeah it can be yeah because the feminists ruin the laws so they just they just make 1.00

00:01:58.000 up these i don't i don't make i don't make the law but coercion is a very old word and it's probably

00:02:02.800 based but but i think i go ahead but what you what you what you just defined is not coercion what you

00:02:08.160 define is called trade if i give you this you give me this that's literally called trade not coercion

00:02:12.720 i think let's get the dictionary out and look i'm googling i'm telling you what you said you said

00:02:20.000 if i give you this you give me this there's many ways of naming something that is the same action no

00:02:27.520 normally is this is a this is a trend this is just a trend i see with women it's like we change the 1.00

00:02:34.000 definitions of things and we like change words they don't mean anything can i can i say what it means

00:02:38.240 i googled it just yeah so and so the threat of force right exactly yeah yeah that's the one

00:02:45.840 that's what i missed in your definition the threat of violence or force yeah well it's forcing someone

00:02:51.360 to do something how are you not it's not you choose to but then if you don't meet this you didn't say

00:02:56.560 if i give you this you have to give me this by force no but if they don't want to have a relationship

00:03:00.560 with you because you will not give up your instagram then so yeah so it's a free word you don't have

00:03:05.360 you don't choose well then that's it moving on right but but but his but his whole point is you're

00:03:10.960 using a very strong word like like that's that's a crime it's just like when women it's just like 1.00

00:03:17.520 i'm saying that in a relationship situation it has been used as being defined as a crime but for me

00:03:23.760 i don't i don't receive coercion well like that you know i'm trying to trade off something for something

00:03:29.120 else how much do you make off of instagram a month i don't think i make money off instagram

00:03:34.480 a month so you don't make money off of it no no it's not monetized for me no oh so you wouldn't

00:03:39.120 even give it up even even though you don't make money off of it because you said a business i just

00:03:43.440 assumed you know but i put my gallery on there i'm a photographer so i put my work on there and

00:03:47.760 it's my personal gallery so it's my way of putting my work out into the world doesn't matter whether

00:03:53.200 what if what if he got you an art studio and said you can hang them up here um no i don't think so

00:04:01.040 what's your price what's your price yeah i just like my own thing so i think the way you phrased

00:04:06.480 it is very easy for them to to like wiggle out of the answer okay so let's let's make it more

00:04:10.960 interesting you you said you use your instagram for work do you post personal pictures or stuff on

00:04:16.000 your on on the instagram recently yes so you definitely don't use it only for work no my work was an

00:04:21.360 exhibition so i put myself point is if it's a work thing that's different we're trying to say like

00:04:26.560 a personal instagram we're not talking about something you use for work or you used to make

00:04:30.640 money we're saying like the instagram that you used to post your selfies your when you turn your

00:04:34.480 back the mirror shots the bikini stuff that's the instagram we're talking about you won't find me

00:04:38.880 in the bikini on instagram no we're just saying it's a hypothetical it's a hypothetical do you have

00:04:44.640 selfies on your instagram um yes or no i did one today okay so okay so you do have

00:04:50.800 personal things on your it's like you're you're guys weeding out of this answer regardless the

00:04:56.560 answer is no i would not delete something if someone asked me to just because there was a

00:05:01.040 relationship being dangled okay what would you what would you give up for the right man

00:05:06.400 if we go through like personal like instagram because i use mine for work and i don't post

00:05:22.960 personal stuff i don't post my family friends and things like this and if it was just personal i will

00:05:28.240 give it away because i think nowadays it's hard to get a relationship but it's even harder to protect and

00:05:33.200 maintain it okay and if it gets to the point like nowadays the mindset i have i'll give like my

00:05:38.640 password or something like this to give the person like the trust you know because nowadays i think

00:05:43.600 people are not willing they want the relationship but they're not willing to do sacrifices right to

00:05:48.960 maintain it so so would you would you delete it he says i'll pay you what you're getting paid now

00:05:54.640 if i if he's the guy i intend to marry yeah and have kids with i would do that you'd get rid of it 0.72

00:06:00.640 i would do that because nowadays like for me like family and protect family and my relationship is

00:06:05.520 a priority and if he can cover like the cost and things like this okay you don't need to work or

00:06:10.160 things like this i would do that in order to protect would you be willing to go down in lifestyle for

00:06:14.880 the right guy um no don't because i'll find a way to put him up i think uh work as a woman is 1.00

00:06:22.720 also like what do you mean you got kids so you got more expenses so it goes down

00:06:30.400 no but you're saying like before or with the guy that's so so you go down in lifestyle for the right

00:06:36.720 guy after marriage yes it can happen of course okay so you would yeah okay cool cool what about you

00:06:44.320 would you delete your instagram for the right guy i i'm not even on social media like that i don't even

00:06:50.320 have full time i don't even have full time instagram would you stop cheating for the right

00:06:58.960 all right um but no but this is but this is exactly what i was saying okay it's just because me i said

00:07:04.720 like i do say yes i did cheat it doesn't make me it doesn't make me the wrong person like all of these

00:07:11.280 people that they don't say they don't because because i'm not judging i'm just asking the question

00:07:17.200 would you stop cheating for the right you meet mr wonderful he's tall whatever you look for you're

00:07:23.520 tight okay the reason i'm not in a relationship it's just because there is no one deserving deserving

00:07:29.840 me not to cheat on doesn't make sense so every guy you meet deserves so if you dated any of these three

00:07:38.560 guys here forgot five guys in this room i really believe that relationship is very simple you say

00:07:46.480 what you want you like it like it just you talk you just need to talk you just need to be honest with

00:07:52.160 each other okay if there is something you don't like you just move on if like i said like i said

00:07:57.680 i'm asking you if you liked everything about the guy yes i wouldn't cheat okay thank you i wouldn't

00:08:03.360 change would you delete your instagram i don't even have instagram but like full time i have

00:08:08.240 your snapchat how do you get recruited on here don't they recruit people through instagram through a

00:08:13.440 friend a friend would you delete your snapchat um my snapchat is new i just delete my snapchat all the

00:08:20.560 time i even change when i'm like there is no way to find me just like yeah for him because i know you

00:08:26.720 have snapchat so you would you delete yeah but it's new anyway yes i will do good and i will stop

00:08:33.040 cheating if it's the right one what if a guy said this i don't think it'd be the same reaction

00:08:42.720 not anything and it's gonna be like it's gonna be oh it's fine you know oh he just cheats it's okay

00:08:47.120 but just because i have the post to say oh yeah she's a cheater she's so much right i'm saying i don't

00:08:54.000 think like women would clap and laugh as much if it was a guy saying that i don't think it would be

00:08:58.880 the same i think you you get more leeway because you're a chick okay what about you would you delete 0.56

00:09:05.680 instagram i don't know it depends like in what stage you are if a guy if i start to date a guy

00:09:10.640 and he's like oh i i want to continue to you want to get serious but i don't want you to be on

00:09:14.320 instagram i'll be like yeah but when you met me you would see what i do of like and if what if when

00:09:19.760 you met him he was sleeping with other chicks but you want him to stop sleeping with other chicks 0.52

00:09:24.240 that i wouldn't be i wouldn't be going with him if i would be sleeping oh like how how do relationships

00:09:28.960 start nowadays oh what do you mean say it again how do how do relationships start nowadays

00:09:33.920 and in a relation is it typically you start with the relationship or a situationship first

00:09:39.040 all right situationship right yeah so so so what does that mean he's probably sleeping with other

00:09:42.880 chicks yeah but i think that's a very different thing if you sleep with other chicks or you have 1.00

00:09:46.000 instagram that's two completely different things i would argue it's very similar because women and 1.00

00:09:51.440 instagram is an open profile for any man to message you have women survived historically they got the

00:09:58.560 attention of high value men or the the best guy they could get see i gotta i gotta stop you there wait

00:10:02.960 wait have men reproduced historically by screwing a bunch of chicks women had to get the attention from 1.00

00:10:08.800 the best guy they can't could men had to screw as many chicks and impregnate them and protect them okay 1.00

00:10:15.120 that's why that's why i think it's similar because it's but you're you're fulfilling both of your

00:10:19.520 mating strategies when it comes to like a your biological level okay yeah yeah so so that's why

00:10:25.440 since instagram's the number one dating app and if if he wanted drake kanye any of them could message

00:10:31.520 you i'm not saying they will but i'm saying they could right that's that's why i'm saying it's it's

00:10:36.240 basically an invitation for any guy to message you at any point during your relationship good but like for

00:10:42.080 example i think it depends as well my my instagram account is private like i don't accept people

00:10:47.040 if i don't know you a lot of people i don't know i won't accept you on it that also has to do with

00:10:50.880 my job whatsoever blah blah do you have your do you have your face on it oh absolutely okay so but

00:10:55.440 the people that follow you yeah they could still message you right they could yeah okay and and there's

00:11:00.880 probably men that you've liked in the past that follow you yeah oh okay so that's that's the whole point

00:11:07.040 yeah yeah they could still message you absolutely correct correct that's what i'm saying yeah i i

00:11:12.080 think it's similar that's that's why i think it's similar because i think that sex um sex is to men

00:11:19.440 like attention is to women but that is of course your opinion yeah that's true that's true that's true

00:11:27.680 my point though is that that's how we survived we could not survive unless we got the attention of

00:11:33.040 the best guy we could that could protect us men could not pass on their genes without screwing a 1.00

00:11:39.040 bunch of chicks so my you you said he did that like that you were doing that when you met him and i'm

00:11:46.640 my point is that he was sleeping with other people when he met you yeah so then he should he not stop

00:11:51.200 because that's how you found him careful yeah no i know i'm just i'm just thinking i'm just like

00:11:58.560 like i'm saying pearl pearl you're using too much logic here

00:12:05.040 no i'm just still thinking like i don't know i'm just still seeing it very different

00:12:11.280 this is exactly what i said when you go and decide to have a relationship you just say okay you're

00:12:16.800 willing to do this you're willing to do that you don't need to push that's why cheating comes that's

00:12:21.920 right toxic my point is he's asking you this is the right guy this is mr wonderful and he says i

00:12:30.800 just need the instagram to go i just want to know why if you have a valid reason if you have a proper

00:12:36.800 valid reason why you want me to get out of it he doesn't have a reason that's valid to you i would

00:12:41.280 need to have a reason he just said lady this is my program i like you i just need the instagram to go

00:12:47.120 please don't argue with me and if you want to do it i will if you actually want it and pearl said

00:12:53.120 he has the reason but it's not valid to you it's no she just said he doesn't have a reason he has

00:12:58.400 a reason i said it's not valid to you i think we're putting too much power on instagram now yeah

00:13:07.040 i don't know i don't know i i wouldn't i have to i would have to be in a situation like i think

00:13:10.880 about a lot of things when you say like a would you would you i don't know if you can always say

00:13:14.720 i would or i would not if you're not actually in that situation yourself i think that's a no

00:13:21.680 thank you personally is the guy allowed to keep their instagram oh but if you want if he doesn't

00:13:26.800 want you to have instagram i wouldn't i reckon he will he doesn't have instagram himself he's allowed

00:13:32.320 to keep it no you know what you know what i'll tell you something i'd like to change my answer

00:13:37.920 if you ask a guy will you will you delete the instagram for me and he does that automatically he

00:13:47.280 lost your respect fact preach i will not but he has the reality here's the reality where he has

00:13:54.320 another instagram that you don't know about no no you don't understand if he if he complied to

00:13:59.040 everything a woman says like something is like is wrong he's not like the the leader he's not and 0.86

00:14:04.400 you're not gonna like him as well you're just doing everything you're gonna get bored at a certain

00:14:09.360 point definitely you might he might have bended to your rules for that curve but eventually it's

00:14:17.120 it's not gonna work out

JustPearlyThings - July 22, 2023

Her Instagram Is More Important Than Her Relationship

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