JustPearlyThings - June 28, 2023


How Common FALSE Accusations Are in RELATIONSHIPS

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
The SHOCKING Truth About VIRGIN WOMEN Why Modern Women Are Miserable

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10 minutes

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194.22

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2,023

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Harmful content

Misogyny

9

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Toxicity

2

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Hate speech

3

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Summary

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In this episode, I am joined by my good friend, who has been a long time friend of mine and someone who I have known for a very long time. We talk about the importance of being selfless in a relationship and how to deal with false accusations. We also talk about what it means to be a lady and why it is so important to be selfless.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 the realization i had i was like when i hear girls come on the show and say oh i just gave him i did
00:00:06.640 so much for him like all this i realized i was like it's actually the biggest red flag for the
00:00:11.200 girl because that means she's keeping score yeah it shouldn't be like that yeah when you're like
00:00:16.480 as a lady as a female when you're in a relationship you're supposed to do these things you shouldn't 1.00
00:00:22.320 be tapping it oh i was so loyal to him i've done this for him i cooked for him i think it's normal
00:00:28.320 i love it as well they'll be like i flew her here i did that you wouldn't be here without me you're
00:00:32.560 keeping score right now i guess men and women both keep school then i don't think it's the same like
00:00:41.280 i i just think marriage is supposed to be like selfless yeah like it's supposed to be you give
00:00:46.560 as much as you can and you don't you don't worry about the other side because a lot of times like
00:00:52.000 as girls we don't always think about the stuff they do for us because we're so self-centered
00:00:55.840 really i love it when a guy does like little things for me even if it's just like a text or
00:01:00.640 he comes to pick me up yeah i mean i'm not talking i'm not talking about you personally
00:01:04.880 i'm just saying in general that's why i say we can't really make generalizations though i mean
00:01:10.640 well it's like when you start to talk to hundreds of people in a year you just start to see patterns
00:01:18.000 but um yeah i just had that realization though the other day i was like it's actually a red flag when
00:01:24.640 she's saying how much she did for him because it's like what he didn't do anything for you
00:01:29.200 come on and also you should be enjoying it and enjoying serving your partner um instead of
00:01:36.240 thinking of it like a chore like oh i did this because i had to no it's not because you had to
00:01:41.520 if you're in love with a man you should you would want to you generally want to do that for the man you
00:01:49.280 love exactly you don't sit there and you start like making marks down and i've done this i've
00:01:54.480 done that he needs to do that for me it doesn't work like that if you generally love someone you
00:01:58.880 want to give them the world yeah that's that's how it should be that's how i that's how i see it
00:02:03.360 personally that's how when i've grown up that's how i've seen my parents actually my parents
00:02:08.560 relationship was not the best but my mum held it down for a very very long time for the sake of me and
00:02:14.800 my little sister and that just showed me as a lady marriage is very very very precious and you do
00:02:22.400 do the most for the person you love even if they're not the greatest how common do you think false
00:02:29.040 accusations are what what do you think is more common a man being falsely accused or a woman not being
00:02:38.160 believed both i think they're both as bad as we got more common it's like we gotta pick one i think um
00:02:48.240 i think a man being accused a man being accused definitely a man being accused what do you think
00:02:54.160 man being accused of something versus someone not believing a woman yeah well like yeah people like
00:02:59.120 biologically like you know will believe a woman no matter what like just in our nature to like protect
00:03:05.040 women you know what i mean like as men like if you if you ever watch any like world star video
00:03:11.120 or like a dude punches a chick in a public place like 50 dudes swarm on that guy so psychologically it's
00:03:19.200 kind of the same way i mean that's a good question i don't know i really don't know that's a good one
00:03:24.720 maybe i would say i mean i know what i'm supposed to say no i mean give me your honest opinion if you don't
00:03:30.880 i don't know i'm just sitting around thinking about it right now i don't know because i know that
00:03:37.040 there have been a lot of cases recently coming to light of women around the globe pretending to be
00:03:43.120 innocent when they're not i've seen a lot of those come to light and the other side of this coin is like
00:03:48.640 the women if they're not listened to or believed then it doesn't make any headlines so it's hard to say
00:03:54.800 except for oh yeah yeah i agree sorry i know
00:04:01.360 it's uh it's kind of a sword with two edges like men are typically uh accused of even false things
00:04:09.680 and they're they're not even given the chance to defend themselves but women when they do this 1.00
00:04:16.160 they're uh or when they're not um how can i say that when they're not um when when they are not
00:04:23.760 innocent and they pretend to be but they're given credit for this i mean it's kind of a sword with
00:04:30.080 two with two edges if you know do you know what case i was thinking about recently on the head
00:04:36.560 that too that too i was thinking of weinstein the real victims are the girls that didn't take the role
00:04:46.800 i'm like wait so wait let me get this straight these girls slept with him got famous and now we're 1.00
00:04:52.560 gonna paint them as victims why'd you sleep with him he wouldn't be able to do what he did if all
00:04:57.120 the chicks didn't sleep with him but there was no accountability on the women it was only on the men 0.70
00:05:02.720 like the real victims are the women that didn't get the parts did he actually grape them or just like
00:05:07.760 let's just do this no like sure i want to be a star it was it was um he was exchanging sex for roles
00:05:13.600 so is that illegal if he was graping them i get it but is that the child why is he in jail for that
00:05:22.560 that's what i thought it was i don't know for me there's no
00:05:29.280 there's not there's no amount of money no opportunity that any man could offer me
00:05:34.560 for sex 100 i could be offered as far as my life i could be offered a billion pounds and i would say
00:05:42.160 no if i don't love him no i'm not doing it regardless because to me my dignity and my um
00:05:52.400 self-esteem no i cried i can't think of the word not even pride just my it's like uh pureness yeah my
00:06:03.600 purity is more important to me than any amount of money because money can't buy that and i'd rather
00:06:09.920 literally live on a hill with some cows and and a family and not have to think that i actually you know
00:06:19.840 gave my body away for money or for or for gain like so for me there's literally no amount of
00:06:25.120 money anyone could pay me to do that so if they're choosing to if that's what happened i don't know
00:06:29.920 what the case is but if if that is the case and they chose to sleep with him and he didn't grape them
00:06:35.040 he chose they chose to sleep with him for a role i what do you what do you think of women that come 0.99
00:06:42.160 out years later and accuse a guy of grape yeah that's just up i mean because it's just like
00:06:49.120 like if if it happened i get it but what are the statutory limits on that what are the like you
00:06:57.360 know what's the legal limit on that and then also it's just like if you're saying something happened 0.91
00:07:02.400 in the 70s like how are you gonna prove it yeah like i don't have a fucking delorean you know 0.97
00:07:07.440 are you guys familiar with the jimmy savile case no who's that jimmy's jimmy's have a
00:07:13.440 friend of the bbc actually tate mentioned it earlier on so to give you like a small synopsis
00:07:19.920 he was again like this sort of like presenter and years later similarly a load of women came out and 0.98
00:07:27.120 was just like yeah he did xyz like all of this stuff to me um and i thought the same thing i was
00:07:33.440 the same as you guys i was like why the hell did they not just say something while he was alive
00:07:37.440 you could have easily put him in jail then do you know what i mean you could actually question him
00:07:41.440 but then you know they started to speak out about the fact that people just wouldn't believe him
00:07:46.560 that that was where it came from because this guy was like so loved by the british public
00:07:51.280 if they were to come out and be like well jimmy savile like he did this to me and touched me here
00:07:55.520 and that and the other they were just literally getting shut down and people were like you're
00:07:58.880 either being attention seeking or they were like well that's just jimmy savile and i think that's
00:08:02.960 where it comes from where like a lot of these women don't speak out at the time it's through fear 1.00
00:08:07.840 yeah but how do you know if you if you don't try though but how do you know they're not thinking
00:08:12.560 like that if you're scared and it's like some you really have to put yourself in someone's shoes to
00:08:16.880 understand this if someone's really really scared and there's somebody very powerful like this prince
00:08:21.760 andrew stuff that's going on right yeah you're not gonna openly just be like yeah this is what
00:08:26.560 happened and that happened because look what we were talking about the cia and all of these people that
00:08:31.280 can just hunt you down and kill you whatever people are scared i do think you have to have like 0.85
00:08:38.080 i was thinking about it no i was more thinking that i think we have to have like you have to file it 0.99
00:08:44.560 within three months that's what i think because i just think we're in a sticky it's not a perfect system
00:08:50.400 but i i just think you're in a sticky situation where you can come out years later and accuse someone
00:08:55.040 of something like a movement as well bill cosby i think that's another example of that right like yeah
00:09:00.960 i think unless it's like minors maybe like i i think you should there has to be something where
00:09:06.000 you have to come out at the time um someone said about the harvey weinstein they said they said it was
00:09:12.720 great but then when it came out they said it was an exchange and then some said it was great but the
00:09:17.280 stories changed once it was out in the public eye at first it was up in the air and rose mick gorman who
00:09:23.520 led the me to charge charge took settlements is he in jail though i feel like he is isn't he
00:09:35.520 um i think so wasn't he connected with epstein as well yeah but i don't know i just think there
00:09:40.560 should be equal energy if you're taking sex for a part should she be in jail isn't she doing the same 1.00
00:09:45.920 thing yeah because he's leveraging power but she's leveraging beauty isn't she doing the same thing 1.00
00:09:50.160 yeah yeah no she she is yeah so it's like why is it prostitution yeah yeah it is it's prostitution
00:09:58.480 but it's like but it's like these women are what they're victims when you you gave him 1.00
00:10:02.960 say no if they gave the man consent to be recorded and for them to do what they was doing
00:10:09.520 i don't think um they should class it as whatever it was classed as unless i don't know maybe a knife
00:10:16.640 was put to their neck and they was forcefully made to consent then i don't know and that classifies as
00:10:22.800 grape