JustPearlyThings - August 14, 2023


How FEMINISM And FEMINISTS Are Hurting MEN

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Tee Hee Hee Jason Derulo Chris Brown Drake Pearl Pell Rare
Delusional Woman Said This on Air And This Happened This Is Why Women Shouldn't Vote

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Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

216.1

Word count

2,020

Sentence count

218

Harmful content

Misogyny

30

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Toxicity

7

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Hate speech

28

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Summary

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In this episode, I sit down with comedian, writer, and podcaster, to discuss the current state of affairs in the dating world. We talk about what it means to be a woman in the modern dating world, why women don t want to date an average guy, and why monogamy is the best option for men.

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00:00:00.000 So would you say that this is like technically just a woman's problem then? 1.00
00:00:04.420 Because it's women that, it's not technically men that put down women, you know?
00:00:07.380 It's women that put down women. 1.00
00:00:08.600 The women trying to be men are hurting the feminine, not the feminine, the beta men, right? 1.00
00:00:14.520 That's hurting beta men.
00:00:15.660 That's why we have beta men.
00:00:16.840 It's because of the masculine women. 1.00
00:00:18.320 Well, I think it becomes a problem because you have 80% of women screwing 20% of men. 1.00
00:00:23.300 So then women don't respect the average guy. 1.00
00:00:25.380 I did a show the other day and like most women said they wouldn't date a bus driver. 1.00
00:00:28.540 They're above a bus driver, average chicks. 1.00
00:00:32.020 And it's why you have average chicks saying they're at the level of a celebrity, no offense. 1.00
00:00:36.460 But like it's like you have average chicks thinking they're so great when it's like literally you are average.
00:00:41.760 You're average looking, you're an average mindset.
00:00:43.360 Most people are average.
00:00:44.800 And men will accept this, but women won't. 1.00
00:00:46.700 It's like an insult for us to be normal.
00:00:49.220 So then you won't see normal women dating normal men. 0.95
00:00:52.420 But do you feel like that is because social media has a lot to play for it?
00:00:55.940 They feel like there's a lot more accessibility.
00:00:57.600 I think it's social media and dating apps.
00:01:00.460 They feel like they've got more accessibility to higher people.
00:01:03.780 I mean, they do.
00:01:05.520 Because the issue nowadays, because this is what made me think about this.
00:01:08.900 I'm like, how would you find a good woman? 1.00
00:01:10.580 And I was thinking about this and I made a chart and I had like the body count of a woman on one hand.
00:01:15.580 And I had the looks of a woman on a one hand. 0.84
00:01:18.460 And so I was like, a woman that's 8 to 10 with a low body count, good luck keeping her. 1.00
00:01:24.440 Do you know what the list is going to be for a girl that's like that hot? 0.73
00:01:27.800 With like, the competition is crazy.
00:01:30.440 And so it's like you could be dating a woman and if there's high competition for her, Drake could slide in your girl's DMs.
00:01:37.040 100%.
00:01:37.520 Or maybe it's not Drake, it's the town whoever, right?
00:01:40.080 And then I was thinking about it and I was like, unless a guy sleeps with a lot of women, how is he going to know the difference between a woman that's been with everybody and a girl that does it, has it? 0.55
00:01:49.240 They never do.
00:01:49.940 They can't.
00:01:51.020 No, they can't know unless they've been with a lot of girls.
00:01:53.600 And I'm like, it's kind of unfortunate because it's like the only solution for the men seems to be to sleep around, which I don't think is, you know, great for society.
00:02:02.900 But it's like it's women's fault because we're the ones doing the sleeping. 1.00
00:02:05.800 But do you think that men should have more than one woman? 0.58
00:02:09.640 I think that it's silly to date certain men and expect monogamy.
00:02:16.400 So I think it's silly to date, say, Jason Derulo, Chris Brown.
00:02:20.120 These are extreme examples.
00:02:20.960 But there are certain men that it's very silly to expect it because he's never been monogamous and they never will be.
00:02:27.680 I think monogamy in general is better for a society.
00:02:30.840 Forget the higher.
00:02:32.100 I'm even talking on average men, normal men on a day to day.
00:02:35.500 Because obviously you said earlier on that there's more women on the earth than men. 1.00
00:02:40.220 So on average, how we are naturally, do you think that the average man should have one woman?
00:02:47.860 I think that it's better for society if monogamy is better because you get like a growing, having a lot of sexless men usually causes society to collapse.
00:02:59.580 So I think monogamy is better by and large.
00:03:01.700 But I think that a certain percentage of men are always going to be non-monogamous.
00:03:06.020 And that's kind of the way it's been the last like two million years.
00:03:08.400 Because 85%, it's like the last, I don't want to say how long it's been like this because I don't remember off the top of my head.
00:03:14.600 But I know like historically they always, it seems like all of society has been non-monogamous because 17 men reproduced for every one, 17 women reproduced for every one man like 8,000 years ago.
00:03:28.300 And on top of that, there's like two women have always reproduced for every one man. 0.58
00:03:31.120 But it's actually, our 40% of men have never reproduced, our 40% of men, I'm sorry, I'm butchering this.
00:03:37.780 But the 85% of, like 85% of society has generally been monogamous where the top 15% of men have just been like slaying.
00:03:46.240 Is it?
00:03:46.800 Yeah.
00:03:47.340 Well, okay.
00:03:48.260 Like concubines. 1.00
00:03:49.160 You do a lot of stats here.
00:03:50.380 Yeah.
00:03:50.540 I know a lot of average men out here that's probably not on these stats doing the same thing.
00:03:55.020 And when I say a lot, I'm talking, if you're just talking average men in London, obviously London, I don't know about America and that.
00:04:01.000 Average in what?
00:04:02.240 In sleeping with a lot of women.
00:04:04.260 No, like average looks, average money, would you say?
00:04:07.380 Average looks, average job.
00:04:10.300 I can even give you examples of a few average men that are big in weight and just got normal jobs that are dealing with a lot of women across the board.
00:04:19.800 Well, there's a couple things. 0.60
00:04:21.440 So, I mean, typically, again, like there's been studies on dating apps and in person where women find 80% of men is ugly.
00:04:28.900 Not okay, not average. 0.69
00:04:31.020 They think ugly. 0.97
00:04:32.140 He is unattractive. 1.00
00:04:33.500 Ugly. 0.98
00:04:34.240 Would you say the top percentage of men are on these dating apps?
00:04:39.100 Yeah, maybe.
00:04:40.720 Yeah, I don't know.
00:04:41.460 I don't believe so.
00:04:42.680 Ask catfish.
00:04:43.300 But I think that if you look at the numbers, social media is the number one way people are meeting.
00:04:53.220 100%, yeah.
00:04:53.820 So, social media and dating apps.
00:04:56.200 And like when you look at, so then the question is, if that's where people are meeting, what do the numbers look like in the dating apps?
00:05:01.400 Well, women only swipe right 5% of the time. 1.00
00:05:04.220 So, that means on the number one way people are meeting, we're sharing men.
00:05:09.140 100%, because it's always going to be free men, because we're the hunters, so we're always going to have to.
00:05:12.560 100%.
00:05:12.740 Wait, say that again.
00:05:14.100 It's always going to be men, because we're the hunters.
00:05:16.500 We're always going.
00:05:17.400 We're going to be the higher anyway.
00:05:18.660 Do you get what I'm saying?
00:05:19.280 Yeah, but when you're saying the average men that get women, they probably get women over the age of 30, because women tend to go for looks. 0.98
00:05:26.320 And so, in their 20s.
00:05:27.660 I fully agree with that.
00:05:28.560 You know why I agree with that?
00:05:29.600 Because I feel like in the 20s.
00:05:30.440 Or single mothers. 0.99
00:05:31.420 You're 100% right.
00:05:32.200 But between 20 and 30, women are very selective in what they do. 0.99
00:05:35.640 And then when they get to the age, you start wheeling off a lot of stats about pregnancy, geriatry.
00:05:41.080 When they start realizing that.
00:05:42.980 And they go for the average man.
00:05:44.460 They feel like they can come back to the average man.
00:05:45.920 Or even go back to a man that was trying to get them when they were 18, 19, and feel like they can go back to them.
00:05:51.640 But obviously, with men, it's a bit different, because men at 30, we start peaking.
00:05:56.620 We get fed up.
00:05:57.660 Yeah.
00:05:57.780 So, we start.
00:05:59.380 There's a change.
00:06:00.300 You get what I'm saying?
00:06:00.900 Yeah.
00:06:01.100 Yeah.
00:06:01.360 And so, that's why I say women pick non-monogamy in their 20s when they have the most leverage. 1.00
00:06:06.040 Yeah.
00:06:06.320 And they pick the 20% of men.
00:06:08.240 Then in their 30s, we tend to pick the rest, basically.
00:06:13.860 And so, the issue is when women cheat, who do they typically cheat with? 1.00
00:06:17.500 You guys know?
00:06:18.040 Anyone?
00:06:19.260 Their exes.
00:06:20.200 Correct.
00:06:20.560 100%.
00:06:21.120 Correct.
00:06:21.580 So, the issue that a lot of these guys are getting into, and this is why guys don't, like, typically, like, a lot of guys will say, I don't date women over 30.
00:06:28.720 And it's not a looks thing.
00:06:30.040 It's that if she's 30, like, how many relationships has she had?
00:06:33.740 Is one of those guys better than me?
00:06:35.800 And does she want to be with him?
00:06:37.100 And the odds are, he probably is, because in her 20s, she had more leverage than her 30s.
00:06:41.020 So, what are the odds in her 30s she can get a better guy than in her 20s? 1.00
00:06:44.760 Likely, right?
00:06:45.840 And I feel like...
00:06:46.560 And he was probably top 20% of looks.
00:06:48.320 And I feel like, slightly, when they have that relationship from 20 to 30, there's always that one guy that can always come back in the background.
00:06:55.900 Yeah, no, I've spoken to women that have had, like, I don't know, six-year situationships on and off, or between every relationship.
00:07:03.540 And that's, like, how they keep their, like, body count low or whatever.
00:07:07.140 It's, like, a say-so.
00:07:08.340 They'll, like, go back to the last.
00:07:09.980 And it kind of, so, it kind of makes sense.
00:07:13.200 You know, keeping your body count low 100%, but you don't have to do that.
00:07:16.160 You can just use a toy.
00:07:16.740 Ain't that toxic?
00:07:17.880 Yeah, no, no.
00:07:20.180 Yeah, because, like...
00:07:20.980 If you're going back to past situations, that may have not been good.
00:07:23.460 That's toxic.
00:07:24.060 Yeah.
00:07:24.500 So, then you meet a new guy going forward.
00:07:27.060 To relive your trauma.
00:07:28.260 That's too much toxicity that you're going to bring to the new guy that you may meet.
00:07:32.060 And then your trauma.
00:07:33.720 Yeah, and, like, and any time you mess up, he's sitting there waiting.
00:07:37.900 Sitting there waiting.
00:07:38.760 Sitting there waiting.
00:07:39.660 It's a mess.
00:07:40.580 Now, you've got to get rid of all the exes, you know.
00:07:43.200 Everyone's got to come off.
00:07:44.480 Yeah, but they are usually, usually the guys are the ones that are on standby.
00:07:49.580 They're waiting, and...
00:07:50.600 You know why?
00:07:51.420 Men will always be on standby.
00:07:52.880 They're always...
00:07:53.400 And I know what they want.
00:07:54.920 I'm not saying that I'm fooled, but...
00:07:57.240 And you know why it works for women, yeah? 1.00
00:07:58.080 They're always there.
00:07:58.940 You know why it works for women? 1.00
00:07:59.960 And men will always be there, because men don't talk to men.
00:08:02.500 But I'm not going to go to Ted and, like, yo, Ted, I'm dealing with Pell, you know.
00:08:07.160 Boom, boom, boom.
00:08:08.200 Whereas women always want to go to women about stuff. 1.00
00:08:10.180 Yeah.
00:08:10.580 So, you lot, in terms of, you can always have your exes there, because my man will just
00:08:14.920 wait in the background.
00:08:15.860 In the shadows.
00:08:16.500 Yeah, in the shadows.
00:08:17.300 Like, all right, cool.
00:08:18.040 When you're done with my...
00:08:18.960 Yeah, yeah.
00:08:19.540 Come back and...
00:08:20.400 You get me?
00:08:20.780 I'm going to say nothing.
00:08:21.920 Yeah.
00:08:22.200 But women... 1.00
00:08:22.720 Trust.
00:08:23.000 We try to have that one in the background.
00:08:25.080 Now she won't be the main one.
00:08:26.660 And she'll want to go to the main woman and tell her, yo, we've been together. 1.00
00:08:30.120 How long?
00:08:30.980 Rare, Rare, Rare been in the background.
00:08:32.420 I've never had that.
00:08:32.920 You know what I'm saying?
00:08:33.420 I'm going to read.
00:08:34.560 I'm going to read.
00:08:35.100 This was a...
00:08:35.760 I think this is like a $50.
00:08:37.280 I don't know the conversion.
00:08:38.180 But Pearl, listen, all these discussions are pointless.
00:08:40.620 Walk outside and you will see the majority of men don't leave their homes. 0.89
00:08:43.300 This phenomenon first started in Japan.
00:08:45.380 We are just a few years behind.
00:08:46.860 I went to Japan and all I see is women outside. 1.00
00:08:48.660 My main point is you cannot bring back most men outside of their rooms. 0.87
00:08:52.160 If you have to waste time arguing, debating with modern women, society will collapse. 1.00
00:08:55.980 Just like Japan, women will say it's expensive to have kids. 1.00
00:08:59.420 Tee hee hee children. 0.98
00:09:02.460 But...
00:09:02.980 Men are indoors with corn?
00:09:04.100 Or what is it implying?
00:09:08.240 I don't know, to be honest.
00:09:09.820 I just read it.
00:09:12.000 I mean, I think in general, people aren't leaving.
00:09:14.360 And especially like now they're going to have AI.
00:09:17.120 And like, I think there's just more people aren't going outside.
00:09:19.980 It's his main point.