JustPearlyThings - April 19, 2023


How Kevin Samuels Changed This 22 year Old


Episode Stats


Length

5 minutes

Words per minute

199.08156

Word count

1,026

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

5

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Summary

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In this episode, I sit down with a woman who has been through a lot in her life and is currently going through a healing process. We talk about her journey and how she has been able to overcome her past trauma to become a better woman and a better wife.

Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
00:00:00.000 question do you want to be married yeah i do do you feel like you were raised to be a wife
00:00:05.040 um no in my household no like i was born in a household with my mom and my dad
00:00:14.220 but um and they're married and everything but i spent more time with my dad so that's why i feel
00:00:20.380 like i've come off as like such an independent woman like boss lady in all my relationships i'll
00:00:25.760 be paying for things because i was more of my dad and i would look up to him and be like oh um i
00:00:32.060 would look at him as my role model so i'll be like you know i'll pay for the dates whatever but
00:00:36.000 um i'm trying to come out of that like that's part of my healing stage i'm trying to come out of it
00:00:41.260 follow-up question yeah go on question would you be willing and accepting if a strong man came into
00:00:46.680 your life and helped build you into a wife i'm not ready yet that's why i'm in no no no i'm saying
00:00:50.840 i hear you're saying carousel season i get that what i'm saying is if he came into your life would
00:00:56.900 you be accepting of him building you into the wife that he wanted yeah i definitely will be like that
00:01:02.220 is what i feel like this healing is for for that so i'm ready for that um just to show of hands who
00:01:07.680 on the panel wants to be married um oh yeah i want to hear the panel feels like they were raised to be
00:01:15.200 a wife i think it depends on what i was definitely raised to be a wife how because especially with
00:01:22.100 my culture i'm south american which country i'm south american brazilian all right yeah so i feel
00:01:28.420 like in my culture there's two sides there's obviously that the side that everyone talks
00:01:33.340 about that's not very good and all of this bad stuff but then on the other hand i've actually been
00:01:39.920 raised in brazil and i've actually grown up in a strict like catholic household my mom's always
00:01:45.180 taught me how to be a wife like from a young age she would tell me like oh this is what not really
00:01:51.500 exactly what you have to do but this is what a man have to show yeah like the traits that a man would
00:01:57.560 like like cooking cleaning being supportive bring a woman home yeah bring other women home okay that's 0.68
00:02:04.900 something i never agreed with but that's just my personal choice like obviously in the broader picture
00:02:09.820 i do see men bringing other women home but in my personal choice that was something that that's
00:02:15.220 something that can never run so i have a question for the women that said um that they want to be 0.98
00:02:21.740 wives um but they don't feel like they're raised to be a wife do you guys have married women around you 1.00
00:02:28.720 no no no i do no yeah i do rub it in
00:02:35.040 um anyone yeah oh you have okay um have you guys ever sought to like seek that out what in what
00:02:46.040 sense what do you because you you want to be married right that's the outcome you want so how
00:02:49.400 would you learn how to be married you would look to people that are married yeah yeah yeah yeah it's
00:02:55.880 all that facade yeah most of the time but yeah like i don't think about that i don't really look
00:03:01.980 back at my past to i don't know to move forward i just know what i want for myself and i know that
00:03:08.820 yeah no but i mean if i wanted to be a pro vault like i played volleyball right i was offered a pro
00:03:13.660 contract in the fall and what did i do to become a pro volleyball player yeah almost right the youtube
00:03:19.700 thing took off i had to get coaches yeah yeah to teach me how to play yeah yeah yeah no i agree with
00:03:25.780 that and i think that's a problem with um society today we don't i don't know i think people like
00:03:31.200 kevin samuels he was important because especially for me he made me think about what the type of guys
00:03:39.460 i want would want from me i never thought about that before i started listening to him
00:03:43.400 you know he was the first person to say hey like it's all good thinking about what you want as a
00:03:48.300 woman but what about thinking about what the type of guys you want would want from you how do you 1.00
00:03:53.020 how do you learn how do you go about learning what they want and then bringing that to the table
00:03:57.180 and i think that's the problem with with society today it's all about yeah it's all about well this is
00:04:04.580 how i am and you know i need to find someone who can who can match that but i definitely am somebody
00:04:10.640 that thinks about what you know the type of husband i would want would want from me i i um 0.58
00:04:17.920 and i acknowledge that i don't know everything you know which is why i don't know when people are
00:04:22.280 talking i'm very quiet i i'm like i'm the type of person where it's like i'm i want to learn i want
00:04:27.200 to learn yeah what what do you consult what what is your source of information or where do you where
00:04:31.960 you kind of gain your knowledge i hope not that book i haven't read that book actually i don't know
00:04:39.440 um i think um i don't know it's just it's just listening to conversations like this kevin samuels
00:04:46.900 for me was somebody that really like got me interested in thinking about this sort of stuff
00:04:51.200 i don't know i don't know i guess yeah i was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized on a daily
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