JustPearlyThings - July 22, 2023


How Social Media DESTROYS Relationships

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
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Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

192.35

Word count

1,786

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Harmful content

Misogyny

8

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Hate speech

2

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about social media and how it pertains to relationships and what it does to us as far as men and women in the dating world. We discuss what it means to be a woman on social media, what it's like to be in a relationship with a man and how to deal with it.

Transcript

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00:00:00.080 today's topic is um talking about social media and how it pertains to relationships
00:00:06.000 so i want to hear from the women um on a given day how many messages do you receive from men
00:00:12.160 interested in you i think it depends i think if i put stories up then i'll have more interaction but
00:00:21.200 yeah i think it just depends really okay that's not an answer sorry
00:00:25.360 and when i put stories up yeah i'll get a couple fair few messages to be fair
00:00:29.600 okay so how many a day like maybe like three four five okay so five a day so um okay so go ahead
00:00:38.800 i think for me um i don't post every day and any sort of like love or attention that i receive from
00:00:45.440 dudes is from guys i already know or have already like had an encounter with like met before so i
00:00:52.160 don't really get strangers like hey like what's up like i don't really get that often but people that
00:00:58.000 i know will will show me love okay so how many messages do you get a day from men like a zero
00:01:05.360 okay so you get no messages from guys interested in you do you have a public instagram yes yes but i
00:01:11.280 don't post often and when i do it's the people that already know me i rarely get and if i do is from
00:01:18.080 like an uncle that's like 25 years older than me that i'm going to ignore we should be friends
00:01:22.880 it's like once in a blue moon okay so uh what about you i don't really see them come up as much
00:01:30.400 because they go into message requests let's say on average between maybe one two one to two hey guys
00:01:39.920 how many how many messages do you get a day you know what it's about when you post if i post because
00:01:44.560 i'm a personal trainer so if i post like a um update from like my gym progress then i'll get
00:01:51.280 a flurry of people i might get like 20 to 25 but on a normal day not like so if you post if you post
00:02:00.000 you get oh and if you don't post if i don't post yeah you're beating the women uh yeah yeah i don't 0.97
00:02:07.760 know so so you get more dms than the girls i guess so well you know what would you say is the quality of 0.99
00:02:13.280 the girls that dmu um like out of every 10 what percent are you would actually yeah maybe like 10 0.80
00:02:20.480 okay that's that 10 yeah i mean if i post it if i was supposed to trap it maybe be that 40 okay just
00:02:27.040 on average sometimes you know i might i might get some wings in there but no no but yeah usually just
00:02:34.400 yeah about 10 percent i'll see okay yeah because the gays love a personal trainer man
00:02:41.600 um so my account is no longer public i've made it private and the reason why is because my situation
00:02:48.960 women are lovely because women would just like and then be like oh i love like how positive you are 1.00
00:02:54.640 and blah blah blah on social media guys are very different there's not i don't think i think there's a
00:03:00.000 shortage of like masculine mandem as they call it guys so i made my account private because guys have
00:03:11.040 kept dming me through like and then so like let's say for example the black gay community in london is
00:03:19.520 not that big including like mixed race guys so kind of everyone's following everyone so some people would 0.61
00:03:26.800 see so some people would see that i'm following them or blah blah blah and then and my biography
00:03:32.160 says like open-minded blah blah blah so i don't even say i'm bisexual so they'll slide in my dms 0.74
00:03:37.440 um and then one thing is with guys is guys okay perfect example i met a guy who were vibing blah blah
00:03:45.600 blah weren't really too sure if i liked him or whatever and he was like look i wouldn't mind if you had an
00:03:50.160 affair with a woman because she can give you something that i can't give you but if it was with another man 0.88
00:03:56.000 he would find it offensive so how many messages do you get a day i can't say in a day i could say i
00:04:02.160 could get like two three a week two three a week yeah okay what about you uh i don't get no message
00:04:10.080 i don't get no message that's half to do with the fact that i don't really i don't use social media
00:04:14.400 even when but at the same time back when i was single i still didn't really get messages like that it was
00:04:21.120 you having to fish rather than the fish coming to you type of situation not to say that women are fish 1.00
00:04:29.760 cancelled yeah taken off the platform but it's like yeah it's like you have to go
00:04:35.760 there rather than them come here which is very different to a lot of the other situation i've
00:04:42.080 heard from like other guys and other girls as well because to guys ratio is very different because a lot of
00:04:46.960 girls i've seen get a lot more messages than a lot of guys i've seen however the guys that do get
00:04:52.240 messages get a lot and a lot of them so you have that like one friend that one male friend who's a
00:04:59.120 10 out of 10 who would get 10 times more messages than any girl however like a bell curve situation 0.99
00:05:05.520 there are more girls getting more messages than guys right but from what i've seen the hottest guys will
00:05:12.800 because because of how pergamot so they want to go for them but the best of best so if you've got
00:05:17.600 that one guy who's 10 he's going to get more messages than any girl in any room in anywhere because
00:05:23.040 every girl wants him 0.98
00:05:27.520 so when you guys are uh looking at a social media profile um i know some of you are in relationships
00:05:33.200 but just like think back to when you were single and you got you looked at a profile and you have to
00:05:37.600 decide whether you would respond or not what would you look at i look at the fashion and what he's
00:05:42.560 wearing okay so fashion yeah yeah are you trying to see how tall he is is that a big thing for you
00:05:47.920 i mean everyone wants someone over six foot but i've been with guys that are smaller than that so it
00:05:52.480 doesn't really bother me too too much to be fair but yeah definitely fashion style what they do okay
00:05:58.960 pick up on personality okay um also guys if you want anyone to rate your instagrams put it in the chat
00:06:05.440 and we'll see what they think of it um okay so fashion um you said you want to see what he does
00:06:14.000 yeah uh what else anything else is that like if he travels stuff like that and just traveling help
00:06:20.160 well it just shows that he probably was spontaneous and that's an adventure they got money
00:06:28.240 um okay god i think for me um of course yeah we we want to look we want to see what he looks like
00:06:34.640 so i just want to see if i like his face you know um his build i am looking at fashion i'm looking at
00:06:41.760 things that's like is he posing with his like with his top out like is he trying to show off the packs
00:06:47.360 like i'm trying to see if he's trying to flaunt all of that because i'm attracted to a dude that's
00:06:51.840 confident but i also don't want someone that's like cocky or that like likes to put that on display so
00:06:58.160 if you see like a shirtless picture is that a turn on or turn off it depends on like most of the time
00:07:03.440 it's a turn off but it also depends on like how he's posing like sometimes you can just see some
00:07:07.440 guys on their profile and they're like giving you the eyes like smiles and they're like doing the most
00:07:12.400 and i feel like that's low key a bit of a turn off for me okay um but yeah i'm looking at like his
00:07:18.800 friends if he's posted any pictures of his like mom if like like what he does um yeah i'm just kind
00:07:26.400 of looking at all of that i don't know if that makes sense but yeah oh what about you i think for
00:07:34.320 me it's just like if they post their interests i don't it more depends on the message for me rather
00:07:39.920 than the profile because the profile is fake anyway like everyone's instagram is just a fake version of
00:07:44.400 themselves so it it would catch my eye if they have something that they're really passionate and
00:07:49.600 interested in that they post about that might entice me more to reply but i think it more depends on
00:07:55.840 the message for me what type of message would be a good message to send you if it can make me laugh
00:08:00.960 or something funny something funny yeah or something that would make me think like if they
00:08:05.840 said something really interesting no don't in that is though the standards are rough for guys
00:08:13.040 because it's like i don't know what you find funny or not funny yeah exactly exactly but that's kind
00:08:17.680 of my point like it's it's it's instagram like it's it's all a fake world anyway so you might as
00:08:22.560 well just give it a go and you know you never know go have that universal riz i mean what about you two um
00:08:30.080 good first message to send you to be fair it depends whether they're good looking or not if i reply like
00:08:35.760 the message could just be hey and if he's good looking i'll entertain it a little bit but
00:08:40.160 if the conversation's just dead then it just spoils it
00:08:43.440 yeah for me like in the past i've had guys that will like talk about my body
00:08:49.200 or anything like that and i don't want to feel like i'm being sexually objectified in any way so
00:08:54.000 if he comes in straight off the bat like oh like and starts talking about my body i'm gonna ignore
00:08:58.800 that i'm not gonna give that any energy i'm not too fussy but just saying hey like how are you
00:09:03.920 and just starting up a conversation because i'm a human being so it's like respect me talk to me like
00:09:08.960 i'm a human being