JustPearlyThings - July 22, 2023


How the Heck is this CHEATING？？？？


Episode Stats

Length

12 minutes

Words per Minute

195.16096

Word Count

2,522

Sentence Count

2

Misogynist Sentences

9

Hate Speech Sentences

3


Summary

In this episode, we discuss cheating, cheating scandals, and the difference between affair and fling. We also talk about Only Fans and porn and how they are similar and different from each other. We also discuss if cheating is even worse than fling and affair and what we would do if we found out we were cheating.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 there's a question from the chat um they want to know from the girls um if is cheating what which
00:00:08.000 would you prefer um you go through his phone and you find him he has naked pictures from another
00:00:13.520 girl or he was buying her things but there is nothing physical it's both cheating why is he
00:00:23.040 buying you gotta that's not the question you gotta pick one um oh that's difficult i think
00:00:34.160 i think i think naked pictures is definitely worse okay i think yeah so if he bought her
00:00:41.120 a bunch of clothes or something that wouldn't be as bad as naked pictures yeah yeah i'm the same
00:00:46.880 to make the pictures worse no i have to disagree because like let's be real some of the stuff that
00:00:54.640 girls post on instagram does it really make a difference if you're sending nudes privately
00:00:59.520 on snapchat or if you're just posting that on instagram like you're gonna have people
00:01:04.800 doing what they do i agree with you i'm like i think it's more personal if i found out dude
00:01:11.040 was buying some random instagram girl a bunch of what like that's a whole mind
00:01:18.960 fuck like the nudes it's like okay a man's a man a man has a penis like he's gonna do what he's gonna
00:01:22.480 do but it's like buying things it's like that's it is a difference in like corn you know what i mean
00:01:29.920 like if a guy gets a picture from a girl yeah versus looks up corn online is it that big of a
00:01:35.040 much difference yeah yeah exactly because it's all just like i mean it's just flesh but like
00:01:41.120 the act of buying someone a gift takes thought and effort like a guy getting nudes he's getting
00:01:49.600 that for one thing yeah but it's also about the intentions the intentions of why he's buying her
00:01:54.720 something as well like he's probably buying her something so that he can sleep with her eventually
00:01:59.840 that's why we said it was worse i know but you know the detectives in the movie they say follow
00:02:05.920 the money yeah yeah he's emotionally invested would you guys break up if zero contact happened
00:02:14.960 yeah yeah
00:02:18.400 because you know what's funny when you asked that first question we gave each other a look
00:02:22.400 we gave each other a look because we both know if he buying someone else a gift yeah that is
00:02:27.760 worth that he's trying to cheat he's trying to leave that means he's really having a conversation
00:02:34.000 he's looking to have a conversation with this girl and he's like he's talking to her enough that he
00:02:38.480 knows her well enough to think that he can buy her things and know what she likes yeah that means he's
00:02:43.600 been talking to her for a while which means he's he's down to book a ticket if she drops to the address
00:02:48.400 no that's that that's the difference between like uh like a fling and affair yeah affair is you
00:02:53.680 know if he's a cheater he can be getting news from 11 people whenever if he's like a serial
00:03:03.680 cheater then he's getting news from everyone but if he's sending if he's got to a point of messaging
00:03:07.760 this person to a point where he's sending a gift on a somewhat regular basis yeah you're done what
00:03:12.320 about only fans subscription if you find it oh tough that would just that would turn me off
00:03:21.920 only fans can be can be used in different ways though because there's people that do only fans
00:03:26.320 that don't you don't need to fully do the whole does he wait he he subscribed to one right that's
00:03:31.280 what you're saying he subscribes i think that's like sad like i'd almost i'd almost rather he cheat
00:03:36.960 than subscribe
00:03:40.960 yeah because like nobody wants you to the point you have to get like
00:03:47.680 and then i would wonder i'm like did i do something wrong
00:03:52.720 i've had this conversation though it's the same with like um like maybe escorts and stuff in it so
00:03:56.480 let's say for instance with only fans it makes it more personal so let's say you could have only
00:04:00.480 fans you don't probably but if you do and someone really wanted they couldn't really bother to
00:04:04.640 wine and daniel or talk with you like that but they really were like
00:04:07.920 sexually attracted to you they could just go through the only fans pay that little subscription
00:04:13.680 in in their head you're a boy now yeah they've you know i mean you've done whatever and then
00:04:19.200 they can go on with their life do you know i'm saying same thing with like escorts or whatever
00:04:23.760 instead of doing a whole dating situation they paid for escort they've got out the system and
00:04:27.520 they've moved on so it's like i think with only fans the only difference between only fans and
00:04:32.080 pornob is that they have um they might know the person they might know who the person is it's
00:04:39.840 within reach that's why i think only fans is growing because it's more personal you ain't
00:04:44.240 got to do nothing though you know you know there's people like there's female escorts yeah the guy
00:04:49.360 of like all the guys that was spoiled man they won't do nothing same thing with only fans like you
00:04:54.320 haven't got the section to do anything there is a super chat never go through a girl's phone if
00:04:58.400 you believe that you need to go through her phone all you're doing is looking for anything to
00:05:02.080 confirm what you already believe is happening um sorry but that is true only that's a violation
00:05:10.960 okay because i would genuinely look at myself and say what did i do
00:05:14.640 like that he has to pay he can't just go online someone else because paying paying for porn in 2020
00:05:25.920 corn so for 20 in 2023 is wild in and of itself but it's the same as i agree i'm just saying it's
00:05:32.000 the same as a date so remember this remember this a lot of people it's the fault of having something
00:05:36.800 that they can't have and it's an attraction where everyone can have it for 5.99 but i mean that's
00:05:44.560 a sexual that's a sexual drive because i can't i'm not physically having you you're just someone
00:05:48.960 that's on a computer screen it's same thing like we're an affair a lot of people an affair is sexy
00:05:54.320 and and they love it and it's an attraction until it becomes something that's like allowed you know
00:05:59.120 like people leave their wives for their mistress and they get with their mistress and they get with
00:06:03.760 the mistress and they're like all of a sudden it's like it's not as fun anymore it's not the same
00:06:08.240 we all want something that we can't happen often leaving your mistress and those people you might
00:06:13.200 you might get left by the wife and end up with the mistress but you don't leave the wife for the
00:06:16.960 mistress you're a dummy in that situation yeah you're a dumbass
00:06:23.920 has social media ever caused an argument in a relationship yeah oh my god yeah what what have
00:06:29.920 women argued with you or men about uh the liking game back when that was a feature when i used to
00:06:36.800 get me in heated discussions all the time but i would i was like i would do it for like algorithm
00:06:42.800 things so if i know i'm about to post i'll just like anything on my timeline because i know they're
00:06:46.800 gonna look and they're gonna go and like my thing back yeah that was that that was the vibe i would
00:06:51.200 like picture of your grand your ankle whatever dogs anything on that timeline at that time i'll just
00:06:56.960 i'll just think and they'll be next to me when i do it it's not like i have to do it in secret
00:07:00.800 but i understand it looks crazy yeah it looks crazy anything you pop because as well it puts
00:07:05.600 it onto their newsfeed as well when it remember when you can see what other people that's what i'm
00:07:08.560 talking about that's when it was an issue that's when it was an issue yeah yeah so i used to get
00:07:12.880 into into situations about that but i think on the flip side if your girl only follows 90 people
00:07:18.240 let's say for instance and then and you know i mean and then she follows that one guy you could be
00:07:22.320 you might you see 91 who's that who's that 91 i haven't been there you know what i mean so i think
00:07:29.680 it works both ways though what have you gotten into my situation was different where um a girl slid
00:07:35.840 into my dms on facebook i like went the extra mile on facebook to find out that she went college with my
00:07:41.840 girl and then how that went was facebook you know like when your relationship it says your relationship
00:07:47.520 with this person i wasn't that smart when i was below 25 like i said um so what happened was um
00:07:56.080 she was like oh when we started having a conversation she was like oh but you're in a relationship with
00:08:00.400 this person hold on a minute i think i went to the same college oh i did go to the same college see
00:08:05.520 screenshotted my whole conversation with the girl and send it to my um my then girlfriend man and that
00:08:11.600 obviously caused oh that argument is because you were cheating yeah
00:08:26.560 what what did you get in an argument about um it's essentially like you said it's one of those like
00:08:32.480 back when you can see who you liked and what you liked back when that was a thing it's like it was
00:08:37.920 you with like back back then again we were young we were dumb we didn't know where the social media
00:08:43.440 was we grew up with social media essentially at the same time so you would see your partner liking
00:08:49.120 all these things and then that would be an argument because for those who don't know who are too young
00:08:54.080 to know instagram is to show people who you liked like like the pictures you like on like his own
00:08:59.680 separate feed so that feed will get you yeah that feed will get you in trouble did you know that um i'm
00:09:06.080 not sure if it's the same now but before on instagram if you were following under 200 people
00:09:11.920 it wouldn't show what order you followed people in you know that so like let's say your man goes
00:09:17.360 out on the night out and he starts following someone new then you know you might click on
00:09:22.000 their page and you'll be like all right cool she was at the same party he obviously had an interaction
00:09:27.280 however however if he was following if he's following on if they're following under 200
00:09:31.920 i don't know if it's still the same feature and i don't know updates and stuff but yeah
00:09:35.680 but those kind of things get into you get into arguments over that well wait let me ask you
00:09:39.600 something right because what you just said bro i weren't cheating it was a conversation through
00:09:43.920 facebook like a physical situation no i don't know you can emotionally cheat all right let me ask you
00:10:02.640 this let me ask you this because i don't know i like to hear that coming from women can i ask you
00:10:05.600 something devil's advocate is it really the end of the world if he's messaging another girl thank you
00:10:10.480 oh like i i agree it's not the end of the world but it's not the start of the eyeball
00:10:19.200 i just think like if we have open social media profiles can we really like get off our high horse
00:10:24.720 sometime like because i think that attention is um to women as sex is to men do you guys agree with that
00:10:32.080 okay so i'm like if we most of us have open instagrams and relationships meaning we can get
00:10:36.960 attention from high status men and that's always on the table but if he sends a message like it's
00:10:42.080 the end of the world no but if he does what he was doing she messaged me first i was just responding
00:10:49.600 it's rude not to respond what kind of message we talking about if it's like if it's like you know emojis and stuff like that then it's a bit mad and i mean if it's general conversation
00:10:57.520 then you know yeah you might be able to bus case it's crazy i think i just look at things like differently
00:11:03.440 i just no i'm with you i'm with you you pick like battles and wars i guess yeah you gotta pick
00:11:08.480 because if you're the type of person to like date for like a long-term relationship or marriage right
00:11:14.960 um then it's like like in the grand scheme of things is a message gonna make or break your life exactly
00:11:22.480 it's the intention about do you know i think most of it becomes that gray area of the unknown so it's
00:11:26.800 the attention behind the message all right let me ask you a question because i don't feel like you're on
00:11:30.480 my side i'm not okay all right cool you're with your girl you've been with her a little while you
00:11:36.640 are on a break yeah break you mean she's single okay but okay she's single she's single okay so
00:11:43.280 you might agree with me on this yeah you remember each other for a while now i was a situation okay
00:11:48.080 you have a girl she's not your girl but you know like you have not it sounds bad like a backup not
00:11:53.440 a backup you have people on your phone that you know like you right now i was in a situation where
00:11:59.120 i was always with someone from like 16 so when i wasn't with someone i used to just grab a girl that
00:12:04.080 i knew like me because i wanted to feel like it was a fulfill thing right so if i'm not with so if
00:12:09.920 i'm not with you and we've broken up for like a week and we have a sexual situation i didn't cheat
00:12:15.200 on you because we were on a break hey mind them fingers bro what i was saying is um the moment you
00:12:27.520 are on a break you've you fed her to the wolves bro you can't and and vice versa bro you're single
00:12:33.440 you're two single people it's no longer i know it may feel like you know okay cool we were in a
00:12:38.880 relationship but boy you're not under that covenant you're not under that contract that
00:12:43.600 obligation that verbal commitment anymore in it so whatever you do it might be frowned upon it might
00:12:48.640 be whatever but some people just move on quicker than others that's all i feel like you're like 20
00:12:52.480 on my side now there we go there we go