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00:00:00.000 good wives don't leave no matter what i'll give you please don't say it please i will give you 1.00

00:00:09.720 no i will give you but good you know what good wives believe in separations they don't believe 1.00

00:00:17.820 in divorce what do you mean when you say separation you mean they would separate do

00:00:24.200 i mean legally basically living in the same house and not being married that's pointless like

00:00:29.620 i had that growing up i had that growing up with my parents and i and i that's normal to me actually

00:00:36.480 no i have to say that's more painful it was definitely the minute they got divorced for

00:00:41.820 me it was as a child it was so much nicer no she's saying not you don't legally get divorced but i'm

00:00:48.680 saying i think but you live separate in two different houses so that's basically the same

00:00:52.840 no sometimes you live in the house yeah that's how we were we lived in the house that's what

00:00:57.740 happened to me so tell me your thoughts do good wives leave yes or no and good wives only believe 1.00

00:01:04.640 in separation they don't believe in divorce you can go it's all right you can disagree just what do you

00:01:09.580 what do you think tell me why you're um i mean if you want to leave leave honestly it doesn't make

00:01:17.140 you a bad person i just just leave like if i don't know they cheated or this or you're just not

00:01:24.100 feeling anymore like both of you it's a mutual thing or okay just leave i don't believe in that

00:01:28.600 separation so a good wife can leave yeah okay go ahead uh yeah i do agree with you um only because

00:01:37.620 based of my personal experience and watching my parents be like that i always grew up wanting

00:01:43.620 them to actually get a divorce because it was so damaging to us as children so i feel like

00:01:50.140 life is way too short to stay in a marriage with someone that you are not happy with and to continue

00:01:58.440 living a miserable life yeah why why put yourself through that why put your kids through that as well

00:02:03.780 if kids are involved as well so i do think you can still be a good wife but you can also leave maybe 0.99

00:02:09.460 do it for the kids yeah like well because kids have better outcomes i'm saying stay together for

00:02:14.360 the kids oh i don't like no that's even worse no yeah but see i as i was the kid and i always wanted

00:02:20.260 my parents to get a divorce i would even tell them but why don't you guys get a divorce because it was 0.95

00:02:24.600 so painful seeing them be the way they were with each other living that separated life in the same

00:02:30.760 house but how do you how do you know it would have been a better outcome for you you seem to have

00:02:34.460 turned out okay right thank you um your outward appearance doesn't necessarily indicate what's

00:02:41.280 going on on the inside though yeah exactly what i'm saying haven't you like i don't know um

00:02:45.720 every statistic will tell you it's better to have two parents in the same house than it is yeah but

00:02:52.940 one parent i know but then that kid also has to deal with that trauma for example i have trauma now

00:02:59.700 growing up you may you may see me like this but like you don't know how i am inside like i have

00:03:03.780 childhood trauma now because of my parents marriage and witnessing what went on in that house

00:03:09.960 because they did not uh get a divorce did they not get along they would fight a lot yeah absolutely

00:03:17.380 they did not get along and really and truly they should have got divorced but because of the kids

00:03:23.080 they stayed and because my mom believed in this whole i need to be a good wife and i can't leave him

00:03:28.540 now that he's old and throw him out she stayed but i wish she would have got divorced because that 1.00

00:03:34.920 was really painful as a child growing up to see those things what if one of them had moved out

00:03:40.060 though and you hadn't seen them as much would that have been painful as well do you think i think

00:03:43.560 either way it would that either way it would have been but i actually would have preferred that

00:03:47.860 if they had got different house yeah i would have liked my dad my dad's not alive anymore

00:03:52.780 um but i would have liked it if he moved out and we saw him on weekends or something because i feel

00:03:59.820 like it would have been a healthier environment for us kids i think it causes a divide and a toxic

00:04:06.280 household as well yeah it was an extremely toxic household it was and it was really hard growing up

00:04:11.620 dealing with that actually um and it's also given me trauma now that you know i'm in a relationship and

00:04:16.980 i'm planning to get married and i worry that i'm gonna have the same life my mom and dad had which

00:04:23.860 is a horrible feeling but that is what kids who go through those things end up feeling when they get

00:04:29.880 to my age do you think that's me do you look at kind of marriage as a more kind of solid thing now

00:04:38.260 though you look at it and you go i have to want this so badly yeah before i get it's like i want to break

00:04:44.440 the generational curse now because because it's a lot of women in my family unfortunately left their 1.00

00:04:50.640 husbands um that's that's that at least that's a positive outlook that you've got on it you can

00:04:55.200 look at it and be like yeah i want to be successful that's yeah that's strong and can hold together

00:05:00.420 even through hardship you can be like i don't want what happened before yeah at least it's something

00:05:06.060 you can kind of yeah grow on and develop have you ever seen a healthy relationship no i don't have a

00:05:12.140 representation of a healthy relationship no so how how would you learn how to be a wife 0.87

00:05:16.960 um i'm doing a lot of inner work like i'm really searching inwards i you know i've looked into therapy

00:05:25.900 i i've tried to work on myself i tried to work work on my traumas i really want to break that

00:05:32.540 generational curse um so i have healthy open com you know conversations with my mom about these things

00:05:39.440 in the past and her marriage with my dad we talk about these things on a daily basis um so i feel

00:05:44.680 like i i have i have the right mindset now because i know what i don't want and i don't want that

00:05:51.460 unhealthy toxic environment that unfortunately i grew up in as a child i don't want my kids to go

00:05:57.540 through that so i feel like all the things that my mom and dad went through i don't want to be

00:06:03.000 reenacting those in my marriage how are you um when it goes back to what you just asked um i agree

00:06:10.500 with you um i don't have any parents in my life mom or dad um i had a mom who played uh a woman and

00:06:18.300 father um but i think when it comes to relationships and what you choose i think it comes to choices and

00:06:26.200 what you learn i think the world i think that's quite big to be honest but i think just like

00:06:31.420 learning from people around you you just kind of sit back and be like do i like that do i accept

00:06:38.360 that um and i think it's just choice really what makes you happy and you just build yourself if that

00:06:44.620 makes sense like with me i think love's beautiful i would love yeah i would love to get married and

00:06:50.900 it's not just marriage you know i understand where you're coming from it's like signing a paper and i

00:06:56.120 get where you where like you come from i understand that but i feel like there's someone out there for

00:07:02.620 everyone i agree you know yeah and i yeah i agree with you and i think i would love to get that

00:07:08.120 why do you think that why because what was that i didn't even hear it oh there's not there's not

00:07:16.100 someone for everyone why yeah because some women die alone a lot of women do they do all the time 1.00

00:07:22.180 some men die alone but how do you know they didn't have the love of their life yeah and they lost it

00:07:27.480 yeah because one out of three men are sex because karma

00:07:30.500 one out of three men are either virgins or having had sex in the past year plus there's more women 0.94

00:07:39.320 than men but they lost the love of their life because of karma because no no there's more women 1.00

00:07:45.380 than men on the planet so if every woman had someone there would be eat 50 50 but there's also 1.00

00:07:50.780 there are people like me

00:07:55.460 can i ask you a question do you see yourself sorry a bit off topic but i'm just quite curious

00:08:02.400 would you do you see yourself marrying a man or not like again i would only ever get married if that

00:08:08.340 other person really wanted it but i i've actually this is probably the first time i've ever openly

00:08:13.600 come out as bisexual

00:08:14.800 like publicly um but yeah i mean i yeah either way if it's the if it met a lot to the other person

00:08:27.120 and i you know felt like it i was in a position in my life to be like that's really if that means so

00:08:34.920 much to you i want to be able to give that to you would you marry a woman yeah yeah why me

00:08:39.700 but i i again it wouldn't be because i want to even with the nagging

00:08:47.100 i nag to myself that's enough sometimes who here thinks i just want to raise a hand who thinks good

00:08:56.560 wives don't leave you do everyone else thinks good wives leave oh actually wait no good wives will 1.00

00:09:03.540 never leave good good wives you you think that i don't think you're no you're not a wife if you

00:09:10.060 leave i think if you sign up for something you're not you're no longer a wife if you leave are you

00:09:17.980 you're no longer so so you're neither someone else's wife yeah but you're not in that situation 0.70

00:09:23.760 you're no longer the wife to be a good wife so are you a good wife i'm just gonna i just kind of

00:09:27.840 want to break this down okay this is why men are complaining it's like they maybe get one meal from

00:09:32.360 a good wife and she's she's okay to leave if she feels like it and we fight i mean he's okay to leave

00:09:38.400 as well like it's a two-way street you know what i mean like it's not i mean but but the thing is we

00:09:43.440 don't have anything on the line if a man marries you you i'm doing a documentary on the court system

00:09:48.420 here you you literally are paid like lawyers um you are you get a free counsel here if you say that

00:09:56.360 he abused you and you can deny him access for his kids up to two years trying to get like he doesn't

00:10:01.900 have a chance in court vice versa i know no it's not vice no no but vice versa it's so much harsher on the

00:10:07.880 mom isn't it no it's so it's so much harsher on the man to the point 90 of the time um women get 0.96

00:10:13.100 custody yeah and it's actually like it's actually a really it's really sad i'm interviewing some of

00:10:18.720 the guys that have like been through it it's it's there are guys that haven't seen their kid in four

00:10:23.400 years because their ex accused them of abuse and they never did it there's no proof there's no

00:10:28.140 how'd you know they didn't do it because there's no proof that doesn't mean anything

00:10:31.500 that doesn't it doesn't mean that they do something or they okay you think it's do you

00:10:36.340 think it's okay to deny access to children with no evidence of a crime no evidence they never

00:10:44.040 press charges no evidence i think it very much depends we should just take take women's word

00:10:49.240 amber heard's word oh that's another that's another thing so it's like what are guys getting out of

00:10:58.340 this and is it is it just um is it just what it's abuse is it is it also like mental coercion as well

00:11:04.980 and they're expanding that's what they're doing they're expanding the definition of abuse so

00:11:08.720 if a girl says oh i want to buy two thousand dollars worth of addresses and he says no that

00:11:13.200 he can put that under like mental financial coercion or something or if he said if he said oh stop

00:11:19.400 following guys on instagram or something that could be seen as manipulation it's really it's really

00:11:23.800 scary the more there's this one story where the woman um accused him of of touching the kids and

00:11:29.080 remember oh my god remember remember they're financially incentivized to do that and then what

00:11:33.800 they can do is they go to family court and in family court you don't actually have a jury to judge

00:11:38.280 you of your peers which you should be entitled to and so they can go to family court and deny

00:11:42.820 you access to your kids until they actually um finish yeah and that can take up to two years

00:11:49.860 so if he has a newborn he won't see the kid for two years and she has no punishment if she lied 0.76

00:11:54.840 like this is what men are this is what men have to deal with here and it's like if she lied

00:11:59.700 honestly i feel like she should have punishment that that should be yeah but you know what happened to him

00:12:03.760 he killed himself oh well but they but they women do get punished for for example like i don't really 1.00

00:12:10.140 know but if like she accuses the man of like not in family court sexually assaulting no they don't

00:12:16.380 in family court i'm telling you i've interviewed the guys that they don't it's really sad and so

00:12:21.580 it's like the guys are like well what do we get out of this and we can't even like admit we can't

00:12:25.660 even say what's a good wife what's a bad wife it's really sad yeah because it's different it's too

00:12:32.060 vague because it's so vague saying what's a good wife because everyone has their own experiences

00:12:36.780 their own interpretations yeah but we know vaguely what's a good husband what's a bad husband a

00:12:41.420 husband you wouldn't want a husband that like doesn't protect you that if someone tries to beat

00:12:44.940 you up he's like oh go do it yourself babe we could say in generalities that women like men want thin

00:12:52.380 wives in general i mean maybe slim thick they're allowed to say that if they want to say that they can 1.00

00:12:58.220 say that right but i'm saying we can't even say it they can't even get three meals out of us

00:13:02.060 for a good remember i kept saying an a plus student except except you she gives three meals

00:13:09.660 i like cooking so it's like there we go see i feel like you gotta like doing something haven't you to

00:13:15.900 be like it's like the gym isn't it you gotta enjoy it no actually no i mean i work at it so i have to

00:13:20.860 i'm trying i'm trying with the gym shout out to my boxing coach i'm trying to remember watching this

00:13:30.380 like good i keep it sorry thank you all right i'm gonna read super chats really quick um also guys

00:13:37.660 make sure you like the video and let me know in the comments what do you guys think good wife bad 1.00

00:13:41.500 wife what what do you think um makes a good wife okay see dumbledore half of the girls over 30 are single 1.00

00:13:49.580 and childless the percent is rising every year of the six girls on the show at least three of you

00:13:54.540 will die alone i hope at this point i hope uh black moses pearl stop being soft with these women 0.97

00:14:03.260 uh manny f so michelle obama should have left barack obama because she hated him for 10 years out of

00:14:08.700 their 30 years together follow me stop blaming them and get counseling uh scott and bradley a shout

00:14:15.100 out to top producer a shout out blessing

00:14:20.620 black moses um they can't answer simple questions and they keep talking about the exceptions women 1.00

00:14:25.020 like them are the reason guys get passports fellas invest in cat food and box wine um battery

00:14:31.020 buddies logan his money is our money my money is my money this is why we don't care about your 0.96

00:14:36.940 career or your education ladies we don't get the benefit at all we still need to earn you'll notice no 1.00

00:14:42.060 men are lining up to date oprah follow me um you can still work on your education which is more

00:14:47.660 important not your career a scout and bradley uh to a good man his wife and his kids come first

00:14:53.580 always brownie to the panel do women now focus on imaginary patriarchy just to distract themselves 1.00

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JustPearlyThings - June 01, 2023

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