Innocent Man LOSES His Child To Foster Care
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Summary
In this episode, I speak to a man whose son was taken into care by the local authority, who claimed that he had been abused by his own father. This is the story of what happened to his son, and how it led to him being placed in care.
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And then a few days later, like I said, on the day that the coroner made the finding, so the
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the local authority applied to have him and take him into care. They had coerced him,
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in my opinion, to say that he was scared of both his parents, mother and father.
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Right. Now, who knows what the truth is? But obviously his best friend had been murdered by,
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you know, there's all sorts of things going on there in his mind.
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I have hundreds of photos. We have very happy reminiscences
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of my time with him during 2019. Several witness accounts saying how happy he was in my my care.
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And he was taken into care. And that's when the public law,
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So they took him into foster care. That's right.
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So now he's not with you or your ex-wife? He's not with either of us, no.
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Okay. And that was 2020? So this is the end of, yeah, the beginning of 2020, the end of 2019.
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Okay. So 2019, 2020. And that was because he, he said something to them that made
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them want to take him into care or? Yes, that seems to be enough. Okay.
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Okay. Okay. And the, the judge who was an even more, a new judge was appointed.
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Uh, judge, her honor judge Dowding. Now, it seems that she had, um,
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she stated that a threshold of abuse had been crossed.
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Now, I've no idea what that meant at the time. I have no idea what that means now. It seems to be
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completely arbitrary. This kind of declaration made that, yeah, that threshold's been crossed.
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You can take it. But in family court, you don't actually need evidence is the issue.
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No evidence was presented. Um, we had a psychologist, a psychologist had been involved in a private law,
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uh, proceedings. His findings were kind of rubbished, um, by most of the legal professionals
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at the time. So it didn't really have much bearing on the case. However, a new psychologist was employed
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to analyze all three of us, me, my ex-wife and my son. But this takes a month, you know,
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that the wheels turn very slowly. So where are we up to 2020? And I'm allowed to see my son once every now
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and then. But there are more and more restrictions imposed by local authorities. So, you know,
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um, are you not allowed to say you love him? Right? You're not allowed to ask him where he's been.
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You're not allowed to say where you've been. You're not allowed to tell him what you've been doing.
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You're not allowed to touch him. You're not allowed to... Your own son.
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Yes. Well, what happened? What happened? We, the start of this process was actually very happy.
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I'm just, I'm so confused because it's like, okay, so you get...
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They take your son into care and you're not allowed to talk to your son in care?
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Is that what I'm understanding? Well, it, it, it was a, it was a process
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that developed over the, the months. So I was, I was seeing him once every three or four,
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three or four weeks. It was a bit like... While he's in care?
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Yes. So it was a bit like a return to the... Where is he staying? With another family?
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Another family in, in social rupture, yes. Okay. And what was it? A good family,
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at least? Was it, you think? I've no idea. But they're, they're strangers,
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essentially. Yeah, strangers. So now he's staying with strangers,
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and you're not allowed to ask him how he's doing. You're not allowed, which is crazy because
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like, what if it's a bad family? Well, what if? Yeah. But you don't even know because you can't,
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like, you can't even ask your son how he's doing. No. And this is essentially because they accused
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both of you of abuse now or the threshold? Yes. They, but like... This is where it gets smoking. To
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this day, I'm not really sure. How are you not sure? There's no court documents they gave you? I can
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show you a court order, and... Can I see? Yeah.
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The psychologist was pretty damning of myself, and that is the... Look, this psychologist was
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employed to seek the truth. I suggested it. It was my idea. Okay. It came from my legal team,
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that we want another psychologist to report someone who's really going to get to the bottom of this,
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once and for all. Because this is obvious. And at various times... Remember, no, no fact-finding
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hearing had been attempted up to this point. And no fact-finding hearing had ever been attempted
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to this day. No fact-finding hearing. Okay. Right. Okay. So there's never been a process of
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witnesses and cross-examination, that sort of thing. It's never actually happened. So we've got...
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So we... Sorry, I've lost my train of thought, but... Sir?
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There's just... There's so many people involved in this that it's just... It's getting a bit confusing, so...
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I'm sorry, yes. No, which... Which... I mean, it's... It's seven years, so it's kind of hard to condense, but...
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But essentially, so your... Your legal team, his idea is the psychologist,
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but the psychologist comes in and gives, like, a very biased report.
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It's a hatchet job, I think, would be... A hatchet job.
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Yeah. Is there any... Can I see it? How do I...
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So I've had a subsequent psychologist report done on myself, which shows...
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And is the psychologist employed by the government?
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Okay. But you did a private psychologist, and they... Since then, yes.
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But the one that came from the government basically said you were both incapable of being parents,
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Yeah. But what actually happened was the psychologist took everything my ex-wife said as gospel truth.
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So he didn't question any of her allegations. So it's the same old thing.
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Okay. Because that's the biggest... That's what I've learned is you have to ask them what court they filed in,
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criminal or family, because family court, it seems like everything goes, but criminal court,
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Yeah. Well, it's... My understanding is that in a criminal court, the test is beyond reasonable doubt.
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So you are found guilty of a crime if you are found... If it is beyond reasonable doubt that you
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committed that crime. But in family court, the rule is balance of probabilities.
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So is the man likely to be abusive? Is the woman likely to be saying the truth?
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Oh, and be that subjective, and it's going to be based on your world view.
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So if you have a feminist world view, you already hate men. And a lot of people from these government
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institutions have a feminist lens on the world.
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Absolutely. I have met very few professionals who I wouldn't automatically
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tell was a feminist. Even many of the males were clearly feminist in their outlook. The psychologist was
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a male. But he towed the feminist line. And he used all the latest buzzwords. So I'm... I have narcissistic tendencies.
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And you will find the word narcissism used time and again to describe men that they can't really
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find anything else wrong with. Okay. Because they've got no evidence that they found...
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I've done nothing wrong. They've got no... There's no instance of abuse even.
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The local authority didn't even accuse me of any particular instance of abuse.
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So there's no allegations made against me by the local authority themselves.
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But I have some narcissistic tendencies. Right. That'll do. He can't possibly be a good father because he
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cares too much about his son. You know, he sees his son as an extension of himself, which I do.
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Okay. He expects a lot from his son. He's pushing. Yes, I'm pushing.
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I'm strict disciplinarian. No, I'm not actually. But two of the... Two out of three is enough for that. Okay.
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So once you're branded a narcissist, it's a wonderful. You can't fight back. Because whenever you say,
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actually, I'm not a narcissist. Well, you would say that, wouldn't you? Because you're a narcissist.
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So I'm... You know, I... When I say, well, sorry, I'm not a thug. I'm not the person you think I am.
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I'm a chartered engineer. Oh, he thinks he's a genius. Right. He's got an IQ of 120. But he says he's a
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genius, which requires 121. You say, well, this is ridiculous. I never claimed I was. I just...