Man REVEALS The Pathetic State Of Modern Men
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Summary
The founder of one of the most influential men's rights websites, Paula Brown, joins me in this episode of the Just a Seat Down Podcast to discuss women's discrimination, the wage gap, and the lack of masculine influence in the lives of men.
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what up guys welcome to the just parley things youtube channel and welcome to the sit down
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where i have on guests from all different walks of life to you know speak about women's
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discrimination and just how horrible life is as a woman that's like really what we focus on here so
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today i have one of i have the founder of one of the largest and most influential men's rights
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websites called a voice for men you're based in houston texas you worked for 30 years for in the
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chemical dependency treatment field see i don't even know what that means i don't even know what
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that means that's how crazy this is and um where you observed a great deal of discrimination against
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men and boys and it was that experience that that inspired you to pursue men's rights issues uh
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welcome to the show paul thank you for having me thanks for coming here by the way you've got an
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old bio i left houston six years ago i live in roanoke now in virginia we're on a budget here
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i'm a like it's like i'm a woman what do you think i'd get send me your donate button
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so okay i found you because i thought you were just hilarious someone sent me your videos
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like with dating advice for men and i just thought it was so funny so what what got you started making
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youtube videos well i mean there was a dialogue about men and women in this society that needed
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to happen and still needs to happen on a much larger scale and um i just sort of took my observations
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about men and women life uh discrimination on either either or both and rethought things and
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started putting it down to words and doing videos and writing articles um and so what what did you find
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did you think that women were just the most reasonable of course absolutely yeah yeah that's what
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i discriminated against yes exactly no what i found i mean the the area of discrimination
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that's interesting i don't think there is that much of it at least not against women and so what i
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focus myself is on relationships dating life marriage life long-term relationships that sort of thing
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and encouraging men to find their values as well as their balls and to conduct themselves accordingly
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in relationships because right now we've got a society full of men who can't even speak up about
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what's on their mind or who won't out of fear and why do you think men won't it's like weird once you
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start to see it it's like you can't unsee it and you just realize like that men are just pandering to us
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like all the time like it's so crazy like i started to almost get mad i was like why are they lying like
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they're lying to us and i was like what like why do you think that is do you think it's the the system
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that's against them do you think it's the media like what do you think is the main problem well
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i think the reason most men are lying is because women want them to because they actually insist on
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it dang it i mean it starts with do i look fat in that dress and goes all the way to the wage gap
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and other problems that men won't talk about but i think there's two fundamental reasons that
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they won't speak their mind with women one they're afraid of not getting late um be real honest about
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that it interferes with the pursuit of sex to be honest with women and direct with them and so men
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avoid it the other component of that is a more emotional one where men are terrified of women's rejection and disapproval
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and so even in social settings where there's no sexual connotation to anything men still practice
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this sappy public fawning over women that makes them look like simps why do you think that is do you
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think it starts like at home because so many people are in single mother homes um or female
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mother homes homes with mothers period i mean it's easy to and and absolutely right to point at the
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problem of single mothers and the lack of masculine influence in the lives of men but there's a million
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households out there where the woman rules the roost and it might as well be not a father in the house
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that's part of this problem of not being direct not being honest not treating women as equals
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intellectually emotionally other in other ways because women reject men who treat them as equals
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uh so there's this undertone to everything all the time that if men are truthful and honest and
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direct with women they don't want any part of it so what do you mean when you say there's a bunch of
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like women that rule the roost so the father's not there well i'm talking about hen pecked men i'm
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talking about uh households where the woman is the law where she sort of walks her man like a dog
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and there's a lot of men that look we got to be honest we got to have an honest conversation
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there's a lot of men that live their lives in subservience to women and of course when they
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start living in subservience to women women don't respect them and so the relationship becomes one of
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control and disrespect and abusiveness that may end up going both ways but the fundamental problem is
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that you have men who can't assert their their leadership and masculinity in the home
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it's a rather unpopular thing to do with a lot of women well and it doesn't help that all the feminists
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like make up these words that don't mean anything to like like co that's that i was that's what i
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realized i'm like the feminist like thing that they do is they bring in these like big words to
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confuse you and change definitions so that's what i noticed on the show i'm like why does every
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date a narcissist like how many narcissists are there millions upon millions they're endless
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one percent of the population like how does every chick and then i realized it's on the right too like
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it's not like men's issues are sort of like not championed by the right or the left because i i was
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more of like a trap i would say my belief set before getting into like men's stuff was more traditional
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conservative um and what i realized is even on the right they still it's like always about what the
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women wants like on both political parties the left kills you with feminism kills men with feminism
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and the right kills men with chivalry uh which is another i mean uh one of the things i would hope
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part of our discussion would go to today is that we need a new and different and better social contract
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with women uh this is not 1600 anymore uh women work have jobs uh we just haven't managed to develop a
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society where a working woman shows up with her purse at a date most women still insist that they're
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wined and dined and i think the last study i read about this said that 44 of women would be offended
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if they were expected to carry any financial weight in a dating relationship wow that is just i mean
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that's entitlement that that needs to end yeah that's what i didn't realize that was that's like
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part of the red pill in a way because you realize like men get such a bad deal today historic like
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from a historical point of view like when i found out a hundred years ago 95 of women were virgins
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or not sorry 85 85 now today 95 aren't so it's like half of the marriage contract you're supposed to bring
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purity and then we say give me a traditional outcome and it's offensive if you don't pay but
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isn't it offensive if you come in like not avert i know it's like really normal now so no one thinks
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about this but like it like it used to be offensive if you came in not a virgin for your husband
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absolutely and that's changed and unfortunately you know this is a part of what we called women's
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sexual liberation yeah but the net result is is that women are twice as miserable as they've ever been
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um they're not happy any you do any kind of google search or research on women's relative happiness or
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their happiness relative to men and they come up a fail every time and it's gotten worse over the years
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the more so liberated women have become the less happy they are yeah well and then i started looking
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into the stats like because i was like why are the guys complaining so much about us and i'm like one
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out of three of us has had an abortion one out of three of us has an std 90 of us have been on birth
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good like when i started looking at the numbers i'm like i i kind of get it well and not only that that's
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just the stuff that shows up on entry uh on the other side of that coin the men who engage these
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women in relationships down the road find that they have more than a 50 chance that the woman will
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file for divorce or 80 percent of divorces are filed by women over half of marriages end in divorce and
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then comes the financial and often reputational ruin that happens to men during divorce it's uh there's
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you know what's the return on investment for men right now in women and it's shit
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what what is um so what contract do you think it should be for the new it's going to have to be
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negotiated um i set a limit uh i'm 21 years in a relationship right now and and but back then i i set
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a standard that if a woman couldn't show up with her purse and contribute financially i wouldn't be
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interested and lo and behold when i drew that line in the sand i met somebody who felt the same way
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i think that's what men need to do is they need to figure out what they want what they want a woman to
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show up with in a relationship you know if if all she has is a you know a wish list from tiffany's
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a wish list from tiffany's and an occasional blowjob that's not showing up with much