JustPearlyThings - July 31, 2023


Married MGTOW Man Gives The Most Solid Dating Advice


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

142.32935

Word Count

1,374

Sentence Count

137


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 what does that woman bring to you? Her needs. And if that's the way you want to set up a
00:00:07.300 relationship that starts and ends with your wallet, go for it. You can do the same thing
00:00:12.420 with hookers and it's a little bit more efficient. But if you're going to do this,
00:00:19.540 look for a woman with integrity and accountability. Make sure she actually has it. Don't look at her
00:00:26.520 with starry eyes because she's hot and she's got a nice rack and say, oh, well, she must have
00:00:32.120 integrity too. Look at her. Because that's what men do is they just roll up everything into a good
00:00:39.520 package when they're attracted to a woman. You have to be able to step back and do an assessment of
00:00:45.160 her character and her personality. And if you can't do that, don't commit to anything because
00:00:52.800 you're just asking for trouble. Then we get into things like a relatively low body count. Man,
00:01:01.620 if you're, I wouldn't want to make anybody laugh by suggesting you look for a virgin.
00:01:07.500 Because unless you want to marry somebody that's 10, you're not going to find one.
00:01:13.600 So skip that. I mean, women have sexual partners, big deal. That's okay. So do Ben. I don't have a
00:01:22.300 problem with that. I got a problem with a high body count though. I look at what a woman does for a
00:01:28.420 living. I'm with a woman that worked for years in the financial industry, not a topless dancer
00:01:34.340 and not a waitress, somebody who can think. And that does. There's a lot of things to look for,
00:01:46.020 but the main thing more than anything else is the rarest commodity. And that is personal
00:01:51.260 accountability. And I'm sorry, ladies, you just don't have, for the most part, you have every
00:01:58.580 once in a while, you meet this golden unicorn that actually owns her stuff, acknowledges her flaws
00:02:05.880 and seeks to improve herself so she can bring more to the table in a relationship. That is not the
00:02:12.440 average woman. Right. And if you want to settle for less than that, then please don't write me and say,
00:02:22.760 did you help me get out of trouble?
00:02:27.700 What about women to men? What are the character traits of like a good man?
00:02:32.340 Oh, that's a good question. I rarely get asked that. Guess what? Accountability.
00:02:42.780 It's a really good thing for a man to have. And I think men lead, we're not given the passes in life
00:02:49.040 that women are. We're held to account a lot more. So it's something that's easier for us. We're trained
00:02:54.960 into it. But that's still, if you're with a guy, and he has 19 reasons to Sunday why he did something
00:03:03.240 wrong, but none of them have to do with him making a mistake, then that is a warning sign about
00:03:09.280 somebody. I know some of my audience going to kill me for this. But if I'm a woman looking for a man,
00:03:15.840 I'm looking for financial stability. I'm not looking for a sugar daddy. I'm looking for financial
00:03:21.560 stability. If a guy doesn't have his game together financially, it's probably a lot of other stuff
00:03:26.920 in his life that's not together. And it's something to look for. Integrity. Simple stuff. I mean,
00:03:36.380 this used to be, it's funny, and I'm not poking fun at you for asking, but 30, 40, 50 years ago,
00:03:46.340 this wouldn't be a question. Of course, you look for integrity and character in people,
00:03:50.680 and that's what you do. But nowadays, those commodities are so rare that we have to remind
00:03:57.180 ourselves what we're looking for. So you're saying not astrology? Yeah, pretty much. And
00:04:05.160 if they're telling you, if they're asking you what crystal you worship, probably want to avoid those
00:04:14.040 too. Put down the crystals and astrology. I had a woman recently tell me that she could get a high
00:04:22.880 value man that had a chest tattoo, two baby daddies, and brought in crystals.
00:04:29.100 She had the chest tattoo? Yeah. Oh, yes. She attractive? Cute. Yes. She can get a high value man.
00:04:42.260 Yeah. High value men hook up with average and low value women all the time. Oh, yeah. But not keep
00:04:50.960 one. I might like actually have a family with one. Oh, yes. Let me tell you a true story. This is
00:04:59.360 funny. When my partner's father was in his final days, I was in charge of his medical care, and he
00:05:06.500 was doing poorly toward the end. We had to have a hospital bed put into his house. And the guy that
00:05:12.980 brought it in was just making conversation with me. And he told me about this topless dancer he had
00:05:18.580 dated that had wrecked him financially, and done a bunch of other things to make his life difficult.
00:05:26.520 And then he proceeded to tell me that he was now dating this other dancer, but she was different
00:05:30.940 than all the other dancers. She was not. She wasn't going to treat him that way.
00:05:39.140 This is how men operate. We got to be honest. We're going to tell the truth. We got to be honest
00:05:44.740 about men's sexual shallowness with women, of what happens in men's minds when they're sexually
00:05:51.700 excited, when they want to be with a woman. Because initially, what almost all men do is they start
00:05:57.420 developing blinders for any red flags. They intend to not see anything that will impede their sexual
00:06:06.180 access. And that's a huge vulnerability for men. And it's one that they need to own.
00:06:12.660 Yeah. When I think a chest tattoo.
00:06:22.100 Yeah, I mean, I see women with men all the time that are, you know, frumpy, straggly pink hair,
00:06:33.700 dressed in sweats. And with a guy that's relatively high value sexually.
00:06:40.100 Absolutely. It is what it is.
00:06:43.060 Hoflation has been crazy.
00:06:48.100 Have you heard of hoflation?
00:06:49.540 Yes.
00:06:53.700 And it has been.
00:06:57.380 It's part of the world we live in. And again, hoflation is a measure of men's spending.
00:07:04.340 Right, that's true.
00:07:10.740 It's what men capitalize on is what they put their investment in.
00:07:15.780 Men create the nightmares in their lives with women, they absolutely do. There's no pass for
00:07:22.340 that. I mean, it's, if we're going to have an honest conversation, men have to own that. And as long as they
00:07:29.700 don't own it, they're going to be vulnerable to the very things that are affecting men in droves today.
00:07:35.460 The parental alienation, divorce rate, all that stuff.
00:07:40.340 Well, thank you for coming on the channel, Paul.
00:07:43.940 I was very, very pleasant, but pleased to talk to you. Sorry, cut that, that other part out.
00:07:56.740 Now, I've been watching your videos for a minute. You're so funny. I'm going to keep reacting to them.
00:08:02.900 I want to show some chicks, though.
00:08:06.580 I love it. No, I appreciate the coverage.
00:08:11.780 Where can they find you? I know you have adviceformen.com.
00:08:16.660 No, that's not me. Not at all. They can find me at paulem.com.
00:08:24.820 I'm an ear for men on YouTube, where you can find hundreds of my videos that I've made over the
00:08:35.540 years. I'm not making them much these days, but there's still a lot of traffic to them.
00:08:40.500 I think most guys will enjoy them, even if they don't.
00:08:45.220 I want to get you on a panel. If you're ever in London, come by. I'll put you on a panel with
00:08:50.260 some chicks. It'll be hilarious. Well, we're going to have, we have an international conference on
00:08:55.140 men's issues coming up in Budapest next year. Maybe you can fly over there and talk to Mike
00:09:00.180 Buchanan about talking. Oh, sure. I don't, I don't. This is really dumb. I don't even know where
00:09:06.900 Budapest is, but. East of you. Okay. Over the water. I'm an American woman. You know what I mean?
00:09:16.420 It's like stop before you get to Russia. Well, guys, make sure you go follow his channel,
00:09:25.220 subscribe to his channel, check out his men's group. Also like the video on your way out.
00:09:31.620 Thank you so much for coming. I appreciate it. Happy to be here.
00:09:35.380 Like the video on your way out, subscribe to the channel. We'll talk to you next time.