Men Are Forced To Accept This RAW DEAL
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Summary
Why is it so hard for women to lose weight? Why do we have double standards when it comes to weight loss and fat loss in the modern era? Is it fair for men to get fat? Why is it a bad thing when a woman gets fat and a man gets fat What is a man supposed to do about it? What should a woman do if she doesn t lose weight
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i was scrolling through my timeline also on twitter sorry guys i've been tweeting a lot
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you better follow my twitter pearly things with a z and i found this picture of a girl
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that was a before and after of when she met her husband to now hold up hold the picture
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all right so that was her when she met her husband pull it up what would you rate her one to ten
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the girl he thought he'd be with forever seven years and two kids all right this is too much
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fat for two kids if you're gonna get this fat you should at least give him five okay like my mom
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did not gain this much weight and she gave birth to seven children seven and you're getting this fat
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with two kids really now my question to you guys is this a fair deal for men
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why do men have to love us when we change physically and completely look they expect us to get a little
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wrinkly you're telling me the men will accept you being a not virgin they'll accept you not really
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having any domestic skills like they have been accepting a lot from us all they ask is please
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don't get that please and this is what we do it's like ladies ladies i i don't understand like it's one
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thing if he bought you at that size like if he married you and that's how fat you were okay that's
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what he signed up this is what he signed up for on the left and on the right this is what he got now
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seriously is this a fair deal for men i think this should you know i want to ban divorce however i do
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think there may be some exceptions maybe maybe if you get over a certain weight your husband can divorce you
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and no the men can get fat the women can't yes ladies double standards because we are supposed to
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be the beautiful ones we are supposed to be the good looking ones that is not men's job but yet
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women the first gut reaction well what if he gets fat what if he gets obese no the equivalent would be
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what if he goes broke and stops working and refuses to work i don't say men just leave your
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wives immediately but it's like if a woman refuses to lose weight what is a man supposed to do
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anyway so the next the next the next clip um so this was overweight therapy in the 1970s
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so as you've seen the body positivity movement has been going forward it's been doing really well
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all these women have been saying i'm beautiful at any size and i wonder what was it like in the 70s roll
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the clip overweight people tend to be dishonest inconsistent and irresponsible how often have we
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said or heard people say i don't know why i can't lose weight i hardly eat a thing or i was nervous and
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upset i just couldn't help myself all kinds of alibis and excuses our sessions together tend to debunk
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these excuses and instead focus on behavioral consistency control and commitment with an emphasis
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on action okay what are you going to try um you've heard a lot of people talking about state where you
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going to try all right well i'm going to go on the quick weight loss diet and you know that's where
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you eat water that's what i'll do i think you've been sitting around karen waiting for something to
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happen to you that'll never happen you've got to make it happen yeah losing weights work i mean
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it's not easy the only way you can do it just you can't don't even get exercise i mean it just
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doesn't oh i want to lose weight it just won't come off that way you just can't lose weight by not
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doing anything it's hard we had a turkey dinner for our family on um on saturday and then i went out
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to the a movie and i just forgot that whole day that i was on a diet i just put it right out of my
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mind i know because what we're doing is is an occupation not just a hobby it is this is a whole
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way of life that we're building for ourselves at times i felt like well why do i have to lose weight
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you know people people look at me but it doesn't really bother them so why should it bother me that
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i have to have a motivation this is part of our commitment action approach to weight control
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the girls meet weekly in therapy sessions where behavioral change is emphasized
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you see the difference now that's my question like what is kinder is it kind to just let these
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chicks live in delusion they're dishonest they're dishonest people it's so true because that's what
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they'll do they'll be like oh oh i just can't lose weight i can't i don't even eat that much it's like
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well if you didn't eat that much you wouldn't be fat like i don't and this is the thing guys look
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you know i'm addicted to my sugar coffee all right and it's a choice and i just cannot stand living in
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delusion that is my biggest pet if fat people want to be fat i wish they would do it like not in front of
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me right i mean but it's like they can live their life whatever but what i can't stand is pretending
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they're not fat and saying that they don't eat a lot and acting like they can't lose weight when it's
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really just a choice so that was in the 70s let's see how this has progressed today what is what is it
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like now the only reason people admire bodybuilders and not obese people who have built their body with
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eating huge amounts of food is because there's prejudice against fat people so bodybuilding could
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benefit from including the non-competitive display of fat bodies alongside muscular ones that paper
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just has an awful lot of silliness in it and i take that one quite personally because i don't
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precisely have thin privilege myself for people who are trying to lose weight or trying to get healthy
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this kind of activism going on in the background preventing them getting the right advice and the
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right medical treatment is is i think it's going to be much more of a problem than is currently
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recognized fat studies is one of the smaller and newer fields that is is really quite worrying
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because it explicitly rejects that obesity is unhealthy and it puts pressure on medical authorities
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not to advise people to lose weight a privilege is something that's like it sounds like something
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just given to you but it's earned and this is the thing like the women are fatter today and they're
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more delusional like one of the chicks in that fat acceptance group like she wasn't even big by
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today's standards but back then they're like she's got a little gut we gotta send her to fat camp
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immediately imagine i was thinking about this imagine if we could get like a pool of money that paid women
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like a fat foundation that would pay women to lose weight i genuinely think i may start this okay because i i
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think a lot of guys would donate to this group where they literally paid us to stop being fat i was like