JustPearlyThings - Men DESTROYED Women for Abusing the Use of Instagram

00:00:00.640 so um i have a question for the panel how has instagram changed dating

00:00:07.840 what are we going girls first or boys first we'll let the girls go first 1.00

00:00:15.280 you just picked the that seat typically goes first um put it this way us boys we think we

00:00:21.360 we think it does i think i think he does i think he's changed yeah how

00:00:25.440 more exposure more access um more things to do with your life on the screen meaning you want to

00:00:37.600 i think the prior i think women don't look at making a family and building a home anymore 1.00

00:00:43.200 it's more about traveling and finding adventures and you know you're looking for mystery places but

00:00:49.360 doing something else with their life but not doing you know not being how can i say how can i say it's

00:00:55.840 not it's not the patients have the patients everyone's patience has gone now so put it like

00:01:02.320 this right um i think we're trying to say so with instagrams instagram social media has created a lot

00:01:07.200 of options um it's created a lot of well perceived options um so it's whereas before you would you

00:01:14.800 know if you was a pretty girl you wouldn't pretty girl in your school um in your in your little area 0.97

00:01:18.880 whatever and you had the local local people that would have you know approached you but now with

00:01:23.440 instagram you have more attention from everywhere and what it tends to do is it it can um it can

00:01:29.040 inflate girls the perception of what actually um they value or or what's available to them so for

00:01:35.760 example if you're in a relationship with a girl and um she has an open instagram and it's not you know

00:01:41.600 i mean she can get attention from all different types of men now particularly if you're just in a

00:01:46.880 relationship and she's a girlfriend she's not your wife and remember you know if she's she hasn't got 0.97

00:01:51.200 a ring on her technically you're just you're just there right so instagram just creates a place where

00:01:56.640 women can get opportunities and get messages and they can get distractions from all different places 0.99

00:02:00.240 and that's just one one aspect of it we can go way further than that but with social media it just

00:02:05.600 creates some more interest what do you guys think i agree what he just said yeah yeah i do agree 100

00:02:13.440 i think um sort of like it's in terms of it's ruined them would you say it's ruined a modern woman 1.00

00:02:22.160 yeah oh okay yeah so like if we're looking at the the women in the past let's say you're within a 1.00

00:02:29.440 community you only know the people within your community so if you have you know done done a

00:02:35.680 mad thing for example everyone in that community is going to know but now it's like you have the whole

00:02:40.480 world to just free up yourself basically so i think it it's definitely more exposure more you're seeing

00:02:49.680 you're you're having a lot more like people to compare yourself to as well and i think that's

00:02:54.400 problematic for self-esteem so it's just another thing yeah so do you think it makes women um have 1.00

00:03:01.360 lower self-esteem yeah a hundred percent yeah depending on what if you're comparing yourself

00:03:06.320 to other you're comparing yourself to other women and yeah so why are women so addicted to it then 0.97

00:03:13.360 i i've listen it's women that do it to other women like yeah none of us have ever asked you guys to 1.00

00:03:18.320 get a bbl none of us ever asked you guys to wear not your natural hair none of us ever asked you guys to

00:03:23.280 put stuff into your lip these are all things that you guys do for you guys so but whenever a man

00:03:27.520 talks about it they'll say keep out of women's business it's our body right that's fine but you 1.00

00:03:31.760 have to understand the things that these women are doing you're creating insecurities between 1.00

00:03:35.200 yourselves because us as men we don't want these things and the moment we say we don't want these

00:03:39.200 things it's like keep out women women's business you know i'm trying to say to you no but men always 1.00

00:03:44.240 say they don't want these things but i okay like i'm not saying i'm beyonce and i'm not saying i'm

00:03:54.320 freddy krueger either but i have never been moved to when i don't have makeup on yeah i never i i've got

00:04:02.880 outside i know people that run to the shop in their headscarves and their whatever and they've never been

00:04:08.400 moved to and you have to understand the woman that has that look of the bbl and uh the long 1.00

00:04:15.360 brazilian weave and they get the more attention they get the most attention you can just see on

00:04:20.400 social media do you think it's relationship attention or sexual attention though and i wouldn't and i

00:04:25.920 wouldn't put makeup in the same category as lip fillers in a bbl yeah i was gonna say that i would

00:04:30.320 say that i was gonna give you makeup we'll give you makeup but they they do go for the rappers and the

00:04:35.520 footballers and rappers and the footballers that's the look that they go for right but would you say

00:04:40.160 the rappers and the footballers are husbands looking for wives well they do wife them do they

00:04:47.840 would you say would you say rappers really have wives or do they have like three baby mamas i agree

00:04:55.760 and this is the thing if if you're if you're looking at rappers and and and footballers and people as

00:05:01.920 the your target demographic then already what you're saying is i have to be willing for a certain type

00:05:05.920 of behavior because you're going like you're saying you're going for the top guy right and the top guy

00:05:10.160 is going to do certain things and he's going to look at certain things so for us i'll say it again

00:05:14.080 um and i'll make it loud us as men we want you in a natural state because your natural hair your

00:05:19.360 natural nails your natural um your natural lips these are things that are going to be passed on the

00:05:24.800 genes to my child so whatever you do no it's nice like whatever you do that's how you look but it's not

00:05:30.800 really how you look see when i wake up next to you in the morning that's the real you and i grew up in

00:05:35.280 a house with three sisters and my mom so i'm i'm from my african um background so i'm used to seeing

00:05:40.960 women with their um in their natural hair i'm used to seeing women obviously covered and stuff stuff 1.00

00:05:45.520 like that so for me i would actually move to you with a headscarf on because i'll consider you to be 0.97

00:05:51.760 beautiful because my sister's beautiful headscarf on right but the problem is all of this fakery and 1.00

00:05:56.640 stuff is we got to deal with it so of course if you got brazil for as a black girl why have you 1.00

00:06:01.600 got chinese mink or brazilian hair coming out of your hair so for me i'll be like you know just

00:06:06.080 keep them keep the normal hair even if what's that girl with the afro what's her name just yeah 1.00

00:06:11.280 as soon as i came i said oh i love your hair it's just because it just looked natural she just 0.68

00:06:14.960 looked natural so for us as men they may tell you that's not what you want but trust me you love a

00:06:19.760 natural woman that's sort of going back to what you said actually is it a wife or is it just because like 1.00

00:06:24.640 you would want a wife say the the you know obviously like jess you said yeah but if you

00:06:31.920 were sexually attracted yeah you just smash a thing with a brazilian butt of course but 0.90

00:06:36.640 but now you're saying just smash if we're talking smash versus wife now it's completely different

00:06:40.240 things now if i'm going to smash you then i don't really care about your hair because if 0.82

00:06:46.160 the week the we've come out in your hand no you're not going to be bothered about that because

00:06:50.880 that's going to be experienced you're going to talk to your boy about it and say oh this is what

00:06:53.440 happened but you know you're not going to care really more than that you say you need to say

00:06:56.960 something um no i was going to say i feel like in terms of the natural hair thing because i feel

00:07:05.200 like that is quite a big topic as well but i feel like as black women need to understand there was a 0.90

00:07:10.800 period of time when eurocentric features were what was promoted coolie women were the ones who were 1.00

00:07:19.760 on magazines and the ones who we were told that we are supposed to look like you know what i mean

00:07:24.640 so i feel like as a woman a black woman growing up in a society where from a young age we've been

00:07:29.760 programmed to view beauty in a certain light it's hard to manipulate what it's hard to reprogram what

00:07:39.280 we've been manipulated to believe we can teach our children but as a as a person looking in the mirror

00:07:44.880 and sometimes it's not even uh like i feel like wearing fake hair sometimes it's a protective

00:07:50.880 i'm a protective hair styling because you don't know who what that person's hair is underneath and

00:07:55.040 we're not necessarily in the right country and climate as black people in general

00:07:59.040 for our hair to flourish and grow in its natural state for all of us we're not in our home country

00:08:05.600 no i hear that what i'll say as a guy right is is you can have a protective style but let it be a

00:08:10.720 protective style that is matching towards your hairstyle or where you're from so if you want to

00:08:15.280 protect your hair that's fine but have a have a braid style have a corner style extension style

00:08:20.160 and that'll be more natural so what we're just trying to say is either way natural will always

00:08:23.440 be better for us as men but we're always going to be told that fakery is what we want when in actual

00:08:27.440 fact we don't want that but then men need to speak up on that then we can't speak on women's bodies or 1.00

00:08:32.240 hair but women don't women don't listen to men when they say what they want i just said women women don't 1.00

00:08:37.120 women don't listen because when men say they want thin women pure women and and women don't listen 1.00

00:08:42.080 they just say that they're slut shaming and they're not body positive so it's like when men even say

00:08:46.320 what they want we don't care i just think each of their own if you want to wear a wig wear a wig if

00:08:51.280 you want to wear braids wear a wig i don't think like i mean there's men out there that generally like

00:08:58.160 women with the long brazilian hair and uh afro and the braids when the men start saying oh 0.95

00:09:03.920 we like a woman that's natural like that's where women have an issue with it but wait didn't you 1.00

00:09:10.080 just say that men should speak out on it and now you're saying they can't i'm not saying but when

00:09:14.880 you start saying oh we only like girls with natural hair like that can so we're not allowed to have a 1.00

00:09:19.600 preference or something so so what's happening again is you say men should speak out and i speak and i say

00:09:23.440 you know what i like your hair in that way but you know what actually what i actually prefer is if

00:09:27.120 you're natural state i think you look more beautiful than that that's okay that's okay but then that's okay

00:09:31.200 saying that but when you start putting it's okay saying it but when i start saying it no when you

00:09:35.680 start putting oh that's what i prefer oh i like that but that's my preference preference is part

00:09:40.480 i feel like i feel i feel each to their own like if you like just say that we've been given the

00:09:45.440 choice as women exactly we have been given choice i completely agree with that but with that choice

00:09:51.200 comes repercussions so the receiver of women is men in that respect if you want a man you should be 0.93

00:09:59.840 willing to see what that man needs now if that is the case that that man is asking i don't prefer

00:10:06.160 women he was wearing hair extensions he was wearing weaves that doesn't match her natural skin color 1.00

00:10:13.200 then it is not your place as a woman to tell that man that he is wrong for his preference 0.94

00:10:19.200 would you say that um because i've heard from guys when the girls have like more of the fake stuff or the 1.00

00:10:24.720 bbls or whatever they put them more in like a casual category just off the bat yeah yeah come

00:10:30.480 on man it's it's so mad to me that you thinking that putting all these fakery is going to get you

00:10:35.760 a man that actually wants you and you even have to understand the difference between someone that

00:10:38.800 wants you for one night and someone that really wants you so if i want you for one night i don't

00:10:43.120 care what you do so you're we can come off and come off in the hand in the bedroom it doesn't matter

00:10:47.600 like it doesn't even if it doesn't matter how you dress in actual fact the more provocative the better

00:10:52.880 because you're letting people know what you're on but now if i'm talking about you as my wife you 0.99

00:10:56.480 know all of these things that i wanted you for one one night would be a red flag for me there will be

00:11:00.160 things that i wouldn't i would i wouldn't really want and i just gotta think that women have to ask 1.00

00:11:05.920 themselves what do they want do you see if you want one night that's fine do a certain thing but

00:11:11.120 if you actually want long term then the things that you do for that one night are going to affect you

00:11:15.360 in the long term you know it's interesting you said that rappers prefer like the bbls and

00:11:22.640 stuff yeah i didn't not i didn't i said rappers do go for and footballers they do go for a certain

00:11:28.240 look so it does make sense that certain women will have insecurities oh this person wants that so i'm

00:11:36.880 going to go out to turkey or we're in the dominican republic and get a bbl as well why do you think we

00:11:42.320 go to this extent to get the attention from those men when they're clearly not husbands like very obviously

00:11:49.440 like maybe maybe i'm not talking for myself but maybe it's the lifestyle that they want

00:11:57.840 like just yeah instagram is a lot of them it's about lifestyle okay maybe yeah yeah what would

00:12:04.000 you say because they got money but that's what lifestyle means no but you say that yeah but you're

00:12:13.920 generalizing all footballers because i've seen um was it marcus rashford's football um oh yeah i've

00:12:18.560 seen it yeah she's she's beautiful but she's not your typical um like you said yeah yeah well it's the

00:12:27.200 i met um i don't know a lot of people don't know this i started my channel with rap reactions

00:12:32.400 so i used to do like whitest girl on earth reacts to pooh sheisty or like 0.88

00:12:37.520 or like whatever the um i probably would have kept doing it but it kept getting demonetized shout out shout

00:12:42.880 out youtube um but um i ended up doing a collab with um i don't know if you know him but fredo bang

00:12:48.880 but not the uk one the american one and i asked him during that i was like be like bbl or no but

00:12:55.760 and like he picked no but that's only rapper i've ever met but yeah like i also think if you if you look

00:13:01.920 at rappers or footballers or these types of people as the people that you're gonna then you're really

00:13:07.840 setting yourself up to fail really because these are never these these were never the the types of

00:13:13.200 people you you would consider as husband material so it depends what you want i don't i don't know

00:13:17.120 like obviously a lot of people here in relationships um but even when you wasn't or prior it's like if

00:13:22.560 you want a guy that's going to be in in the top percentile and it's going to do a very highly paid

00:13:27.680 job with i got to be highly paid school then you got to be accepted that these guys are going to move

00:13:31.040 different yeah that's totally true and on that point these men are not men that we see normally

00:13:36.320 in the public i mean i'm not going to walk out on the street and just randomly meet a rapper

00:13:40.240 or like a a a fortune 500 businessman so let's take rapper out of it for a second right let's just

00:13:48.880 talk about the normal guy the normal guy doesn't want you in a bbl the normal guy doesn't want fake 0.96

00:13:53.520 lips the normal guy doesn't want fake breasts the normal guy doesn't want doesn't want fake hair 1.00

00:13:57.440 the normal guy doesn't want doesn't want a high body count he doesn't this is what the normal guy

00:14:01.760 doesn't want and we can look and even in the most famous people they wouldn't want that either and

00:14:07.840 the girls will say kim kardashian yeah but you can see all the trouble she's going through now 0.99

00:14:12.800 like literally it's all it's all coming apart when her kids are age where it's actually going to be

00:14:20.080 secondary school that's that's when it will start happening yeah really start happening to their kids

00:14:24.800 do you think that social media has made girls more promiscuous yes yes absolutely yeah why 0.94

00:14:32.640 because of the instant gratification women can put pictures of themselves online wearing next to 1.00

00:14:37.600 nothing and get a plethora of men commenting saying oh you're so beautiful you're so wonderful and then

00:14:42.880 they carry that into their real lives as though that's something that men actually genuinely think

00:14:47.440 about them when they walk out on the street but it's it's really not the same type of gratification no but

00:14:51.760 you women support it though you like you women actually applaud whole behavior i would like to 0.99

00:14:56.720 no okay okay sorry sorry but the majority of women on social media even the blogs they they 1.00

00:15:02.800 applaud it and if you ever try to comment in the comments you get do you know what you get told as

00:15:06.960 a man it's the same thing or misogyny or stay out of women's business you don't tell a woman what

00:15:11.040 to do to it it always comes down to the same thing and i i got three sisters and all of my sisters are

00:15:16.720 married all of my sisters were child um and my brother's married as well so my parents are still

00:15:21.200 together um and i grew up in that unit right so i always think to myself what if my sister was ever

00:15:28.320 doing any one of these things that you got i would just pull her to the side and say like what are you

00:15:31.760 doing so the fact that girls don't actually pull their friends to the side like you know i'm trying to

00:15:36.720 say to you like we had to we had to pull her onto the podcast because she didn't want to get on the 1.00

00:15:40.480 podcast but she has a really good point of view and i'm saying to her literally like no you need to

00:15:44.800 you need to tell people like what like your opinion because we need girls that actually get 1.00

00:15:49.360 what we're saying and are willing to be vocal about it but all the girls are going to say he's

00:15:53.200 a pick she's a pick me well i think it says something about the competition there is between women 0.99

00:15:58.240 as general i mean like if you look at the globe in general there are more women on the planet than 1.00

00:16:03.360 there are men so if every man were to get paired off today i'm sure we've all heard this talking

00:16:07.920 point many times before if all men were to get paired off today there'd be a plethora of women 0.99

00:16:12.000 left over it is a competition it really is no but if you want the footballers and if you want

00:16:16.480 the rappers then what about the normal man then it's not it's not just about the footballers and

00:16:20.720 rappers though it's a competition for every man in general in order to get paired up if that's what

00:16:25.600 you want when you look like even when you look at all these girls go look at their instagram comments 0.98

00:16:29.360 right look at the likes look even when they're in a relationship you'll see all these men commenting

00:16:33.280 liking being simps in the comments right but end of the day a lot of times you could just pick one of

00:16:37.920 these guys and and live your best life they they literally in public saying how much they want you

00:16:42.880 but you don't pick none of these guys in actual fact you pick someone that's gonna be be having

00:16:48.320 access to so many women that he actually can look at you like actually maybe i don't i don't need this

00:16:52.400 but all the guys in the comments in the dms you girls ignore them you literally ignore them why

00:16:57.520 well isn't that a part of the saying that women want the top 10 of men the men that are earning like

00:17:03.760 maybe six figures or six foot tall or so on so forth the ones that look that good on instagram

00:17:08.800 look there's one two three four there's five women in here if only one of if only one of us in here is 1.00

00:17:13.200 that guy you can't all get them you have some of you're gonna have to concede absolutely but i think

00:17:17.840 the point is is that if there was a man here that was six foot earning six figures and he presented

00:17:23.440 himself as such hello um well i'm not i'm just saying let me just let me just throw that in

00:17:29.440 there because like what what yeah like yeah but yeah but in the lieu of conversation if we got to

00:17:35.840 know each other better i do believe that most women would be wanting to go for that man rather than 0.62

00:17:41.840 the other men simply because he stands head and shoulders above all other men like i'll give you

00:17:45.360 another example there could be um like i've seen it in my personal life i've got a lot of cousins that are

00:17:50.240 bodybuilders and they have amazing bodies they don't get instant gratification the same way on 0.99

00:17:55.680 social media that one of my cousins he he was female he maybe doesn't work out as much gets

00:18:00.400 instant gratification when she posts a bikini picture why is that yeah because men just want to 0.78

00:18:05.360 bang you absolutely so like so that's true because women are the gateway to sex yeah so so but you can't 1.00

00:18:12.640 get excited about a man commenting you're giving like this is the thing it sends it's mad to me because if

00:18:17.120 you get if you actually get excited that a man slides in your dms or gives you a compliment then

00:18:21.520 you are you don't actually you're i don't want to say you're low value basically if that's what gets

00:18:28.480 you going then like life's going to be really hard for you because you're going to go through life and

00:18:32.960 then these types of women you're going to actually but actually feel sorry for these types of women 1.00

00:18:37.280 because you a lot of men can lie to you and this is how a lot of these women end up getting damaged 0.97

00:18:40.560 because they go through quite ditzy quite not knowing what's going on men say all these things and you

00:18:44.400 got to remember there's two types of men right there's there's men that on their purpose that

00:18:48.800 well there's more than two types of men but we're going to talk about men that on their purpose

00:18:51.680 first and that want to get out there that actually being productive that are getting money that could

00:18:55.840 be six foot that could be all these things that you think of but for some reason you believe these

00:18:59.840 men want to be outside they don't want to be outside what they want to be they want to be inside

00:19:04.160 with a good woman but because you look at the other guys that do that type of thing you automatically

00:19:09.120 think these men are going to cheat then you have the other men look these men are always going to be in

00:19:13.600 dms they're always going to be simping for this but you none of you women pick these men and when 1.00

00:19:16.960 i say simple i don't mean they're not going to be good men i just mean they could give you everything

00:19:20.560 you want bar the six foot bar some of these other things the six figures but they could be a good man

00:19:25.920 and they would love you but you disregard them so if only one of us is that guy let's say that's me

00:19:30.800 in this room and the rest of the men what about the rest of the men why don't they get a shot

00:19:34.800 i think you're generalizing because yeah i would say he's not because i think dating app data allows

00:19:40.800 women to be very honest no i think dating app data allows women to be very honest about what they

00:19:45.600 like and what they want and women only swipe right between five on the high end 20 of the time 1.00

00:19:51.840 and so where men swipe right 50 of the time i don't even use dating apps i would never use one

00:19:57.360 either and any girl that's been on a dating app for me is for the streets how many times how many 0.75

00:20:14.960 times you get moved to in a week let's say you just let's go you go in london transport a week how many

00:20:18.960 times do you think you get moved to a week just honestly ladies just just for a figure once a week 1.00

00:20:23.760 once a week same you so once a week a man moves you once a week actually it's even less than that

00:20:29.840 it's probably less so when you're outside in the public a man will only approach you once every

00:20:36.400 single month so like 12 times a year i can count this year i can't count i know already you're capping

00:20:42.240 i know you're capping i just i look i'm gonna be honest i'm gonna be honest like if we're gonna do

00:20:45.920 this be honest like you only get me through once a week in the public and you catch train you go come

00:20:51.280 on now let's be real once a day maybe you know i'm trying to say to you so so so just be honest

00:20:58.560 i don't know okay cool so when in real life with women right whether or not to get moved to once a 1.00

00:21:04.800 week or once a day when you go into social media put yourself on a dating app you now put yourself

00:21:10.480 as meat you're now selling yourself i consider that selling yourself right so whereas before

00:21:16.320 natural interactions men will actually had to come up to you and actually had to have that bit of you

00:21:20.000 know confidence let me speak to you that little bit of where you can smell a man you can see him

00:21:24.880 and you can pick up all the vibes now you just put yourself and said yo look at me right and so when

00:21:29.440 you do that it says to me you're cheap yourself so my so not only can i see you my boys can see you now

00:21:34.480 automatically right and so for us when we see a girl that's on dating apps a lot of my friends are

00:21:38.480 on there and they just it's for hookups they're just having sex with girls right and girls will say oh 1.00

00:21:43.200 i'm not on there i'm not on there for that and my friend met there you know i know someone that got

00:21:47.360 married on the dating app and that's like the lottery that's like saying i know someone that

00:21:50.560 played the lottery and they want everybody knows someone that played a lottery one but

00:21:53.840 how many people play the lottery every single week it's actually just devil's advocates the number one

00:21:58.320 way that people are meeting or the number one way relationships are starting nowadays is online

00:22:03.120 and that's why i take that like dating apps like because a lot of people will discredit the dating app

00:22:07.360 stats because they'll say like oh like not everyone uses it for relationships or for that stuff but like

00:22:12.080 that's the number one way people are meeting nowadays i've i've met two people actually that

00:22:17.440 got married and met in a dating app i'm not saying you're incorrect i would i would guess a ton of

00:22:23.760 that is for like i would guess a ton of that's very casual but but if you're surveying people on where did

00:22:29.200 you meet your partner and the number one way is is dating apps like i can't where did you get married

00:22:34.560 to your partner should be the question like because no it's the same so it's it's it's the same so yeah so for me

00:22:41.120 every guy that i know on dating app is not getting married on a dating app no one no one actually say

00:22:46.160 i met my girl in actual fact if you did you would keep that quiet because i think it depends on the

00:22:49.840 dating app personally yeah because there are some people who pay money to get away from certain people

00:22:55.040 on dating apps so for example there's e-harmony where you actually have to pay a subscription

00:22:59.360 you're paying to get away from a certain demographic of people by doing that because let's be real if

00:23:03.440 you're just looking for a casual hookup the likelihood is you're not trying to pay money to go on

00:23:07.520 e-harmony for a casual hookup i don't like i don't really care either way but i i just can't like

00:23:13.040 overlook the stats that i that i've seen you know what i'm saying but for me yeah and okay so the

00:23:18.640 stats that you're seeing okay cool yeah for the stats but where i'm coming from i can we are we're not

00:23:23.520 meeting our wives on dating apps and in actual fact the friends that are on dating apps are telling me

00:23:28.400 all the fun and sex they're having on dating apps right and they have to be having sex with women that 0.97

00:23:31.760 want to be having sex because you have to understand women are very empowered now and there's a lot of 0.90

00:23:35.120 feminists and and and um strong would you consider instagram a dating app okay it is a dating app

00:23:42.480 but you're not on there to date so it's different so if you meet someone organically through the

00:23:46.160 comments through that stuff that's different but when you actively put yourself on they say swipe and

00:23:50.720 tapping it's different so let's say i meet you today and it's going really well it's going really

00:23:55.040 well you know i'm talking to you we're speaking for a week i'm like yo i'm saying to my boy g-shop

00:23:58.560 man i've met the girl of my dreams man like that everything's going well i can't wait to see her

00:24:02.000 then you know what i mean then you know what it is um the gaffer he then gets on the app the

00:24:06.640 the following week and all of a sudden she gets a bit bit cold with me because she's had a better

00:24:10.240 match now but for the last week i've been thinking yo i've met my woman i only met my woman because

00:24:14.800 she hadn't had a better match and that's what happens in real life she wouldn't have that many

00:24:19.200 options but because literally she's a girl and every single day a new hot match all of a sudden i'm 0.99

00:24:24.080 competing with guys i've you know the types of guys i'm competing with i don't even know see i would say

00:24:29.040 that instagram's like the same like i i think it's the same i think i would guess like more

00:24:35.200 people meet on instagram than they do on a dating app i don't think it's organic if you're looking up

00:24:40.400 a girl's ass pic 1.00

00:24:47.840 you don't mind saying i think that also somewhat contradicts the point that you made earlier that

00:24:51.920 you meet naturally in public but then you have this instant gratification

00:24:55.840 on instagram like how can you say it's natural on instagram

00:25:02.720 because listen there's a there's a big difference in doing a dating profile and saying look this is my

00:25:09.280 age sex my little cage whatever it is this is their description no no wait listen there's a big 0.85

00:25:14.880 difference between between that and you having an instagram for business for whatever you're just

00:25:19.600 having a normal what what percent of girls have instagram for business come on for me there's a big 1.00

00:25:25.760 difference there's a big difference i'm being honest because because not my friends wouldn't just

00:25:31.280 automatically find your instagram and start speaking to you when you put yourself on these apps or

00:25:35.280 the algorithms all of a sudden you found do you know how many friends exes we see on instagram

00:25:39.760 we're like oh oh sorry on um on on apps yeah and then we're like okay cool the relationship ended

00:25:44.880 she's in the 30s now so we know where she's ended up on the date and we just laugh because we already

00:25:48.880 know what she's about to go through so once you end up on the on a dating app why would you be on a

00:25:54.160 dating app if if if you were really that you don't find quality women on date you can find them on

00:26:00.080 instagram no i'm not saying you find them on instagram but i'm saying on the dating app i would

00:26:05.520 think that if i was on the dating app i would be realistic and i would know i'm not going to find

00:26:09.120 my wife on there and i would tell any guy that's on there bro like yeah fair enough fair enough but i 1.00

00:26:15.440 i feel like instagram's the same thing no it's not i i i think instagram's the same thing i think all

00:26:22.080 social media is the same thing i think it's i think the difference is if if a man has options he uses

00:26:27.680 social media to uh explore his options if a man doesn't have options he uses social media to find

00:26:32.560 love and that's the difference but when people say oh yeah i use social media and i found a woman of 0.55

00:26:37.280 my dreams there's a reason why he's on social media and he didn't go to a bar or a club and find

00:26:42.400 uh the woman that he wanted i think every boy does dream about meeting that perfect woman in that perfect 0.70

00:26:47.120 place they might not admit it but they will say that yeah when i'm young i want to get a nice wife

00:26:51.680 getting my nice family there build on my clan but the last thing we're thinking about is i want to find my

00:26:56.560 wife on tinder that's the last thing we're thinking about but you can find your wife anywhere

00:27:01.600 give your tinder of course a man with options will not go on social media to find a relationship

00:27:06.480 yeah facts never that's the difference a man with options and a man that doesn't have options

00:27:11.680 a man that doesn't have options will go on social media to look for love why would a woman 0.99

00:27:15.440 why would a quality woman even be on there advertising herself like oh just pick like the 1.00

00:27:19.520 swipe and you can get him like why would you do that if you was really that girl every single day you

00:27:23.920 step into the life you'll be dodging them like trust me the bad ones are dodging them so i think

00:27:29.120 this is going to go into my next topic of the show so um i made a presentation for you guys

00:27:36.240 what is the whiteboard coming back yeah

00:27:40.560 i got a whiteboard guys it's very exciting very exciting so hold up i gotta so my next thing i wanted

00:27:48.160 to talk about is cheating right instagram has changed the game for cheating you could download

00:27:57.440 you know an app have a girl over or a guy over like that you can but there's some gray areas when

00:28:06.080 it comes to relationships so i decided as a group we can figure it out what's cheating and what's not

00:28:11.360 all of them i can see

00:28:18.240 all right all right all right everything i can see sleeping in the thing my gosh

00:28:22.160 sorry i bring it like this oh i see my mom could never be so brazen

00:28:27.920 okay okay then i talk i talk into all right i got you thank you oh i can put that yeah how

00:28:35.040 okay okay okay wait where's my pointer yes it is so i have a pointer because i think i look cooler

00:28:44.480 with it um so today since men and women women are different we're going to have different categories 0.99

00:28:51.680 so we have cheating or not cheating all right the boys and the girls so liking another girl's picture

00:29:00.560 cheating or not cheating it's an ass pick or for the girls it's a shirtless pick 1.00

00:29:08.720 what's your definition of cheating not cheating so i'm gonna i'm gonna do the majority everyone

00:29:14.800 everyone all right if a guy likes a girl's ass pick raise your hand if you think it's cheating 1.00

00:29:22.080 okay not cheating okay i'm surprised

00:29:25.600 all right i'm gonna i'm gonna write down

00:29:30.560 no yes yeah i'm good with that yeah all right all right so for the girls liking a guy's shirtless

00:29:38.160 selfie who's saying who thinks it's cheating

00:29:47.200 but i'll be honest i'll be honest with you to be honest with you i don't i would i wouldn't be

00:29:54.720 liking the girls ass picture on the ground i don't do that but i don't i still don't consider it 0.55

00:29:58.000 it's not something i would do but i don't consider it to be cheating but you your girl should not be

00:30:01.440 liking a man's so so your girl you you said you have a girlfriend yeah so she likes another guy's

00:30:07.760 shirtless picture yeah i'm not gonna like that is it over it's not cheating is it over oh no no

00:30:13.120 it's not cheating it's not no but it's a that's that's a red flag you need to talk about that okay

00:30:17.280 so so should i put down red flags yes but not cheating no not cheating but red flags well then

00:30:22.960 you can put down red flags for us then yeah yeah it's all red flags yeah

00:30:30.560 all right yeah we can put for both it's not cheating but red flags

00:30:35.280 none of these are green flags

00:30:36.640 that's a different that's a different whiteboard okay also if anyone has any i do have a back of

00:30:46.160 this that i can write it down yeah don't worry we're gonna have some more don't worry so number two

00:30:53.200 answering a dm so for the boys he gets a message from a girl saying you're fine you're cute whatever

00:31:01.680 and he says thank you that's not cheating no because it depends if there's any keys as many

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JustPearlyThings - November 20, 2023

Men DESTROYED Women for Abusing the Use of Instagram

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