Men DESTROYED Women for Abusing the Use of Instagram
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In this episode, the panel discuss the impact of social media on dating and how it has changed dating in the modern era. How has social media changed dating? Has it changed women s perception of what they value or what they want in a relationship?
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so um i have a question for the panel how has instagram changed dating
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what are we going girls first or boys first we'll let the girls go first
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you just picked the that seat typically goes first um put it this way us boys we think we
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we think it does i think i think he does i think he's changed yeah how
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more exposure more access um more things to do with your life on the screen meaning you want to
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i think the prior i think women don't look at making a family and building a home anymore
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it's more about traveling and finding adventures and you know you're looking for mystery places but
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doing something else with their life but not doing you know not being how can i say how can i say it's
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not it's not the patients have the patients everyone's patience has gone now so put it like
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this right um i think we're trying to say so with instagrams instagram social media has created a lot
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of options um it's created a lot of well perceived options um so it's whereas before you would you
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know if you was a pretty girl you wouldn't pretty girl in your school um in your in your little area
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whatever and you had the local local people that would have you know approached you but now with
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instagram you have more attention from everywhere and what it tends to do is it it can um it can
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inflate girls the perception of what actually um they value or or what's available to them so for
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example if you're in a relationship with a girl and um she has an open instagram and it's not you know
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i mean she can get attention from all different types of men now particularly if you're just in a
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relationship and she's a girlfriend she's not your wife and remember you know if she's she hasn't got
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a ring on her technically you're just you're just there right so instagram just creates a place where
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women can get opportunities and get messages and they can get distractions from all different places
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and that's just one one aspect of it we can go way further than that but with social media it just
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creates some more interest what do you guys think i agree what he just said yeah yeah i do agree 100
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i think um sort of like it's in terms of it's ruined them would you say it's ruined a modern woman
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yeah oh okay yeah so like if we're looking at the the women in the past let's say you're within a
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community you only know the people within your community so if you have you know done done a
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mad thing for example everyone in that community is going to know but now it's like you have the whole
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world to just free up yourself basically so i think it it's definitely more exposure more you're seeing
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you're you're having a lot more like people to compare yourself to as well and i think that's
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problematic for self-esteem so it's just another thing yeah so do you think it makes women um have
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lower self-esteem yeah a hundred percent yeah depending on what if you're comparing yourself
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to other you're comparing yourself to other women and yeah so why are women so addicted to it then
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i i've listen it's women that do it to other women like yeah none of us have ever asked you guys to
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get a bbl none of us ever asked you guys to wear not your natural hair none of us ever asked you guys to
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put stuff into your lip these are all things that you guys do for you guys so but whenever a man
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talks about it they'll say keep out of women's business it's our body right that's fine but you
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have to understand the things that these women are doing you're creating insecurities between
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yourselves because us as men we don't want these things and the moment we say we don't want these
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things it's like keep out women women's business you know i'm trying to say to you no but men always
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say they don't want these things but i okay like i'm not saying i'm beyonce and i'm not saying i'm
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freddy krueger either but i have never been moved to when i don't have makeup on yeah i never i i've got
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outside i know people that run to the shop in their headscarves and their whatever and they've never been
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moved to and you have to understand the woman that has that look of the bbl and uh the long
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brazilian weave and they get the more attention they get the most attention you can just see on
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social media do you think it's relationship attention or sexual attention though and i wouldn't and i
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wouldn't put makeup in the same category as lip fillers in a bbl yeah i was gonna say that i would
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say that i was gonna give you makeup we'll give you makeup but they they do go for the rappers and the
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footballers and rappers and the footballers that's the look that they go for right but would you say
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the rappers and the footballers are husbands looking for wives well they do wife them do they
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would you say would you say rappers really have wives or do they have like three baby mamas i agree
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and this is the thing if if you're if you're looking at rappers and and and footballers and people as
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the your target demographic then already what you're saying is i have to be willing for a certain type
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of behavior because you're going like you're saying you're going for the top guy right and the top guy
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is going to do certain things and he's going to look at certain things so for us i'll say it again
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um and i'll make it loud us as men we want you in a natural state because your natural hair your
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natural nails your natural um your natural lips these are things that are going to be passed on the
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genes to my child so whatever you do no it's nice like whatever you do that's how you look but it's not
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really how you look see when i wake up next to you in the morning that's the real you and i grew up in
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a house with three sisters and my mom so i'm i'm from my african um background so i'm used to seeing
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women with their um in their natural hair i'm used to seeing women obviously covered and stuff stuff
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like that so for me i would actually move to you with a headscarf on because i'll consider you to be
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beautiful because my sister's beautiful headscarf on right but the problem is all of this fakery and
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stuff is we got to deal with it so of course if you got brazil for as a black girl why have you
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got chinese mink or brazilian hair coming out of your hair so for me i'll be like you know just
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keep them keep the normal hair even if what's that girl with the afro what's her name just yeah
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as soon as i came i said oh i love your hair it's just because it just looked natural she just
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looked natural so for us as men they may tell you that's not what you want but trust me you love a
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natural woman that's sort of going back to what you said actually is it a wife or is it just because like
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you would want a wife say the the you know obviously like jess you said yeah but if you
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were sexually attracted yeah you just smash a thing with a brazilian butt of course but
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but now you're saying just smash if we're talking smash versus wife now it's completely different
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things now if i'm going to smash you then i don't really care about your hair because if
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the week the we've come out in your hand no you're not going to be bothered about that because
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that's going to be experienced you're going to talk to your boy about it and say oh this is what
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happened but you know you're not going to care really more than that you say you need to say
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something um no i was going to say i feel like in terms of the natural hair thing because i feel
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like that is quite a big topic as well but i feel like as black women need to understand there was a
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period of time when eurocentric features were what was promoted coolie women were the ones who were
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on magazines and the ones who we were told that we are supposed to look like you know what i mean
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so i feel like as a woman a black woman growing up in a society where from a young age we've been
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programmed to view beauty in a certain light it's hard to manipulate what it's hard to reprogram what
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we've been manipulated to believe we can teach our children but as a as a person looking in the mirror
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and sometimes it's not even uh like i feel like wearing fake hair sometimes it's a protective
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i'm a protective hair styling because you don't know who what that person's hair is underneath and
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we're not necessarily in the right country and climate as black people in general
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for our hair to flourish and grow in its natural state for all of us we're not in our home country
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no i hear that what i'll say as a guy right is is you can have a protective style but let it be a
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protective style that is matching towards your hairstyle or where you're from so if you want to
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protect your hair that's fine but have a have a braid style have a corner style extension style
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and that'll be more natural so what we're just trying to say is either way natural will always
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be better for us as men but we're always going to be told that fakery is what we want when in actual
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fact we don't want that but then men need to speak up on that then we can't speak on women's bodies or
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hair but women don't women don't listen to men when they say what they want i just said women women don't
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women don't listen because when men say they want thin women pure women and and women don't listen
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they just say that they're slut shaming and they're not body positive so it's like when men even say
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what they want we don't care i just think each of their own if you want to wear a wig wear a wig if
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you want to wear braids wear a wig i don't think like i mean there's men out there that generally like
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women with the long brazilian hair and uh afro and the braids when the men start saying oh
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we like a woman that's natural like that's where women have an issue with it but wait didn't you
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just say that men should speak out on it and now you're saying they can't i'm not saying but when
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you start saying oh we only like girls with natural hair like that can so we're not allowed to have a
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preference or something so so what's happening again is you say men should speak out and i speak and i say
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you know what i like your hair in that way but you know what actually what i actually prefer is if
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you're natural state i think you look more beautiful than that that's okay that's okay but then that's okay
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saying that but when you start putting it's okay saying it but when i start saying it no when you
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start putting oh that's what i prefer oh i like that but that's my preference preference is part
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i feel like i feel i feel each to their own like if you like just say that we've been given the
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choice as women exactly we have been given choice i completely agree with that but with that choice
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comes repercussions so the receiver of women is men in that respect if you want a man you should be
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willing to see what that man needs now if that is the case that that man is asking i don't prefer
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women he was wearing hair extensions he was wearing weaves that doesn't match her natural skin color
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then it is not your place as a woman to tell that man that he is wrong for his preference
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would you say that um because i've heard from guys when the girls have like more of the fake stuff or the
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bbls or whatever they put them more in like a casual category just off the bat yeah yeah come
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on man it's it's so mad to me that you thinking that putting all these fakery is going to get you
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a man that actually wants you and you even have to understand the difference between someone that
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wants you for one night and someone that really wants you so if i want you for one night i don't
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care what you do so you're we can come off and come off in the hand in the bedroom it doesn't matter
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like it doesn't even if it doesn't matter how you dress in actual fact the more provocative the better
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because you're letting people know what you're on but now if i'm talking about you as my wife you
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know all of these things that i wanted you for one one night would be a red flag for me there will be
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things that i wouldn't i would i wouldn't really want and i just gotta think that women have to ask
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themselves what do they want do you see if you want one night that's fine do a certain thing but
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if you actually want long term then the things that you do for that one night are going to affect you
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in the long term you know it's interesting you said that rappers prefer like the bbls and
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stuff yeah i didn't not i didn't i said rappers do go for and footballers they do go for a certain
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look so it does make sense that certain women will have insecurities oh this person wants that so i'm
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going to go out to turkey or we're in the dominican republic and get a bbl as well why do you think we
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go to this extent to get the attention from those men when they're clearly not husbands like very obviously
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like maybe maybe i'm not talking for myself but maybe it's the lifestyle that they want
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like just yeah instagram is a lot of them it's about lifestyle okay maybe yeah yeah what would
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you say because they got money but that's what lifestyle means no but you say that yeah but you're
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generalizing all footballers because i've seen um was it marcus rashford's football um oh yeah i've
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seen it yeah she's she's beautiful but she's not your typical um like you said yeah yeah well it's the
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i met um i don't know a lot of people don't know this i started my channel with rap reactions
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so i used to do like whitest girl on earth reacts to pooh sheisty or like
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or like whatever the um i probably would have kept doing it but it kept getting demonetized shout out shout
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out youtube um but um i ended up doing a collab with um i don't know if you know him but fredo bang
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but not the uk one the american one and i asked him during that i was like be like bbl or no but
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and like he picked no but that's only rapper i've ever met but yeah like i also think if you if you look
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at rappers or footballers or these types of people as the people that you're gonna then you're really
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setting yourself up to fail really because these are never these these were never the the types of
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people you you would consider as husband material so it depends what you want i don't i don't know
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like obviously a lot of people here in relationships um but even when you wasn't or prior it's like if
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you want a guy that's going to be in in the top percentile and it's going to do a very highly paid
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job with i got to be highly paid school then you got to be accepted that these guys are going to move
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different yeah that's totally true and on that point these men are not men that we see normally
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in the public i mean i'm not going to walk out on the street and just randomly meet a rapper
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or like a a a fortune 500 businessman so let's take rapper out of it for a second right let's just
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talk about the normal guy the normal guy doesn't want you in a bbl the normal guy doesn't want fake
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lips the normal guy doesn't want fake breasts the normal guy doesn't want doesn't want fake hair
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the normal guy doesn't want doesn't want a high body count he doesn't this is what the normal guy
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doesn't want and we can look and even in the most famous people they wouldn't want that either and
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the girls will say kim kardashian yeah but you can see all the trouble she's going through now
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like literally it's all it's all coming apart when her kids are age where it's actually going to be
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secondary school that's that's when it will start happening yeah really start happening to their kids
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do you think that social media has made girls more promiscuous yes yes absolutely yeah why
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because of the instant gratification women can put pictures of themselves online wearing next to
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nothing and get a plethora of men commenting saying oh you're so beautiful you're so wonderful and then
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they carry that into their real lives as though that's something that men actually genuinely think
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about them when they walk out on the street but it's it's really not the same type of gratification no but
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you women support it though you like you women actually applaud whole behavior i would like to
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no okay okay sorry sorry but the majority of women on social media even the blogs they they
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applaud it and if you ever try to comment in the comments you get do you know what you get told as
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a man it's the same thing or misogyny or stay out of women's business you don't tell a woman what
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to do to it it always comes down to the same thing and i i got three sisters and all of my sisters are
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married all of my sisters were child um and my brother's married as well so my parents are still
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together um and i grew up in that unit right so i always think to myself what if my sister was ever
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doing any one of these things that you got i would just pull her to the side and say like what are you
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doing so the fact that girls don't actually pull their friends to the side like you know i'm trying to
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say to you like we had to we had to pull her onto the podcast because she didn't want to get on the
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podcast but she has a really good point of view and i'm saying to her literally like no you need to
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you need to tell people like what like your opinion because we need girls that actually get
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what we're saying and are willing to be vocal about it but all the girls are going to say he's
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a pick she's a pick me well i think it says something about the competition there is between women
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as general i mean like if you look at the globe in general there are more women on the planet than
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there are men so if every man were to get paired off today i'm sure we've all heard this talking
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point many times before if all men were to get paired off today there'd be a plethora of women
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left over it is a competition it really is no but if you want the footballers and if you want
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the rappers then what about the normal man then it's not it's not just about the footballers and
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rappers though it's a competition for every man in general in order to get paired up if that's what
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you want when you look like even when you look at all these girls go look at their instagram comments
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right look at the likes look even when they're in a relationship you'll see all these men commenting
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liking being simps in the comments right but end of the day a lot of times you could just pick one of
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these guys and and live your best life they they literally in public saying how much they want you
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but you don't pick none of these guys in actual fact you pick someone that's gonna be be having
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access to so many women that he actually can look at you like actually maybe i don't i don't need this
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but all the guys in the comments in the dms you girls ignore them you literally ignore them why
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well isn't that a part of the saying that women want the top 10 of men the men that are earning like
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maybe six figures or six foot tall or so on so forth the ones that look that good on instagram
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look there's one two three four there's five women in here if only one of if only one of us in here is
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that guy you can't all get them you have some of you're gonna have to concede absolutely but i think
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the point is is that if there was a man here that was six foot earning six figures and he presented
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himself as such hello um well i'm not i'm just saying let me just let me just throw that in
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there because like what what yeah like yeah but yeah but in the lieu of conversation if we got to
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know each other better i do believe that most women would be wanting to go for that man rather than
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the other men simply because he stands head and shoulders above all other men like i'll give you
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another example there could be um like i've seen it in my personal life i've got a lot of cousins that are
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bodybuilders and they have amazing bodies they don't get instant gratification the same way on
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social media that one of my cousins he he was female he maybe doesn't work out as much gets
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instant gratification when she posts a bikini picture why is that yeah because men just want to
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bang you absolutely so like so that's true because women are the gateway to sex yeah so so but you can't
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get excited about a man commenting you're giving like this is the thing it sends it's mad to me because if
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you get if you actually get excited that a man slides in your dms or gives you a compliment then
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you are you don't actually you're i don't want to say you're low value basically if that's what gets
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you going then like life's going to be really hard for you because you're going to go through life and
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then these types of women you're going to actually but actually feel sorry for these types of women
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because you a lot of men can lie to you and this is how a lot of these women end up getting damaged
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because they go through quite ditzy quite not knowing what's going on men say all these things and you
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got to remember there's two types of men right there's there's men that on their purpose that
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well there's more than two types of men but we're going to talk about men that on their purpose
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first and that want to get out there that actually being productive that are getting money that could
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be six foot that could be all these things that you think of but for some reason you believe these
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men want to be outside they don't want to be outside what they want to be they want to be inside
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with a good woman but because you look at the other guys that do that type of thing you automatically
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think these men are going to cheat then you have the other men look these men are always going to be in
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dms they're always going to be simping for this but you none of you women pick these men and when
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i say simple i don't mean they're not going to be good men i just mean they could give you everything
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you want bar the six foot bar some of these other things the six figures but they could be a good man
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and they would love you but you disregard them so if only one of us is that guy let's say that's me
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in this room and the rest of the men what about the rest of the men why don't they get a shot
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i think you're generalizing because yeah i would say he's not because i think dating app data allows
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women to be very honest no i think dating app data allows women to be very honest about what they
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like and what they want and women only swipe right between five on the high end 20 of the time
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and so where men swipe right 50 of the time i don't even use dating apps i would never use one
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either and any girl that's been on a dating app for me is for the streets how many times how many
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times you get moved to in a week let's say you just let's go you go in london transport a week how many
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times do you think you get moved to a week just honestly ladies just just for a figure once a week
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once a week same you so once a week a man moves you once a week actually it's even less than that
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it's probably less so when you're outside in the public a man will only approach you once every
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single month so like 12 times a year i can count this year i can't count i know already you're capping
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i know you're capping i just i look i'm gonna be honest i'm gonna be honest like if we're gonna do
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this be honest like you only get me through once a week in the public and you catch train you go come
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on now let's be real once a day maybe you know i'm trying to say to you so so so just be honest
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i don't know okay cool so when in real life with women right whether or not to get moved to once a
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week or once a day when you go into social media put yourself on a dating app you now put yourself
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as meat you're now selling yourself i consider that selling yourself right so whereas before
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natural interactions men will actually had to come up to you and actually had to have that bit of you
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know confidence let me speak to you that little bit of where you can smell a man you can see him
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and you can pick up all the vibes now you just put yourself and said yo look at me right and so when
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you do that it says to me you're cheap yourself so my so not only can i see you my boys can see you now
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automatically right and so for us when we see a girl that's on dating apps a lot of my friends are
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on there and they just it's for hookups they're just having sex with girls right and girls will say oh
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i'm not on there i'm not on there for that and my friend met there you know i know someone that got
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married on the dating app and that's like the lottery that's like saying i know someone that
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played the lottery and they want everybody knows someone that played a lottery one but
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how many people play the lottery every single week it's actually just devil's advocates the number one
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way that people are meeting or the number one way relationships are starting nowadays is online
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and that's why i take that like dating apps like because a lot of people will discredit the dating app
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stats because they'll say like oh like not everyone uses it for relationships or for that stuff but like
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that's the number one way people are meeting nowadays i've i've met two people actually that
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got married and met in a dating app i'm not saying you're incorrect i would i would guess a ton of
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that is for like i would guess a ton of that's very casual but but if you're surveying people on where did
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you meet your partner and the number one way is is dating apps like i can't where did you get married
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to your partner should be the question like because no it's the same so it's it's it's the same so yeah so for me
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every guy that i know on dating app is not getting married on a dating app no one no one actually say
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i met my girl in actual fact if you did you would keep that quiet because i think it depends on the
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dating app personally yeah because there are some people who pay money to get away from certain people
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on dating apps so for example there's e-harmony where you actually have to pay a subscription
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you're paying to get away from a certain demographic of people by doing that because let's be real if
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you're just looking for a casual hookup the likelihood is you're not trying to pay money to go on
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e-harmony for a casual hookup i don't like i don't really care either way but i i just can't like
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overlook the stats that i that i've seen you know what i'm saying but for me yeah and okay so the
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stats that you're seeing okay cool yeah for the stats but where i'm coming from i can we are we're not
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meeting our wives on dating apps and in actual fact the friends that are on dating apps are telling me
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all the fun and sex they're having on dating apps right and they have to be having sex with women that
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want to be having sex because you have to understand women are very empowered now and there's a lot of
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feminists and and and um strong would you consider instagram a dating app okay it is a dating app
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but you're not on there to date so it's different so if you meet someone organically through the
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comments through that stuff that's different but when you actively put yourself on they say swipe and
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tapping it's different so let's say i meet you today and it's going really well it's going really
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well you know i'm talking to you we're speaking for a week i'm like yo i'm saying to my boy g-shop
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man i've met the girl of my dreams man like that everything's going well i can't wait to see her
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then you know what i mean then you know what it is um the gaffer he then gets on the app the
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the following week and all of a sudden she gets a bit bit cold with me because she's had a better
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match now but for the last week i've been thinking yo i've met my woman i only met my woman because
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she hadn't had a better match and that's what happens in real life she wouldn't have that many
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options but because literally she's a girl and every single day a new hot match all of a sudden i'm
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competing with guys i've you know the types of guys i'm competing with i don't even know see i would say
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that instagram's like the same like i i think it's the same i think i would guess like more
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people meet on instagram than they do on a dating app i don't think it's organic if you're looking up
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you don't mind saying i think that also somewhat contradicts the point that you made earlier that
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you meet naturally in public but then you have this instant gratification
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on instagram like how can you say it's natural on instagram
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because listen there's a there's a big difference in doing a dating profile and saying look this is my
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age sex my little cage whatever it is this is their description no no wait listen there's a big
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difference between between that and you having an instagram for business for whatever you're just
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having a normal what what percent of girls have instagram for business come on for me there's a big
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difference there's a big difference i'm being honest because because not my friends wouldn't just
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automatically find your instagram and start speaking to you when you put yourself on these apps or
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the algorithms all of a sudden you found do you know how many friends exes we see on instagram
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we're like oh oh sorry on um on on apps yeah and then we're like okay cool the relationship ended
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she's in the 30s now so we know where she's ended up on the date and we just laugh because we already
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know what she's about to go through so once you end up on the on a dating app why would you be on a
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dating app if if if you were really that you don't find quality women on date you can find them on
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instagram no i'm not saying you find them on instagram but i'm saying on the dating app i would
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think that if i was on the dating app i would be realistic and i would know i'm not going to find
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my wife on there and i would tell any guy that's on there bro like yeah fair enough fair enough but i
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i feel like instagram's the same thing no it's not i i i think instagram's the same thing i think all
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social media is the same thing i think it's i think the difference is if if a man has options he uses
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social media to uh explore his options if a man doesn't have options he uses social media to find
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love and that's the difference but when people say oh yeah i use social media and i found a woman of
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my dreams there's a reason why he's on social media and he didn't go to a bar or a club and find
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uh the woman that he wanted i think every boy does dream about meeting that perfect woman in that perfect
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place they might not admit it but they will say that yeah when i'm young i want to get a nice wife
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getting my nice family there build on my clan but the last thing we're thinking about is i want to find my
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wife on tinder that's the last thing we're thinking about but you can find your wife anywhere
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give your tinder of course a man with options will not go on social media to find a relationship
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yeah facts never that's the difference a man with options and a man that doesn't have options
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a man that doesn't have options will go on social media to look for love why would a woman
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why would a quality woman even be on there advertising herself like oh just pick like the
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swipe and you can get him like why would you do that if you was really that girl every single day you
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step into the life you'll be dodging them like trust me the bad ones are dodging them so i think
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this is going to go into my next topic of the show so um i made a presentation for you guys
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i got a whiteboard guys it's very exciting very exciting so hold up i gotta so my next thing i wanted
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to talk about is cheating right instagram has changed the game for cheating you could download
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you know an app have a girl over or a guy over like that you can but there's some gray areas when
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it comes to relationships so i decided as a group we can figure it out what's cheating and what's not
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all right all right all right everything i can see sleeping in the thing my gosh
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sorry i bring it like this oh i see my mom could never be so brazen
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okay okay then i talk i talk into all right i got you thank you oh i can put that yeah how
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okay okay okay wait where's my pointer yes it is so i have a pointer because i think i look cooler
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with it um so today since men and women women are different we're going to have different categories
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so we have cheating or not cheating all right the boys and the girls so liking another girl's picture
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cheating or not cheating it's an ass pick or for the girls it's a shirtless pick
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what's your definition of cheating not cheating so i'm gonna i'm gonna do the majority everyone
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everyone all right if a guy likes a girl's ass pick raise your hand if you think it's cheating
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no yes yeah i'm good with that yeah all right all right so for the girls liking a guy's shirtless
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but i'll be honest i'll be honest with you to be honest with you i don't i would i wouldn't be
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liking the girls ass picture on the ground i don't do that but i don't i still don't consider it
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it's not something i would do but i don't consider it to be cheating but you your girl should not be
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liking a man's so so your girl you you said you have a girlfriend yeah so she likes another guy's
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shirtless picture yeah i'm not gonna like that is it over it's not cheating is it over oh no no
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it's not cheating it's not no but it's a that's that's a red flag you need to talk about that okay
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so so should i put down red flags yes but not cheating no not cheating but red flags well then
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you can put down red flags for us then yeah yeah it's all red flags yeah
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all right yeah we can put for both it's not cheating but red flags
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that's a different that's a different whiteboard okay also if anyone has any i do have a back of
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this that i can write it down yeah don't worry we're gonna have some more don't worry so number two
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answering a dm so for the boys he gets a message from a girl saying you're fine you're cute whatever
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and he says thank you that's not cheating no because it depends if there's any keys as many
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of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform
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