Boss Babe CAN'T ACCEPT This FACT About Men
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Summary
In this episode, I react to a recent episode of the Boss Babe podcast, "Boss Babe Can't Accept This Fact About Men" where the host, boss babe, is talking about the fact that men don't support women in terms of their business.
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if someone doesn't support me it makes me feel really bad i've worked my ass off to get to where
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i am and if they don't i'm like you don't care about me you're not gonna support my dreams and
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my career and everything what dreams does a woman with a neck tattoo have am i crazy like what what
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dreams down and down what's your business i do nails nails okay i've been doing it for like a
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little over two and a half years okay nice being a nail tech really like the way these women talk
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you think they're like serial entrepreneurs what's your dream to do nails like can't you just do your
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own and your friends but when you say support what do you mean um like if i show you my work
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and you're like oh it's like it's cool or if they don't like
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how interested do you want men to be in nails you know what i mean like i mean how interested are
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you in like watches or like a shoe collection it's cool but what up guys welcome to the just
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pearly things youtube channel and welcome to my reaction series today i'm gonna be reacting to
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boss babe can't accept this fact about men this is from the whatever podcast i was on this podcast a
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couple of months ago uh let's play the video i i could agree if someone doesn't support me it makes
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me feel really bad i've worked my ass off to get to where i am and if they don't i'm like you don't
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care about me you're not gonna support my dreams and my career and everything but i'm gonna support
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you with everything you do yeah but if i don't get the same back i'm not with you anymore like you just
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what dreams does a woman with a neck tattoo have am i crazy like what what dreams down and down like
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with my feelings towards you if you don't what's your business i do nails nails okay i've been doing it
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for like a little over two and a half years okay nice got my clientele all that so you would be upset if
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uh your partner didn't uh support you in terms of your business yeah okay being a nail tech really
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like the way these women talk you think they're like serial entrepreneurs what's your dream to do
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nails like can't you just do your own and your friend if i told when you say support what do you
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mean um if they don't like if i show you my work and you're like oh it's like it's cool or if they don't
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like how interested do you want men to be in nails you know what i mean like i mean how interested are
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you in like watches or like a shoe collection like it's cool but you had a really good day of work and
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you're really excited about it and like you're proud of yourself if they're not proud of you
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then i don't think that's a good thing can i add yeah i also so it's like not my business it's my
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sister's she does like events in town i was talking about it i think before we started the podcast
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they're like flea markets in town and i feel like i i usually like invite like my close friends
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and stuff and if i was in a relationship and i invited the person and they didn't come i feel
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like i say like too much i already know but i would i probably wouldn't like them as much if they like
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didn't come and support me wait so and you just going back to you so you said that you'd want to tell
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your partner about like a good day at work so i mean no offense or anything but what is a good
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day at work doing nails if i i personally like the work that i did i okay like because is there
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an artistic component oh 100 okay i can see the designs could be really pretty or i had a really
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good conversation king what would you say to a girl like if she said i had a good day at work
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like what i don't i'm just trying to figure out what she expects them guys to say
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i don't understand like what because she's saying i want the guy to support me with her like nail
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business so if she says i have a good day at work what do you say okay i don't know i'm happy for you
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it wouldn't be enough because she's saying it's not enough support
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guys okay his answer was exactly what i thought guys don't like they don't care
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someone because i build a lot of bonds with my clients and i become friends with them a lot of my
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really close friends now are because i met them by working and they just make an appointment with
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me and then i a lot of times i become their friend because of the connection you grow sure but like a
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lot i've like shown guys like my work and they're like they just either ignore that i like i'll show
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them a picture or they kind of ignore it but like over text um and they just don't really say anything
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or feel like oh my god i'm so proud of you like you're doing really well um especially like i'm 19 and i
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have my own business and congrats thank you and if they're not supportive of that okay when women
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say they have this like business right it's always like a a nail bit like it's always something where
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there's no employees it's just them like doing only fans or like nails like a bit misleading just
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doesn't think they're supportive of my career a lot of guys think it's either really cool or really
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stupid yeah i mean what got what guys would think it's that cool like what what guys are gonna are
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gonna think that nails or that i mean gay men might you know what i mean like i think when you're in a
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relationship with someone you should certainly be supportive of them i think part of that might be
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related to what it might be related to though is that men don't really care about a woman's career
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in just let me clarify a bit it doesn't make you more attractive to us if you have a career or you're
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successful or you're ambitious did you say why no i was just saying okay oh okay yeah i'm just yeah so
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i think for for most men like we like because you might be an outlier but most women don't share their
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their resources with men the same way that men share their resources with women i know a lot of
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you are in college so it's like what are you talking about brian but like you're probably
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finances to you guys probably are not really high on the totem pole yet because most of the guys you're
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probably interacting with are in college they're not in a career yet but as you do start to get a bit
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older um you know you hear a lot about women like men with high status so if that could be through a
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job if they're an athlete musician actor something like that whereas men we do not care it we really
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care nothing at all about a woman's status whereas women care if a man has status that is can be very
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attractive it's also kind of hated upon though like i know a lot of women who end up with men who i guess
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would be considered like lower status or not paid as much it gets more disrespected than if it was
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actually just a man of a higher status with a woman of a lower status i feel like that's more
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unusual i feel like a lot of people yeah like yeah yeah like the trophy wife tropicine is super common
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but you don't really see the other way i feel like it's kind of stigmatized i think it's going to be a
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new thing i think it's going to be really common older women over the age of 35 dating 20 something
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year old men yes you think it's stigmatized for a woman to be with be with a man who's yeah like
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learning less than her or if you even go on like the internet and just see like these really famous
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influencers with their husbands who just are in the background it's like constantly in the comments
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it's like why is she with him what is she doing like he's like just doing this and that it's but if
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you see like a very like ronaldo or something you wouldn't question why he had a girlfriend he's
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back he's back he's watching round uh sorry go ahead oh like first like a famous celebrity or
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something like that if it was a male you wouldn't you wouldn't bat an eye if they had like a really
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attractive younger person who wasn't even a celebrity yeah i would say though overwhelmingly like a lot of
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did you want to come in on this it looked like you were okay it looked like it seems like for women who
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are high status there are definitely women that will date down but the thing is is as a woman as
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you start increasing your status and as you start making more money your pool of potential partners
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tends to shrink because most women don't want to date a guy who's lower status than them or whose uh
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earning potential is lower than them now again true you guys are in college so like you haven't
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probably played too much or wrestled too much with these sort of dynamics but and i know you're an
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outlier apparently but um i'd say so yeah most most women and if you i think they've done polls on this
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like most women and you can also do with uh education attainment most women would want to date a man who
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is at least as or more educated than she is i think as might be i don't know
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so if she has a bachelor she wants a guy who has a bachelor's she has a master's i don't know if
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they they did it for uh you know it's interesting the pulling for younger women on what they rate
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desirable when they're younger it tends to be something like a nice car or like um a nice restaurant
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stuff like that where when they're older it tends to be more like pensions um like um a house like
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long-term stuff grad student like people who have graduate level degrees but um post-grad whatever
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it's called uh so yeah i i feel like with that it's just like finding a partner like you're finding an
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equal like you want to have someone who has kind of the same edge like when you were saying with
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education like you want someone with the same education as you it's more of just seem seeing
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someone as like an equal instead of like maybe having to like try and explain things to him that
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he wouldn't understand and that's not saying like you both have to have like engineering degrees in
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order for that to happen like it can definitely be where maybe like she is some like boss business
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woman but he's out like doing like i don't know maybe he's just like doing something like a little
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bit so it's like a personal trainer or a musician whenever it's like the women are high earning
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it's always personal trainer a musician or some sort of like exciting job where they're good looking i
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don't really i can't think of any examples but it doesn't mean like i feel like it's not it's not so
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much as something that needs to be put down on paper it's kind of like an everyday kind of thing
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like she wants to be able to talk to him and not feel like she's talking to someone that isn't
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matching her like mentally if that makes sense i think men also kind of feel like from what i've
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talked to i feel like i've met more men who like are more comfortable or prefer taking that like
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breadwinner position like a lot of guys i've talked to like actually want it's mostly it's like 20
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roughly or stay-at-home moms and then half of the population it's 50 50 but the man still
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does the majority of the bills typically to engage in that i think for a woman it's more
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because only recently like in the past 100 years when i've kind of gotten the rights to do whatever
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so it's kind of always trying to work up on an even playing field versus i think a lot of men still
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kind of just want to not all of them but a lot too i mean who's gonna watch the kids like who
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what if yeah do you find a lot of women want to fall into the role of you know housewife i've
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actually met quite a few who like actually want to do that especially more like religious people but
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it's still pretty common i'd say yeah did anybody else want to come in on this oh sorry did did you
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have more i was just saying in university it's kind of biased because all the girls here are pursuing
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like a higher education so you wouldn't really find that yeah and obviously like sometimes like
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girls joke about it like oh it'd be so nice to just marry rich and then you don't have to worry
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about anything but i like how she says they want to marry rich and they don't say stay home with the
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kids so many times staying home is associated with being rich when a lot of housewives are actually
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they just live a very frugal lifestyle and don't spend on extravagant things and that's why kevin
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samuels would always ask do you want to stay home with the kids women always want to be
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stay-at-home moms in upper to middle class neighborhoods that is expensive that lifestyle
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is expensive they don't want to move into the country and be at stay-at-home mothers never go
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on vacation that's not what they see they want it to be their kids are in the best schools they want
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to travel that would be nice it would be nice it's the dream but obviously like every time
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like i say it personally like i mean as a joke like i have my own aspirations what are your aspirations
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well i mean what are you what are you saying again i'm undeclared okay like i don't have any at the
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moment but like i do want to have something of my own like if i were to get into a relationship like
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i and see that's programming she's been taught she always has to have a backup plan always always
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always guys this has been 50 years of this personally would not want to just like live
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off of everything that he's doing and just have like if i want to go grocery shopping hey can i get
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some money to go grocery shopping like that's not what i mean i just want to come in on this really quick
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so it's kind of interesting because like you have so traditionally you would have the man providing
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and it was more traditional so he'd be the head of the household he'd be the lead the leader so to
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speak and it's interesting to me that women so you could say that women were submissive to their
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husbands wives were submissive to their husbands but you've traded that by being submissive to an
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employer you now instead of being submissive to your husband you are now submissive to an employer
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and your employer is going to ask i would say much more of you than with a husband well i mean
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wouldn't you also be like submissive to an employer yeah i mean we're all submissive to something no but
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i'm saying like traditionally if the man if if you were say a stay-at-home you didn't have to go out
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and labor you didn't have to go out and work you would you would only be submissive to a husband and
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the kids and the cleaning and the cooking and yeah well i don't think i don't think women should be
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submissive to their children well they do have to like do everything for them okay fair well you're
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i i think as a as a mother you have a thought you're in a position of authority over your
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children yeah yeah hopefully yeah you know and brian brings up a lot of good points so many times
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chicks like the thought of listening to their it's so backwards because we put money at the top of
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everything instead of listening to your husband who gives you children we listen to an employer who
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gives us money and i understand it's 2023 people still have to work but why can't women work inside
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the home i mean there's a million stay-at-home working jobs laptop jobs that you can do but let
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me know what you guys think in the comments what uh what a show like the video on your way out
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