JustPearlyThings - November 20, 2023


She Gets ROASTED for Uttering This Trash About Promiscuous Women


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35 minutes

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7,450

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2

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Misogyny

53

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30

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In this episode, we discuss cheating and how it's a red flag and the red flags to look out for in a relationship. Are you cheating? Do you have a partner that cheats on you or is cheating on you?

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00:00:00.000 let me finish three messages or more oh that's it oh caveat yeah okay cool yeah let me finish
00:00:07.280 yeah that's what i was gonna say and keeps chatting they never meet up but he keeps
00:00:11.680 cheating i wouldn't say he's cheating but it's it's a it's a red flag if he does it
00:00:17.600 no it's cheating it's cheating raise your hand if you think it's cheating class
00:00:22.320 it's bad it is bad because free messages or more in any circumstance becomes i just think you
00:00:28.640 shouldn't be talking to anyone else if you're serious about the yeah i think i think that too
00:00:32.240 if you think that you're going to get married to this person in the future that you want to bear
00:00:35.600 their seeds you should not be liking anyone else's pictures like that okay you don't even say thank
00:00:40.240 you you shouldn't be talking to anyone just leave it as it is they can have they can feel however
00:00:46.080 they want to feel about you but you shouldn't be talking to them if you're genuinely serious about
00:00:50.480 the person you're dating all right it's official it's on the whiteboard yes
00:00:54.160 yes so for the girls 100 cheating raise your hand cheating raise your hand oh absolutely all right
00:01:09.200 even saying i've got a man is cheating all right i wouldn't say for boys it's cheating i would not
00:01:13.840 say that at all because faithful girls don't reply so even if you even to reply i've got a man that's
00:01:18.480 cheating because if you're faithful you don't even got a reply you just air it just air it you keep it in
00:01:22.320 your request to reply or you block or basically yeah but faithful girls don't reply yeah faithful 1.00
00:01:28.400 girls okay okay okay so all right posting a thirst trap so you got a girl she posted thirst trap why
00:01:38.640 ass pic is that cheating oh yeah we're doing the boys first i'm sorry i'm sorry you guys got a man he 0.64
00:01:44.160 posts a shirtless pic it's not the same men and women not sexualize the same way yeah it's not it's not
00:01:50.480 just as long as i don't see the v in the picture then no the v is in it oh no no but if your man is
00:01:58.960 a muscular man the v is always gonna be there like even no no what with a towel and the v is it a bad
00:02:04.400 thing to want to show your progress on instagram in that respect as a man if you have a fitness page
00:02:09.200 well that's what i'm saying he has no business it's not it's not a business it's just purely
00:02:14.240 attracting it's just trappy then yeah no to be honest with when man do that i don't even rate
00:02:18.880 that anyway like so okay so raise your hand if you think it's cheating um so red flag but not
00:02:28.080 i think it's red flag for other reasons not that you know what i mean your man can't be posting
00:02:32.080 topless pictures yeah okay yeah that's a bit um so then for the girls opposite 0.90
00:02:40.800 so ass picture it's like one of the thong bikinis it's not even just a bikini it's a thong bikini 0.90
00:02:56.480 if you are trying to be someone's wife you're trying to bear this man's surname i don't think
00:02:59.760 that's a good way to present yourself all right so we're all we're all together on this cheating okay
00:03:09.360 see i'm helping save relationships now this is the everyone can know exactly where the line is
00:03:14.160 they're gonna screenshot wait hold on hold on hold on where are we cheating not but red flag
00:03:19.840 so basically i'll here you go so don't worry class i'll explain so the reason i put a red flag this
00:03:27.680 means you can get away with it you won't get dumped but it is a red flag so it'll be like
00:03:33.360 i don't really like that i'll keep an eye on it but the relationship isn't over where this cheating
00:03:39.440 means relationship over dumped my head may i ask why is that so different for boys as it is girls um for
00:03:48.960 the posting thirst traps well i mean we we came together as a group i was just writing down what the
00:03:54.560 group said i would say it's because like women are more sexualized than men are like i wouldn't
00:04:01.360 want to like we sexualize ourselves but like men are more visual than women are so i would say it's
00:04:07.360 like a different effect did you not also say that's part of the point that sex is part of the the gift
00:04:13.040 that women have to give to men in the respect that women are the bearers of sex men can't really have 0.98
00:04:17.760 sex with the women unless you know otherwise yeah but sex is sex is 50 50 so you get something i get 0.76
00:04:25.520 something that you don't like this there's this thing that women say i'm giving you sex no like 1.00
00:04:29.920 yeah but i'm giving you something back so women like sex and men like sex so let's not act like 0.79
00:04:34.960 you're actually giving me something unless you're virgin that's the only time you're giving me something 0.93
00:04:39.440 if not you're just giving me something you're giving to someone else you misunderstood my point
00:04:43.120 you're not going to have sex with the women unless she tells you you can have sex with her right yeah 1.00
00:04:48.000 okay so my point being is that it's a very sexualized position that women come from when 1.00
00:04:53.520 it comes to relationships that's why it's it's so much more graphic when a woman comes forward and is 1.00
00:04:59.440 naked on instagram almost in her bikini because nobody wants to see man's dicks that's the truth of 1.00
00:05:04.320 the matter it's not pretty it's no nobody wants to see it like it's like if you go and set like
00:05:10.400 would women always talk about these dick pics like it's the most i don't understand why a man 0.99
00:05:13.600 would do it because you just sense that into a woman and women don't want to see that but a 1.00
00:05:16.640 woman's body actually other women like women's bodies and they talk about women's bodies no man
00:05:20.960 starts talking about another man's body and if they do then the point is why is that because we come
00:05:26.000 from a place where sex is what we have to go on but women sexualize themselves like i don't look at 1.00
00:05:31.760 like i've said before like men we value we value youth purity and um loyalty right that's one of some of
00:05:38.000 the things that we value right none of them are sex but this thing where girls got to be like oh 1.00
00:05:41.760 what if the sex ain't right like that's because you think to yourself you need to come with something
00:05:45.760 but i've said it before and i'll say it again when the girl is doing that mad thing bro you know that
00:05:50.640 mad thing like you're saying that got three thousand but all you can think to yourself is where did she 1.00
00:05:54.400 learn this like you're enjoying it like but i'm not trying to wife her you know i'm saying i would
00:05:58.560 like to teach my wife that but she's coming and she's coming all prepared that's not something men 0.75
00:06:02.240 we value but for one night yeah of course i'm gonna value that i'm gonna tell my boys about it
00:06:06.240 but i would never wife that okay so can i ask in that respect then what in a relationship does
00:06:11.520 a woman have to offer you in general what does a woman offer you in a relationship 0.99
00:06:17.280 sorry how do you mean in that respect what does a woman actually offer you
00:06:22.400 because i i don't see any other part in this apart from what a woman has to offer you apart 0.99
00:06:26.480 from maybe what she can give to you in terms of her mind but a big part of it yes that's true
00:06:32.160 but i just said a second ago that is gratification for a man isn't it yeah no it's peace
00:06:37.440 like i'm sure all the men in this room can agree that you have a level of testosterone and that when
00:06:41.280 your woman is next to you naked you're going to get aren't you yeah but i just i just i'm really 0.71
00:06:48.080 confused as to what you're arguing yeah no i know it's okay i just i don't i would have something to say
00:06:56.000 if i understood what you're talking about so i just don't understand what you're arguing maybe i
00:07:00.480 could clarify a little bit yeah i think that a lot of what a woman has to offer a man is to be sex i
00:07:06.320 mean we we bear children for you three sex don't we no but we have sex such like if you think about
00:07:11.600 all the time you spend with your girl or your partner think about how much time you actually
00:07:14.560 have sex with them like if that's all you have to offer it's going to be very boring for them and 0.95
00:07:18.720 that's what we use girls that you're going to meet for one that stands for because that's what they're 1.00
00:07:22.800 offering right like you have to offer so much more than sex and and and something that's been
00:07:28.240 lost along the way i don't know whether or not your people's fathers or mothers haven't told them
00:07:32.320 but you have to be there's so much other things that men want other than sex yeah like i think
00:07:37.200 like i think of my mom like she created like traditions for our whole family that we would do
00:07:41.280 and it it might sound simple but it was like a lot of work for her to put together these like
00:07:45.440 family traditions that everyone would do so i feel like a wife creates a home more than anything
00:07:50.240 and like yeah that's like this way what can you offer more than what a prostitute can't 1.00
00:07:55.760 put it this way if you only if you only can bring sex to the table and you think that's all we care 0.99
00:08:00.400 about then you're going down the wrong road yeah i believe my point was misunderstood i'm not saying
00:08:05.520 that all women have to offer a sex but what i am saying is is that if a man were to get married
00:08:09.520 to a woman and she didn't provide those duties in that respect i think it would be very 0.93
00:08:15.200 a piece no she has to provide sex that's like okay so i think it should work on the same grounds 0.98
00:08:20.640 in a basic relationship where you're just girlfriend and boyfriend you're trying to
00:08:24.080 work towards something bigger no because you shouldn't be giving your boyfriend the same
00:08:26.720 thing you give to your husband this is where the problems happen this is literally where the
00:08:29.600 problems happen like you give to random guys one night guys and short-term relationship boyfriends the
00:08:36.320 same actually more than what you give to your husband because you don't give him your purity do you
00:08:40.240 and a lot of the times what tends to happen is when you meet a girl and they say to you um you know
00:08:44.560 i've got insecurities or you know i just don't trust people this is because of previous relationships
00:08:49.040 right so when they say oh you know i've learned things i've learned sex or whatever that is for us
00:08:54.240 like we don't value that because along with that sexual skills that you've learned you've learned you
00:08:57.920 had a lot of hurt and a lot of trauma now i'm dealing with this i would rather a girl who hasn't
00:09:02.560 gone and dated all these different guys because she thought they were footballers and rappers or whatever
00:09:07.680 and these aren't the guys that were ever going to wife you then by the time you actually start coming
00:09:11.680 back to a normal level you meet a guy like me i'm dealing with a reminiscence of this and this is
00:09:16.160 what happens and as a man in his 30s um that wants to get married that comes from a family that that
00:09:21.760 everyone is married with with child that is something i aspire to and the reason i haven't got it is
00:09:26.160 because i keep meeting problematic um boss who don't want us who believe submission is some type of
00:09:33.600 um negative word but but there's a lot of power in femininity you guys don't understand how much in 1.00
00:09:39.200 actual fact we go to work for you everything we do is for you and you don't even realize it
00:09:44.880 well i i'm not coming from the prospects that you know women all only have sex to offer i'm coming
00:09:50.560 from the prospects that if you're in a relationship with someone you're going to have agreements aren't
00:09:55.840 you you're going to say okay i require this are you going to be able to agree with that and from that
00:10:02.240 you're going to say like okay well yes or no that's not going to be what it is for people isn't it
00:10:07.760 right so all i'm saying is is that i perfectly understand that for some people all they have to
00:10:14.000 offer is certain things right but i personally think that you know if a person is asking for
00:10:20.400 something such as sex in that respect it should be your requirement to offer and if you're trying
00:10:25.600 to work towards something higher like in the future you both have plans to get married
00:10:29.600 why wouldn't you want to work towards trying to appease your partner in that respect
00:10:34.480 so how did we get from this back to the board okay so so all right class we got a little off
00:10:44.560 topic but we're going back so this was actually requested to be brought on by my producer um i
00:10:51.600 don't know he knows some wild people i guess because he asked is sleeping in the same bed as someone
00:10:57.280 cheating but not doing anything yes yeah yeah sleep on the floor listen if asking a dm even
00:11:04.560 saying i've got a man is cheating then what do you think being on the bed well we'll just just
00:11:08.160 i just in case there's any confusion no confusion for both for both yes does a guy get any props if
00:11:15.120 he sleeps in the same bed as a girl and doesn't hook up i'm gonna be real with you yeah like we've
00:11:19.600 slept in girls beds and we haven't hooked up with them and i just i don't know but i know if a 0.87
00:11:24.400 girl sleeps on a guy's bed she's hooking up with him but if a guy sleeps on the girl's bed doesn't 0.55
00:11:27.760 mean you're hooking up with her wow how of course women are the gateway to sex thank you thank you 1.00
00:11:34.960 no but hold on hold on hold on hold on listen a girl will let you sleep in her bed knowing that you 0.90
00:11:39.360 will never because the only way you can get there is by her by giving it to you right that's what i was
00:11:43.520 trying to say trust me trust me on this yeah she will actually let you sleep in your bed and make you 1.00
00:11:47.040 roast and not give you nothing yeah you know what i'm saying to say to you and even as a friend a girl will 0.71
00:11:51.600 let you sleep in the bed and you know she's your friend and you will never try because you know
00:11:55.680 she's a friend but if a girl says does it the opposite way around just know it's a wrap she
00:12:00.880 goes in the guy's bed it's a wrap i get your point i was trying to say like how can you say that
00:12:05.680 if a girl you just said the same thing switched it but how can no because women no because women are 1.00
00:12:11.280 different right i'm being honest with you right you you could let a man sleep in your bed and you know
00:12:15.360 you're not going to give him nothing right honestly unless you're not that type of woman then if you're 0.98
00:12:18.560 that type of woman that does that then it throws it out of the window right but most women can let 1.00
00:12:22.240 a man sleep in their bed they've let their friends before at uni or something that you know
00:12:26.000 what i mean let it crash and it's been okay but if if it's the opposite way around
00:12:33.120 speaking from a personal experience i was in a relationship and i was in a situation where i wasn't
00:12:40.640 allowed to allowed to come home that night because of another circumstance while i was in a relationship
00:12:46.800 i had a friend he was a male friend he offered to let me stay at his innit for the night it was
00:12:52.640 very circumstantial on the way back from wherever we were so i stayed at his and yes i slept in his
00:12:58.640 bed because i was not sleeping on the floor in his house i just refused you never nothing happened
00:13:03.200 couch he had a whole house he had no couch he had no couch he had no couch so he slept in the same
00:13:10.560 bed as you yeah he said to me i would tell i would tell your boyfriend to dump yeah
00:13:20.720 my little brother had a very similar situation i said dumper let me explain he said to me it's either
00:13:25.520 i sleep in his bed or in his mom's bed i said to him i would rather sleep in your bed because i know you
00:13:32.160 and you can sleep in your mom's bed so your boyfriend knew you had the option of sleeping
00:13:36.160 in his bed or his mom's bed and you told him that yeah he knew but then he knew the same bed as you
00:13:41.120 we both we topped and tailed it so you had options oh my god i'll be honest with you yeah it would have
00:13:47.040 been it would have made more sense for him to sleep in his mom's bed because i can go and sleep
00:13:50.320 yeah that's what she was suggesting whenever my mom's house i just jump in the that's what she's saying
00:13:54.400 he didn't want to but then you should have gone yeah he's just mom's bed i'm not sleeping in your
00:13:59.680 mom's bed but the thing is i'm not sleeping in your mom's bed this is a red flag okay i'm just gonna
00:14:06.800 just to clarify okay just just here but i'm not but i'm just saying at the time 100 i'm just saying
00:14:14.560 at the time as wild as it as wild as it may sound this is you and that's that red flag
00:14:23.040 at the time bear in mind that this was a lot of years ago yeah but at the time i was so in love
00:14:28.000 with my boyfriend that the concept of this person who's offering me a place to stay in his house
00:14:34.880 him even like having a but he had intention yes but in my head and my heart i was so in love with who i
00:14:43.600 was with at the time if your boyfriend did that to you would you be fine with that if he called you
00:14:48.960 and said listen i'm gonna sleep with this some girl in her bed don't worry about me no but i'm not gonna 0.99
00:14:54.320 lie of course not but the difference between me and the him is that i would voice that he didn't
00:14:59.280 as a man so hold on a second so i can i can i can i can see that happening because i'm in a situation
00:15:06.880 where it's an emergency situation you know i have nowhere to sleep stop okay you couldn't you
00:15:23.360 couldn't get a hotel i'm on my way back from college just i'm saying this was years ago i was
00:15:30.800 either 17 or 18 at the time so old enough to go to the hotel yeah but not old enough to understand
00:15:35.360 that and how old is he he's the same age as me but they're babies you understand what i'm saying
00:15:40.480 we're in a situation it's not an excuse but i like the anecdote because that sounded mud look 0.58
00:15:46.000 and now i know it's already i'm gonna just put this out there to any girls that are watching if
00:15:49.440 you're ever in this scenario do not stay stay i wouldn't do it now i wouldn't do it why wouldn't
00:15:55.200 you do it now because i understand boundaries you don't say but as a child or as a late team
00:16:03.840 if someone kills someone at 18 are they responsible of course they can't say i'm a child
00:16:09.760 no but it's different because it's circumstantial it wasn't like it wasn't like he was just oh yeah
00:16:15.360 like you know i've got a free yard why don't you come over and stay to the i had nowhere to go do
00:16:19.840 you know what i'm saying i'm gonna go to your boyfriend no okay do you know what i'm saying i
00:16:24.000 couldn't go to his it was just in the time it was the only place that i felt like i had to go and i
00:16:29.360 remember even talking to you at the time do you get what i'm saying and it was just at the time i
00:16:34.160 was explaining that and i'm not gonna lie of course i knew how mad it looked but i explained to the boy
00:16:40.320 and you know we had our conversation and even for me at the time i thought the fact that we're even
00:16:44.880 having this conversation he already knew how in love with my boyfriend i was it was just
00:16:49.120 circumstantial but things can happen but nothing happened
00:16:55.200 and it comes i think because you're so young you're 17 you said yeah it comes with maturity as
00:17:00.640 well you wasn't experiencing at this age at this age i can i can give you the side eye a bit but at
00:17:06.960 17 18 exactly i was a kid i think if you respect your man that much you know the boundaries before
00:17:20.480 he even has to lay them out 18 years old you've only just begin you've only just started dating
00:17:26.160 yeah i know and you know full well that you know not to sleep in another man's bed when you're in a
00:17:30.240 relationship but she said they were friends no but he was my this person at the time was my one of my
00:17:36.480 closest friends at the time okay he might be he might be but was he your type no if he was your
00:17:41.920 type and you stepped in the beds maybe something would have happened no honestly that doesn't even
00:17:48.080 matter within itself because you could have put in yourself in a situation where i i understand that's
00:17:51.760 your friend but at the same time he could have been overpowered was your friend right you could have
00:17:56.560 been overpowered by him at the same time and that your boyfriend only has to take you at your word
00:18:01.920 he doesn't know that nothing happened for fact because again that's true that's that's very true
00:18:07.120 you are the gateway to sex at the end of the day you can say that nothing had happened between you
00:18:11.920 and this man but right okay that's perfectly fine that you're saying that but he only can take you at
00:18:17.680 your word and who is he then to tell you that i don't accept that you did this and how do you know
00:18:23.040 that's disrespectful and so how do you know the other person your friend wasn't having feelings
00:18:28.000 no but for me he was waiting he was waiting they always are waiting in the orbit in the spider world
00:18:36.480 beta male in the spider world at the time even if he did or didn't if even if he was or wasn't
00:18:41.840 plotting for me it didn't matter because i wasn't in my this one i'm saying it's circumstantial because
00:18:46.320 for me and where my head and heart was at the time i didn't like why why like why is there so
00:18:52.160 many excuses why don't you just say i did some dumb but it's like it's like no i was young i did some
00:19:03.040 dumb and it was like like for me it was circumstantial and also i'm not gonna lie like 0.62
00:19:07.040 at the time he was the person that i was with at that time he was the first and only person i'd ever
00:19:12.880 been with do you understand that i had no experience with men he was the first guy so to me
00:19:20.080 i had look at i was i was i was a virgin most of college and i i like i don't feel like you could
00:19:26.080 that's an excuse like you you just know that's true you know i'll give that to you guys it's not an
00:19:30.320 excuse and now today no i wouldn't i would never do that to a person i'm sleeping with and i wouldn't
00:19:35.040 accept it from a person i'm sleeping with but i'm saying it was just in a retaliation to when
00:19:40.160 i don't remember your name okay well this is china said yeah if a girl goes into a man's bed 1.00
00:19:47.600 if a girl goes into a man's bed then something is destined to happen and i'm just saying that from 0.99
00:19:51.440 my experience it wasn't so you can't generalize every single woman under that umbrella because 1.00
00:19:57.440 it's not the truth because for me when i was in my circumstance the person that i was with i was so
00:20:01.840 in love with when i went into this person's bed my mind wasn't even in that headspace i'm going through
00:20:06.560 my situation with my family i'm not even thinking of anything like that i'm just in this boy's bed
00:20:10.480 i'm sitting there i'm crying i'm just depressed but i just have somewhere to sleep that night i'm not
00:20:14.640 thinking oh because i'm going to your bed you didn't have to sleep in his bed though it was just
00:20:22.960 i'm going to say one more thing if you really loved your boyfriend you could have slept on the
00:20:27.120 floor okay so next next for everyone at home having instagram in a relationship let's say in a
00:20:45.920 marriage let's let's take it one step further for a boy to have it is it cheating not cheating
00:20:51.600 not a public profile i'm not cheating all right raise your hand if you think it's cheating
00:20:57.680 okay i don't i don't think i don't think it's cheating we're gonna i don't think it's cheated
00:21:03.040 are you are you are your business or anything are you just like what percent of people have
00:21:09.600 business no i'm just i'm just trying to okay i'm just trying to because yeah i know i know there's
00:21:13.760 exceptions but yeah we're talking about the rule all right cool so if we're dealing with that then
00:21:17.520 then public profile then it's a red flag it's not cheating but it's a red flag because that's the
00:21:21.840 prelude to cheating you know being married having a public profile yeah public yeah second one for a
00:21:29.840 girl public same thing red flag oh hold on hold on not really you know what do you mean public profile
00:21:36.240 you're paid to open yeah like you're open to messages yes red flag oh as a married woman 0.92
00:21:41.600 so like drake can dm you all right cool basically this is something i believe right
00:21:47.840 okay what are you willing to do for your for your husband that you have never done for another man
00:21:52.000 right and you're not going to come with virginity because you're um i'm saying if you're not a virgin
00:21:57.680 then you're not coming with with your youth like with your with your purity right a lot of women are 1.00
00:22:02.400 coming in a lot of bodies and and a lot of experience yeah a lot of trauma right so you come
00:22:09.920 with all of these things right so if a man sees you with all of these things and he said you know what
00:22:14.640 forget the bodies forget everything that's gone um forget the age i'm willing to come and and wife
00:22:20.560 you and put a ring on your finger but the one thing that i just i require for you is that once
00:22:25.840 we get married i would appreciate if you could come off instagram are we is it coming off instagram
00:22:31.520 or going private or just coming off instagram i'd appreciate if you come off instagram um because
00:22:36.800 you know i don't really want you same access to people that you know that can have access to you
00:22:40.560 prior and this includes all the the the all your orbiters all your ex guys drake all these people
00:22:48.160 and just in case you never know no because drake and floyd mayweather do dm people average girls and
00:22:53.840 and they destroy average guys live they've been seen to do it you know i'm trying to say to you
00:22:57.440 and this is the thing they can at any moment so you know and if your wife isn't willing to do that
00:23:02.720 then it says to me that she's holding on but not everyone uses instagram yeah we just she just said
00:23:07.920 it's the dating app networking as well no on the board do you have a business networking what type of
00:23:18.800 network huh what type of network i work in a modeling agency i scout for girls oh that's a red oh that's
00:23:24.000 a that's basically cheating how's that cheating working that's my job so basically if you're married 0.92
00:23:28.960 and then you say oh yeah i'm gonna keep it open i'm a model that's how i make money oh man that's how
00:23:34.080 we're gonna feed our kids no i wouldn't agree no you're not gonna feed your kids off modeling you're
00:23:38.400 gonna feed your kids off the main thing that your husband does hopefully no i would never ever
00:23:44.400 ever depend on a man's money it's not about it it is when you marry when you get married it's a
00:23:50.480 two-income household okay i'll i'll make my money my partner will make it's not your money but a man's
00:23:56.080 money is the family's money your money is your own well not in my wouldn't be my household my money
00:24:02.160 will be the family household money i'll pay the bills of it he can pay a certain type of bill
00:24:06.640 he'll probably pay the lights i'll probably pay the mortgage it's a team here so what do you want
00:24:10.800 50 50. i don't mind if you want to do like a joint bank account like i just feel like if you're
00:24:15.360 married i had a joint bank account okay it doesn't bother me with the father of my child it does not
00:24:20.640 bother me whatever huh after we split up we okay so so all right who thinks it's cheating having ig no no
00:24:30.400 no anyone anyone think it is for a girl no it's not cheating but it's a huge red flag okay so i'll
00:24:35.200 i'll put some red if you're married yeah one red flag no no no because the board says the board says
00:24:41.760 having ig tia has an ig yeah anything on there she just uses it to breathe she is blank she said open
00:24:53.120 public yeah it's a red flag all right all right okay all right all right having having tinder
00:25:00.720 but but but they just want to see who's out there they're not using it
00:25:06.880 no no okay okay tinder specifically for both get them like because women go outside they get hit on 1.00
00:25:12.960 every day and then it's not the same so if a man why why would your mind have a tinder why are you seeking
00:25:17.360 that yeah i'm just playing devil's advocate don't see that you're not posting your holiday pictures
00:25:24.560 on tinder what put me in that what's the devil's advocate position with that oh it's like it's like
00:25:32.000 it's like a woman all right a woman goes outside we just get hit on we have people moved us all the
00:25:36.240 time right where a man he doesn't necessarily get that he has to do it so if he has a tinder profile like
00:25:42.160 it's just basically the attention we get on a daily basis devil's advocate so the man wants to be a
00:25:46.160 woman now okay so now next no not over here does anyone does anyone have anything else they want
00:25:57.360 to put out on the board for as a question for cheating or not cheating having um okay oh other
00:26:04.800 partner friends other boyfriends as yeah yeah having um having having male attention that isn't your man
00:26:10.880 no i don't think it's not i don't think it's cheating no i meant like opposite having a close
00:26:15.120 friend that's a male yes i don't think that's cheating you don't think that's cheating no it's
00:26:19.440 it's it's cheating no it is for me i think what are you telling what are you telling this guy that
00:26:24.240 you can't tell your man no it's not okay it's not just that i have a really close friend i consider
00:26:29.360 as a best friend and he's a male is he gay he's not gay i knew him when he was single when he was a
00:26:44.560 playboy like nothing happened i watched him grow and get married and he's got his marriage yeah i
00:26:50.400 watched him grow get married yeah he's got a wife now and i so so now when he's at home do you call
00:26:56.960 no i don't that's the thing i respect his partner and i understand and i understand he has a family
00:27:03.520 so i won't call him at a pacific time i won't call him let's say let's say past seven o'clock or
00:27:08.160 something because he's got a daughter now situations do change but the love and a friendship that i have
00:27:13.280 with him so what's the last time you spoke to him on the phone um today today yeah so so panel panel
00:27:19.920 this situation right here she gets she gets married yeah is she cheating or not cheating raise your hand 1.00
00:27:26.800 if you think she's cheating because raise your hand when you get hands we like hands here
00:27:30.400 if he's not gay she's cheating i'm sorry for the girls okay you're seeking something your boyfriend 0.78
00:27:40.720 can't provide yeah what about him is he cheating in this situation even more more than more than the
00:27:49.760 female it works both ways someone is always compensating someone is always compensating someone 1.00
00:27:56.320 is always men and women can't be friends you know exactly put the other person in a friend zone 1.00
00:28:02.800 this is how it works men and women can't be friends in it yeah i'm only friends with girls
00:28:06.160 because i don't have an attraction to them exactly he doesn't have an attraction to me i don't have
00:28:12.400 an attraction to him but if we if we had that we would have been no no but i'm saying years ago from
00:28:18.160 school no but i'm saying it's never happened i want to ask guys guys have you ever been friends
00:28:24.560 with a girl for years never hooked up with her but you would 100 no facts yeah yeah okay that's
00:28:30.720 like 90 percent of my friends i really don't like that can we just have friends you don't
00:28:35.920 no but i am your friend but you're asking me something i'm a man you're just plotting if you
00:28:40.240 want to test go you see you know what yeah your best friend that you think is your male friend
00:28:44.320 yeah just message him and say oh you know what i just broke up with my man you know i'm just
00:28:47.360 feeling really oh will you call him right now no no no no call him now call him now we'll test it
00:28:53.520 we'll test it we'll test it do it do it do it sticky it's it's late you're not gonna have that
00:28:59.840 friend by the end of this but i wouldn't what time is it and then and then you can you can show
00:29:03.440 him the stream after so it'll save the friendship you know okay like this host just kept pressuring me
00:29:09.920 no first of all it's inappropriate because it's late and he's got a young he's got a new baby he's got a
00:29:14.560 one-year-old that's the whole point like it's an inappropriate call where's my phone i don't even
00:29:18.640 have my phone here yeah we'll make but you need to you need to tell him what we're telling you to
00:29:25.440 sell him say no but he might say something i don't want to hear what you're going to do is say to him
00:29:29.440 listen i'm feeling really lonely i'm feeling really low like i know i haven't spoke to you
00:29:32.880 like this before but i just really want you to come around he's married don't create these problems
00:29:35.520 no i wouldn't i wouldn't they want to be a problem if he's loyal and he's your friend it doesn't matter
00:29:40.240 see this is the thing see you already know he's not your friend because you don't even
00:29:43.360 want to create a scenario i don't want to put someone into that situation because men and women 0.98
00:29:47.840 can't be friends no no i don't agree with that i don't want to put someone into that situation where
00:29:54.160 how can you put him to something where he's going to say no he's going to say no he's your brother
00:30:03.280 i've known him for a very long time if something could have happened it would have happened years ago
00:30:07.840 so he's not attracted to me so i'm not calling him late does anyone else have a male friend they
00:30:13.280 want to test downstream anyone i think it's okay what about what about you the bed sleeper i don't
00:30:19.600 know i'll be honest i don't keep male friends personally i don't i'm a big believer that males
00:30:23.680 and females can't be friends because she knows i know no i know i know men personally i feel like
00:30:28.240 it's they can't come they can't do it without intentions i'm not gonna lie okay you know just for that just for
00:30:33.520 that thank you thank you thank you my partner can have female friends i wouldn't care i'm not a
00:30:48.960 jealous person and vice versa it has nothing to do about jealousy if you loved your partner and you
00:30:55.840 valued him you would understand that and he's a man of value these female are gonna see what i've got 1.00
00:30:59.760 and they're gonna throw it at my man you like you're trusting these girls because you gotta
00:31:03.520 remember there's not enough of these men around so if you really got yourself a catch and they know
00:31:07.520 he's got a catch they're gonna take that catch from you you're not married yeah literally you're not
00:31:11.360 married so he's not yeah and i could i would never ever have an issue with my partner having female
00:31:16.240 friends that's just me no i'm not saying that i'm saying he's i have an issue he's not married
00:31:20.240 i would never have it i would never have it he's not married if i met you today yeah see the way i look at
00:31:25.600 is if a woman hasn't got a ring on her finger she's fair game and the reason it is is you've 1.00
00:31:30.080 had previous previous relationships before that you're like i've got a man i've got a man you're
00:31:33.840 not with them anymore because you didn't have a ring on it they're just previous relationships so
00:31:37.680 unless a girl has got a ring and a finger i know already i can i can i can i can i can affect this
00:31:43.280 you know why because if your man really wanted you he would have married you he doesn't want you
00:31:46.640 because he hasn't married you and this is the truth of the matter men know what we want and when we
00:31:50.480 see something that we want we lock it down that's why when we're outside and we see a good girl there's not
00:31:54.560 a lot of good girls there's a lot of girls you can sleep with take out posts on the ground look 1.00
00:31:58.640 good you know i'm trying to say to you but there's not many girls you can bring home when you find one 1.00
00:32:02.880 one two three four guys are all competing for that one girl because there's not that many but when it
00:32:07.600 comes to sleeping around we can get that from anywhere that's all i'm trying to say so when it
00:32:12.080 comes down to men and me personally i wouldn't keep a pretty woman like you like you're pretty girl i 1.00
00:32:18.960 can't see how his his wifey must be even prettier to be like you know what she's beautiful to be that 1.00
00:32:24.480 confident but then again no do you know what i'll say that's true it's like i'm okay with the friends
00:32:30.480 as long as they're ugly
00:32:36.800 then you realize you got to worry about the ugly girls too
00:32:38.800 that's like he might no it's always the ugly girls because at the moment you drop you drop you 0.98
00:32:45.920 do something wrong it's the personality it's the oh i wouldn't do that to you
00:32:51.600 they're just they're they're like it really quick before before i sit back down anyone else
00:32:56.400 have anything they want to add to the board
00:32:58.400 what about um a man or like if you have a man or a girl that's with like the nightlife
00:33:07.760 oh club oh good good question this is why this is why i get feedback from the class
00:33:14.880 and girl holidays group holidays that's cheating
00:33:17.280 what about mandem holidays have you seen girls on holidays arms linked don't touch my friend 0.98
00:33:29.360 okay so i i caveat okay so what about a bachelorette party cheating no no no no that's a girl yeah no
00:33:39.120 caveat because you can do that right but you can the one thing i don't want to see is my my girlfriend 0.99
00:33:46.560 that's in the relationship outside with a bunch of single girls because as especially if your 0.98
00:33:50.880 girls are pretty and you're pretty gang you know i'm trying to say to you if you're one of them 1.00
00:33:53.600 girls you're going to go outside you're going to get attention now if my girl is out with two of her 1.00
00:33:57.200 friends or three of her friends and there's four of them or five of them and she's in relationship
00:34:00.320 and they're out and you know they're getting male attention that's fine they're allowed to get that 1.00
00:34:03.440 but now my my girl's in the vicinity of this isn't it and we don't want this and a lot of guys a lot
00:34:08.160 of times women will say oh no that's controlling but this is what we created to like we treat a 0.99
00:34:12.160 woman you're high value woman you we treat you like as a bugatti let's say you're my bugatti right
00:34:16.400 the most expensive because i'm going to compare you to bugatti you know i mean yeah we're going
00:34:20.400 to compare you to bugatti so the most expensive car in the world right like i'm not going to park
00:34:26.080 my bugatti in for example um hackney or something in the ghetto park happening and we like happening
00:34:32.560 but i i'm not going to do that even though that my car has got the best safety in the world even
00:34:37.200 though it even though that no one can get into it i'm not going to risk that you know i'm going to
00:34:40.400 risk that because someone can still try to scratch my bugatti someone can still start to break the
00:34:43.920 window my bugatti and actual fact you might meet the best coffee from the world and they might
00:34:49.280 actually get away with your bugatti and that's how i consider stuff to be so why would you want
00:34:53.360 your woman in any place where she could put herself where someone could scratch her someone could steal 1.00
00:34:57.600 her so okay so just to paraphrase cheating yes no no i wouldn't say okay so for the for the boys going
00:35:05.360 clubbing clubbing cheating as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized
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