Men with options will cheat
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about cheating, sexless marriages, and sexless relationships. We discuss the effects of cheating on a marriage and the impact it can have on a family, and how to deal with cheating in a marriage.
Transcript
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you know so i just never felt like i really was prepared to be a wife ever genuinely and you're
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not alone i think a lot of girls feel like that like i mean how many i don't think the stuff that
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we talk about on these podcasts would be so shocking if women weren't lied to for 50 years
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yeah and i think it's like even talking to andrew today like wasn't it helpful like when he was
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talking about stuff i was even me and i listened to this stuff all the time i was like oh i never
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thought of that like he was talking about how to get a guy to stop playing video games i was like i
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wish i knew this i was like wow yeah that's actually a good one when i think about it
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do you think that coming from a two-parent home and it's like a loving environment that's for everybody
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that it sets you up more for success to be able to operate in relationships or be willing to
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submit to whoever the man is because you've seen it growing up or does it just does it not have an
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effect i i think that's a really great question i know a lot of people who grew up in dual parent
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households and they saw their mother getting cheated on and staying and like i know like someone recently
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they were married for like 25 years or so for 23 years and she left basically when the kids were old
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enough to just like none of them were in high school anymore um and i i remember when i was
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talking to her she felt like she was setting her kids up for success because we're all under the same
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roof um they have a better chance of whatever right and it still was damaging because you are witnessing
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your mother tolerate disrespect for uh how did how did the kids know how the kids know what that she was
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being cheated on it was something that this particular situation it was i know one instance was like one
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of their family friends oh yeah it was really close to home stuff and there was another another
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scenario where it was it was one of the family friends they were cheating on or is that told them
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um no it was they were cheating with one of their family friends so like someone like oh we go over
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to her house all the time but my dad is sleeping with her oh so he they would see the parent cheat
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it i'm not exactly i don't i don't think it was they physically saw it but it was something that
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the mom would share um that they would hear arguments too like if they weren't even if they weren't
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involved in the actual argument they would overhear um which obviously you know showing exposing your
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kids to that stuff is one thing but the other instance was um the dad was going out to the club
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with like the son and he had a girl with him so it's like that direct like i don't respect your mom
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in this way i can do what i want to do and your mom's still going to stay so that's where i feel like
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it really depends on what's going on in that household because seeing your mom be basically
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disrespected for comfort it's like it sends the wrong message about love i agree like blatant
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dislike i can't believe he brought his son to a club and she like that that's crazy yeah like the
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girl with him but i just think sometimes you know we never talk about like the women's part to play in
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this and like one one in four marriages are sexless one is four and so i just think if you're going to
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starve a man and he's begging you to sleep with him and someone comes on a platter like that's why i
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say we never talk about why the men cheat and a lot of people will take this out of context like i
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believe in cheating but like there are times where the woman is not sleeping with the man and then he
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cheats but he's not naturally inclined to and and that's a conversation we don't really have i'm not
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saying it's okay but it's almost like what did you what did you expect but at the same time too like
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again like let's just like i said make it with me and you like if you're my girlfriend and you
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don't want to sleep with me the the my first go-to isn't to go try to sleep with someone else i'm not
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getting it from you i would want to explore the emotional depths of whatever you're feeling what
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am i not doing why do you not want to be close to me i want to be intimate with you but you're
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thinking like a woman and that that's how a woman right right but like like men it's just come on you
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know how guys are like i'm sure you you especially like like like being as beautiful as you are like
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most guys if you put yourself on a platter in front of them would be down
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yeah i mean yeah yeah that's not saying much but yeah yeah i mean but that's that's what i'm saying
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like men men have if you're giving him sex he'll still cheat because there's options i i would say
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most men that have women on them on a silver for them on a silver platter will cheat yeah like i would
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say most but not all men most most men work a normal nine to five they go to work they come home
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there's maybe one or couple girls in the office whatever they he might cheat there but most men
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girls aren't really checking for so if you date an average guy unless you're starving him of sex
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it's a lot of work for men to go out and get sex that's why i say what part did you have to play in
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him cheating like okay if you you were with an elite athlete right they're just gonna cheat that's
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just i see the normal i saw d3 basketball players i can't nai i saw nai i can't look at nba like i can't
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but okay but like your average nine to five joe it's a bunch of work for him to go out and get a
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girl so it's like what part did you have to play a lot of women are always nagging on their husbands
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they got they gained a bunch of weight after they had a kid britney's showing us firsthand you don't
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have to do that and and it's like then they stop sleeping with him and the men are like wait wait wait
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i thought i got a 120 pound wife that was gonna sleep with me all the time now she got the ring where
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i'm locked into a contract for life and you could take my kids with me and my money and put me on child
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support all the stuff and now you're gonna gain a bunch of weight and not sleep with me like what
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did you expect to happen you're not holding up you're yeah and so men like that's another reason
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men don't want to get married because they're like oh i even had a guy tell me this he's like i don't
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want to get married i don't want her to get fat but you know why that's why a lot of the time as well
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i may just say one thing a lot of the time the reason why some of some men get a little bit messed up
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comes down to insecurities and let me land and i'll explain to you why a lot of the time the
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women that let themselves go in a relationship or in a marriage is also down to the fact that men now
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that they own the woman they do not want the woman to be approached they don't want the woman to be
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desired by other men it comes down to the whole territorial thing which then means that you are now
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going to punish or going to complain are you going to put the woman in a position where she feels like
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whatever she looks like is a problem so she'll let go of it and she won't even work for it
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that's also another thing another side of things women don't just let go of themselves for no reason
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they start to let go of themselves because there's no desirability in general many to understand as a
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woman for you to be beautiful and to feel beautiful is not just about you telling me that i'm the most
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beautiful girl in the world you know i just to me like that's just nonsense girls girls let themselves
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go because they eat too much and they're lazy i know a couple girls i got married and gained like
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50 pounds none of them are happy they gained the weight they all wish they were thinner but they're
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too lazy to fix it it's like i don't know and now they have the ring it's like less incentive you know
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when you get you guys know when you get breakup with someone you are in the gym you're trying to
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look like you're me too me too i'm not saying i'm special me too or in the gym we're trying to like
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get our bodies right all this stuff and then we get a man and we don't we don't keep it i mean the way i was
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raised you cater to your man so you've got this is your king and i'm not i'm not saying you you
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need to look good for him so i don't know about letting yourself go uh no i i've got him now i need
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to keep him i i i agree with you but i'm not saying you in particular i'm saying this is what the men
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are saying this is this are the issues they're saying yeah obviously i i think it's wrong like when you
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get into a relationship i don't think like letting yourself go i think it's a problem as a woman like
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why should you do that because it's gonna leave you so i i do agree do you think a man can leave a woman
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if she lets herself go he's asked her multiple times to lose the weight and she won't do it
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i wouldn't say assuming let's say there's no kids involved because kids kind of change things well let's
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say there's no kids well to be honest yes because no but it's not unfair you'll be telling your guy how many
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times do you say listen i told him a million times to not this do not do this i told him a
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million times to get up off his ass i told him a million times to do this he didn't do it i left
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him if you as a man you're speaking to you to your girl and you're trying to make sure that she improves
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and she is better and she is not doing that the problem is not that she's not losing the weight the
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problem is the mentality which is the fact that you are not willing to be better and get better so that
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we can both be happy and have the spark for life see this is what this is this is what this is what i mean
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when i say it's like there's little things that are open misandry against men and we don't always
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realize it so like in this instant you kind of hesitated but if i came forward and i'm not saying
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i don't think it's intentional but if i said yeah i left him because he wouldn't work he wouldn't get a
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job you would be like yes girl like and you know yeah you and you know you would you shouldn't be with
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a bum and it's like that's a female bum a 300 pound whale i'll say it i'll say it again be careful be
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careful the reason i'm a bit more sensitive towards women is because i obviously you guys
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are saying your reality is different but my reality it's always been you've got to be better for your
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man so my world has always been about the men and and i'm like so what is it doing for me so yeah i've
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got to learn to cook clean do all this stuff take care of my man but how is he helping me emotionally
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how is he helping me feel good but men that's not their job to help you emotionally that's like where i think
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that's no okay okay i want to okay yeah but they don't want to they don't they don't want to hear
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so this is this is doing all this for what what am i like okay you can't i'm not saying they should
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never like talk to you or what like ignore you all the time but i'm just saying like like typically
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historically you wouldn't even see your husband that much that's not their job you've had to your
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friends like your relationships with men and this is something i learned like one time okay i had an
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ex-boyfriend and i was talking and i was like this person and he was just like i don't care
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oh i don't care and at first i was like what do you mean you don't care like i was like that was
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so rude but i like sat and thought about it and i'm like you know i'm like dumping my problems onto
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him and that's not his job he's not my therapist like we don't want a guy that's dumping all his
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problems onto us we're okay we're okay a companion right but i'm saying i'm saying so again again like
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they remember this is things that we look for from men but men don't look for from us and so
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and that's that's what i'm doing all this for you what are you doing for me that's exactly what i'm
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saying i don't want i don't want to be cooking for my man i don't want to i'll tell you i'll tell you
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so that's what they look so but i'm saying like that you're always going to get protection
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and that's the one thing like like so okay okay okay okay okay but if the world but if the world
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if someone if someone call my okay i'll tell you living living here living here i i wish i had a
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boyfriend because it it scares me a lot of times like living like just you know like people know where
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the studio is sometimes right and there are crazy people and i'm like it would be so nice if i had a
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guy here just like not even just like if he was staying here and it would be like like if something
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happened i know he would like there's some level of comfort you have with just having a man next to
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you and knowing that if goes south you don't have to call the police that he's going to protect you
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like you know they say women prefer fat guys with muscles over skinny men
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yeah that makes sense because it's like lei everyone's i agree that's i would take that too
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