JustPearlyThings - October 15, 2023


Modern Admits This Truth About All Women

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Pearl Couldn't Believe What This Modern Said @JonZherka Makes A Confession To Pearl

Episode Stats


Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

195.46

Word count

1,803

Sentence count

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Harmful content

Misogyny

6

sentences flagged

Toxicity

4

sentences flagged

Hate speech

6

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Summary

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In this episode we are joined by a very special guest who is a woman who has been through hell and high water! She is a mother of two, a wife, a daughter, a sister and a friend. We talk about how she became a mother and how she has managed to balance her life as a single mum and a wife.

Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Toxicity classifications generated with s-nlp/roberta_toxicity_classifier .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
Hosts, guests, and mentioned names generated with spaCy (en_core_web_sm), reconciled against Wikidata.
00:00:00.000 the furthest you ladies have gone to get the attention of a guy 1.00
00:00:04.720 what really yeah have you ever like pursued a guy like really liked him um i actually prefer
00:00:13.180 a guy to pursue me but if i have pursued a guy i've actually gone into a club and approached
00:00:20.860 the guy in front of my friend okay yeah i mean that's kind of the furthest i think i've gone
00:00:26.500 in terms of pursuing a guy okay i like to be pursued okay have you ever like um gone somewhere
00:00:32.580 because you knew a guy you liked was going to be there okay okay okay so no okay so yeah so that's
00:00:38.600 what i'm wondering like it when you actually liked a guy maybe talked to him a bit was there did you
00:00:42.940 ever like sim have you ever simped really hard for a guy of course yeah women aren't going to admit 1.00
00:00:49.300 that though i have yes yeah i mean who hasn't yeah exactly it's all right it's all right but we like
00:00:55.660 to play it cool right we like to ladies like to even though half the time we'd be the ones chasing 1.00
00:01:00.340 we like to be chased you know okay do you do you think we actually like to be chased if we always
00:01:06.320 seem to pick the ones that don't pick us yeah that's the thing i feel like we always just naturally
00:01:12.160 go for the ones that are just hard to get like and we know that they're players and out of our league
00:01:17.680 well i don't know about that but yeah i mean if they were in our league they would like us right
00:01:22.940 and then you wouldn't and then you wouldn't like them yeah exactly it's yeah it's a cruel world it
00:01:28.960 is terrible okay so um but what did what did you do for the guy like how did you simp i mean this
00:01:37.040 was i mean i'm i'm talking years back it's all right i was like it was yesterday i was in a club
00:01:41.500 in a club and i actually ended up marrying the guy believe it or not oh wow so yeah i was in the club
00:01:49.180 and um those in those days it wasn't like it wasn't normal for girls to really got to guys
00:01:55.720 but i was kind of like drunk and i was like i'm going for this guy and i grabbed him like
00:02:00.100 like how a guy grabs a girl that is so brave yeah and that was in front of his friends my friends
00:02:07.400 and then you guys got married married like years years how how how long were you married are you
00:02:12.000 still married no no we're divorced how how long were you together uh 19 years what happened what
00:02:20.580 happened life what do you mean life i don't know um we were young very young i never okay i never
00:02:28.260 grew up i never understand when women like say this like okay because it's like you're young and 0.97
00:02:33.560 then you're old like what what switched i think when you're young you have different expectations
00:02:39.340 you you life different you like different things then you grow older you grow into yourself you start
00:02:46.420 to know yourself okay um and sometimes you realize that it's more hair taking what it's worth
00:02:53.100 okay so see i still i still don't understand what this means and it's not just you i've had so many
00:03:00.300 girls say the same thing to me on the show and i just genuinely like like he got into different hobbies
00:03:05.940 girls you could see that because i know they're always like we got into different things i mean that could be a way of saying it yeah
00:03:13.020 different women i'm like i'm like i'm like you got into different things like what are the things
00:03:18.180 um like what you you don't want to say are you nervous yeah you know what it's all right i'm gonna say
00:03:25.020 but i don't want to say because it's like yeah you know you don't want to you don't want to embarrass
00:03:29.020 i don't want to embarrass him that's fair you know yeah you're still here are you a healer are you
00:03:34.520 healing healed you're healed i'm like okay what steps did you take to heal um i think i kind of just
00:03:42.000 put myself first and just went for my dreams and done the things that i should have been doing when i
00:03:48.420 was younger okay i have i have a question because this this doesn't compute to me when it's like i put
00:03:54.080 myself first yeah how how does that help like build families because isn't it in a family we
00:03:59.760 should put the family first yeah the family first i mean when i say first i do have two children right
00:04:05.080 they always come first okay so you put yourself second i know actually i put myself good first
00:04:10.340 my children okay and then yeah so um i think it's in terms of just knowing myself growing into myself
00:04:18.500 knowing what i like and what i don't like and being confident because i wasn't confident when i was
00:04:23.940 younger okay yes i wasn't really confident and i didn't really know myself much okay didn't have
00:04:30.380 a lot of um uh what's the word focus and didn't have a had ambition but didn't know what i wanted
00:04:39.200 to do okay you know so i just thought the way forward is to get married have kids and that was it
00:04:44.680 and i was like this can't be just life just getting married and having kids this just can't be it just
00:04:48.860 sounds like you had it made you were i mean i still have it made yeah i always will it's it's
00:04:54.540 it's living and learning so it's going for experiences and learning yourself learning life
00:04:59.180 and i don't regret nothing like i don't regret having kids i don't regret getting married
00:05:03.140 okay yeah i'll do it again okay good good glad all right hardest you've simped for a guy
00:05:09.980 and did it did it ended marriage she got it she got 19 years out of that that's a lot of me to be
00:05:16.420 fair can you one up that or no i actually can't now you can kind of guess my age now right
00:05:22.600 um i think the most that i did it's so embarrassing but it's actually something i actually need to speak
00:05:31.460 about so i think the most that i did was i really liked this guy who was so sweet i made a private
00:05:37.060 snapchat for him showing the good sides of me because he wowed me like we had a date he really
00:05:43.300 wowed me like it was so nice and then i made him a private snapchat and he didn't view it or anything
00:05:49.780 so i just ended up self-sabotaging the whole thing i just self-sabotaged the whole thing because i was
00:05:55.140 just like there's just no point of me putting myself out there making a private snapchat for you
00:06:00.820 and were you sending him like like like pictures like that oh yes i was giving something pictures
00:06:07.140 of me and my cat and everything because he said he liked my cat so hold on what type of cat
00:06:11.620 the pet cat okay okay so so you made him a snapchat to like view your stories yeah he didn't watch
00:06:19.940 he didn't watch any of it and then i kind of just clapped that basically he was just playing me like
00:06:25.540 it was kind of sad to be fair okay um so the hardest you've simped is made a snapchat yeah okay
00:06:33.860 so we got approaching him in a club and making a snapchat all right now i want to hear the man
00:06:39.700 what's the hardest you've simped for a woman um i made like a whole plan to get someone back once
00:06:46.260 yeah i wrote like a whole note and it was like week by week um but that's why um i don't really 1.00
00:06:55.220 fuck with women right now because you lot suck so so what do you fuck with you you lot just suck 1.00
00:07:01.060 you lot heartbreakers why do we why do we suck that's a good question is it because we keep driving 1.00
00:07:08.500 um or voting i think that's the one i think you just stop um no it's just like the the more you 0.99
00:07:17.780 give to a woman um the less they want you so yeah um i just do the opposite now wow and it kind of
00:07:24.340 works okay disagree very disagree you would say that disagree no you would say that but why would
00:07:31.540 you you lot don't get the psychology because you're you're the woman but why would you think you're 0.96
00:07:35.780 you're you're you're in the uh you're in the vehicle but why would you why would you think
00:07:40.420 it's not a good idea to actually share your shed share share that stuff side of you with somebody
00:07:45.860 because then women automatically think that you you're too emotional and you're not a man and
00:07:53.060 that's not attractive to women it is it is very much stop lying you know i like i like a man i like 0.55
00:08:00.100 i like a man that's gonna send flowers you know okay my guy you don't get such a ick that's that's
00:08:06.660 you that's it girls like you it might be subconscious but is this is this true or false women always like 1.00
00:08:12.900 the man that don't like them back yeah that's kind of true that's kind of true thank you
00:08:20.260 but then when they find the i think it's like more of a challenge like in life you kind of want
00:08:24.340 challenges right yeah so when you do get the guy that you like and you've challenged yourself and
00:08:28.500 you he eventually takes note of you then it's like you kind of then want him to soften up so you
00:08:35.300 want to see right can i push yeah and then you like leave a little bit i will never this is the
00:08:40.580 problem this is why nothing lasts anymore well i think we're looking for balance you know there's
00:08:45.540 no balance you guys are both single so you left every guy you've been with
00:08:49.060 like so these emotionally available guys where are they sure that's true oh no i got the ick and
00:08:57.940 left that was it i grew up i learned i learned i learned the hard way i mean when i was when i was
00:09:03.300 younger yeah i wanted you know a bit of edge but now i like i want soft life baby do you know what the
00:09:08.660 problem is instagram and social medias there's too many options out there for people