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00:00:00.000 um what do you think men should get out of marriage um out of marriage i think they should 0.97

00:00:06.880 get companionship yes but why you can get that out of a girlfriend why what a wife why a wife 1.00

00:00:14.160 um okay so for me i'm kind of with her on the fact of like marriage is kind of like a gray area

00:00:20.780 because that's kind of determined by the person because some people consider like relationship

00:00:26.360 some people consider like a marriage as just a legal document so i think it's based on like

00:00:30.460 kind of what you believe or feel about that sort of thing but i just feel like in a serious

00:00:37.260 relationship or like um y'all are in a household together married whatever that's what i'm kind

00:00:43.540 of referring to so i guess like the difference of companionship in a relationship versus a marriage

00:00:48.880 is like you're being a homemaker you know we're making decisions together about children and

00:00:54.760 do you think men should make decisions with the wife um i think the that there should be a 0.99

00:00:59.740 conversation but i definitely i think like i personally i would like a man who can lead so

00:01:05.120 yeah like but i do want somebody who is not just going to like because i'm not your child so i don't

00:01:09.960 want somebody who's like making every making decisions for me well why would he consult you

00:01:13.840 if he's going to make the final decision anyway um because maybe as your wife i could offer you a 0.84

00:01:19.240 different insight different perspective um you know i'm a grown woman too so you know i have some

00:01:25.240 wisdom but what if he doesn't want your advice he just he wants to make the decision then is that

00:01:31.120 okay um yeah i would have to respect that but you know from there then you will understand that there

00:01:36.620 might be a conversation or communication had to follow up it's just like any other decision that's

00:01:41.280 made okay so he gets someone he can talk to about decisions he gets companionship he gets someone

00:01:47.520 who's nurturing gonna take care of your kids okay you know handle the business at home so then

00:01:53.880 so then by that logic the older women couldn't do the kids thing like over 35 it's geriatric 1.00

00:01:59.380 pregnancy so should that be out for women over 35 then should what be out marriage um everybody

00:02:05.980 don't want kids no but i i said the like he would not get marriage from or he would not likely get

00:02:12.020 children from a woman woman that's over the age of 35 so she can't offer that in a marriage yeah 1.00

00:02:17.460 okay but i'm saying by that logic then the older woman couldn't offer that right um correct yeah 0.99

00:02:24.620 okay so what else does a guy get um a vibe you know like

00:02:30.520 somebody to lay down with at night you know that's that's just yours that you're not sharing with

00:02:39.640 anybody else on the streets um yeah experience that whole married vibe

00:02:45.140 no a vibe like something that you're not going to get from being out with your boys at the poker

00:02:51.160 game like that kind of vibe like a different type of feeling okay um what do you think a man should

00:02:57.060 get out of marriage um i'm not sure because i don't think a man can really gain anything from a

00:03:02.760 marriage oh very well spotted oh yeah i just i don't i don't yeah yeah i just i don't think

00:03:11.720 yeah they they don't actually benefit because anything they can get in a marriage they can get

00:03:15.760 without being married yeah honest answer all right what do you think a man what do you think a man can 0.94

00:03:21.920 get out of marriage well i think they get a loyal woman i think they get a woman that is

00:03:26.720 no if they choose right they get a loyal woman because you know our choices are down to us and

00:03:37.060 vice versa with men if a man chooses the wrong woman then what is the right woman wouldn't you say a

00:03:42.960 woman under the age of no i'm not gonna say age okay i'm not so what is the right woman because no kids 0.97

00:03:49.920 no kids no it depends is the man is is the man divorced or did he have a previous where he had

00:03:57.200 children as well and now he's looking for something different well but but but the reason the reason i'm

00:04:04.020 saying is we know the body count stats if a girl slept with two people it's like 50 50 on if she if it 1.00

00:04:11.660 will be a successful marriage if she slept with four people it's like you maybe have a 20 chance of 1.00

00:04:16.240 having a happy marriage so so my question is what does the right woman look like with these numbers 1.00

00:04:21.280 okay so the right woman is someone who's peaceful who's got got like who's there for her man when 0.96

00:04:28.460 needed and how do you measure that how do you measure that yeah how do you measure it you know

00:04:33.540 because men need help emotionally as well and i know a lot of men would say they don't but i've been

00:04:38.680 in long-term relationships they do they definitely do they definitely confide in their woman and um

00:04:45.080 need that um so all i can say is when i was in a long-term relationship i would be running around

00:04:52.840 making sure that when he gets in from work that the house is peaceful so um that would look like

00:04:58.560 running a bathroom making sure his food was done when he got in you know all those kind of things okay

00:05:02.960 um but then mentioning that i wasn't married yeah but i was living as if i was married i was playing

00:05:09.540 that role but that's the that's the question is like what what can a guy get out of marriage that

00:05:14.140 he couldn't get from a girlfriend because you can have a loyal girlfriend yeah yeah so i when i was

00:05:20.240 younger and obviously would have had the opportunity to get married um i didn't i didn't really believe in

00:05:28.160 the piece of paper i believed in loyalty i believed in you know i'm here and i'm not going anywhere but

00:05:34.000 you can do a church marriage that's fine but i don't believe in i didn't i'm not talking about you

00:05:39.900 yeah i'm not talking about you what i'm saying is it's hard to speak sometimes without basing it on

00:05:43.920 yourself i think everyone's done that here so far it's the easiest way to speak on a subject

00:05:49.040 and that's like a female thing no yeah it is it's more of a no i'm saying it's much more of 0.82

00:05:54.080 no it's much more of a female no because that was an individual question where the second question 0.77

00:06:00.920 is more general women tend to interpret information more individually where men will answer questions

00:06:06.660 more like logically typically yeah because we have um which is which is which is fine but

00:06:12.700 which is i'm not saying it's a bad thing that's what i'm just you're kind of arguing with me about

00:06:18.940 it's i'm just saying they're different um but my my question more is like what does a guy get out

00:06:24.760 of marriage like what should he get i think those were good answers though the house peaceful yeah

00:06:29.000 i think nothing then because you know when the yeah because the girlfriend's messing up the game 1.00

00:06:34.220 yeah yeah that's what he did right i'm not i'm not i'm not sure that's the conclusion

00:06:43.780 yeah yeah it is the conclusion before the boys are getting dumped i don't put it wouldn't it be

00:06:49.120 to offer more value no okay that was that no offer more value to the guys no no okay still

00:06:58.200 so the guy all right next no no no do you have anything else you want to add um yeah i did have

00:07:05.780 something but i'll come back to it okay okay thank you go ahead um leading on from what you said as

00:07:12.620 well peaceful home yeah but they do get the contract the promise ultimately with the marriage which is

00:07:20.400 different from the long-term relationship where you're playing housewives um i i would say they get

00:07:27.660 as well the right okay so they get the contract right it's the promise yeah because it comes with

00:07:35.560 punishment doesn't it so that's what they get for the guy yeah yeah wait for who no no no not always

00:07:45.160 that's not fair uh the contract yeah no it depends what's in the contract yeah absolutely what's in the

00:07:50.540 contract but that's what it is it's a promise who typically who typically gets child support men or

00:07:55.220 women um it depends on what family you're growing up in but most women probably get it right so then 1.00

00:08:01.560 i don't know so i don't so couldn't we argue that women actually get a reward for leaving 1.00

00:08:06.380 no but you can't

00:08:07.820 is it about the money women that will bring up the children so yeah 1.00

00:08:12.540 right so they right but that's like a catch but that's bringing them up that's a catch 22 though

00:08:17.680 because they're punishing they're punishing traditional man man if the man does what he's

00:08:21.960 supposed to do which is protect and provide for the family they say then they say oh gotcha

00:08:27.200 now you don't get the kids because you didn't spend enough time with the kids but if he was at home

00:08:32.080 with the children he wouldn't he they would say why don't you have a job yeah you get penalized

00:08:37.220 so you think that men would prefer to bring the children up i i think that i think that most men

00:08:42.860 would prefer to bring the kids up i think most men i think most men would prefer to have the

00:08:47.480 authority on the decision because men tend to be better people and they actually don't hold the

00:08:52.460 kid they don't take away the kids out of spite that's something women do 1.00

JustPearlyThings - November 03, 2023

Modern Is Unable To Answer This Question

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